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hey /adv/ I'm going back to Uni this fall (19 years old, lucky me), hopefully with financial aid covering most of it.
Have to select a major and two minors. Thing is, I have no idea what I really want to do for the rest of my fucking life. I thought that getting into bionics, haptics and the like would be really cool, so Medical Technology major maybe? And a minor in Business Admin and Music (hobby). Business admin so I can maybe run a business of my own regarding my major.
Would appreciate any help with this. Things I'd like to at least look into are...
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Great choice, would choose the same if I could.
Minors are useless desu
We normally speak to each other once or twice a day through text or on the phone.
Last sent her a text monday night after we spoke on the phone.
I've only sent one follow up text earlier today, and still waiting to her back from her. Don't want to spam her with texts
Can't tell if she's annoyed with me, or if she's playing games. I keep seeing her active on social media and tagging friends in videos and fb and shit, and I'm getting really wound up. Have no clue why she is doing this
What's the best way to deal with...
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what was the text saying?
>>16949675
Probably bored of you anon, when was the last time you took her out did something fun? You cant have a relationship that is strong and long lasting just from text's once or twice a day
is it normal to feel horrible pain in my nads after masturbating 3-5 times a day?
Stop fapping 3 to 5 times in a day
>>16949655
No. See a doctor.
basically I went out with this girl on st paddy's day and had a great time, slept with her the same night and called in sick the next morning. Friday night, went out for a late dinner and slept over again, no sex. woke up, spent all of Saturday with her, vegging out, watching shows, cuddling on the couch, getting to know each other, pretty much with a beer in hand the entire day. went home that night cause one of her girl friends needed to talk to her.
so I left thinking "wow she's actually a cool chick, this might go somewhere" but I didn't...
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>>16949625
I would say that if she doesn't contact you by Friday you should Call Her and ask her out again. If she blows you off again just tell her you really like herandhad a great time with her and that you'd love for her to hit you up when she is free. Then she knows the score and its up to her
>>16949625
idk man it sounds like she gave you a shot and didn't feel anything, like honestly what are the odds of her friend "needing" her all of a sudden the one day you picked out of a week. 1 in 7 chance. Those odds are against you my friend. It just sounds like she wasn't that into you, it sucks but you should move on and stop making up fantasies and chasing a false dream. Find someone who will want to talk with you more, who will want to hangout with you more. Move on
>>16949638
this is pretty much what I'm set on doing, I guess I just needed a neutral party to confirm it
>>16949760
this is probably the most likely scenario. the only reason I even have a sliver of hope is that we ended Saturday on such a good note, and it seemed like a guarantee that she'd be willing to hang out again. the way we've been talking so far just seems like nothing ever happened, or even maybe that she met another guy/has plans...
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feeling like my head is burning but no fever. its probably because i often put my legs up on the desk when i sit down. do you think there's a way besides standing up more to solve this?
>>16949463
You're experiencing that because your circulation is shit.
Exercise and clean up your diet fatty. Also circulation enhancing socks.
Also see a fucking doctor
>>16949491
it takes months here to get a proper examination. my doctor is also a worthless fuck. also i am not fat.
but thanks, i need any kind of motivation i can get.
Hi /adv/,
This is my first time really posting here. I've never really needed to, but I'm sure that there are anons among us that are in the same boat or have had experiences relevant to this subject.
I drink about 4 - 5 cans of Monster Energy a week. It's a drain on my money and it's a drain on my health, certainly. Although it's not as extreme as other cases where people have had caffeine or energy drink addictions, it certainly is an addiction. I go on a downer if I haven't had it for a few days. It's started to cause serious...
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Your addiction is more psychological than anything and you need to tough it out.
You say weaning didn't work and neither did cold turkey.
That's too fucking bad because those are your options. Pick one.
Don't you dare replace this habit with some other unhealthy craziness.
You really notice 4-5 cans of monster in your weekly budget? Hahahahahahaha, what are you? 13?
Wtf, addicted to energy drinks lol. Just drink lemonade and stop being such a faggot. If this is your number 1 problem right now life will have a few surprises for you later on hahahahaha
Take some fucking vitamins
dating 6 years, engaged last 18 months - we go on international trip and she falls in love with someone I invited on trip - they are now planning on getting married so he can come and stay here in US - I want to report them to immigration. I want to destroy his instagram account that is so lovely to him.
>>16948905
>they are now planning on getting married so he can come and stay here in US
BAHAHHAHAHAH
Dude marrying a foreign national who wants to immigrate is about the dumbest thing a chick can do. It's literally falling for someone who openly admits they are being paid a fortune to act like they love you.
Sounds like this guy is helping you dodge a bullet by removing this bimbo from your life. But seriously, ask anyone and they'll tell you the best revenge is...
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Just give it time is all I can say, thinking about revenge will only make it worse. I'm just glad you didn't say you want to get back together.
How can I be not-sexist? I never considered myself sexist or mysoginistic at all but nowadays pretty much everything is considered sexist so I don't know anymore. I feel like something as simple as asking a girl out is objectifying women now.
Strawman.
>>16948849
Stop baiting before I slap you.
what is an acceptable point at which one could start working as a programmer? what are the essentials?
A degree of some sort at minimum.
Know how to program? What kind of question is that?
During today and probably yesterday my speakers where on without my notice. I sometimes go around and listen/watch to whatever thing that might come up, even very odd porn.
I am afraid that the people I live with might have heard everything and is just playing like nothing happen. How do I find out if anyone heard anything specific without asking them?
The only way to navigate that is by having awesome social skills and it sounds like you might not.
Option A: Apologize before it comes up "Hey, man. Sorry that my speakers were on the past few days. Hopefully it didn't bother you too much"
Option B: "Dude, i didn't even realize my speakers were on the past few days! You should have said something"
Essentially, you'll just be creating a platform for a conversation if they want to talk to you about something that they heard. If they don't, then it isn't a big deal anyway
I cannot get an erection anymore, even if I stay a whole week without masturbating, it just cannot get hard.
This is extremely frustrating since I actually have a gf.
3 months is said to be the minimum period you need to refrain
Best to not watch porn and masturbate, like any other addiction it's really bad for you and the people around you
>>16948717
But I am not addicted to porn. I am addicted to 4chan, which happens to be flooded by porn.
So I have a gag problem. And I want to know how to get rid of it. Its really annoying. Me and bf (almost a year) comfortably have sex on a regular basis. Its not the taste. Its the sight of cum. Whether it's his or mine. Its so annoying. How do I get rid???????
>>16948633
Acclimation.
Same way I learned to not gag on broccoli, I put it in my mouth more. Sorry to break it to you, but that's the way your body works.
Unless you want to acclimate with him around, get your juices on your fingers and practice sticking it in your mouth and telling yourself how glorious and sexy it tastes.
theres a way where if you clench your fist and try to push your thumb in-between your fingers it gets rid of your gag reflix if your focusing on your hand. no clue about a more long term thing, but i used to have a semi gag reflex with vodka and last Saturday it was gone so idk maybe just time???
My family has a strong disliking of therapists. I am currently seeing a school therapist at my university, but I haven't told my family yet because I don't want to start shit. This is my third therapist I've seen in my life and things have been doing decent so far. The last two were despicable people.
- The first therapist I saw was when I was 7. Our bio dad had left our family and I was in a state of shock at the time. Had a hard-time eating, getting motivated, speaking, ect. My older brother wasn't nearly as shook as I saw, but he did get more angry...
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- The second therapist I "attended" was actually only for one session. She was a therapist my brother was seeing in his Senior year of HS. She was one of those therapist tied to the Troubled Teen Industry and told my brother that to fix his problems, he should attend a Wilderness Camp. My brother was interested in joining the military at this time and thought this camp would be perfect for him to gain skills he would need for the military and college. Anyways, my brother told me one day she wanted to speak with me. I was a bit shocked as to why she would have an interest in me. Well, turns out my brother had told her about me and some personal details(eg: I had bladder programs, was gay, struggled my Freshman year of HS). Why he was so open to her about me, I have no idea. He must have trusted her. Well, I go in to see her and the first thing she does to me is start saying how my homosexuality was causing my bed-wetting, making me weak, how I need "extra" help to become a more full person. It was awful and this lasted for a good 45 minutes. I left her office in tears. You may ask why I didn't tell my parents about this and the reason is that I was pretty out of it during this time and this was the last thing I needed to hear.
If you have any further questions, please ask and I'll try and answer them. Also, if you feel comfortable enough, please share some of your stories with therapists. I'm curious to see if you guys have gone through similar shit that I have.
I've had a fwe bad experiences but the main one is probably for my gender therapist. Had finally gotten through nhs system after waiting like 15 months and had been self medication hormones for ages, have some appointments with therapist and at this point i'd been living as a girl for about 6-8 months without issue or people guessing was mtf.
2 Therapists at this place, nice guy, weird lady. The nice guy is all cheerful with the "im so happy for you, your doing amazing" and stuff. Time for my decision from them and the lady one just outright says...
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Does my attitude control the world?
Things only seem to exist as however i feel about them
Your attitude controls your perception of the world. Your attitude affects how you interact with other people, and how they interact with you. Depending on your relationship, you might affect their attitude and how they interact with people as well.
You have mental illness and should seek out professional help.
I feel like I can never get past the initial "hey how are you?" chitchat with people and I don't know how to connect past that, or if i even really want to connect with any of the people I know irl.
How do you meet people you want to be friends with? how do you get past the initial stages of just being acquaintances?
All I can think about is how much I'm going to have to drink tomorrow to get over the anxiety of going to class lol fuck does anyone have any advice or want to talk
You make them share personal info, then ask further questions, also revealing personal stuff about yourself in between. For example, today a coworker was a bit wushy so i asked her what's the matter. She told me thaz her sister was meant to fly to brussel the day the bombing was. I showed empathy and got a lot more out of her. That she's originally from belgia, that she still had family there, that she visits there often, and so on. If i ever go visit brussel i will make sure to ask her for insider tipps (asking for small favors is a good way to bond). This is how...
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I feel really similar, I just for some reason can't get interested in people that are around me or connected on fb, everyone just seems so meh to me. Most of the people I enjoy talking to are on steam, and that's only 3-5 people at most.
There's only one person I can think of that I want to get to know better, but they are really busy and a few years older. They message occasionally and when we talk irl we enjoy each others jokes. I'm just terrible at holding a decent conversation.
Anyways, I hope you figure it out anon, I have no clue as...
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>>16948538
yeah I generally ask about music and stuff and try to ask about them/get a feel for if there's something we're both into but I think I might just be really boring or something? I feel like I have no personality and I also feel really creepy and dorky asking people so much about themselves and then having nothing to say about me
thanks tho
