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/adv/, Im starting to realize I have a pretty big personality flaw that I need advice on how to fix:
I have been on and off with the same girl for almost four years. We had two break ups that lasted for about 4-6 months.
What I have found is when I am with her, I am happy, but I get so lazy and get this mindset of "whats the point of trying, I already have a girlfriend so I cant get other girls". Physically I lose motivation to workout (and eat like shit), and career wise I dont have as much drive.
However I have found when I am single, I get...
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>>16943297
bump any help would be much appreciated
Same position but 19 in uni... I love this girl but I'm so much more efficient without her. Idk man maybe we just need to better understand self motivation or some bullshit
>only had sex once
>horny af rn
>theres this girl that I'm not crazy into
>have jerked off to her pics before so I think I'd like to have sex with her
>but not completely sure
should I invite her over?
>horny
>theres this girl
What are you waiting for anon?
>>16943194
Here's the weigh in
Pros:
I get my dick wet
It's one more time I have sex so +exp.
Cons:
Not really into her (But I don't find her unattractive)
My older brother went to a Wilderness camp by accident four years ago and I think it still bothers him a lot. I don't want to make this post a fucking essay, but I will say with what happened I honestly blame myself for how he ended up going there. I've read more about the industry and I'm fucking furious that my brother had to tied to these lunatics.
Could you elaborate some? I've heard of wilderness therapy, but it sounds like you're talking about something very different.
>>16943269
You're thinking about the correct thing. His program must have been designed more as a boot camp though. I don't want my brother to kill himself because he's bottling in emotions.....
tl;dr: please share your stories with me
I'm almost 25 and my life has only become worse ever since I hit puberty. I have uni problems and am high in debt (15k or so due to student loans). I'm still a virgin. Grew apart with all of my high school friends. We all live in different cities now. Didin't really have a circle of friends ever since highschool. Have no connections to my family except very few contacts with my parents.
I'm so lonely and anxious about my future. I've lost hope that life will get better - I wouldn't know how it could...
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Define "uni problems." Other than debt. You're not failing, are you? Because taking out student loans and then failing/dropping out is a bad combination. You need to finish your degree at all costs.
>>16943096
28 here. Life sucked until a year ago. Ive even been homeless.
Dont feel like typing a story because im sick about to sleep and on a phone. I just promise you ive been through a fuck tonne and i want to leave you with this:
Life is totally random. It may suck for the rest of your life, it may not. We dont know. (not gonna sugar coat it with lies)
But if you actually try really hard and make sure you keep taking action to make it better, your momentum will always continue upward. Also perception...
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I recently moved to a new area/working in the area. I go to the same places 1x a week for lunch. (I only eat out 2 days of the week).
Today one of the cashiers asked if I recently got hired in the area and that she sees me come in a lot. (like every day as she said). I replied only once a week. She then gave me a 25% discount.
1. Is it weird to go to the same place once a week for lunch
2.Why did I get a discount?
Was it "you're a regular discount" or a "I like you discount?" I don't want to read too much into it because I dont...
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>>16943078
>1. Is it weird
no
>2.Why did I get a discount?
Ask her if you can repay her discount by inviting her to coffee. If she accepts you are on date, if not than it is part of business.
>>16943093
I have no game and I don't drink coffee...Why does dating have to be so hard?
Hey /adv/. Recently a friend of my family died, and so another friend was supposed to order shirts as like a memorial type of deal. Four months and no shirts, my mom called the place and apparently never even got the order. The friend fucked us over.
What can I do? My moms crying and I don't know.
Was money exchanged?
>my friend died and all I got was this lousy t-shirt
Alright guys so I accidentally hit another car for the first time yesterday. It was nothing bad, in fact my car was completely unscathed, however it left a minor scratch on the rear bumper of the other car. I ended up giving me my license and insurance card and they filed a claim instantly. Where I think I started to mess up was when I didn't take a picture of the minor scratch or the license plate (Again, my first hit, I was very submissive). Is there a likelyhood that they will try to screw over my insurance if I did not do that? The rear bumper appeared to be a different...
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>>16942854
First your drawing skills are terrible.
Second your driving skills are not good enough yet :-D
>will they try to screw over my insurance?
That is what the insurance is for. To protect everybody on road from economical collapse.
It is your insurance's provider responsibility to prevent them claiming you destroyed whole car.
The only thing for you to change is that the next payment for car insurance will be higher. Also if you buy camera which records everything...
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>>16942937
Thank you for the info!
And yea I'll make sure to try to improve both skills
I dot two Ds in 3 credit classes in my first year of uni. Am I completely fucked GPA-wise?
No, unless you can't explain them.
>First year of uni
There's plenty of time to fix your GPA. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and just do it.
sometimes i am forced to communicate with family members, cousins,distant friends, people i haven't spoke to in years.
and everytime that happens i get bombarded with 1000 questions, questions that to be quite frank i don't feel comfortable answering, or quite frankly i don't even feel like talking to those people at all.
how do you manage those kind of situations?
i understand their point of view but i myself would not bombard anyone with questions because i know the feeling of discomfort when people that don't know you prob into your personal life
>>16942566
easy answer: I don't give a shit what people think about my personal life.
>>16942580
bullshit
Fuck, fuck, fuck. I got my annual blood sample results back and turns out I have Cytomegalovirus IgG. Should I be worried? Please respond, I'm scared to death...
>>16942372
No, don't be worried. Loads of people have cmv without even realizing it.
Blood donations are screened for cmv because some groups of patients paediatric patients, the immune compromised, etc.) require confirmed cmv negative products. But cmv positive blood is not hazardous for other groups of patients.
Don't stress. You'll be fine.
>>16942385
Thank God. I was getting worried but now that I'm reading more about it, it says it's very common and doesn't do anything besides fucking the baby up during pregnancy if the mother has it. I don't have any birth defects, so I guess I got this after birth.
Okay so I fucked up. I failed to drop these classes (3 courses, second semester) and so I'm now going to have three failing grades.
And I wanted to go to graduate school, am I super fucked? Or will I just have to start working really working really hard (fine with that, if anything)
Oftentimes you can withdraw from the class. You'll probably still have to pay for them though unless you can claim special needs or something.
In CA a W is like an F except it has no effect on your gpa so they don't really know why you didn't finish the class. They just know you didn't finish it.
if it's too late to withdraw from the classes, you'll probably have to retake them. the uni i went to allowed three retakes of a class, keeping the highest grade, so see what your options are?
The mental and emotional stress of this household is killing me physically. I hate school. I want to get my life started and I really can't handle all this college, especially with with medical bills and things going on at home. I want to move out. I'll do anything, but I can't get a full time job while I'm in school. As soon as I leave school, though, I will be getting kicked out, so I can't secure myself financially. I literally see no way out. I don't want to spend another day in this house, and they threaten homelessness on me all the time....
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>>16942327
go to your bank and apply for a line of credit. even total noobs can get between 3 and 5 thousand dollars line of credit.
you'd likely have to quit college (not sure what your entire schedule is set up for as of now) but with the money you have you can find a place that is at the very least subletting and go live there. you work part time, use the rest of your time to find a new job.
but if you move out college will likely be just a dream assuming you care.
>>16942327
I'm not sure I understand.
>I want to get my life started
Suppose for the moment that you were already getting your life started. What would be different from the current situation?
>and I really can't handle all this college
Are you aware of the setbacks you'll face if you leave school now? In many ways it's worse than never having gone in the first place.
>especially with with medical...
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How do I get a deeper voice?
>>16942270
record yourself daily and think about it when you talk.
Just practice speaking lower, maybe with a guitar tuner, you can also try that king kong exercise that's suppose to stretch your vocal chords or something, just don't overdo it like if it hurts just stop
http://www.mademan.com/mm/how-deepen-your-voice.html
You can also google voice exercises for FtMs they might have more tips, but there arent many
How do you go from being a lazy, failure of a human bean to a comfy, financially safe, educated guy?
>>16942269
Work. Hard.
When stressed before, I've had small hour long mental breakdowns, however what happened today was nothing like that.
It was an ordinary day at my college, several periods in and I started fantasizing. Initially my fantasies were sexual, but they soon turned violent. In the period before lunch I began feeling the urge to scream. I ran into a secluded room where a few other students were. In this room I began twitching, I felt extremely agitated, zoned out and angry although not at any particular person. I suddenly felt a flurry of agitation and I pushed through a...
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>>16942141
Tell this story to someone at the college health center. Believe it or not, they've run into this before, and will know how to help you.
>>16942174
Thanks. Any thoughts on what it might be?
