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I'm having an issue that's so ridiculous that I'm even ashamed to admit it. I'm sure all I need is for somebody to tell me like it is, so here goes:
I come from a shaky background: I was never starving or homeless or anything like that, and I had a very strong and supportive extended family, but my home life was somewhat messy. During my younger childhood years, I used to feel like nobody noticed me, but then I started take note that people reacted when I got good grades. It didn't take much more effort for me than just doing my homework, but...
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>cont
Jesus fuck man was that long ass post not enough?
>>16958174
Will this end in the op wanting to bang his mom or something.
>>16958174
Fast-forward to now: I'm about to graduate college. I did okay, but I certainly wasn't number one--my GPA is about 3.85, and I'm going into a competitive Master's program next year with generous funding--and I thought I was okay with that.
Today, I saw on my Facebook feed that my university chose its valedictorian. I immediately felt like shit. I felt like shit because I immediately recognized that I could have not wasted my time on a relationship bound to fail; I could have not spent...
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How do I deal with these sentiments in a relationship?
What particularly strikes me is the view on compromise.
You deal with it, with money.
You compromise when you don't have enough money to buy everything.
If someone outright says "I don't do compromise", drop them like a rock. It sounds like whoever wrote the text in that image is a spoiled womanchild who stubbornly refused to grow up and was carried along by some pathetic beta provider.
>>16958167
The no-compromise sentiment extends to all aspects, not just money
![latest[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/7lUsFjs.jpg "latest[1].jpg")
Everyone knows it's more complicated than that.
I don't want my mom's toxic side of the family to show up to my wedding. They've abused my mom for years and are insane. I don't want them at my wedding causing more shit for my mom.
However, not inviting them will cause even more trouble for her. I hoped it would cause them to just cut her off and never speak to her again, and it'd be healthier for everyone involved, but realistically, I know that's not true.
I'm already planning on sending their invitations out at the...
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It must've gotten lost in the mail
>>16958119
"And you didn't call us to confirm the RSVP!?"
>>16958126
I was busy with the wedding. Dave was supposed to do that
I might see my first escort tomorrow for an incall. What steps can I take to make sure it's not LE?
Do a 360 and moonwalk away
>>16958090
Nobody has hired an escort before?
>>16958090
Did she screen you already?
Where did you find her?
Evening, /adv/isors.
Should I sell my home before or after the election in November? My family is looking to relocate to a more rural lifestyle.
>>16958060
Ask your realtor. They'll have a better sense of local seasonal trends.
>>16958069
Local trends are known. The election has me a bit nervous.
>>16958079
Weather has a bigger impact than politics. Nobody wants to move in 8" of snow.
So I ordered small condoms and even they are too big for me.
(Caution Wear Iron Grip Snugger Fit
This condom is sized 6.69 inches by 1.92 inches.)
What do I do to find a condom for me I'm only 3 inches fully erect and probably at most 1.5 width.
I'm devastated I may finally get laid (23 years) and yet I can't find a condom....
>>16957977
Order from india, they have special made condoms because they have such small dicks
>>16957977
I hope to god this is a troll..
>>16957990
I'm actually 100% serious and feel like shit.
I've accepted my small penis but I never truly realized how bad it is.
Any advice on whether I'm being appropriate or not with my mother? Sorry for long post but don't have anyone else to ask right now
>she left me when I was 5, she ended up marrying another guy in the US
>I end up with my dad (horrible one where I ended up moving twice a year b/c he couldn't pay rent during my highschool years/)
>dad side of the family ends up moving back to my home country. It's just me and my mom now in the US.
>prior...
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Take her to the cleaners or fuck outta her lyfe.
Honestly, if she hasn't given you anything why the fuck do you stick around? This is what is known as a time sink.
>>16957972
she occasionally gives me money every few months.
but I have never asked her for any.
I bet the guilt is slowly eating away at her.
I just want to be able to ask her freely without feeling like I'm trying to use her.
I live on my own, but bills take up most of my gi bill pay.
Meanwhile, my best buddy from the service called his mom at 4am to pick him up at a metro station b/c he was too drunk. Dude is being so pampered and I sometimes envy his relationship with his mom.
bump for advice
Do i have big ego?
>it's easy for me to exclude people from my life when i thing they played me
>When somebody who i think is important to me excludes me from their life i feel ofended
When i try to look at it from a perspective it looks like it's ok when i kick people out, but i'm mad when people kick me out (happened about 2 times in my life, but still), which looks quite hypocritical. To give more contects whenever i kick somebody out i tend to explain my reasoning. I get triggered when i...
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You sound like a normal human being, it's fairly normal to feel relief when you kick someone out of your life because you are wanting them out for a reason. On the other hand when someone kicks you out it can feel unfair because you aren't the one in control and may not have the full context on why they are doing it. I have felt the same way in both situations.
>>16957925
Okay, did you ever feel "how can he/she kick out me out of their life?!" kind of thing? Because that's how i felt when those 2 people did it (in the end i realised they both used me conciously). I even hold a grudge, don't want to have to do anything with both of them anymore tho. But for example, if there was a possibility for me to pay them back, i think i would take the shot.
>>16957945
Yeah of course. A couple months ago this happened to me and I was like "how could they do that? we were best friends, I didn't do anything wrong, blah blah blah" I think this just happens because you're so emotional and its hard to deal with a loss, even if it's simply a friendship ending.
As for the last part I think that's normal too...sometimes I feel that way because I valued the relationship so much that I would want to heal it if I could, though that feeling does make it...
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I'm an average guy, and my only fucked up fetish is incest.
I recently found out my mom is super into incest
She doesn't know I know.
I'm not asking if it's a bad choice to fuck my own mom or not. Because obviously it's a fucking retarded trashy thing to do.
But what's the best method of not thinking with my dick and reminding myself such a decision would fuck up one's life beyond belief or any kind of hindsight
Her being into incest doesn't mean she's into incest with you.
>>16957885
Well that did it
>>16957885
This.
Lots of things are turn-one in the abstract, but reality...not so much.
Alright /adv/ I have a problem, like many others here. I'm in a special course in college that studies the basics of various trades. I'm an otherwise 4.0 student (the school uses a 5.0 scale, and I'm 4.8 on their scale). However, I am on the verge of failing my welding course. I've had an accident in my life, my sister got injured, and all of my other professors were fine with me taking a little bit off for her. My welding teacher basically said too bad, and gave me 2 0's on tests. Now, I talked to the student liasion, and the dean, and they both basically...
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>>16957852
depends on how much metal you got.
make a table or some sort of rifle holder.
>>16957852
>easy, simple things
A box or a table. But like >>16957868 said, it depends on what metals and how much of it you have.
>>16957868
>>16958025
I'll be buying my own metal. I have $600 in my budget from scholarships. As long as I prove it was used for school I'm fine. I need to really wow everyone with this project.
How can I get these two to fart on me?
>>16957799
>>16957799
tell them to do it and then pass me the number of left girl
>>16957799
I want to be their toilet
Can anyone here tell me about being a Music Theory major?
Why is it a meme?
I've always wanted to learn the cello, but have no idea what I'm going to Uni for (going back this fall, required to select major and two minors). Music came to mind at some point.
>>16957784
deffo wouldnt study music at uni if you dont already know an instrument, ive studied music and the idea of someone going who hasnt at least some prior knowledge is unheard of really
>>16957796
I've been playing guitar for five years. I just want to get into Cello as well.
>>16957784
Music theory major here. What do you want to know?
Would it be a bad idea to my let my husband sleep with prostitutes while he's overseas? He's in the military.
Yes, unless you yourself are already cheating on him. In which case, I guess it is only fair albeit you have a very unhealthy relationship.
baka he might bring home unexpected gifts.
>>16957595
>let
Christ above.
Almost ten years ago I declared my love to a girl in a very beta way, and of course, I got rejected, told the girl I couldn't keep talking/seeing her because of feelings, and she said she was very sorry bla bla bla, time passed and she always tried to talk me back whenever we crossed paths in life, but I always kept my distance. The other day, out of the blue, I invited her to have a drink, she said yes, and seem pretty happy about it, the thing is, what are the chances of her bring in up my delcaration of love? Am I doing something stupid? can I end up being lucky? I honestly...
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There is a difference for bringing up feelings and "a declaration of love"
Girls dont give a fuck if you love them right off the bat, thats weird yo.
That shit will never fly and she'll think you're creepy af for continuing to have feelings for her even though you dont speak often.
>You like her and think shes attractive still
Cool, just talk to her, passively flirt. Get to know her more.
Do not declare shit unless she brings it up first. Jesus.
>>16957586
Dude, I'm not declaring anything, my question was more in the lines of "do the pass of time give me a new fresh start with this girl or am I doom forever" I don't care whatever happens to night, I'm already fucking another gilr, just want to see if I can enlarge my harem.
>>16957567
>I declared my love to a girl in a very beta way, and of course, I got rejected
You can't be in love with someone that you aren't romantically involved with.
>what are the chances of her bring in up my delcaration of love? Am I doing something stupid? can I end up being lucky?
Unless she wants an awkward conversation, she probably won't bring it up.
That said it has been 10 years, she might want a beta provider now she has...
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My girlfriend's 21st birthday is coming up and i'm trying to come up with idea's to make the evening in the bedroom extra special, any suggestions?
She's pretty vanilla for the most part, i'm her first sexual partner and she's not really got any fetishes.
She's got fetishes, everybody does, she just isn't telling you, so here's what you do: chloroform her from behind as soon as she walks in the door from wherever. While she's out, you tie her up and strap her to the wall ontop of a sybian. Leave her there for the rest of the day. Bring food and water occasionally. Maybe whip her a few times if she won't shut up.
>>16957485
Ignoring most of that post, i've asked her plenty of times if she had any fetishes or anything she'd like to try and she said no. Maybe she needs more time to learn what she likes, since i'm the only person she's ever slept with. She says she has never masturbated either, but I remain unsure of that since many girls say that. She's a pretty innocent girl really.
Any suggestions /adv/?
