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>friend and I get really drunk and high
>walking through down a path, find a sewer entrance
>walk really deep into it
>start seeing spiders and shit
>eventually leave (piecing this back together, sort of blacked out)
>wake up today with an awful red itchy rash on my entire body
What do I do?
See a doctor. That's literally it.
>>16954801
I've had that happen to me twice growing up, both times after going near a water grate or canal. It's probably just a bug bite you're allergic to. It went away after a day or two both times for me.
>26, havent been able to find an un-manipulative, un-controlling girl
>be with gf for 2 years, manipulative, controlling
>we leave to go pick a friend up then go to a get together
>on the way there she starts screaming at me as to why i didn't wear the bracelet she bought me instead of (im wearing a watch instead)
>I stay calm and say because we are going out after the get together I dont want to lose it because we might get wasted
>MFW continues to scream and carry on
>lose my shit at her and get into an incredibly horrible mood
>pull over in traffic to try calm myself down, contemplate turn around
>she stops screaming then asks me if I can drop he and the other friend off
(presuming she initiated the scenario so I would get angry and eventually drop them in)
>told her I knew she started causing drama so she could get something out of me (use me to drop them off)
>she death stares me, loses her shit, screams, calls me a cunt, says she dosent want to be with me anymore
>asks her why else she would start screaming at me over me not wearing a bracelet she bought me
>dosent give me an answer
>continues to scream and yell, calling me a cunt etc.
To me this sounds sus mainly because she didnt give me an answer as to why she would initiate all this drama f she was not trying to get me to drop them off and go home angry, am I correct or Autism?
Dude it doesn't even fucking matter, drop that shit and run like the cops just saw you serially headbutting the population of a retirement home. Get the fuck out. No matter the motivation, that's an abusive relationship.
>>16954791
Maybe you are attracted to bipolar bitches because your mom was an abusive manipulative controlling cunt?
A lot of the girls in their mid 20's that haven't settled down yet have deep character flaws, like being bipolar, BPD, or just plain spoiled immature or mean.
>>16954821
Yes this is correct, sounds very correct
How do I stop being attractive to biopolar whores?
Can you guys give me some opinions on this?
So I met this girl online on some shitty online dating site. She didnt have any front face pics, only her hair from behind etc. We talked some and had some preety gr8 convo (smt made up how we are both mosquito hunters, still makes me smile). We were talking back and forth for some time ~2 months. Everything was just casual, didnt even plan to visit her(forgot to mention she is living about 300km away from me but in same country eurofag here) but the we got along preety well. Then I went to some fare with my dad and her city was on the way back. I asked her if she wants to meet up and she agreed happily. I spend almost 3 days with her, although innitialy I planned to stay only 1. I felt something for her(forgot to mention she turned out to be beautiful) and I think she also felt smt for me. First night we spent walking, listening to music in car and eventually we fell asleep there. The 2nd thing we drunk glass of wine and she proposed that i can sleep in her room on other bed. We were watching some stupid things on yt and i reached to grab her hand, she didnt take it back then we started to cuddle and kiss.Eventually i slept on the same bed with her but didnt have sex. This continued for the next day.
After i left we kept in touch i had plans to visit her maby even move to her city but she seemed less and less intrested. She said she is not gf material and she will propably hurt me. I was heartsick for some time but i got to myself after a while.
Then about a week ago I went to some simmilar fare and her city was again on the way back. We met, got along preety good now i fucking feel it again.
What you guys think i should do? Forget or try to fight for her?
sorry for beeing so chaotic
sounds like you're all gummed up inside
>>16954775
>She said she is not gf material and she will propably hurt me.
Sounds like she doesn't want you as a partner but doesn't want to hurt you by saying it.
I used to say similar things when I didn't want things to progress.
I think I'm an alcoholic, or at the very least on the track to becoming one.
I think about it a lot. When I do drink, I like to get really drunk. I drink by myself. I sneak it into my parents house, because I'm strictly prohibited from drinking in their house. I use it as a crutch when I've had a bad day, and sometimes even when my day wasn't really that bad. I love the feeling, but regret my actions. I hate the taste, but do it anyway. Sometimes I don't really want to do it, but feel compelled to.
What the fuck do I do?
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/addiction/alcoholism-and-alcohol-abuse.htm
See a therapist specializing in alcohol and substance abuse; start going to AA meetings.
>>16954753
Alcoholic here! You sound like an alcoholic... Actually, hearing you say 'I think I'm an alcoholic' all by itself is good enough reason to think you're an alcoholic. Talk to someone. Maybe a therapist, maybe AA (I really didn't like AA at all, but many people do, and when I did their suggested 90 meetings in 90 days starter program, having to show up at a roomful of drunks who weren't drinking did a pretty good job of keeping me from drinking), maybe another program. If you seriously can't go without, you may want to consider rehab.
you're playing a bad game, anon. I hope you're well off because the habit controls you. I said I would stop drinking 2 weeks ago. that was 2 weeks ago. I've been drinking daily since. I cannot quit cold turkey.
I feel confident at home, and prepare to interact with people. When I'm in class however, I just fall mute and never work the nerve to say anything though. This is only with girls really, not guys. How do I fix this?
>>16954723
Is that Donald Trump in the image?
>>16954761
Thanks, I'll try that.
>>16954723
Hope you're still here OP. Practice makes perfect like anything else but you have to remember something. Good conversation only comes from two parties or more that are conversing something relevant to both parties. You'll have to talk to a lot of them to find good convo.
My housemates think I'm mad because I cry a lot every day and maybe once in a while I'll scream in frustration. I also don't come out of my room very often.
There's no way to undo the social damage, is there.
No. If you are older than 14 it would be seriously disconcerting. What stops you from making efforts to smooth the ground with them
>>16954732
I don't know how to smooth the ground with them.
>>16954760
By talking to them. How else do you think they will understand.
Hey /adv/, I have a very stupid question to ask, but I'm going to ask anyways because I'm retarded.
I'm aiming to start smoking. I'm aware that smoking of any form kills and can cause cancer, but when it's worded like that, I might as well just say "fuck all the precautions." Though despite this, I'm trying to find any brands of cigarettes that are maybe a bit "healthier" than others. Not too addictive or otherwise harmful in terms of chemicals. I don't care about how strong it is or the flavor.
I ask here because Google fails me on this. It only directs me to shitty sites that emphasis way too hard how smoking is bad for you, instead of just giving me what I'm looking for. And if it doesn't exist, I'll probably just go with e-cigs. Fuck it.
You know you have a 30% chance of getting lung cancer if you smoke, and that smoking has a 90% rate of being terminal, right?
That's a 27% chance of death overall. Those are not good odds.
>>16954695
Vape bro blow fat clouds its not toxic its just water vapor bro what kind of build you got BEARD JUICE LOL
It's smoking. You're inhaling burnt material into your lungs. The effects of filters or whatever is negligible because it increases your chances at getting jaw/lung cancer by a huge percent.
I've been awake for 36 hours now but I can't fall asleep. My body is exhausted but there's something in my head that's preventing me from getting tired. Help pls
What are you thinking about?
Try taking melatonin?
>>16954697
Nothing. I'm not even stressed, don't have anything to do so I'm just browsing 4chan to waste time. I don't even have enough concentration to play vidya.
>>16954704
I always wake up after an hour and then have the same problem again with melatonin.
hey /adv/, ive got these really painful blisters on my feet (popped and peeled) and the pain wont stop and ive tried all remedies. any help? or should i just check with my doctor?
Blisters normally stop hurting after a day. Wash them, put some ointment on them and add bandaids/gauze.
>>16954712
thanks
I have a boring IT desk job. I have to show up at the office in formal attire at 8:00 AM and stay till 4:30 PM with a half hour lunch break. Most days there's nothing for me to do, so I just fuck around on my phone.
The problem is, I'm not a morning person. I try to go to bed early but I just lay there for hours. When I wake up at 7:00 to get ready, I feel exhausted. I usually have at least three cups of black coffee once I get to the office, and when I get home I feel like a zombie.
How do I into mornings, /adv/? I don't care about being tired at my boring job, but I can't enjoy my free time anymore because I'm so tired.
alarm clock with sleep cycle detection ;)
>>16954670
I too have a boring IT desk job with lots of boring work and shitty downtime on my phone. Weird. Mine is business-casual though.
Anyways, I'd drink less coffee. Less caffeine, less crashing, better energy, better rest. You may think this idea sucks, but it works for me. I drink less coffee by watering it down in the morning. I put like 1/4 mug of coffee with a bit of milk and fill the rest with hot water, and the warmth, smell, and taste gives me that wake up-y atmosphere, without all the caffeine. I'll have like 3 cups in the morning and it doesnt even amount to one normal cup.
>>16954670
Go to bed earlier.
Work out daily after work.
Read at work instead of fucking with your phone. That sounds cush as fuck to me. I would be reading every day, watching new movies every day, and writing every day.
Sup nignogs,i am 19yr,6'1 90 kilos guy from the eastern part of europe,i thought for myself i was asexual but long story short a girl changed my sexual orientstion and ever since i met her i developed instict for girls and i know im straight now,before her i didnt even think about girls and now i finally think as a man was supposted to,but i developed some kind of fetish toward pale skin/blonde eyes type,and i cant find any other type of a girl attractive,when someone is even s bit tanned or doesnt have how i call it "Slavic look" (blue eyes,pale skin) i cant find her attractive,no matter what,dont get me wrong,i am not neonazi,i have a lot of tanned friends male and female,but i cant even think about being with someone in relationship who doesnt have slavic look,is everything okwith me?
Don´t be worried. It´s called having a type. It´s normal in the most of the world. Just us white people get called racist when we admit it. Just don´t worry :)
It´s really normal, everyone has their preferences. :)
Thanks my friend
>>16954644
>sexual orientation
Fuck man, you finally got a woodie for a girl, congrats, what's up with labelling everything? Do you desperately need to be in a special snowflake box?
You were 19, never felt attracted to a girl, now you do. End of story.
And yes, Slavic ftw.
I met this guy online we never get to meet each other in real life. We pretty much just talked to each other like for a month or so. Not even think about go out with each other. Then we stopped talking yesterday out of the blue he texted me again. It's almost a half year. So what the actual fuck is this?
He met someone(s). It didnt work out. He's lonely and cycling through/reminecising about old contacts
>>16954628
So should I answer to the text or not?
>>16954635
Why the fuck are you asking us?
Do you want to?
There is this weird thing that's been happening for the past 7 months maybe.
I'm finding it harder to just talk in general.
It's like I'm suddenly having a bit of trouble formulating a few sentences if I'm telling a funny story for example.
Almost like I have to quickly stop talking, regroup my thoughts into a timeline of what I want to say, then continue speaking. Which seems normal except I have to physically stop talking and regroup my thoughts, which can take a full 2 or 3 seconds of silence.
It's strange because I never experienced this before and I have no idea what it could possibly be or even how to research what is happening to me.
The only real major thing that has changed in my daily life is that I started smoking pot around October.
Is marijuana really the cause of this?
>>16954590
It correlates.
Maybe cut down on the drugs famslice.
>>16954590
Something like that happened to me almost 8 years ago. Still getting over it now. I think human brains are just fucked up
>>16954590
Might as well try cutting it out, right? If that's the only difference you can think of. Rule it out, and if after a few months you're not normal, go see a doctor if you're worried about neurological damage or something.
18 year old girl here, the only form of social media I have is snapchat. I've used Facebook and Instagram in the past (~4 years ago), but I never really got into them. My friends always bug me to make one, but I never do.
So how important is it to have social media? I could care less about it, but sometimes I feel like I lose contact with people meet at parties or school because I don't have a Instagram/Facebook/Twitter like everyone else.
I deleted my FB 4 or 5 years ago.
It's a datamining device and no one says anything important there. All it is is drama you don't care about, political trash and mundane fucking bullshit. People will post about the burger they had for lunch like who gives a fuck?
Don't make one if you don't want one.
Calls, texting, and real life is friendship and "keeping contact". If you only talk to someone on facebook then they aren't really a friend to begin with.
>>16954573
I don't think too many people use FB anymore, so I definitely wouldn't make another.
Honestly, the reason I've been considering making one is because I met a dude at a party a few weeks ago and I feel like we really hit it off, but I had to leave unexpectedly so I didn't get his number. I know creating social media isn't a big deal, but the thought of making one gives me anxiety. I don't know why, but it always it always has.
>>16954564
I've never had a single social media account and I'm very happy with that choice. I don't think you need it at all and often it's a big waste of time and an unnecessary stressor and distraction.
Late 20's female, never had a boyfriend. Its majorly to do with not wanting people to meet my family (who I dearly love) but are quite antisocial like myself. Could I start a new page and learn to be normal? could I strike up a relationship without having to introduce a guy to my family? I feel like relationships turn into hook ups when you don't introduce your friends and family...
Yes
Yes
Just try.
You normally wouldn't jump directly to introducing a guy to the family would you?
I mean at some point you'd think your relationship would develop to such a degree that you'd want to introduce him
That's not something you do right away anyway, but after a couple of months.
Having said that, what exactly are you expecting here? You're not going to find a steady BF, marry him after years and also not ever have them come in contact with your family.
