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So I've gotten a speeding ticket before, paid it, and took a course online which let me avoid the points on my record I think (it was a few years ago.)
Got another ticket today, I'm an idiot and slipped up. Another 2 points. I can pay it off and take another course to take off the points right?
I realize I am a huge idiot, and hate myself for not paying more attention. But yeah.
I doubt they're going let you do it a second time. I would be more concerned about the possible insurance increase.
>>16947779
I read online that if you have four points or less you can take a course
I got 2 points last time, took the course
and now Ive got 2 points
You might be right though, I was just hoping I could. Ah fuck me.
Lol this is not the end of the world. This happens to ppl all the time. Just bad luck. Pay the fine, do the course and pay attention next time. Nothing to be ashamed of m8
My girlfriend, whom I've been with 1 year 7 months and 11 days, is a great person when you first meet her. She's kind and funny and a great friend but I'm worried she's just not a good girlfriend. I guess i will start with reasons i don't like our relatinship. She likes to make me change who i am if she doesn't like it. I was told to never let anyone change me because that's unhealthy. She smokes, which really gets on my nerves and causes burning in my eyes and throat. I deal with it because i love her but if i try to get her to stop she simply...
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I was also told i won't leave because I'm scared to be alone. I honestly can't see a future with her and I'm scared to go further since i will be graduating and having the option to move in, which she will thrust on me. She's just the type of person to get encouraged by her friends to divorce me and talk half of my possessions. I'm scared to leave because she makes me feel bad and i get drawn in but i don't want to break it off with a few simple words then leave because i feel like something as serious as this deserves care and meaning.
Break up with her, do it in text if you can't deal with the crying and immediately block her on everything so she won't guilt you back into it. Avoid her at all costs and get out of it. You can't see a future with her i get that but there aren't futures for people like that. Their futures are built on the manipulation of others, such as yourself. She needed a crutch and you came in at the right time and now you're a wheelchair.
>>16947770
>She likes to make me change who i am if she doesn't like it. I was told to never let anyone change me because that's unhealthy.
That's kind of a shitty statement, because while you shouldn't try to change yourself to fit in with a group of people, you may be someone in need of change. A relationship is about give and take, so if you want it to succeed, you NEED to change certain things about yourself. If she's trying to change certain hobbies and interests,...
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Can anyone explain why someone would say they love you and care, yet continually push themselves away and try to make a gap that you want to close wider? I'm at my wits end here.
>>16947765
I don't know why anyone would lie to another person. It's simply unfathomable. What kind of person says something they don't mean to get something that they want?
What do you mean by "push themselves away?" Because some people are just naturally introverted and just need a little time alone to recharge sometimes. Like sometimes I just need a day where I don't talk to anyone. It doesn't mean I'm mad or I suddenly stopped liking everyone for a day, I just start to feel burnt out and frazzled being constantly around people too long
>>16947765
By saying 'they love you and care' they think they are doing you a favour by protecting your feelings from being ravaged by the truth. Which is.... they care enough to hide they don't love you.
Is it bad to make myself throw up when I really have to? I'm a bit of a fat fuck and over eat and I have a shitty diet and I constantly have stomach burning and borderline puking. It seems like my body is just rejecting shit anyway and it would probably be healthy to do it and I wouldn't have to worry about burning calories
That's called bulimia, sweetie.
Eat less. Eat real food. You are literally poisoning yourself, every single day. You know this. WHY?
>>16947764
The stomach pain gives me no appetite and when I do get it it's bad as fuck and all I can stomach is pizza and shit
I need to know about penicillin.
-It can lower seizure threshold
-I've never taken it before, and live 30 minutes from anywhere with epinephrine.
-Potential to screw up gut flora.
-Other forms of toxicity I don't want.
I have an infected impacted wisdom tooth, but am not keen on taking antibiotics. I've come to a point where I'm so used to having poor or erratic health otherwise that even the slightest possibility of negative change is not acceptable. I'd almost rather die of sepsis.
I also have visual snow, which apparently is associated with hypermetabolism in the left lingual gyrus and right anterior cerebellum. Wonder what lowering seizure threshold would do...
Anyone have any experience on if this shit is worth the gamble?
It's 100% worth the gamble you fuckwit.
>>16948698
That's easy to say if you haven't spent the last decade falling apart and putting yourself back together.
I'm looking to inform decent risk assessment, "fuckwit".
>>16949054
On 4chan??
This girl my friend keeps bringing to our group bugs the shit out of most of us, but we don't know how to tactfully approach our friend and tell her to stop bringing her along... everyone hates how fake she is, how much of a leech she is, and how childish and lazy she is, how obnoxious and toxic she is.
How do we tell our friend to stop inviting her friend to our hang outs?
Start calling her Yoko
>>16947710
How will that hope? we're not a band.
Hey man, most of us don't like X and don't want her to hang out with us, is it okay if you stop bringing her over?
Also, don't be a little bitch.
I wrote a long rambly post, but I'll try to be a succinct as possible.
I've been unable to think or find the energy to do basic tasks, study for university when I was in it, work, maintain basic interpersonal relationships with anyone. In uni I would blank out during lectures, I wouldnt study at all, and I'd immediately go home and lay in bed and stare at the ceiling.
I dropped out. I got freelance jobs relating to my field, and I even talked myself into a silicon valley start up at one point (technically) while the founder was looking for VC funding....
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I went to a doctor to get drugs after all this, and I have a number of drugs that I now take to give me physical and mental energy, and they make a difference, but I'm not sure if its enough.
I have lows which I cant describe. I talk to myself frequently when I'm at home. I spend a lot of my day blanked out and in my head even with the drugs. I experience these kinds of lows which happen for days at a time, I can't describe them.
They're far worse than just feeling bad or depressed. I can't describe it, but I'm bedridden a lot of...
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Diagnosis : Depression
Apologies for the odd structure of my posts, but I wanted to explain everything in as few words as possible so as to allow for the greatest number of people to give me feedback while understanding the situation.
I will pretty much do almost anything to eat less food.
I am overweight, and I don't know how to get that self control back.
It's killing me.
Help.
>>16947678
If you want to eat less food so badly, just eat less food.
Yeah, you might have to withstand hunger pains. Get over it.
>>16947685
any tips?
>>16947693
I don't know of a way to tell you to control yourself. That's up to you. When I was 200 lbs, and wanted to lose weight, I ate healthier food. I ate smaller proportions, and took time eating - instead of racing to see how fast I could stuff my face, I'd eat a few bites and then forget about it for ten or fifteen minutes, usually busy doing something else.
I also took up running, which is difficult to start but if you keep at it, the dividends pay themselves, especially if you have the want...
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For some reason I have this crazy fetish. When a girl sends me nudes I make a fake profile of her and send them to strangers. Why? It gets me harder than sex
Maybe you're bisexual and you enjoy getting other guys aroused? Maybe you're a literal cuckold and you enjoy the idea of your girlfriend getting other guys aroused? Maybe both? I don't know. But it's a really shitty thing to do to your girlfriend, that's the most important thing here. Huge, huge betrayal of trust. It's not really about you and your dumb fetish guilt at that point. Nobody cares about your fucking fetishes, but she'd probably be pissed if her nudes get posted on a porn site or something. I've even heard of stuff like that...
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>>16947675
...and?
>>16947687
One of my friends said he saw my gf on accident and she was one of those girls with a body you obsess about and I think it gave me the problem. I only showed pics of girls that sent them online that I don't know
came up on some money
i feel like spending it on me. but im not sure what to get
i like video games and sports and pussy and like. i dunno normal guy shit
i feel like dropping 200 bucks what should i get
Better food and a better camera.
>>16947672
fuck you bitch i made that shit myself
200$ sounds like 1hour coke and hooker.
Guys, I meet up with a friend I met on /r9k/ tomorrow. We don't really know what to do, so we thought about going to eat something, but no idea what else we should do. How do you also behave around people you meet for the first time, I worry so much that I will do something wrong, he is one of my two only online friends, I don't want to fuck it up. I thought about tons of scenarios over the last few days, but I know my worries won't disappear, they will just be amplified.
if you already know him online then you should be fine just act like you do online
>sorry im new as fuck and am just testing if you can green text on /adv/
>>16947664
Same gender or opposite gender? If same gender are you both gay? Potential romance can change things a bit for obvious reasons. I kind of doubt there are women on /r9k/, but you never know. Just act the same way you do online basically.
Is it okay to be friends with your ex even though you still have some attachment towards them and care about them significantly?
>>16947647
For your own sake, it's a terrible idea
no iv tried to be friends with my exs its never worked just tell them to fuck off and get on with your life
Yes. It's possible.
Hey. So a little Story. I found this amazing girl that loves the stuff I love, and she's really awesome and we hang out and stuff, but my two other friends that are girls tell me that she has feelings for another guy. I really have feelings for her, and she's totally my time (I'm also a very big Christian and she loves God too). I'm overweight and not very good looking, but I've been told by many I'm very sweet and have a nice personality. I love to be nice and help people, and I'm more of an emotional guy. Do you guys have any advice on what...
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>>16947595
Realize that there are more women out there besides her. Realize that if you're overweight, and you know it, you should probably work on a better diet and exercise.
The rest of it is pretty normal.
Tell her to suck the other guys dick and never call you back. Like ever.
>>16947595
>she has feelings for another guy
>I'm overweight and not very good looking
Work on yourself, because you're only friend material right now. You have nothing of romantic interest to offer her.
>I'm very sweet and have a nice personality
So are a lot of other people, OP. You're not going to stand out from the crowd by just being "nice."
Hello, /adv/,
I'm going to be a Freshman in a community college soon, (as in 3 months from now) and I have never had a girlfriend before, I got rejected once, which led me to fixing my confidence issues afterward, and I've really built up my self-confidence, and now I can maintain eye contact, listen, maintain a conversation, and am otherwise no longer socially-autistic.
Yet I am still a kissless virgin. I'm 6'0" tall, 200 lbs, I lift 2-3 times per week, many people tell me that I am handsome, I have only 5 friends, look- the point is,...
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>>16947589
Community college social life is relatively poor. Most people get in and get out. However, if you take anything that isn't technical you'll get a decent number of girls that you can chat up and potential friends.
Don't expect anything too raunchy or whatever, again a lot of cc attendees already have lives and usually are older.
>>16947589
bump
>>16947589
>>16947597
Depends on what major you choose.
So my friends who I have been with for many years kinda split up without any real reason awhile ago. Lets call the groups A and B. B has been sorta of avoiding A for a few months and I had no idea why and as far as I knew group A didn't either. I recently learned there was a bit of a cold war between a couple in group A and the rest of group B. The dude in the couple part of group A has apparently sexually assaulted someone (and potentially more) and admitted to it when confronted by group B. He ended up hiding behind his depression as an excuse to be pitied and his girlfriend...
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>>16947562
hey, you seem really concerned about your friends and their well being, even if rapist in Group A is an actual rapist.
Good for you for trying to take a step back and be like, "HMMMMM."
Also good for you for not flipping out and crucifying Mr. Rapey.
I think you're on the right track of being aware of the situation and being against the behavior without violence or judgment. I would just keep that up. You can disagree with Mr. Rapey's behavior but still be like, "Look...
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>>16947562
>>16947601
Who did he sexually assault? Did he actually rape someone, or did he get drunk and grab a girl's ass without permission? Is the victim pressing charges? Sexual assault can mean a lot of things, I really can't judge it without a little more info
But if he actually raped someone, or anywhere near it, and he and the people in group A are like excusing it or sweeping it under the rug, I would distance myself if I were you. Friend or not....
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>>16947639
>or lessen his responsibility for what he did
Kind of hard to take responsibility when society will lock you up, throw away the key to your entire life, and cheer when you get abused in prison.
If we as a society want people to take responsibility for their actions and work to change, maybe we should give them the opportunity to do so and ya know, actually make it right.
That's if he raped anyone. OP doesn't know, it's just he said she said at this point.
