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Just got into selling and im wondering whats the best way to ship a few different items for the cheapest prices
I'm in the USA btw
>4-5 Video Games with Cases to US resident
>3 Lego minifigures to Malaysia
Probably USPS. Go to the post office and just talk to one of the people at the counter.
>>16952769
1. Go to post office at a not-busy time.
2. Ask the nice man or lady at the counter what's the cheapest way to send this.
3. Believe them.
did any of you guys tried to kill yourself? Are you still affected by it?
and why?
Tell me your experiences with suicide /adv/.
I did, I'm sort of affected by it still?
Tried to kill myself, obviously failed and have tons of friends and family that were angry/sad/scared on how it could've turned out this way. In the hospital, I thought a lot. Obviously I had failed and perhaps (although I'm not believing in God or anything of that) I felt entitled to live. Like I gave it a honest shot, it was not my time to go, so stop wasting time and get a life instead of pitying myself. I wrote a list about everything I hated in myself, both physically and mentally, together with goals I wanted to achieve. Broke them down in small pieces so they were manageable to achieve. In the end I came out with a sense of clarity, but it's fucked up that one person needs to literally be in on the edge of dying before one gets what one should do with life.
What's affected me; well first I saw how much people I got around me that cares. So now I'm in a constant fear of making them this sad/angry/etc again. I'm constantly planning for a future so I'm keeping myself busy from suicidal thoughts. I have reasons to wake up in the morning, although I may still not be society's most functional human being, I do have purposes. Because my goal/change list gives me that.
Do I have suicidal thoughts? Yes, especially when plans do not turn out as I want and I feel worthless. But I'm not actively self-harming or killing myself because of it. I know that there will come a better day, and honestly, why does it matter if I fail? I got my life, and that's all I need. If I'm still alive, I still have the ability to change what I don't like about myself and my situation.
Kankerdraad.
>>16952766
If you want to kill yourself, it is harder than it looks like. Four failed attemps, last time I tore off the knob I was hanging my belt on from the door, and i gave up
Feels bad and I wish I had an easy, painless AND free way to do it, but there isn't. I often dream of dying, I feel blood on my mouth and how I lose my breath, it is really sad when I wake up
So, dont do it don't obsess over it and live a happy life etc
So I was linked this site on steam few minutes ago and I stupidly clicked on it, it's the IP 93.174.93.98
Place it in your browser and it'll take you to a website of "young girl videos" and I know I shouldn't post CP but i'm generally scared if I can get caught by this? i didn't mean to view it, a stupid fucking friend did this to me
yeah you can def get caught for this
holy shit it's real!
really? im fucking scared guys, no screwing around...
i didn't dload anything
Have you ever been someone's backup plan? How did you feel about it? How did it turn out?
I think a woman I love who is seeing someone else has me as her backup plan, and while I haven't seen her in a while I think she may want to leave him soon. The thing is, I cant allow myself to be someone else's second choice. I respect myself too much, and hope I have the strength to turn her down.
>>16952723
Tell her no when she asks you out.
That kinda shit is redic.
I don't keep men as a backup plan- it implies a dependency.
Never be someone's second choice- they'll always leave you if they find someone who they think is better
>I think a woman I love
what makes you think you love her? what do you like about her? anything that makes her special? How can you "love" someone who's doing something you absolutely disaprove of like keeping a backupguy.
>>16952735
I still think about her all the time :P
My chest gets tight when she speaks to me, I get nervous when she's still around. It sucks.
She got super ultra pissed when I deleted her off all my social media. It didn't matter that I told her I needed space. She started showing up at my job more to see me, wearing sexy shit despite dating him because she obviously cared about me but fucked it up with me.
The thing is. I still feel that way towards her. That I would do mostly anything for her.
I'm just terrified I won't have the resolve to reject her when she breaks up with this guy.
How do i tell me gf her cooking is garbage without sounding like a dick?
If i keep offering to cook it may imply i think her food is trash so what do?
Say to her: Wanna cook together?
She will then take a look in what do you are doing while cooking. And you can even pretend you are a chef like TV, example:
You: "And lets put a bit of sugar to make this sauce a little less acid".
Her: Is that true?
You: Yeah, it works and it makes the sauce more tasty.
Just a my 2 cents
>>16952740
Alright I'll try that thanks.
I would just be like don't take this the wrong way but I'm just being honest your cooking isn't too good.
I never thought it was weird that I hardly ever masturbate, and don't enjoy it when I do. It just doesn't occur to me. But apparently that is anomalous behaviour.
I do get attracted to people, but I'm hardly ever horny. Only on my period do I get horny or experience real sexual attraction.
I really wish I was as interested in sex as most people. It makes me feel pretty inadequate when I'm in a relationship.
Is there a way to change this? Or will I have to just make the most of it?
Why would you want to change this? I'm asexual myself, and I think that's pretty great. Not having to worry about getting laid gives you a load of benefits.
If for some weird reasons you actually want to be more sexual, try taking the pill, some women get more horny from it, some less. (Mostly less)
Alternatively, try to reward yourself whenever you do get slightly aroused. Simply thinking to yourself "Wow, I'm horny, that's great" does the job.
>>16952763
It just seems like a hindrance relationship-wise. Most people aren't okay with not having much sex.
>>16952888
I guess as a girl that is indeed a problem. Then again, people are more acceptive of all forms of sexual deviance if you're female, so maybe you should be more open about your asexuality so if someone's interested in you they know what they're getting into.
There's this guy I've been dating for a couple weeks, he's pretty virginy, he's pretty skinny and his friends are beta as fuck but I think he's quite masculine without being a dick. Recently I replied to him with 'yes sir', I don't know why, I'm just awkward. He said that he liked it and I'm worried that he is into some weird BDSM stuff mostly because he doesn't speak to his father and his older sister is really into that kind of stuff. Basically I can't figure out if he's just a horny virgin or if he really wants to be like a dominant 'daddy' figure. Pls help.
If it's that important to know, just ask the guy.
>>16952739
Hahaha I second this. Don't be afraid, it's only your physical safety at stake
You should get out of the beta VS alpha train of thought, that is a really shitty way to view guys and is extremely unfair for the long term. Instead of freaking out about what he might like why don't you just take it as flirting until you are comfortable to talk and learn more. All he said was that he liked it, he didn't push or get rapey, so I don't get what your deal is? I don't know why this question is even here or why you know what his older sister is into.
How can I have a better relationship with my dad?
>21/F
>live one hour away from parents because of school
>mom and I talk almost every day on the phone and see each other at least once a week for work
>dad and I only talk when I call and he picks up instead
>always using this weird loud voice/fake confidence when talking to me like he uses with strangers, is always clearly uncomfortable speaking to me
Our relationship has always been stunted and uncomfortable, always forced, he worked all day and I only saw him at night when he was exhausted from working in a shop and couldn't do more than sit in his chair. The only two or three times we did things alone together was because my mom made us and was horribly uncomfortable (think a 12 or 11 year old at a cider mill with her dad who is basically silent the entire time). Also growing up my dad would rarely talk to me unless he was screaming at me as backup for my mom, so I think that is a part of why I am so uncomfortable around him. Since I moved out he kisses me on the cheek and hugs me every time I leave and as bad as this makes me feel I hate when he does it because I'm closer to my Aunt than I am to him.
I don't know what I can do to repair our relationship at this point. My mom is always on my ass to talk to him more but he never calls me EVER unless I call the house and he just happens to pick up, I'm not sure what I can do to make our relationship better when it seems like he doesn't care if things stay the same
>>16952688
Parenting is not an instinctive skill, nor is it taught. You pick it up as best you can. For any number of reasons your father is not very good at it. That doesn't make him a bad man, or even an unloving one. He just doesn't know too many ways to express his feelings toward you.
Accept him on his own terms. I can assure you that for a man like that a goodbye hug and kiss is a VERY meaningful effort. Instead of wishing it was more, accept it as a real effort to express his love, and appreciate it.
Meanwhile, gradually try to guide him toward more. When he ;picks up the phone, don't immediately ask for Mom, but engage him in conversation, as awkward as it may be. It will get better with time.
In a similar situation my own father used to shake my hand whenever I left. I made the very awkward move of hugging him instead, and eventually we both got better at it.
>>16952688
Don't stress about it.
Sometimes people are just not compatible, even if they are related..
He loves you. He raised you. paid for your upbringing and tries. That mean something.
You can't choose your parents.
>>16953118
This poster has value info.
Let me tell you something though. I am a guy in the same position. Youngest of two sons at uni (20), can say I'm the more successful one atm. But, my dad and I have never exactly been friends and we both kinda realized that over the course of visits etc. Though I played sports and was decent at them I never liked playing, he loved playing and watching though. Alot of unfamiliarity comes from his absence at childhood with business trips.
Our problem is similar, we actually just don't know our fathers too well. They've been good parents, we just need to make them friends. My advice, have genuine interest in him. Ask questions, relate yourself, try to establish your common ground. Good luck to ya
I am a bear of a man. Chest, back, arms, junk, face all tricked out with hair.
Is this worth being self-concious about? Every hot dude in the media is hairless. Every guy at my gym is hairless.
How good or bad or neutral is this
>>16952641
hair is ugly to most people but occasionally some girls like it
its neutral to bad
>>16952641
Get big and strong like a lumberjack.
Back hair is nasty, but fuck it who cares?
Hi /adv/, I'm a high school student who is deciding whether I should study Computer Science or Software Engineering. I’m also debating whether I should go to UofT or UW. So far I've been accepted in both CS and SE at UofT. I haven't gotten a response from UW, but I'm confident I'll be accepted there for both CS and SE as well.
I live in Peterborough, so UofT is a couple hours closer than UW. I don't really plan to visit home that often though, so distance isn't really an issue. I haven’t submitted my plans for residence at UW. I’ve selected New College as my primary choice for residence at UofT.
The UofT engineering department has offered me a $6000 scholarship. I cannot collect the money if I take CS at UofT; I can only get it if I take the engineering program. My only concern is that the "SE" program at UofT isn't really SE. The closest thing they offer to an SE program is a Computer Engineering program where you can specialize in software in your "upper years". I'm concerned I would be wasting a lot of time learning stuff that is irrelevant to SE if I went to UofT for the engineering program. UW has a program dedicated completely to SE and its cut-offs for admission are higher than all the other programs (85%+ for CS at UofT and UW, 85%+ for CE/"SE" at UofT, and 90%+ for SE at UW).
I believe the co-op program at UW is superior to UofT’s co-op program. UW’s co-op program alternates between 4-month school terms and 4-month paid work, culminating in 2 years of co-op. UofT’s co-op program is a PEY (Professional Experience Year), where you take 12-16 months off. The UW co-op program gives you the opportunity to meet more employers and provides you with more experience overall than UofT’s PEY. I also have the impression it’s easier to find a job as a CS/SE UW graduate compared to a UofT graduate. Large tech companies like Google tend to favor UW graduates.
If you are looking into breaking into Silicon Valley go to UW. If you are looking for better co-op go to UW. If you are looking for better scholarship take UofT cause UW gives shit for scholarships.
> UW Grad and I hated it there
I'm currently taking the AP Calculus AB course. If I get a level 5 on the AP exam, I will be exempt from taking calculus 1 at UW. UofT does not acknowledge your results on the AP exam, so I would need to take calculus 1 at UofT even if I got a level 5 on the exam. I'm confident that my math teacher has covered all the concepts needed for calculus 1; I've read books for calculus 1 courses and I haven't come across any new concepts.
In terms of SE vs CS, everyone keeps hating on SE. I have no idea why.
Everyone keeps saying SE students are pretentious faggots who are just CS students with an iron ring. Many people I've talked to argue that CS is more "flexible"; you have more electives with the CS program than the SE program. They imply that CS students can take all the courses SE students take through electives. Is this true? If so, what gives SE an advantage over CS? If a CS student can potentially take all the courses a SE student takes, what's the point of SE?
People often claim that CS is more theoretical while SE is more practical. Any thoughts on this? I fascinated with algorithms and enjoy problem-solving, but I also want to make efficient programs that be used by a large demographic (e.g. the average consumer).
I enjoy working on large projects that involve creating things. I want to dedicate my life to creating programs, websites, games, applications, etc. I’m “experienced” HTML, CSS, JavaScript, Visual Basic (taught in Grade 11 CompSci, not my choice) and C++. I've toyed with PHP, mySQL and C, but I'm mediocre at best with those languages. I am currently learning Java in my Grade 12 CompSci course.
I'm leaning towards SE at UW at the moment even though UofT engineering has offered a $6000 scholarship. What do /adv/?
Also sorry >>16952621 for the second post. Grammarly ruins the undo function.
>>16952627
late second post*
Need help from anyone with vagina.
Is it normal to bleed after using a sex toy even after you've used it for about a year? At first I figured oh hymen haha but it's still happening and the blood is dark and brown-ish. Please tell me this is normal.
You might just be about to get your period or just recovering from having your period. Sometimes your uterus will just lose it's shit and starts clearing out all that old blood, so sometimes you'll bleed brown or even black shit, don't worry tho, your probs fine desu. Though what the fuck do I know, you could have horrible vag cancer idk, if you do get vag cancer message me senpai cus I think we're in the same boat.
You might be hitting your cervix and causing a scratch or tear, or maybe just being too keen and not lubed enough.. But I'd say if its dark blood you might just have a bit of old blood from a period or the start of a period you agent expecting and it just happens to come out on the toy.
>>16952624
My period was 2 weeks ago, no blood before or after the incident. Just when masturbating.
>if you do get vag cancer message me senpai cus I think we're in the same boat.
Suicide pact?
>>16952625
It didn't hurt at all, just suddenly when I was done blood fucking everywhere. Wouldn't that hurt?
Is it wrong to want to feel like you're not being judged?
Lately I've been drifting without any idea of what I want out of life, but I feel like I can't turn to my friends or family without someone saying 'well you should be doing this, when I was your age etc.' or 'you may as well do it, not like you have anything better going on'.
Even with my closest friend, I feel embarrassed to talk to him because eventually he'll offer me advice like 'you should be more proactive and doing this that or the other', while he's doing great at his developer job and I just don't have the same motivation that he or my peers have about their jobs.
I appreciate they're only trying to help, but to me it feels like life is a giant river, and everyone else is going at full speed in a certain direction while I'm just paddling around wondering where I should go.
Even then, waiting around trying to work it out makes me feel like I'm being coward and that everyone else is disappointed in me.
I might be getting a few job interviews sorted out soon, but in the back of my head I'm just thinking, 'What's the fucking point?'.
>>16952546
i hate when people measure me by what job I have, it makes me want to kill myself
There's a balance to be struck. Sometimes people are just being inappropriate and it's best to avoid them. Sometimes the feedback you're getting is actually worth putting into practice. There's misery to be had in tipping too far in either direction, though. In your case I think you're in danger of tipping too far toward "I know what's best for me" at the expense of what will realistically be the bulk of your social relationships in your life. People in your life will sometimes be right, in the sense that you would actually be happier if you tried what they're suggesting.
Idk what it is with women. I just get really uncomfortable when talking to them. Its like nerves but there are no thoughts going through my head. I can know they like me and still get nervous. It feels like I can't approach them no matter how hard I try to fight it. I'm not gay BTW
>>16952535
It's fear.
>>16952535
For some people it's easy, for others it's not, sometimes people have sisters so they can deal.but in general guys cannot figure out what is going on in a females head and it unsettles them, that's where the fear stems, just realize that women are just as confused
>>16952535
Work safe board
Advice is appreciated. I was new in town and approached this QT on the streets for directions. Long story short we ended up spending the whole afternoon and evening together while later dryhumping the shit out of each other. We made tentative plans to meet up next week since she'll be gone for a week. I tried meeting up with her before but we both lacked communication to make it happen. Now last night after a failed attempt she texts me at 4 am writing long paragraphs basically saying I'm coming off too strong and that we should just stay acquaintances. I know I fucked up big time rushing in but she's a really cool girl I really dig. Now I'm sure she'd still be up for the trip to the Zoo we planned on the first date. Is this salvagable?
>Jesus.. I'm cringing at myself right now. Wtf was I thinking
You don't even need to be here asking this.........
She told you back off because you're coming on too strong, do it.
Boom there's your advice.
>>16952534
you probably regrets going so fast with a guy she just met
jesus man you don't dry hump a girl you just met
what did you say when she sent you all those long messages?
tell her she is right and see if she still wants to go to the zoo as friends, apoligise for being so forward
be brief, she's already evidently a bit overwhelmed
showing that you know how to back off is a plus, as is showing that you respect her wishes
>>16952575
>>16952575
My question is if it's still salvagable since she said we should only stay friends or if my last chance will be at the Zoo with her. I have a hard time taking things girls say at face value...
Hit it off with this girl last night and she said to add her on Facebook. Both pretty drunk though.
Found her profile but she lives roughly 4 hours away. She's my ideal type but my gut feeling says not only is it kinda stalkerish, but I don't think it'd be worth pursuing her because of the distance.
What do you reckon?
>>16952521
Add her, leave it on the backburner, you never know when she might be in town again.
Distances are small these days. 4 hours is nothing.
>>16952561
>4 hours is nothing.
you aren't the one walking it
