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>walking past a group of thugs in the city
>one of them cougs and adds a "fag" in my direction
Thought for a second to go in and make a brain slushie, but it was a 4 vs 1 situation. I know he wanted to act cool infront of his friends and didnt even had the balls to say it into my face (or loud and clear) but it still made me fucking mad.
how to stay cool and dont let stuff like this hit so hard?
"Yeah, you look hot too, hun. Want to go for drinks or something? Give me a call sometime!"
that should freak him out enough
Maybe he wanted a cig. He sounds like a smoker. Let him bum a smoke and chill. Then afterword take him home with you and shag him till the sun comes up
Smile at him and, with a flamboyantb lisp, reply, "Yes?"
Hey /adv/, a while back I registered myself for an exchange program. It wasn’t my own choice, my parents pushed me to do it because they felt it could improve my grades (linguistics student) and would look good on my resume. Now it’s up to me to decide whether I want to go through with it.
The place I’d be going to is a tiny, rural village where you’ll probably be bored to tears if you don’t make friends. So that doesn’t appeal to me. I’ve never seen the appeal of exchange programs in general. The reason why I consider going, is because I’ve recently...
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Sure it got me away from home, but wow it changed my life.
How long, OP? My first away was 3.5 months. Now I've been away for 1.5 years with 3 weeks back home. It set me up for exploring the world. Raised my confidence. Gave me a new outlook on life. Not saying it's super easy, but you know what awaits you at home. Out there--who knows?!
>>16950491
I'd be leaving for 4 months. Heard a lot of positive things from other exchange students, but they all went by their own volition and were excited to leave. I was thrown into it against my will and am only starting to warm up to the idea because it allows me to leave this place. So I probably won't leave with the same enthusiastic mindset as my fellow students.
But I do think it will be a great experience IF I manage to make some friends there. That's the biggest thing I'm worried about....
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>>16950526
That's a long time, but the same truth remains--you know what you have at home, and it's not great.
I definitely was nervous and had bouts of homesickness. What country? Would you even have Internet?
I would encourage you to have a plan--exploring, doing some type of charity work--for connecting with human beings.
I'm 21 and live with and am provided by my mom and stepdad(both senior citizens), have no job, and go to community college.
Is this normal? Should I be doing something in particular right now? I have 0 friends and my mom has always discouraged me from getting a job and so I don't know who to turn to as far as getting advice or what I should do.
You should seriously be getting a job. Your mom is wrong in discouraging you from getting professional experience. You're literally unhireable after you graduate unless you have some. Just try to work for relevant companies, even in very shitty internships. Or do some projects on the side on your own. The point is to have a history of demonstrating your competence and reliability.
You'll need to get work experience sooner or later, it will build up that resume. Not sure why your mum is not encouraging it. Are you an only child? There should be counselors at the community college to talk about career/school plans senpai. Work study is an option just to wet your feet with balancing school and job hours. Plus you'll work along side other students and can gain friends that way.
>>16950499
She's probably got that lethal combination of being out of touch with current facts of life and totally self-assured about her gut feelings.
>qt girl I really like
>Think I'd really get along with her (same hobbies, same taste in music, etc)
>Try to message her on facebook (I don't see her on a regular basis)
>Usually get nothing back
>Not getting seen-zoned or anything, she just doesn't check her messages, they never get read
>Really want to get to know her, but It'd be kinda weird just finding her one day and...
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Wait until you do see her. It's not weird to ask someone to hang out randomly if you pitch it as "Hey, here's what I'm up to this weekend. Sounds cool? You should come." It's just an invitation.
In the meanwhile, talk to girls you do see regularly. Stop focusing on common interests. Have you considered that maybe people just want to hang out with other nice people and have fun? It's not a very complex equation.
she definitely knows you messaged her and chose not to click on it so it wouldn't be read.
>>16950433
>In the meanwhile, talk to girls you do see regularly.
There's literally none, my college course is pretty much all dudes, I've always been too much of a pussy to approach new people
I broke up with someone and have repeatedly told them in completely clear terms that I have no interest in them anymore, romantically or sexually. We did not date very long and I caught them cheating on me.
It has been weeks and they are still explaining the situation to their friends as if it's just a rough patch and that we're still technically together, still refers to me as their partner, etc. They make facebook statuses clearly meant to give off this impression as well.
What the fuck more can I do.
You can move on with your life
You're not supposed to do anything. Delusional people are responsible for their own problems.
What you're doing is already too much. Stop digging into what your ex is saying to friends. Block as necessary on social media. Stop engaging with this. People who have compulsive needs to engage with emotionally unwell people are the ones who get absolutely wrecked when they cross paths with the legitimately mentally ill one day. You need to learn how to stay away from crazies. Pretend like they don't exist.
>someone
>them
>them
Why are you trying to hard to hide each other's gender? Not that it matters, but it feels like you are trying to hide it like its some sort of secret.
>be shut in female
>have to beat off hordes of guys with a stick
>be anything less than super extroverted male
>die alone
Yeah, what of it?
>>16950383
It's called catharsis
>>16950386
There's a regular get it off your chest thread for that. If there isn't one, make one.
What do you consider the three most important attributes of self-esteem to be? For a person with self-esteem that's super low behind closed doors, it goes something like this:
1 - Body Image
2 - Accomplishments (improving body image can fall under this category)
3 - Personal Talents/Intellect
1 - Body Image
2 - Friends' approval
3 - Accomplishments
Aren't 2 ans 3 pretty much the same thing? Also, given that you have average looks, body-image can rely on fitness/weight training accomplishments.
1. Liking oneself (biggest part)
2. Accomplishments (linked but not limited to approval, help the 1.)
3. Body image or friends/family approval/support
Hello /adv/, I had an unusual dream last night and it's causing strange feelings to bubble up inside me.
The details elude me, but I remember chained on a bed in what looked like a metal cargo container that would go on a ship, with a particularly heavy chain around my neck- I thought it was a weight, but when I leaned down I saw it was a metal chain bolted to the floor.
Anyway, the whole experience gave me a massive hard on, the feeling of the heavy restraints and the weight keeping me down, especially the chain around my neck.
... Normal people aren't...
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>>16950341
Who cares what others think?
Get some restraints, have your significant other tie you up and see if it works for you in reality.
>>16950341
It's called a fetish.
OP, that's not all that weird, I wouldn't worry about it.
Sure it's not "normal", but who gives a shit, your kinks are your kinks. If you like being tied up or otherwise restrained, good for you, all in good fun.
Word of advice though, bondage can go wrong, so if you're planning on trying any by yourself, read up on it first. Learn how you get yourself out of it if something goes wrong, practice knots etc.
All the better if you have a SO to play with, of course.
I happen to be hugely into BDSM so all I can say is don't sweat...
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>pretty sure a friend i made online has lesbian crush on me
>we have a ton of things in common, similar life experiences, never met anyone this much like me, it's awesome
>but, sometimes she steers conversation to us living together, to how her bf would be okay with us fooling around, to how she admires me
>i just try to steer direction away and tell her things like "my bf wouldn't be comfortable with that", because I value her so much as a friend, but i don't want to break her heart
My boyfriend is actually annoyed with it. And I am bisexual, but I'm monogamous. I'd still consider hooking up with a girl while I'm in a relationship to be cheating. Not only that, but I don't find her attractive. Friends are friends, women I were to date or hook up with are put on a whole different social plane with me.
She's in a place right now where she desperately needs a friend. But it seems like she is clinging to me and I don't know what to do. I get so overwhelmed by this. She's not the first bisexual friend of mine to try to take things further. It's also always in some "moment of weakness" or vulnerable state. To the point where I just desperately need to back away.
But since I care about her and the situation she is in, it's hard to do that.
How do I even handle this?
Honestly you need to tell her straight up that you are not okay with what she's talking/hinting about. trust me, if you don't argue against her it makes you seem like you're fine with it. No need to beat around the bush, true friends will respect your feelings anyway.
>>16950337
What if she gets extremely offended that I don't have requited feelings for her? I love her like my best friend. Not my girlfriend tho.
>>16950352
then that's her problem
>walking on campus
>compliment a girl saying she looks nice in the dress
>she ignores me and continues walking
I'm giving up. I'm gonna accept the fact that I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life.
You have to start a conversation before complementing her you creepy fuck.
Did you actually just yell out "you look nice in that dress" to a random girl?
Okay.
Enjoy living the rest of your like 99% of the way it was going to go anyway.
girl i've been in a relationship with for a little over a month sent me a long text thanking me for hanging out with her while she's sick. it was sincere and endearing
i was napping when she sent it and responded a few hours later
"aw, that's sweet. hurry up n get better"
this happened early yesterday morning and she hasn't said anything back since. it's been over a day and i'm wondering if i did something wrong bc i'm used to having some sort of communication with her.
i refuse to double text but i'm...
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Man double texting aint shit
Now TRIPLE TEXTING
That's the issue
>>16950236
>sincere and endearing
>responded a few hours late
>"aw, that's sweet. hurry up n get better"
You know what you did wrong.
>>16950261
yeah my text was awful. i feel pretty bad about it
how should i resolve it though?
maybe "hey, can we talk for a sec?" and meet up irl to explain myself
So /adv/, any of you ever been involved in a threeway (2 girls)?
My wife is giving me a threeway for my birthday and it may turn into a regular thing (she's really curious to try, I'm the only guy she has ever been with but she fooled around with a few of her girlfriends).
I've never done it before so what should I expect? The girl is really cute (pic related) and is a lot of fun. She's my wifes best friend. Wife is even willing to let me go bareback because she knows her friend is clean and she's on the pill.She also has a couple other friends in mind for future goes as well.
I guess this is a not so secret bragging topic but I could use some pointers. The girlfriend has already fooled around with this girl when they were younger so they should be fairly comfortable together. I just need to figure out how to avoid making the wife jealous in any way.
>for my birthday
>she's really curious to try, I'm the only guy she has ever been with but she fooled around with a few of her girlfriends
Top kek, do you really think she's doing this for you?
>>16950228
I know she is, but I don't care if she is getting something out of it as well. If she wants to pick up and fuck other girls I'm cool with it as long as I get to fuck them as well.
She's got some pretty hot friends who like to fool around. Plus we live in Thailand so finding horny European chicks for threesoms will be fairly easy as well.
>>16950238
It would be pretty funny if she was going to get her female friends to cuck you.
How do I become James Bond? I'm at the point where everywhere I go, women check me out... but I have issues approaching strangers! It's really not because I'm shy or because I'm nervous, I just don't like talking to new people.
>bang random 10's just once
>they never come back for more
>obviously not satisfied
>repeat 50 times
>get std's
You are now James Bond.
>you'll never be Sean connery
>>16950216
>implying they don't at least try to find him
>implying he actually gives them a means to
>implying he doesn't bring condoms to prevent stds and little Jimmy Bonds
>implying his suit lining isn't made of condoms
Shit's 99% effective, why do you think he never gets hit by bullets
With all those "friendzone" hatred, didn't whine to my male friend at all, and we became emotionally distant. Never talked about feelings at all.
Does the opposite lead a girl to a friendzone then? Always had a feeling he saw me as a cool dude.
How to have it balanced?
Homosexuality. Otherwise you really can't. You're expecting all of the emotional closeness of mutual attraction with none of the romantic feelings. That's ridiculous.
>>16950151
I kind of had a crush on him and wouldn't mind choosing only one option.
But it was too late to choose.
>>16950167
And now you can't have that level of emotional closeness as a result. Remember this the next time you hesitate.
>work my ass off so i can go home and sit on my computer
>finally have a free afternoon with it
>cant enjoy anything on it
Help.
>>16950138
Xcom 2 is fun
ANIME, lad
>>16950557
Any recommendations? Opm was the first show I watched in a long time and really enjoyed. Generally I really dislike moeblobs and fanservice but like action.
