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What are the chances someone in a relationship falls in love with someone else?
I know this girl and shes in a long distance relationship. We see often each other, she usually texts me everyday. We laugh a lot and we can talk for hours. She obviously likes to spend time with me and so do I. She also said she likes me.
Is she into me or am I more than a friend to her? Or what does a normal friendship between boy and girl look like?
45%
>>16943420
>45%
whatever you do, don't make her cheat.
>>16943418
she just wants a companion, to get though them lonely nights
I think I have a STD and I can't let my mom know. So I was planning on going to a planned parenthood clinic and getting tested. If any of you have been here before please tell me what to expect. Like what is the process like, what do they ask?
>>16942930
They'll probably do a pelvic exam and tell you if there any obvious red flags they can tell you about right away. Then they'll probably stick a swab up your vag to get a sample of vajoogoo to test. It'll take about a week for the results to be in. If they call later than a week/never call it's probably good news but follow up to be sure. If they call back sooner then it's probably bad news
>>16942930
And they'll ask general stuff... How long you've been sexually active, how many partners you've had, when you think you contracted the STD, stuff about your period
>>16942944
When can they schedule you're next abortion.....you know the norm.
You could always just go to a normal gyn for a far higher quality of service.
How do stay motivated?
I simply don't prepare for tests or exams if I'm sad. Thoughts on dropping, constantly watching anime, playing vidya and rotting in parents basement are weirdly tempting. Completely spoilt brat, yeah. Though shit is persisting. It doesn't wear off for two years. And I can't fight it when it's particularly strong.
Stop being a fucking fagot and just do ur work. When u see that ur gonna live in streets and starve in the future cause ur a lazy bum and did nothing during the "preparation stages" of life, you will see how much of a fagot you were.
>>16949792
I try this way of motivation, but I am so disgustingly bored with life in some moments.
Wishing I could fall asleep and never wake up.
It's fucking shameful and ungrateful, but I keep dreaming about it.
Once you get in a position where you have to drop out of college, change majors, or can't get imployment, you'd do anything to go back to where you are now to do work you absolutely hate, and actually enjoy it.
It's a very real outcome you will likely experience.
ok, i need a reality check
>dating bf for 6 months
>he has a close female friend that he regularly sees
>they only do stuff on their own
>he once showed me something on his phone and a message from her popped up. there where kisses and hearts
>he has random selfies of her on his phone (he showed me one)
>he goes to her house and uses the sauna there - WITH her
>he once low key told me that she is his ex
>i suggested that she joins us when we went out as a group so i could get to know her but she refused (as he said, i don't actually know if he even asked)
>on the other hand he has cancelled plans with her to see me
>he is very nonchalant about the whole thing
>he doesn't act secretive about her but isn't very open either
>he seems to not see ANYTHING wrong with being so close friends with an ex
>otherwise he is the best bf ever, no complaints
what do? i am on a wild ride between wanting to stab the bitch and feeling like i am paranoid and they really are just friends.
to make things 100% worse, i am extremely awkward. i can't bring myself to just talk to him about the fact that she makes me uncomfortable.
pls adv... i urgently need somebody to just talk to me about the issue. he's currently with her and i am not feeling well at all. in fact, feel like utter shit.
>>16949718
Yeah he's fucking her on the side. 99% probability (I pulled that statistic out of my ass). But really.
Even if he's NOT fucking her, he obviously has so little regard for your feelings that he refuses to treat you well. Do you really want to be with a man who "doesn't see a problem" with being in a sauna with his ex girlfriend AND he doesn't bring the ex around to allay your fears?
A man who isn't hiding shit would just bring her around and the two of you could talk...
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You're allowed to be uncomfortable about this, and it's perfectly reasonable. You should talk to him and tell him straight what you feel and why. If he continues to act like this, he's not only acting shady, but he's also disregarding your feelings.
>>16949734
>the fact that he's cancelled plans too?
Not OP, but he cancelled plans with his ex to see OP
Where do pure dominant women like Esdeath-sama exist? Advice on finding one goes here
Love and finding a partner for you is difficult, and mostly a game of chance. The absolute best advice I can give you, is that if YOU find a woman attractive, go and speak to her, and you will know if she is right for you.
can you describe what you mean without using fictional characters?
>>16949424
Domineering personalty where she likes to take charge of activities and is fiercely loyal
>>16949423
I know the majority of women aren't dominant and that's what I want though
So my boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago and I was devastated, it wasn't ugly or anything, he said it was him not having enough time to spend with me and that he's going through a rough patch in his life (mainly financial).
I think I can make him understand that we can have something special, because I do love him and most of our time were happy and enjoyable times.
He still wants to be friends and we're having coffee in a week to sort everything out.
So I read up online on what to do and the "no contact rule" came up.
I...
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....fucking yes are you seriously asking this question?, just because he broke up with you doesn't mean he doesn't want to be a part of your live or if you matter to him or not, and this no contact rule did you read that in a fucking how to deal with a break-up site?
>>16949348
I read about it on a "how to get your ex back" website... it's about not letting it turn into a friendship. You're supposed to have zero contact with them for a month so the dust settles but I'm gonna see him next week... I really want him to stay with me... I'm really desperate but I don't want him to see that
Do you know anyone who has done this and it worked out? I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago but I still text her every day.
Oh and you should totally tell him you're fine. He's just gonna think you want nothing to do with him and he's going to move on.
Tomorrow I might do speed for the first time, but I haven't tried a drug like that before.
So I wanna ask, how dangerous is speed, and assuming I'm not a fuckup that overdoses it a shit ton tomorrow, how will it be?
Why do you want to try it?
It can be highly addictive, it can cause MANY health problems, and it tends to make you act like a crazier, stupider, meaner version of yourself. I've never seen someone's life get better on this shit. Stick to weed, moderate amounts of alcohol, and the occasional psychedelic when you really want an "experience"
>>16949127
Neat name for a drug.
>>16949136
Disregard this faggot.
Speed on its own is boring and won't do much to you. Do it on a night out while drinking with your buds.
Check erowid instead of /adv/ next time
My mom is 42, Im 19, and my stepfather is 36.
She has been married to him for almost a year, and as time passed I started to develop feelings for him. I know its super fucking strange but I feel helplessly in love with him and even though he treats my mom good, I can kind of sense it may be mutual... (ie. we cuddle very close on the couch and I sit on his lap a lot and can feel him getting excited)
I've tried to tell my mom that I think I might have a crush on him and she just plays it off like I'm just a fucking kid and its cute or something... she'll...
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>>16949017
OP is another cuck troll
The heart wants what it wants is weak shit quoted by people who need an excuse to rape children.
What you're doing is dangerous for everyone and yourself. It's not going to work out between you and him, long term. Just isn't. I've thrown good relationships away for very intense (but likely temporary) feelings before and it's never a good idea.
>>16949017
>Let's play a game: How many lives can one girl ruin just by getting horny?
I'm a virgin and I have a fleshlight. Typically I need only about 3 or 4 minutes to cum, but there are also moments I need less. Now I'm insecure if I would have my first time I would also not last long enough. How can I get to the point to last longer? Can I use this toy to increase my stamina?
We should have a betting pool on how long you last when/if you do the real thing. I put the over/under at 75 seconds.
I have a flashlight and a girlfriend and I thought I was in the same boat but most of the time I can't finish with my gf so she'll use the flashlight on me to finish
>>16949014
I'm gonna go the other way. I'm gonna bet he gets nervous and has trouble maintaining an erection, and doesn't cum at all
in fact I'll go double-or-nothing that he attempts to fake an orgasm
My girlfriend of four years or so won't have sex with me anymore, she claims that I'm the most satisfying lover she has ever had and that it's her depression that's causing it but I don't know what to fucking do I'm as supportive and as nice as I can be regarding her depression the problem is that it's making me fantasize about my ex (whom would have sex with me very often) pretty regularly. It's been months now and she rejects all my advances. We are about to get a home together again so I can't just throw my hands up and say fuck...
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>>16948981
Perhaps counseling is in order. Hurting someone for the sake of your own pleasure is a big no-no so make sure those thoughts stay as thoughts. She needs therapy and for you to stick with her through it. Hell, even offer to go to the therapy sessions with her.
>>16948995
Oh yeah absolutely, I won't cheat on her, I never have and never will although she has cheated on me twice before.
Major red flag. She's cheating on you.
It's been a long time, /adv/
The backstory: About a year ago, I started casually dating a girl. The relationship evolved, we moved in, etc. Now she's pregnant. I'm 23 years old and she's 19.
Now. I recently came into about $20,000 in inheritance. I've not yet shared this with her because, despite our time together and the fact that I do care for her, I really don't want to spend the rest of my life with her.
We're having a kid now though. And despite how much I'd like to start a new life, now I can't. All of...
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I wouldn't parent the kid. I would do ANYTHING to get out of it.
How far along is she? Can you talk her out of it?
What would happen if you were honest with her about how you feel?
Once you have a child, you're pretty much fucked. You only have the choice if you ruin your own life by staying with her, or ruining hers and the child's by breaking up.
>>16948595
>>16948595
She's about two months in though she's adamant about keeping it whether I'm there or not which leaves me with two scenarios.
1. Leave and be a deadbeat dad. (Technically I'll be paying child support but in the child's eyes, they won't have a father)
or
2. Accept my fate. I'm a fatalist at heart and though I wish things were different, this is what I've done and this is what I'll deal with.
If...
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Me and my boyfriend both have serious emotional problems. Him probably more so than me due to his shitty life.
He tends to be quite sensitive, and I think that maybe he takes things too harshly. He says I'm being rude in a lot of circumstances where I feel that a normal person wouldn't have reacted as badly as he did.
>he goes afk to lie down
>he ends up being gone for 12 hours
>he comes back
>try not to spill my desperation and clinginess...
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Sounds like you both need a degree of stability that neither of you are able to provide.
Also, forgot to mention:
He's quite stubborn, and I tried telling him that he shouldn't take some things so personally.
He just said, "you're my girlfriend so I take everything extremely seriously", but it makes absolutely no sense to me.
I feel like it would be quite hard to get him to change this aspect of himself. He's been treated like shit by most people so I think he just thinks anything is way worse than it actually is. But I dunno.
>>16948495
That's because you basically reminded him that he has no job and also told him that what he accomplished today doesn't count as work and that he is a lazy piece of shiz in general. Good work op. That's the material loving relationships are built on. Keep it up. Pic related
How do you fuck in the shower?
I have always wondered the same thing.
Seeing as I'm 6'5" and my gf is 5'4" this unnecessarily complicates things...
No idea. I've tried with 2 different guys who were different heights. If it's a tub-shower or an other wise large shower, the girl can bend over at the waist, but that's awkward even outside the shower.
Possibly with the girl up against the wall with her legs up, supported so her weight is more on the wall than the guy's arms. If you trust your walls.
Or just don't. Sensually touchin' in the shower is gr8 by itself.
>>16948120
I have the same question, but my dick is a bit too large (9.5x6) so it's not like usual sex with my gf on top is easy. She definitely cant take it from behind. I dont have a tub btw
GF just cheated on me, any advice /adv?
>>16948061
yeah, stop being a faggot
>>16948061
Get over it. Have nothing to do with her.
>>16948061
Has she owned up to it? Find out what she has to say.
Either way though, I think this is more than enough reason to break up. You shouldn't be with someone who has proven to you that they can't be trusted.
I am male 26 years old. My girlfriend is 27 years old. We have been together for 3 years. She is one of, if not the best, persons I have ever met. The house and kids-debate is getting real.
I often think about having sex with other people, both male and female. It bothers me a lot. The urge is strong. I want to have more sex, do some drugs and be free for a couple of more years before I settle down.
For me, life is about experiences. I don't believe in afterlife/heaven/paradise, so I want to make as much of life as I can.
Having kids is also a strong...
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Fuck you.
i dont know this feel im living the single life and fucking sluts on the reg
You're a shitbag, OP.
