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Why does rape get taken as a joke in court when it's such a horrendous crime?
Inb4 lying sluts
Lying sluts.
what is op talking about?
>>16956782
Because rape is difficult to prove as there's usually not much evidence other than he said/she said. Also, lying sluts. That is a huge problem.
Hey /adv/, do I already have a problem? I drink about 1/3 of a bottle of vodka every evening after work... This is not enough to get me really wasted and I always get up the next morning in order to go to work without having a hangover, but what really scares me a little bit is that there is hardly any evening when I do not drink ever. Anyway, my limit of 1/3 of a bottle is only true as long as I have to get up the next day, whenever there is a weekend or a holiday, I only stop shortly before getting really really drunk, you could say I always take the last exit when I still have a tiny little bit left of control over myself... But I never drink until I throw up or don't remember anything... I usually know when to uit just in time.. :/
Am I an alcoholic?
>>16956731
quit drinking for two weeks and find out
Honestly, if you kill off a fifth/18 rack by yourself a week. You're probably an alcoholic.
>>16956731
I think you are me in the future. Currently I drink 3/4 times a week. Same shit 1/3 of a 40 a night. its pretty much because I have no friends and too much disposable income due to a good job. Its pretty much the only thing that makes me happy at all
When I was a kid and even in my teen years I used to dream all the time, I even kept a journal of sorts to remember my dreams and use them later for evaluation or for writing fiction, etc. Etc. But since I've been about 19 or 20 I'll wake up and not remember a damn thing, as if everything were black the whole time. Sometimes however I get flashes of my "dreams" throughout the day where I'll remember parts or small segments of a dream but nothing else. I do wake up about 3 or 4 times in the night (every night).
How can I remember my dreams? They used to feel a little important to me but for the past few years its like my mind goes completely blank.
Pic unrelated
>>16956707
the general advice is waking up and writing it down before it escapes you. its funny how fast dreams can fade. so weird.
but getting full nights sleep would likely help, as you arent having the dreams 'escape' you in the middle of the night. you'll get deeper sleep too.
find out whats waking you up and fix it, not just for the dreams but to stop being zombie sleepy mode all the time
>>16956709
The weird thing is that the dream seems to escape me as it happens, if at all. Things are black and then suddenly I'm aware. I remember black, that's what's vivid and fresh in my mind. I'm 23, now so my dream and sleep cycle has been this way for a while. Its just recently come to my attention because my girlfriend always asks me what I dream about. She'll wake up in the night or watch me sleep and I'll be twitchy, toss and turning, facial expressions, and (she's said this numerous times in the past few years) that I do things with my hands like hold them up in front of me, like I'm examining the back of my palm or pushing something away.
Her persistence in asking what I dream about has now gotten me curious on why I can never remember anything. Except very, very rarely a flash or two throughout the next day.
>>16956736
thats interesting but not much more i can say then find out why yo ukeep waking up and eliminate that.
deeper sleep should lead to more memories.
Alright so I'm going to college in the fall.
There's this guy that I dated for a month when we were maybe 14 (so I don't even know if I'd call him much of an ex really, but we were each other's first kiss and all that), and we broke up for typical confused and inexperienced reasons and we haven't really talked since, I tried to reach out to him like a year later but it didn't work haha. But we've just been sort of ignoring one another for years despite sharing a bunch of classe. And he seems a little scared of me for whatever reason. Or he just avoids me. But if we're forced to be around each other, he gets all nervous and maybe a little flirty, if I'm reading him right. It's weird.
But anyway, we're seniors now and I've had a bit of a thing for him for awhile this year. I was ignoring it, but turns out he's going to the same college as me and maybe living in the same building because we're in the same housing program with almost the same major.
I have no idea why I like him, he's kinda a bitch and literally all he does is game (he doesn't even have good taste in games either), but I can sort of see it working if he was interested.
I'm pretty shy and bad at social cues, so any ideas on if I should do anything? And if so, what?
Also is bringing a car to college worth it? I'd make another thread but I'm lazy and this one's relevant, kind of.
Pls help I'm dumb with things like this
cuck him. shuld b laff
So today I went to the hospital for something and they had to measure my artery pressure. A cute nurse comes at me and measures it while making small talk. After she's done she sqid my pressure is low and how can she help me getting it higher?
She said it with a pretty smile
I'm ugly (low self esteem, I'm probably average) and girls usually never drop shit like that with me.
How could've I reacted? Also give me some general flirting advice? I'm going in vacation with some colleagues/people soon, there will be lots of girls I've never seen before, drinks and shit. How do I up my game fast? I wanna get a girlfriend...
>>16956664
post a picture of yourself.
>BUT ANON WHAT DO LOOKS HAVE TO DO WITH ANYTHING
>IM JUST UGLY
there are different 'looks' and different looks require different types of flirts. women hit on guys (Even if ugly) expecting them to act a certain way because of their look. knowing how you ACTUALLY look (re: not a picture of someone who 'looks like you') tells us how to tailor your approaches / responses.
Homes, you gotta chill the fuck out. Remember, girls poop as well. They're not rarified creatures from planet Boobula, they are human beings with vaginas, and, if you just chill the fuck out and let yourself have some fun chilling with a down-ass gril, she might touch your penis.
>>16956673
Aw shit anon I'm bad at taking pics because my phone sucks, let me get out of the shower and I'll find a better one.
This was made right now tho.
I had a pregnancy scare with the gf.
She's extremely angry at me and won't talk to me. What can I do to show im sorry?
>>16956660
why is she angry? why would you need to be sorry?
Well... you're leaving something pretty important out...
What did you do?
>>16956660
Did you tell her she better not be pregnant or something?
I'm going on a date with a really hot girl tonight. Every time we're in person it's awesome, great chemistry.
But when it comes to texting she takes forever to respond and shit. Why do people do this shit?
>>16956623
>why do people live their lives
jesus christ, you're the woman in the relationship. texting should be used to confirm the time and place you are meeting, checking in every two days to make sure thats still a thing. maybe send a funny picture once in awhile of whats going on.
not everyone can be checking thier phone every hour. not everyone WANTS to be checking their phone every hour.
do you remember what life was like before cell phones? there was no obligation to do anything other than what you wanted.
Personally, when it takes me forever to respond, it's because I'm busy doing shit. Get it?! Living?? Life?? Work??
>>16956626
Dude it's 2016. Everyone has their phones on them at all times, especially early 20s.
i'm a 24 years old computer engineering student from a sand nigger country,physically average 6/10 or 7/10.there is a girl,two years younger than me,8/10 and extremly shy,and has a very rich family.first time when i saw her last year,i didn't even know that we study in the same university because she a fucking ghost.she don't show up
at events,and she only had one friend(a girl).so this girl started to show me attention : she stares all the time,stalks me,fixes her hair when i pass around,etc.but i'm an introverted guy who is not used to get that level attention
from girls,so i let go because i didn't know what to do,and summer holyday was too close.
this year,same shit started all again.all the signs say that she wants me so bad.i have already been complimented by girls and given some attention,but never like that,so i had to make a move.
i managed to get her number using unlawful means.i called her two days after but she already changed her number (bad luck). she knew i'm the one who called so she saved my number on her new phone.
after few weeks of mind games she snapped and called me,but i didn't pick cuz i cas driving.when i recalled her on her new number,but she said that she didn't know who i was,and kept asking me wtf do i want.
i ended the call and understood that she did what she did because she was too shy and confused.
then next day at university she did the impossible to be alone,at a perfect place and time,so that i would go talk to her face to face,and that's what i did.we when started to talk she asked me what do i want,
i told that i want to get to know her because (i kinda like her).and at that moment,she blew everything and told me she's married.
at that moment i realised she's just a kid,so i walked away,softly,trying not to look like someone who is butthurt.after that day she expected me to come and talk to her when we are at university,but i never did because
i didn't see the point in doing that,but we kept playing the same game with all the staring and stalking.after i thought about two hypothesis :
1)she's i love with me and she lied again because she didn't know what to say/wanted to make me try harder to get to her
2)she's just playing with my mind and heart.
this girl is not active on social media,have only 2 or 3 friends at university,and nobody knows her well,so it was hard to extract information.but i managed to get close to 2 guys who studied with her (last year
and this year) and manipulated them,and they all told me she was really married,but the only proof they have is what they heard from her other people(no ring on her hand,nobody who knows her really really well).
so the moment i realised i fell in love with her,it was already too late.and it was too hard for me to believe that she's really married because she kept doing more effort so that i look at her,check her
body etc.but nobody knows her well,so she could easly lie to her class mates and they could believe her.and there is no way she's doing all this because she wants only my D,because in the country we live in,only a
real slut would do that,and a real slut can be spotted from 100 miles away.
few days ago i had another confirmation,from another guy who told me that she's really married.i used the old malicious ways to force him to tell me what he knows without knowing my story.but i snapped when
i kept asking him "are you fucking sure ? "
now everytime i think about how she played me,and how she's having an easy life and her only concern is to get the confirmation that she looks good.and at the same time i have to struggle through some serious shit
like having a poor family,studying hard,thinking about making a good career because i have no one to help me in the future.everytime i think about all that,a fire starts to burn inside my chest.
my mind tells me to let go because the whole story is a waste of time and energy,but there is something inside me that tells me that the pain i'm feeling now won't go away,and i need to make this girl
feel a bit of this pain.i'm not going to do her any physical harm,but i have certain skills that open other ways of making someone's life really miserable.
i just want to back the fuck off,but i can't...
>long distance bf texts constantly
>being bitter and agressive
>he gets worse if i reply anything
>gets worse if i dont reply
how do i make him stop besides hiring a hitman
>>16956567
talking to him about it
suggesting therapy
breaking up with him
asking to keep the contact limited to phone calls (and texts for scheduling said calls)
tell him to grow some balls
grow some balls, mail them to him, and tell him to surgically apply them to that weird ken-doll type bump he had in his pelvic region
>>16956567
If you don't want to date him, break up with him. If you otherwise like him, talk to him about it; say, "Jeeze, Chad, you're really annoying when you text me so much. Can you keep it down?"
>>16956567
>how do i make him stop besides hiring a hitman
What does he want?
I'm in love with a quiet, timid girl and need help.
First, I'll say a bit about myself: I'm a virgin and loner that arrived in my current city 4 years ago. Since then, I've lived without any friends and in almost total solitude. The only people I talk to are my parents and nobody attracts me. I've also dropped Mechanical Engineering, Physically, I'm a bit overweight, but my facial appearance is easily a 8/10.
Recently, I've started cram school and met this cute girl that wants to study Medicine. She's unusually timid for a girl, but still less shy than me. She started sitting beside me in class and that's when I noticed her.
One day she offered gum to me and periodically said "hi". Recently, though, she's fiercely ignoring me by avoiding looking at me or even saying "hi". Of course, I've always treated her this way (maybe it's her idea of "retribution"?) because I'm very shy.
Even though she's not saying anything, I've noticed that her body language hasn't changed around me:
>she rubs her hair a lot
>sometimes touches her thighs
>she's fidgety with her hands
>sometimes puts a lipstick that has no color (maybe it's cocoa lipstick?)
>avoids eye contact even more
I've researched online and noticed that these seems to be signs of attraction, but as she's very shy it's very difficult to know for sure because it's not too obvious.
I've also noticed that recently she's more "nervous" (like she's late for something) and bored. Maybe it's because I haven't approached her?
Well, /adv/, I really need some help here. I want to approach her but I'm really unsure about it. I fear I'm misunderstanding everything and that I'll probably get rejected. I want to be sure she likes me before taking any serious action.
>>16956492
the quiet and timid ones are the biggest of whores
what you want is a tsundere. where there's a soft creamy center inside of the rough exterior.
Just ask her out for coffee or something casual like that. Knowing what she likes helps. She's either interested or not. Don't be scared to at least try initiation.
>>16956496
Dunno if you're right, but all the whores I know are the loud ones.
>>16956502
I'll do that once I have deeper certainty that she likes me. For a guy that stutters a lot around girls, it's very hard to just ask her out. Most people there think I'm an arrogant prick because I don't talk.
Hi everyone.
I'm 19 years old, male and I like to get slapped in the face by women. It started some years ago, yet still no one else knows about it. Would you say it is weird?
How would girls/women probably react if I asked them to slap me (so that it causes actual pain)?
say that to a girl and then kiss her suddenly , she might slap you
or maybe tell them you have cheated on your girlfriend and she still knows nothing about it ?
>>16956490
like pretty much everything
>99% of women would be put off by this
>1% will be turned on
of the 99% who are put off by this, like 50% (at least) would be varying degrees of okay with this if you already have an established relationship. as in, if you tell your girlfriend you like to be slapped, she will mostly likely at least TRY this out, just to see whatsup. she might do it awkwardly or infrequently but she'd give it a try.
How to cure premature ejaculation?
>New gf recently
>First sex for about 20 minutes (My dick couldnt feel shit, i havent observed any stress whatsover, weird stuff)
>She lives far away from my place so we can have sex only on weekends
>Second sexytime, premature juice, dick really sensivite, a little blow could just make me finish
>Third weekend, i have finished pretty quick, but after about 10 minutes of pleasing her i managed to get my dick hard fuck her for a long 20 minutes
>It was actually hard to cum, i had to focus on it
>4th time, fast cum, hard after 10 minutes, fast cum again
>Hey dick wtf is going on?
>5th time, quick one, all the time, just the quick ones.
The thing is that when she's giving me a hand or a head i can last for about 10-15 minutes, but when it comes to penetrating the hole, the whole fun is gone with the wind.
Sometimes i can masturbate for about 15 minutes, and its hard to finish, and sometimes i just need 3 minutes.
Im starting to wonder if its more psychological of psyhical problem. Any thoughts ?
>>16956446
Penises are weird. Once you begin having sex more regularly with her, it'll probably even up, although there's always going to be times when it's hard (or impossible) to cum and times when you cum quickly.
I usually take forever to get off (nerve damage), but almost always can. A couple of times I haven't been able to get off though, and sometimes I get off - without meaning to - in under ten minutes. It just happens.
As long as she's satisfied, don't worry about it. As someone who can pump away all day sometimes and still not get off, I'll be honest; most girls aren't fond of that, either. 20-30 minutes is honestly the ideal, I think.
>>16956979
Well, she is not satisfied becouse of the recent quick ones. And by quick one i mean like 30 seconds, thats harsh, really. Makes me feel a little depressed sometimes
>>16956446
It's a fucking vicious cycle of you let it get to you. It doesn't mean anything. Just have sex with her, and you'll find an equilibrium. It'll work.
>What am I don't wrong here? I'm trying to change my 4 prong dryer cord to a 3 prong but it does not seem to work. Am I connecting these correctly?
Finally an advice thread I can get behind. I have no idea what the fuck to do but I support you op
You need to post a schematic and be more specific. You can't just show a picture of wires and expect people to understand what the fuck you're doing.
>>16956441
Go to DIY
I'm pretty sure you need a little adapter box for this to work.
So a friend of mine is in a shitty relationship with a whiny jew and she is trying to break up with him
but "he's so sensitive" but she's already cheated on him once, fucked a random dude.
I told her if she doesn't break up with him by april first or if she cheats again, I'm cutting her out of my life.
Well last night she cheated with one of my brothers (fraternity, inb4 gay jokes/elephant walks)
So my question is
How do I use my threat to cut her off to get her to fuck me or at least send nudes?
>>16956435
I don't understand. What does her religion have to do with anything?
>>16956447
his religion
and eh idk. I wasnt sure if this board was as antisemitic as the others
>>16956435
>I told her if she doesn't break up with him by april first or if she cheats again, I'm cutting her out of my life.
My girlfriend left me about a month ago because we had a few issues. The issues were on her part, she wouldn't put enough effort into the relationship and she admits this. We talked about getting back together and planned to sometime soon until last night when she tells me she's back together with her other ex. I'm heart-broken and don't know how to deal with this. My other problem right now is that she was my life, even after we broke up she was still my life. So now that I know shes gone for good with no chance of having her back to myself I don't know what to do with my life.
Try growing a pair.
>The issues were on her part
Yeah okay
This reasoning might seem a little weird, but please keep reading, I believe it will offer some small consolation.
In a few minutes, this whole thread will be full of different versions of "It gets better, let time heal", but how can they be right? Well...
>she was my life, even after we broke up
I'm sorry, but even if you decided to focus on a special one every day of your life for 20 years, everything you felt, learned and said is still yours and yours alone. Now she's left and it HURTS, so most people's first reaction is to throw away all that experience, because that time has been "wasted", a non-renewable resource spent... but again, this is far from true.
She wasn't your life; but you shared it with her, and now every memory of her feels like fire; but every time you felt joy, love, happiness still remains as yours and yours alone. Treasure those feelings, that's what you've left of her; treasure them as a form of respect towards yourself if nothing else. But those feelings are not a unique result of something special. Options will come, things will change - and they may get either better or worse, but new waters will wash over you nonetheless. Let it cleanse you.
>inb4 I'm a faggot/SJW for not being edgy
