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I moved in with 3 girls about a year back.
We've all been living together just fine and I have had no real problems living with all women.
I hang out with one of my roommates (a girl) a lot. We go to movies and out to eat and just hang out a lot.
Normally I would think this means she wants the D, but the month we moved in I straight up asked if she had feelings for me and she said no.
It's been like 8 months since she said that and she's been getting very touchy feely recently, asking for massages and rubbing up on me.
Should I go for it again...
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>>16937588
You're knee deep in friendzone territory. Don't even think about fug roommate at this point, its much easier just to go out and find other girls instead.
>>16937601
I agree with this, you already expressed interest so it's up to her to make the confession of feelings this time around. she might be into you, girls are much more about finding "chemistry" and a "spark" in a relationship which is hard to build after just a month of knowing each other so maybe you've finally built that but If I were you I would bring other girls back to the house.
you will know for sure if she's jealous, they make that shit pretty obvious
I'm a 22 year old kissless virgin. I'm pretty introverted but not socially autistic or anything. I dealt with social anxiety and mild depression throughout my teenage years but I've kinda grown out of it for the most part. I'm not sure how attractive I am, but I'm pretty sure I'm not ugly and I dress decently, better than most people in my cs classes for sure. I have a part time job, I've been a part of things like a drumcorps that traveled the country, and college band. I make friends, but I just don't seem to care to put the effort in...
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>>16937373
>>16937376
oh
so op isn't that girl
hi /adv/. im too dependent on my friends to have a good time. im never really invited to anything they do, and im too afraid to ask if i can join them. i have pretty bad social anxiety. how do i ignore it and find something else to do? im currently jobless and have not considered college stuff yet. anytime i think about getting a job or going to school i get really depressed. im almost a year out of graduating high school and im trying to break all of my lazy habits. i dont want to achieve NEET level.
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>>16937334
Instead of waiting for them to invite you, you invite them. You be the one to say "That new movie opening Friday sounds good - anyone want to come see it with me?"
>>16937807
i appreciate your response anon
i could try that, it'd be way out of my personality though. hopefully it works.
Just went to some shit my room mate dragged me into. I was socially awk and I couldn't stand seeing people from middle school and high school I don't know very well. Fuck parties like that fuck.
that's nice, what advice were you looking for?
>>16937309
Ancient vaudeville joke:
Patient (moving arm) Doctor, it hurts when I do this.
Doctor: So don't do that!
You: I really hate parties like that.
Doctor:
when I was in school I had plenty of friends
but after school a lot moved out of town
many just drifted away
some changed a lot
now I have no friends, and I don't know how to meet people as a NEET
Old people don't get to have friends
>>16937182
I don't know, I am only twenty
I just never know what's on around me, and when I do I don't have anyone to go with
I've posted before about this, but every time I get drunk, the notion occurs to me...
I feel like being drunk makes me "normal". Like suddenly I understand what it takes to fit in with the rest of humanity. When I'm sober and dealing with people during work or life in general, I have such a short temper. I'm easily annoyed by other people's idiocy or ignorance, and I always feel like I care too much about every little detail, and like I'm the only one who gives a fuck. I feel like I'm surrounded by people who don't give a shit,...
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The mark of an alcoholic is that being Drunk doesn't feel the same way as it does to you now
You will not enjoy it, and you will be worse off than before
You overtime, overanalyze, and care too much, if yiu want to fit in with the kind of people alcohol makes you fit in (not to sound like I'm talking down to you or them) then fix these things in a way without alcohol
How you do that, I'd up to you to figure out
>>16937152
I didn't know it was possible to care too much. I have a hard time not caring. I'm passionate about everything I do in life, even the stuff that I hate. I always want to give 100% or nothing at all. When I'm surrounded by people that are okay with not giving a shit, it makes me wonder why I bother at all.
I don't want to "fit in" at all, but it occurs to me that it is so much easier.
Does anyone else here obsessively pop their pimples?
I find then so disgusting to look at and they feel gross too so I always tear at my skin trying to get rid of them.
Lot's of scabs on my face of course but whatever.
I'm 18 btw. When will I stop getting pimples?
>>16936974
You're going to regret this later when you have a bunch of enlarged pores and crevices on what would have otherwise been smooth, clear skin. Stop while you can.
>>16936989
Should I never pop them at all?
My hair color is black, I have dark brown eyes and golden tan skin tone. I want to change my hair by adding highlights. What should I change it too? Post a picture of what you think would looks good
>>16936903
black hair makes my dick diamonds I don't see why you need to change it
>>16936903
keep working on those english skills lady
Why do I feel so weird whenever I do nice things for people? I'm not saying that I hate it, but something about it feels unfamiliar and awkward about it to me. Whenever I go out of my way to do things for people that I know, it seems to catch them off guard. It's not that I don't like doing it, but giving out compliments and helping people with their problems just seems odd to me.
I used to be a really selfish person and and a complete asshole and this change is somewhat new to me, but I don't really understand why doing things that normally make people...
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>>16936888
I don't like getting compliments and find it difficult to congratulate people sometimes as well. I try my best to be nice to everyone and never let stereotypes affect me, but I just don't like being all "whoa dude, you did (X)!? no way! congrats man, lets throw a party!"
In your case, you should ask yourself: "Am I an asshole by nature? Do I want to be an asshole? Or maybe i'm just more reserved in social settings?", because quiet types like myself can even mistake themselves...
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>>16936967
I can be reserved at times, but I'm a pretty extroverted person. It's just that sometimes I feel like being too much of an insensitive person keeps me from developing close enough relationships with people to the point where I'm satisfied with it.
It helps a little bit, I can relate.
What the fuck
I'm trying to use leechblock to block 4chan on my computer and it's not working.
HELP ME I NEED TO LEAVE THIS PLACE
quack
>>16936706
Use Coldturkey OP, it's what I use when I have to study.
I'm running some Ethernet cable through my house to my new desktop. I bought 50 feet just to not have to deal with running out, and there's enough furniture and carpeting around that I can hide most of the cable easily. Last thing I need to do is run it up and over two side by side door frames, but I'm not sure how to keep the cable tightly in place. I need a solution that I can undo easily later on, as this likely won't be a permanent thing. Any ideas?
Thumbtacks or nails. Run the cable over the doorframe, and hammer in the nail/tack above the cable to sandwich it tightly between the nail and the frame
>>16936633
Get some of pic related
I've come to hate my old friends.
Over the last 2 years I've made a new set of friends, and it's through these interactions that I realised how much I really disliked them. What irritates me the most about them is that they think they're smarter and better than other people, which just isn't true. I speak with them off and on and each time I do I find them intolerable. I've bottled this feeling up for too long now and I've honestly started being peeved out by anybody now, basically anti-social (not asocial, that's different). I...
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If it's possible I'd bring it up in a group conversation and basically be like "guys you're fucking assholes and making me feel like shit"
If nothing changes then they don't care so you shouldn't feel bad cutting ties with them. If you truly feel the way you described you'll be better for it.
>>16936597
Holy shit I can actually be useful! Op, I went through this. I had a bunch of "intelligent" freinds who had to talk shit about other people or put them down to feel smart. I hated this. I always tried to change the subject or say they were kind of being dicks. I think making my feelings known made clear my distaste for them made it easier. What I did was sort of fade away. Slowly started canceling plans and hanging out with other people. It was just sort of a transition. I don't think they cared, why...
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So, I'm pretty good looking guy but I'm also pretty socially awkward/as spur. I get attention from girls at bars but other guys always find a way to embarrass me in front of them or one up me. How do I hold my own against other guys? I've always been a little bitch with no game.
>>16936506
*assburger fuck
I feel obliged to make a dead letters thread since I can't find it.
I will read them all.
I am metaphorically kicking myself into the corner but it feels like a brighter future because i see everything backwards
Dearest E,
How could you do this to me? Why, after I was willing to submit, to be yours, you became so cold? Why did you decide to stay, when you wanted to leave so much?
You broke me. You discovered the most intimate parts of my mind, I let you explore the darkest corners of my soul, just so you could leave...
I can't forgive you the chill you sent down my spine as you said you are going. I can't forget the paralysis.
How could you whisper in my ear that you loved me, when deep down you knew you will go? Did it feel good to choose her over...
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My college blocks gaming with a lazy filter searching for the tag, this is just enough to stop gaming services. Is there a way I can sign into ps4 using the vpn on my laptop ?
Man I'm glad I went to college before they figured that one out.
>>16936452
I can have all the video streaming , social media and porn I want, just no video games.
