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What are entry-level jobs or volunteer positions that are related to being a lookout observer\Fire watcher?
I'm trying to get some work experience for the career in question.
forestry degree? some sort of job experience suggesting you're a responsible person and you aren't just going to go fuck around? Why are you asking such a specific job-based question to /adv/ when you should be approaching the source of the information instead?
>>16940805
Who is saying I'm not doing both? Besides, the position needs no degree.
if you want to message someone you haven't spoke to in a while who you aren't sure will respond, which of these to send?
>"hey" (non-threatening, simple)
>"hey, how've you been" (gives a question)
>"hey, I hope you're doing well. Just wanna say I saw you a week ago at the bar and it made me miss you and I'm sorry about how things were with us, I wasn't in the best place at the time but I've worked on myself and think I'm...
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>>16940773
don't message and move on
>>16940773
Hey, how've you been?
I feel like I've grown up so fast
I can't handle how everything I experience invokes an urge to explore and understand
I have so much control over the rest of my life and I don't know what to do with it
I want to go back to feeling okay out of anxiety and ignorance
I know the feeling bro. Just keep in mind that the rest of life will go the same pace. I like the painting by the way it really fits this topic's mood
>>16940611
Recognise that you can't do everything at once. Prioritise things. There can be some things you want to do that you won't get around to until many years later. As long as you still actively work towards doing all the things you want, allow yourself the time to do them. If it seems too overwhelming, and if you don't handle it right, you'll just end up doing nothing.
Ok so the story I'm about to tell you happened to a friend and for some reason, doesn't sit well with me. I don't know what it is. Just a feeling that something was unjust.
>friend l likes girl
>orbits her
>begs her to be his gf
>she says no
>eventually changes her mind to yes
>find out from Chad friend that she only held off dating friend L so she could fuck Chad.
There's...
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I dunno, I guess its a bit dirty in that she didn't enter a relationship she had some interest in because she wanted to fuck chad first. But she wasn't dating him, so it's not like she really did anything wrong. I'd stay out of it, not really your problem. Focus on your own business.
>>16940569
You can tell L if you want them to break up or have an argument. You can at least tell the girl that's fucked up. L probably should know but you should contemplate the consequences of telling him
Wow, I feel like a dick.
Ok, so I was talking to this chick (7/10) on snapchat and we've been just talking casually for about 3 weeks. So today I message her and she was crying about "deep stuff" and I just assumed it was some period shit or she was just feeling depressed about her inevitable death or like the inevitable death of one of her loved ones.
So I just keep talking and then say
"ur still lowkey crying lol" just kinda playing around.
"Yeah, I'm kinda going through some deep stuff."
"Are u thinking about when brothers dies and stuff." (because I had thought of stuff like that before and gotten depressed and shit)
"Yeah Anon the make a wish foundation is coming tomorrow."
>oh_shit.jpeg
Then I started laughing like crazy because now I realized why her brother looked so fucked up. Then I realized I'm a shity person. Now I'm making this thread for attention which is even more fucked. Idk what to do ab this
>>16940530
drugs: not even once.
>>16940638
whut
Hey. So my family is composed of some pretty unhappy people. As for myself, I think I'm okay, I'm pretty happy.
Oftentimes, though, I get to feeling down because I feel bad for my family members, or that I can't do anything to help them. I help around the house, I try to help with money, but I know it won't make much better, and it definitely won't make them happy.
How do I be there for them but not let their bad emotions get to me? I want to be happy but I can't be if I'm carrying their pain.
You're not going to be helping anyone if you don't prioritize your own success first and foremost. If you're disciplined and hard-working now, in the future you will be better equipped to help those in need.
If you do the best in your ability to make them happy, then you shouldn't be unsatisfied if they're still unhappy. Because you put in 100% effort, going out of your way for your family, and for their best interests. Let your actions for THEM make YOU happy. Because in the end, you're giving all that you have for your family. And that's all that matters, isn't it?
Just moved to a new city, no job (yet), not in school, and I dont drink. where can I go to meet people and make friends? what do I say/do?
>>16940419
Bribe someone to be your friend? Just kidding. That's a pretty tough situation to be in. You can try going to coffee shops and talking to people. Getting a job would be a massive help. If you have an environment where you are around one person for a long time eventually you'll become friends. And once you have one friend that's all you need to get the ball rolling
>>16940419
several ways. pick a hobby and go to meetup.com just search all the categories and go. if you for any raeson think that you just wouldnt meet anyone there, YOU are the problem. you have to go out. dont dismiss an option until you go and hangout.
after that, hobby shops. what do you like? video games? books? movies? tv shows? board games? comics? guns? fishing supplies? pick something, then go to a store that sells that. wait in an aisle that particularly interests oyu, then wait. someone comes in, strike...
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25 yo dude that's never been in a relationship before here. The lack of sex doesn't bother me but the implications of my situation sure do. I enjoy my life and count my blessings but the fact is that nobody finds me desirable and that sucks. I can't even figure out why. Apparently I'm a happy go-lucky man. I feel bad about myself and like I'm missing out on something that everyone else is in on. What's a guy to do? I don't want to date a woman I have no interest in, I don't think that would help any, but I don't seem to really connect...
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>>16940238
>I don't want to date a woman I have no interest in.
Wrong. You date people to find out if you have interest in each other. Fix your order and date them all.
>>16940254
So then how do you filter people? Or you don't and just go on hundreds upon of hundreds of dates? Because that sounds really time consuming and expensive. How would people afford that?
Hey /adv/ I'm a 20 year old turning 21 in May.
I've never had a job before, and the last couple months straight of applying places I haven't even got an interview. I applied to work for the city this summer since I'm a student. I got an interview this coming Tuesday.
I basically need advice on how to land this job, it pays more than minimum wage and it'd be something great to have on my resume. It's a circuit type of interview (go to different booths for different questions). I am so desperate for this job, its time to get my life...
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>Dress to impress
This is probably the easiest thing you can do to improve your chances. BARE MINIMUM should be a Button-up dress shirt and pressed slacks, but a suit and tie is preferable. This lets your potential employer know at a glance that you mean fucking business.
>Don't stress
If you get stage freight easily, do something on the way to the interview to calm yourself down. Doesn't matter if it's listening to your favorite song, having a piece of your favorite candy, or whatever,...
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I need help with next thing :
My girlfriend has a trauma which makes her impossible to read out loud. I know it is because her father used to beat her while making fun of her reading abilities.
I want to help her going through it, I've tried a few things but she just says that she can't read it out loud.
Any idea with traumas? How could I help her without paying her a psychologist?
Thank you guys.
Pic unrelated.
>>16940036
So she has no problem talking before large audience? Only reading to audience?
If she can read load when nobody is present, make her read in a room alone with open doors. Make sure she knows nobody is listening.
After few practice rounds you can listen to her stealthy. Then tell her you heart her?
If this is the only problem another good solution is to ignore it.
>>16940057
I think I will try making her read out loud when she is alone. At least for a few times before I try to be the only one hearing her.
Would you confess to a girl you like before you went to separate universities and could meet each other only thrice a year?
Depends on what you mean by confess.
If you mean sperg out and confess my undying love then hell no.
If you mean to tell her that you like her as more than a friend, etc, then sure. I did that once with a girl when I knew i'd be moving away. Of course, she was already taken so I didn't expect much, but I figured i'd do it and see how it goes.
Tl;dr it's all in how you do it. Don't come off as a desperate or obsessive weirdo
as said in all animes:
to do something stupid is better than doing nothing at all
Do you need to have a mutual love at first sight spark/chemistry in order for a relationship to happen?
Is it actually possible to go from random stranger someone doesn't care about into someone the person falls in love with? Going from zero to dateable?
I know it sounds like a stupid question but since many people seem to sugest that you should constantly switch into another target until you find someone who likes you, I'm starting to wonder.
>>16939813
yes. most men tend to give that struck immediately feeling. women tend to need to be won over. this is a generalization of course. there are many different scenarios. but virtually no relationships start due to a mutual feeling of intense attraciton.
generally they'd say 'yeah they're hot' at first sight, but thats not quite the same as the instant chemistry.
>>16939813
there needs to be physical attraction if that's what you're asking
How do I stop relying on others to feel content?
I have few friends, and a girl I'm sweet on. The friends and girl I only see during+inbetween classes for the most part and the girl I ask out every now and then, but aside from that I only ever hear from them if I hit them up myself. I can't always keep going on like that. I run out of things to say, but if I don't say anything I won't hear anything.
After a few days it makes me feel lonely and depressed. Everything feels like a chore and I can't get any shit done. Eventually I'll just...
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This is the part where I go "pls respond" and bump the thread back to a place someone might see it
>>16939801
>How do I stop relying on others to feel content?
I don't think that's something anyone (maybe a therapist, but I doubt it) can help you with. You just have to find your own happiness.
How to cover up scars from cutting? Got in a depressive episode in January and started to cut myself. The depressive episode went by but the scars stayed.
Kinda sucks cause its getting warmer and i cant show of my gains. The scars on the right arm healed pretty good and there are just some red lines left. Too bad the scars on the left side are deeper and wider.
It's so strange because cutting seems like such an awful and unreal thing to do right now - like how could anybody ever hurt themself? but thats what depression does to you.
Fuck that shit, motherfucker! Welcome to the club. Wear them with pride and don't tell people shit.
> "Where did those scars come form?"
> Someone else.
Bam. Conversation over. They never ask again. I say that because I am BP and, to me, it was someone else. Stay strong anon.
Makeup ? I tried that once and it did a decent job.
Hey /adv/, I've been with my long distance girlfriend for a while now, and I proposed to her a couple of months ago. I know what you're thinking, ldr don't work and things like that, but we aren't actually super far apart, just by a few hours. I admittedly don't get to see her as often as I wish I could, but it's still not enough to be a dealbreaker. Once we married, I planned on moving in with her.
Well anyway, right now she's going through a ton of stuff with her parents. She just got kicked out of her house, and luckily her friend...
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>>16939420
Go see her.
>>16939420
Can you make a trip up there for a few days?
