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I got my first job at a fast food place about 4 weeks ago and it's been pretty ok so far, but I keep fucking up and making mistakes.I feel like I'm doing pretty OK considering my previous anxieties and social issues
(I actually think I've overcome all of my social anxiety as a result of getting this job)
But I keep fucking orders up occasionally.
At the place I work, we get handed the finished burgers and a bag, and I have to put the appropriately sized bag of fries into the bag and either send it to the takeout table, or send it to the drive thru in accordance with the ticket.
Pretty much everyday I end up trying to speed through shit and skim reading it and sending it out to the wrong place atleast twice. Really damages my confidence. Plus it pisses my coworkers off.
Now not only that, but at one point one of my coworkers told me
>You always look nervous.
I didn't even know.
I feel now that about all my other mistakes are made because of me trying to speed shit out and get shit out of the way. How do I stay calm and relaxed?
>>16947561
think about the fact that every time you fuck up, its not the end of the world. its your first job and its fine to fuck up. i would have a "what are they gonna do? fire me from this shitty fast food place?" mentality
>I feel now that about all my other mistakes are made because of me trying to speed shit out and get shit out of the way. How do I stay calm and relaxed?
Well what about slowing down and reading the ticket? Is someone standing over your shoulder with a speed watch or something?
>>16947578
I feel like I'm under pressure.
I feel like if I don't get that shit out as soon as humanly possible, people will get pissed off.
But maybe I should think of this:
What will make them more angrier - not getting the right order,
Or getting it a little bit slower?
I am popular, attractive, young, and run my own business. Yet I don't care a damn thing about anything or anyone. I sleep and wake up late, I have been eating shin ramen everyday. I don't even stopped caring about my clients.
I'm in a state of severe apathy and not sure what to do.
Please advise
Change your diet. Eat less ramen and start eating vegetables and cooking for yourself. If you haven't been exercising, start.
Next time don't sell your soul for riches. Deals with the devil never end well.
>>16947535
Make me a mod for /co/ and /v/, Hiroshima-sama
My mom and sister are trying to force me to see a therapist for being noticeably down/frustrated lately.
I keep insisting to them that I'm just bored because I have a light community college course load this semester and am still waiting on some part time job offers and have way too much spare time, but they aren't having any of it.
How do I get them to shut up?
Go out with friends a lot or have a hobby. And tell them what it is that makes a difference yo.
>>16947553
To some extent that's kinda a problem.
I was attending a 4 year school for a while, but it was a shitty time in my life (I wasn't ready and I was emotionally abused so it was a crash and burn, which explains their concerns).
I just moved back to the area, but I haven't been able to reconnect with my old HS friends too strongly since all they care about is getting drunk. They all either just turned 21 or just got their fake IDs so alcohol is the "COOL EDGY" thing for them. Personally...
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>>16947604
If you have don't wanna reconnect with old friends make new ones. More new unexpected things come out of that.
>tell you're mom your side story.
>pursue that then people want people who are motivated specifically in whatever.
>stay motivated and tell your family things ont happen over night and they're overreacting.
Again show your motivated job Hun and keep productive till you get back on you're feet op.
Second serious relationship so far.
Basically I was talking to this girl for a bit and she brought up how she lost her virginity at 14. The story didn't mae much sense and I didn't want to press anything so I just left it at that.
A few months later we started going out and it was becoming kind of clear that she was very inexperienced secually. The first time we did anything sexual she'd go "what do I do, what do you want me to do this is new to me." confirming oretty much my suspicion that she's actually a kissless virgin. She's...
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Girls have this odd misconception that they have some obligation to please the man sexually and that they should take an active/leading role during intercourse.
You're lucky getting a virgin mate, usually I'd be harsh on a girl for lying, but that's good news and wasn't malicious at all
How old are you? Jeez! You are probably meant for each other. Enjoy it. Touch, feel, and figure it out! ;)
>>16947528
It was a bit funny beforehand. I made it clear that I didn't care that she wasn't a virgin and wasn't a child who'd obsess over it. Now that I've found out, it just makes me have so much more respect for her and I don't even know why. I never imagined myself landing a virgin and I guess it's because her parents always scaring her into not starting relationships or the "DO ANYTHING SEXUAL AND YOULL GET PREGNANT" thing.
I understand sort of that it wasn't...
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How do I know if I'm in love?
Love doesn't truly kick in until you've been with the person long enough. I'm talking way past your first 10 fights.
What is your situation?
Here's the deal....if you're 12 and he just told you he likes your nail polish you are in love. If you are 15 and you just gave him a BJ you are in love. If you are 18 and he is with the class princess you are in love. If you are 24 and it is too late, you are in love. Give or take that is all there ever was. I love you.
>>16947490
>Together for only a month
>Loving, beautiful, compassionate, funny, fun to be around, passionate about her work
>Though she's got issues
>Chronic infidelity, weird Oedipus complex, afraid of men, one-track mind, really selfish in bed, thinks I'm immature because of our age difference
>Little in common on the surface, but similar views on the world and...
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I've been pretty fucking depressed for the past two years, to the point where it is having a negative effect on my schoolwork. At times I have been in a complete fog and felt completely disconnected from my body and had urges to hurt myself (that I have not yet given in to). At times, when I am disconnected like this, I will not recognize my surroundings (feel lost on a familiar street) or feel overwhelmed by delusional urges (one time I was almost convinced that if I threw myself in front of a car I'd wake up in another world). On occasion I will feel extremely dark...
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>>16947404
Bump
>take drugs
>feel nothing/vaguely empty numb
>float through life
>struggle with depersonalization
>if you ever stop you will be worse than when you started if you ever recover
I was on zoloft for 6 months when I was 13. Literally the weirdest/worst time of my life
one last bump I guess
I feel like I'm constantly being attacked by unseen forces that affect my life in subtle ways and I have no proof and I can't make anyone believe me.
I know there's something wrong with me but what?
Elaborate on that, a little bit?
I mean, to a certain degree that's true. Life is complicated and there are all sorts of external forces that influence you.
>>16947396
where on your body do they attack you
Schizophrenic...maybe.
I just talk what ever. Then they stay quiet.
Tips???
Ask them questions.
>Tips?
Learn how to type coherent sentences first
Maybe don't talk " whatever", and instead try talking about something engaging. it aint just not always stimulating.
How do I get a gf, or at least get a girl to be really close friends with me? I've been told that I'm attractive (girls on omegle usually rate me an 8 or a 9), but I just get really uncomfortable in social situations, and am generally shy and quiet.
When I do talk to a girl that I like, I get really nervous and tend to spill my spaghetti. I'm 22 year old kissless virgin, and have only liked 2 girls in my entire life, but both times I ended up creeping them out, and I don't know how to fix this.
I just want a girl who I can spend time with, and who can be there to give me emotional support, and who I can maybe someday marry. I've gone through a lot of fucked up shit in my life, and maybe that's why I'm always mellow and anti-social. I don't care if a girls that attractive, I just want someone who's not a roastie. I'd happily go for a 5 or a 6 if she has good moral values (virgin, doesn't drink or do drugs).
>>16947365
>I don't care if a girls that attractive
>I'd happily go for a 5 or a 6
If you haven't had a girlfriend by 22 there's good chance you're not a 8 or 9 and you sound shallow as fuck. You shouldn't even be trying to go after a 6.
Also, almost nothing you read online will make you better at socializing. You have to go out and practice it yourself.
>>16947415
I'm just saying what other people have told me, which is that I'm attractive. I'm have an average or a slightly skinny build, but I guess I have a decent face. I had multiple girls come on to me in highschool, but they were all roasties, and as a religious man, I had no interest in them, and I was holding out hope that things would work out with my childhood crush. I only liked one girl after her, and that was in college, and while I didn't fuck it up as bad, she pretty much said she's not...
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>>16947431
>I'm just saying what other people have told me
You do know people lie, right?
I've told guys they're a 7 or 8 because I didn't want to hurt their feelings. If you want an accurate judgement, the best place to post your face is here or /soc/.
>but they were all roasties, and as a religious man
There's nothing wrong with having standards, but beggars can't be choosers. Its 2016, there's a...
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do you guys recommend going to a community college for two years and then transferring to a state school?
what has your experience with community college been like and would you recommend it?
Boring as fuck, lame as fuck, cheap as fuck. If you went to college for "the experience" go to state school. If you wanna graduate without being shackled to $600k in debt go to CC
What state are you in?
Here is a good medium for you. Go to CC for 1 year and get the basics out of the way...Freshman comp, History 101, Math through statistics, etc
Then transfer to state school.
Bonus pro-tip: If you want in state tuition at a school in a different state, go to cc in that state for a year while working at a job that would help you establish residency.
Saves money
I got through CC in a year and a half
This thread isn't just for Italians, it's for any ethnicity who is naturally pale but tans easily. I am half Italian and VERY PALE but I tan more easily than I would like in the summer and it is hard for me to find makeup such as foundations and concealers that don't either look really dark on me in the winter or really light on me in the summer. It's hard because I will find something I like in the summer, but it will not come in a light enough shade for the winter. Anyone else with this problem? what do you do?
>>16947313
>italian makeup problems
>any ethnicity who is naturally pale but tans easily
>italian
...wat
Yeah... most girls have summer and winter makeup anon
>>16947313
>VERY PALE but I tan more easily than I would like in the summer and it is hard for me to find makeup such as foundations and concealers that don't either look really dark on me in the winter or really light on me in the summer. It's hard because I will find something I like in the summer, but it will not come in a light enough shade for the winter
>women problems
I don't know what I want to do as a profession.
How do I decide?
What are you good at? You must have some skill or talent that you've been praised for, that could turn into some kind of job
>>16947305
Take a career counseling class in your community college. Go to your local job agency. No rush to make a choice, unless you're truly in need of job right now.
That's never a "blank page" kind of decision.
How much do you need the money?
How much are you willing to stake?
How low are you willing to sink? (Example: working shit jobs part-time to afford courses)
my wife's son has been hanging out with a bad crowd lately, and has started disrespecting me, calling me white bread and vanilla. pic related is him. how do I get him to respect me again?
>>16947281
What are you talking about OP? He looks like a swell lad.
tell him u betta respect this(you) nigga or else get the fuck out
>>16947281
>wife's son
>be me, 20 year old l
>out of college got a job while finishing postgrad
>realized my one true love in life is healthy food
>stuck eating shit since i got no life
>how can i follow my one true love of healthy cooking if i got no place nearby?
>i know how to cook but my apartment only has a microwave
>i´m well underweight so maybe my goal here is not losing...
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>>16947241
start saving up as much money as you can afford to go towards some decent cooking supplies. obviously, the stove and few pots and pans, etc. then once you have that make sure you have like $100-$200 saved to spend on ingredients and extra pans or stuff like that. usually supermarkets will sell what you're looking for.
>>16947262
(I am the same guy I just forgot this)
not to mention, the ladies love a guy who can cook.
>>16947262
good shit son, i just checked the price of more kitchenware on internet and i can probably afford a stove with my salary
Femanon. I need advice from men. I'm in a serious relationship with a man whom I love dearly. I am 21 ans he is 26. He is my first and I am sexually inexperienced outside of him. I want to give him a blow job that will make his eyes roll into the back of his head. He tells me what he likes when I do this but I am still self conscious about my inexperience. I just want to be able to go to town on him without him saying, do this or do that. I feel so stupid. I've talked to my girl direness about this but would like to hear from men. I'm too embarrassed to ask my...
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>>16947239
Shit, I mean I have talked with my girlfriends about it. I'm on my phone atm Apologies for all the grammar errors.
Femanon here, but i have kind of an oral fixation and take pride in my bj's. You would have to tell us how you usually go down on him for us to be able to help. Be as detailed as possible. Little things make a big difference
General advice - always start slow. Make it sensual. A "good blowjob" doesn't mean finishing him off as quickly as possible by making it as intense as possible. Draw him out, tease him a bit, don't give him what he wants right away. Rather than having him tell you what to do, make him BEG you for what he wants you to do.
Don't ignore the balls, but always be gentle. Eye contact makes it like 200% hotter. And a little moan here and there REALLY seals the deal. Don't overdo the moaning or it seems fake, but like, if he makes a noise, answer...
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