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This is really just a vent but I don't really talk to anyone irl. I recently moved back home after a bad breakup and meth abuse. She was my first girlfriend, well it wasn't a good idea in the first place though because I'm gay. I just did it because I was trying to be normal. I work a construction job 40 HR a week now and it's not too bad, but I'm unnecessarily venting on my new coworkers.
So now I'm back at home, and I'm realizing that I totally hate my parents. I'm being as out of the way as possible - I do all the chores I used to do, I clean my dishes as soon as I'm done, I even cook with my mom like I did tonight. But I have hid everything about myself, since I was very young, from them. They are very religious ( you wouldn't believe ) and don't even know I'm gay.
Basically they have no idea who I am, and I want to just leave, but they want me to stay for the summer. I know it's the right thing to do. My life was always "I just gotta get out and then I can handle them", and it still is. I really fucked up by forgetting that and coming back. I just got to make it througj the summer without exploding and it will be best for all of us. Sigh..
It just is really sad time right now. I cry a lot but alone, I have no one who understands me. I am so quiet that I make everyone uncomfortable. I would never try to kill myself and I never have, but I don't value my life. Often I think I would like to just take my little savings and drive away somewhere, throw away my phone. I'm not afraid of anything, because I have nothing to lose..
I know it sounds dramatic.. It's just how I feel.. Maybe writing it out helped
Am I so bad that I don't get one response? I guess it goes to show how far I will go.. My words cannot reach my family. And they cannot even reach the anonymous.
Maybe this is Godtelling me to come out. I never thought I would need to but maybe that's what it is. I will think on that some more, I guess..
>>16955178
>dear diary
You had a girlfriend but you're gay? Why'd you move back home? Why don't you move out? Are you still a useless druggie?
You didn't even ask us anything in that tl;dr.
also;
>adv is a slow board so no responses
>It's a sign from God to come out XD
Dude..
>>16955062
you are no alone OP, I dont really have anything significant to say to make you feel better as I was actually crying 10 mins ago wishing I wouldnt wake up. if you decide to stay with them through the summer just remember that eventually summer will end. Try not to be so hard on your coworkers also, you never know when they might be in some deep shit too.
Stay hydrated and eat clean.
How far will an escort be willing to go? I know she charges 50 to 100 for bj and anal. How much will an escort charge to have her ass eaten/ throat fuck and anal? I don't know what to offer
Pic related
>>16955015
Honestly, it depends on the girl. Again honestly, I wouldn't eat the ass of an escort that is willing to let you eat her ass.
I've seen a couple escorts in my day, the hottest escort I've been with charged 270 Canadian for everything on her "menu." The one that let me do the most charged 300, but she was butt ugly compared to the former. Really just depends on what you are looking for. The ugly ones either cost less or let you do more.
>>16955015
>eating a hookers ass
enjoy your aids
>>16955015
everyone has ass, man why do you need to eat a filthy hooker's ?
Someone tell me,
Aiight so,
Why do guys want to get in to relationships? Because it's the norm or because it's what they genuinely want?
Like if I'm still okay with them seeing other people, why put all your eggs in just one basket then?
Are we all conditioned for monogamy? Is that truly what the heart desires?
Keep in mind, safe sexual practises are always in place.
>>16955006
It's not a consistent thing. Some guys think they want a relationship, and the ones who desperately want one are often (but not always) looking for a woman to fill a void in their lives that they think she can fix. Ultimately, most of them have bigger issues at hand.
There's also guys like me, who would be cool with a relationship, but aren't seeking one out. Being in a GOOD relationship is awesome. There's that cool fluttery feeling you get when they come in the room, having a partner...
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>>16955006
Not all men are sluts. Plenty are. You should not have trouble finding them.
How do I get the look? All I wear nowadays is jeans and a t shirt, and it's boring, I'm sick of it. I wanna go for a punk-ish look, but not too overboard. I really like black and white.
get dr martens, roll up your jeans, add some suspenders, get a dicky, flannel, or army/canvas jacket. Look up rude boys or skin heads, that's a pretty classic and could almost be fancy punk look.
Go over to /fa/, you'll fit right in
I usually wear some beat up black skinny jeans, a pair of CP's and a grey denim jacket with some random patches sewn on here and there.
>>16955463
Don't do this, you don't want to look like a nazi. (I know skinheads were not originally nazis but people still associate the look with that kind of things)
Personally I just recommend you to look at other people's outfits and copy them, buy clothes one by one. Sometimes there are post-punk/goth inspo threads on /fa/, look on the catalog or the archive.
I really need to find a person in London. This person is of great importance to me. They arent lost or anything I just know they live here. Theyre in college right now . How could I get a hold of them? I only remember their first name, age and general appearance.
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London, Ontario?
if not, sorry. good luck.
Thanks, not telling us their name, age and/or general appearance will makes this search much easier
If I do one of those NameTests things on FB but I don't post it would anyone still see it?
>I did the "how strong is your love" one where you had to choose a person and I chose this guy I like, I didn't post it but I'm afraid he knows I did that? Like would it give him a notification or something?
>>16954972
lol ur fucked m8 that guy is gonna think your a weirdo
>>16954990
Will he actually see it!?!?!? :(
>>16954991
Lol no.
Advice for taking a photo of myself?
I don't have any photos of myself and I'm getting older. Problem is I don't have any friends to take pictures of me. I want to have some pictures of myself online to make online dating easier, but I have no ideas of what to post without taking the worst of selfies.
Are there any easy photo ideas I could pull off on my own?
yeah I guess it was a pretty dumb question
>>16954964
Get a tripod and timer. Take outdoor shots of you hiking or something. Ask random people to take yohr picture with your favorite singer at concerts or something.
>>16955296
Set your camera on a timer and just do something, like smile away from the camera make it look like you're having a good time, if you're that desperate.
>battle internally with some depression (not officially diagnosed or anything)
>Mom says "Anon your not depressed your just down in the dumps! Get over it!"
>find way to combat these depressing feelings in past few weeks or so
>actually have been doing pretty good
>haven't felt too bad in recent days
>Today, mom goes out of way to tell me that I need to quit sulking and get...
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Sounds like you need to tell mom to fuck off. You do you at your own pace with shit like that, if shes being part of the problem, well. Fuck her...
You could try honestly talking to her and maybe seeing a doctor or talking to someone about it. Even if you don't want to, think of it this way, once your mom hears that you are actually diagnosed, she'll get off your back about it(hopefully).
Need Advice.Badly!
TLDR: Finished School.4 to 5 Months Unemployed.Worked Abroad.Didn't Like the Job.Stayed for the Money. Left for GF & other. Now, back home , & lost on what to do Next.
Possible options: Army Reserve, Masters, More Job Hunting?Anything else?
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Finished School, Took ''Quite'' a while to find first job. Got a highly Lucrative Job Abroad...that just wasn't the right ''Fit''.
I liked the people(some), I liked the product, I liked the side work I did...
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>Shameless Bump. Career Adv not popular on 4chan?
>>16954887
What country are you located ?
Canada.
>Be 21 also male
>never had a gf
>make a tinder along with my friend
>swipe right on every girl who seems nice, trying not to judge on looks
>get two matches after a week and they don't speak to me whilst my friend has 12+
>feel rejected
>delete account
So I'm planning to give tinder another shot, not now but in a few weeks. My friend...
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yeah pictures are everything. No pictures in your house. avoid selfies. avoid huge group shots. avoid too many pictures with the same theme
1 hobbie photo
1 photo with a friend
1 photo of you just naturally
keep it clean with the bio. don't do anything premature (eg. just here for dates or i want a gf or something). and keep it short and congruent to your personality.
>>16954904
I have no outside hobbies, except for the recent addition of the gym. I read, listen to music and fiddle with my keyboard (not a euphemism). I don't leave the house except for gigs and work.
>>16954933
well keep working on yourself. become dateable
I don't work in IT, but I want to get into the industry and switch. I have quite a bit of experience with programming and some database stuff just that I have self taught over the years. Is it possible to get certifications and to get a job in IT with those only? I don't think many IT jobs would require four year degrees, but I may be wrong.
>>16954876
IT has very little to do with programming. You'll be spending your days running anti virus software and defragging hard drives. Get a computer science degree and look for work in an industrial setting (electricians with computer science degrees are in huge, HUGE demand). You will never be out of work for the rest fo your life.
>>16954898
I don't know if I really have the time to dedicate to getting a CS degree. Also, I don't think i'd want to program for a living, i'd rather be a computer system analyst or a sys admin or something along those lines.
>>16954876
>>16954910
Really need to decide exactly what you want to do and work on your skills to compete in the job market.
>I don't think many IT jobs would require four year degrees
Really depends what you plan to do. Most of the larger companies have HR departments that require degrees but you can still get past them with a different degree+skills.
I've employed developers with no degrees, business degrees,...
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Is it bad if nothing can make you sad to the point of crying?
>>16954870
No, you're a man aren't you?
>>16954870
Your being "that guy," man. Don't be "that guy." No one likes him.
>>16954870
Would you rather be hurt or to feel nothing?
I either choose my girlfriend, or new life.
You two won't consider a long distance relationship?
Next time choose a partner who can actually be compatible with your life.
>>16954859
If you have to choose one or the other, always think ahead. Don't dwell. Sounds like some sappy shit, but it was some of the best advice I could take.
Is there any way to stop being sad long enough to do something worth being happy about?
Hey you around for a chat? I have an hour I can share to explain my experience and what I learned from it to help you out.
If you find yourself sad for that length of time, see a psychiatrist, and a therapist, because you're almost certainly suffering from clinical depression.
How to find a mental health provider: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mental-illness/in-depth/mental-health-providers/art-20045530
How to find a therapist: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
Guide to dealing with suicidal thoughts: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-help-dealing-with-your-suicidal-thoughts-and-feelings.htm
I have issues. It sucks. Really gets in the way of having like a normal relationship. Or even a friendship. Lately I've wanted to talk about it but know I really can't. There was someone I thought I could tell but not anymore. It's frustrating and it hurts a lot. I'm supposed to be strong enough not to even need to talk about my feelings or my past.
This probably won't make sense to anyone. I feel utterly alone with no end in sight.
>see a therapist
>>16954834
I stopped seeing my therapist. And I know I'm going to withdraw further from everything. Face the world alone and try to self-medicate.
I'm not sure I can survive much more of this. It's really very scary.
