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What's the difference between having "assistant" in your job title and "executive" in your job title?
I applied for an assistant position but the company got in touch offering me an executive position (with no mention of whether the salary is better or worse so I don't know).
In theory; more pay, better position, people work under you, more responsibility and it looks better on your resume.
In practice: Likely just a better word on your resume.
More responsibility, probably better pay, looks much better on a resume
Is there really even a cure for anxiety, or do therapists just train you to act like you don't have symptoms?
What difference does it make whether I'm doing mental exercises and breathing counts or cutting and raping myself if I'm just going to feel just as bad anyway?
I'm being denied something I seriously want and need in life because these people think that I couldn't handle it emotionally and that my anxiety would make me a danger to myself. I don't know if they're right but to be perfectly honest I don't fucking care.
So what I'm asking is if there is a cure for anxiety at all, or should I just pretend to buy into the placebo and learn to hide the symptoms and coping methods better?
They don't check me for cuts or consult my family about it, so any idea they have of my life is self-reported....
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>>16948997
What are they denying you? There's no "cure" but there are treatments that can be helpful. I would not suggest "cutting and raping yourself" but at a certain point, you might need to just ignore the doctor's warnings and live your life if you feel they're being overly cautious
You'll never get it to go away completely, but you can learn to manage the symptoms and work your life around it
>>16949005
A sex change. They agree that I am genuinely transgender, and that the anxiety is a separate issue completely independent of it, but they still feel that I'm too crazy to be allowed to transition.
What's the point of treatment if they're just going to teach you how to hide it better? If it doesn't actually make me feel better, I don't want it.
how do I increase my sex drive as a man? For the past 2 months I've lost all interest in sex, even masturbation is not that enjoyable for me and I ended up breaking it off with a girl because she didn't seem to think I was attracted to her.
What do?
this can have mny causes, try to identify the underlying cause first (be it psychological or physiological) and then find a solution.
In general it's good to boost testosterone by doing (strengt-oriented)sports and eating the right stuff (avoid soy for example) though these are symptom-patches if you don't find the root cause! have you been eating well? sleeping? stress? medication?
>>16948904
Enjoy it. You're finally free.
>>16948918
I think I eat well, sleep as well. I took Zoloft for a week or two and I think that may be the cause, I decided to stop taking the medication.
As for stress I am not sure, I guess I have things to do but I can't say I'm immensely stressed.
I just have significantly lessened interest in sex.
This picture about sums it up. I'd rather watch a Trump rally than have sex to be quite honest.
>>16948923
I feel like I should be...
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Just going to get to the point.
I had a group lab report I had to do for university. I had been assigned a specific section to complete. I had left it quite late and hadn't really communicated well with other group members but I was still going to do my section without any issues. When I was nearly finished doing my bit very late at night I noticed that the one group member had just completed my section and updated the file with it (it's now 4.30AM and the report is due at 9AM). I understand why he did it, but he should have at least asked me. anyway I feel...
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They should have at least contacted you at some point and asked why you hadn't uploaded your section yet. That they didn't suggests to me that you've got a bit of a reputation for unreliability because of some reason or another.
Nonetheless I think you should start by asking why they jumped the gun.
>>16948909
I've never work with any of the people before so they don't know if I'm unreliable or not. I am a bit of a procrastinator but I do always get my work done to a good standard. I don't mind that he did it, it's more that I feel real bad about it and want him to know that I wasn't just not gonna do it and fuck him over
>>16948917
Reputations get around through word of mouth.
Whether or not he knows you did the work, it's more important for you to understand that they assumed you wouldn't. They assumed it so completely that they didn't even bother to ask. I'd like to give you advice in good faith but I can't ignore something that suspicious. That's why the best I can offer is for you to tell him 1) that you were going to do the work and not fuck them over, and 2) that you're put off by their choice...
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Let's try another kind of thread today, /adv/
Let's each say one good thing that's happening in our lives, and leave one bit of advice on how we made it happen. Let's be positive.
I had a great job interview today with a life-changing organization in my town that I'd love to be a part of.
Advice: Wait until a good opportunity presents itself. Don't settle for shit when you could have the gold.
>>16948876
I'm 21 and graduate college this quarter. My advice is to do your job :D
I'll be planning the last academic year of my bachelor's degree soon. I made it happen by taking my education seriously and getting my work done.
How can you clean when floss fails? I got a grape seed stuck between two teeth in a such a way that floss doesn't even go in. It's really bothersome.
You use a wooden toothpick or pressurized water like those waterpik dental cleaners, I don't think floss is intended to be used for hard particles, it's more for clearing daily plaque buildup after you brush your teeth which sometimes shoves the plaque between.
Legit, go to your dentist, esp if they're nice they might get it out for free like mine. I had a corn kernel stuck underneath my gum and it hurt like a bitch and she got it out without any pain
These little bastards are amazing.
They slip in between your teeth and they scrub the plaque out like a mini brush. Slip one in between your teeth above the seed, and pull down I guess. Should at least loosen it up.
Or go to your dentist. If you tell them that it's a simple case of something stuck in your gum/teeth, the hygienist might just take care of it for free.
I fell in love with a friend since months. I just wanted to let it fade, but it doesn't. The more I see him the more I love him. I don't know what to do. We'll live in the same apartment in few months. I have few friend, and opening my heart may break our friendship, and i won't handle that. If not, it will make him to refuse to live in the same place as me. Any help welcome.
>inb4 Faggot
>inb4 Kill yourself
>inb4 Faggot
OK so I assume you're a guy. To begin with, is your friend even inclined to date the same sex, and is he aware that you are attracted to and wish to date the same sex?
Even if you aren't necessarily attracted to him, he might just be the kind of person who is unable to share a living space with someone whose sexual proclivities are different to his own for various personal reasons.
>>16948852
No my friend has only date girls. He his very kind to me, a bit shy sometimes, but as i'm really in love, i know many sign of tenderness from him may be not tenderness, just misinterpretation of mine. I try to stay careful with that. I guess you understand what i mean, my point of view of his attitude is totally biaised.
No one know i'm attracted to guys, that's why I'm here. Actually i've never been in love with a guy. I've found boys cute when i was younger, but no love...
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>>16948925
Well have you asked him about his opinions on homosexuality in general and what he thinks of homosexual people, and whether he's ever had interest towards the same sex?
I think you should give up on this guy and try to find a different living situation no matter what his answer is, to be honest with you. Even if he is neutral-to-positive about homosexual relationships, it will be very difficult for him to date and bring girls home knowing that you will go into fits of jealousy over it. I don't know...
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Is it narcissistic or unfair to want your significant other to get in better shape?
Don't get me wrong and I love my girlfriend and she turns me on, but she eats poorly. This is annoying in and of itself, like a lot of people, especially girls, she doesn't even want to try and understand basic nutrition and do's and don'ts.
I mean this in the way that she'll just starve herself when I'm not around, lie about what she's eaten, and try and get by on 600 calories for a day, then the next day or another she'll eat like 2500+...
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Yes it's narcissistic and unfair to want your significant other to "get in better shape" for the purposes of preening yourself while concern-trolling as opposed to actively recognising and helping someone you love who is in a terrible situation.
From what you have described in terms of binge/denial cycles and having "weird dizzy turns", it sounds like your girlfriend has an eating disorder. Your girlfriend has an eating disorder because she has a personality type that likes to be in control of all the things in her life, and she feels that one...
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>>16948833
>for the purposes of preening yourself while concern-trolling
what?
>>16948833
Wew lad, I never said she was binge eating to the point that her health was in danger. She's told me she's just too lazy to cook food on a daily basis, and her desire for wanting to be slimmer but not put the work in be it diet wise or exercise wise is her own admitted fault.
Basically I wanted to know if there's a way to push her forward without her getting the wrong idea. Like I said I'm still attracted to her and love her, but she needs a push and I don't know how to go about it.
You...
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I woke this morning and I noticed my lower back hurting but just the sides not the center. The pain is kind of dull and hurts more when i bend. I'm kind of worried it has to do with the kidneys. Has anyone experienced this before?
>>16948813
Could be a kidney infection, yep. Are you prone to UTIs? If it persists you should go to a doc/urologist and ask to pee in a cup.
>>16948847
I had a UTI about 4 years ago after sex.
Could be kidney stones
Enjoy the second worst pain a human can experience w/o drugs.
ps
childbirth is 3rd
Hello. I have Aspergers. How do one deals with immaturity? Those immature young or old people at your job for example. What is done, step-by-step? I lack the proper reaction to others immatureness where i can't be strict, like in a workplace i'm not in a position of power, or in the army(in my country you only serve for 2 hours a day in the instructions).
For example, there is a group of 3 to 4 guys who like to continuously pronounce my name for no reason in ''different voices''. It makes me cringe hard. Those are in the army, with people...
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Have you tried punching them in the face?
>>16948810
You don't need to "deal" with it. You don't need to respond at all.
>>16949226
I always have violence as a last-ish resort. However, some of those kinds of people are in the military, and i'd rather not commit a military crime around here (assault during lessons/inside the HQ are classified as such).
>>16949271
How so? By outright ignoring(i'm not being ironic, it's an actual question, i'm legitimately an aspie)? Should i retain my then-current facial expression, paying no mind and pretending i'm not listening?...
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Fuck these bitches, tell me why they pull this shit:
>meet two girls while walking my dogs
>two younger chicks, one tall and eh one shorter with glasses and thick creamy thighs
>get kik of shorter girl
>text her a little
>meet up at local schools playground about a week later
>basically they're, in short, just fucking with me
>the taller girl has...
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you ever heard about attentionwhores?
>>16948787
You did the right thing. Been there, they won't change.
>>16948803
>>16948806
I guess so. But they were 'lol-so-randumb' nerdy and the tall one was, and I kid you not, a massive slut. I wish their personalities switched. The tall one, and she could easily be lying for muh shock value, told me a story the first time I chilled with them that she was in NYC and went over some older black dudes house because he asked if she wanted to drink and then ended up in a threesome or some shit, then got so drunk she puked on the bed...
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How do you flirt with a guy that likes you and you like back and you both know it? We are friends in real life but were about to graduate and i want to make a move quickly. What are things i could do or say? Stories are welcome!
Do you wanna get a drink and do ....
if you both like each other and you both know it, firstly you should try and get in a convo and just say i like you to each other so it allows both of you to be more open about shit. or you could get him alone some time and if you're not one to make a move first make a really obvious hint. both ways move it to where things can progress from, so it doesnt really matter about flirting since you both like each other and dont have time to be fucking around
>>16948767
Just tell him.
How do I flat out ask for a blowjob at the end of a date?
After we smoke pot, after we get out of the movie theater. How should I approach it? I'm driving.
Jesus Christ. How can you people be so beta?
Just take your cock out of your pants and everything will flow naturally.
easy dude.
when you drop her off, you get out and act as if you want to open her door. then you open the door a little and when she attempts to get out you trap her head in the door and force your dick down her throat. after you finished, make her say please before letting her out. try to secure a second date after that. pic related
>>16948718
You don't. You make a romantic/sexual move on her, give her her pleasure, and then let her figure out how to repay the debt.
There's this post woman, In my town, That always says hello to me. Which is normal right? But one day we were in the same shop, I was looking at candles while she was giving the shopkeeper the letters, she then came over to me, and said, "are you looking for something then?" And then grabbed and held my hips for a minute. I was so shocked. Was she coming onto me?
She is just messing with you. She doesnt want anything with you.
Sorry if you were looking for a "she wants to fuck you". She doesn't.
>>16948719
Not even a chance?
Hey /adv/,
What would you recommend I prepare for my bicycle day camping trip, or any large camping trip in general? 8 of us are going
We have a great tent, know the exact spot so no worries there. What precautions should I take?
3 of us are experienced with lsd and the 4 that will be taking it for their first time are having 100mcg each. All of the group are experienced with psychedelics and know how to assist those who might have a bad time and we know to bring benzos and keep off weed.
What should we keep in mind?
It's a large group...
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Lots of water? Oh and watch out for bears
>>16948626
I'm in Scotland but thanks, we definitely didn't bring enough last time
Anything else?
