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>Nobody loves you
>You don't deserve nothing
>You are a fag
>Your family don't give a single shit for you
I'm the only here who listen this kind of phrases inside the mind?
>>16960035
No, me too, a lot of people hear them as well. Sign of a really low self-esteem.
>>16960035
mootykins pls don't kill yourself
Everything will be daijobou
>>16960035
I feel this way all the time. I also hear thoughts which tell me to kill myself, pretty much constantly.
Hello /adv/
My girlfriend lives in Turkey and I live in the Netherlands. We can see each other every two/three months by travelling to each other or travelling somewhere in Europe. When we see each other it will be for a week at most. We Facetime/text/call a lot. We have no intentions of 'closing the gap' as we are still both young students without any real plans for the future.
Some people say long distance relationships will never work in the long run. Has anybody here been in a similar situation and can you give me advice on the matter? How to make...
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also I should add to this: We can temporarily close the gap by her coming to the Netherlands for Erasmus Exchange, but this will be in September 2017 at the earliest.
Works about 1% of the time. Do you have the tenacity to accomplish this and relationship to build upon?
Give up now and enjoy being young.
>>16960013
Well I enjoy it a lot. Every time we see each other there is a lot of passion between us and it gives me something to look forward too. I'm not interested in other girls besides her and we developed a deep emotional connection for each other.
hello /adv/
please help me, im scared shitless of flying. i hate it. and i booked a flight to tomorrow morning.
I've felt like skipping it a thousand times but i dont know if i can do it...
I know its very safe bla bla bla. but something about flying the damn thing leaves me very unsettled.
I feel like im walking right into my own grave.
anyone here a regular flyer you can calm me down ;_;
Think about it like this, a flight from new York to London takes 6 hours. Your only other option to get there is to take a ship which takes 7 fucking days, and surprise those things go down sometimes too, same with trains busses and cars.
>select all boats
Flying is a boring, smelly, cramped (in steerage anyway), loud affair. It isn't fun and it isn't scary. The fun part is getting out on the other side.
I focus on breathing and being in my body--I tell myself this same flight has happened thousands of times and it's all good. I then distract with books, music, hobbies.
I take anti-anxiety tablets on ships as I'm even more certain those are going down. I've always believed I will die by drowning--which is just me fucking with myself.
If you need medication for flying, then you do. I always take anti-nausea medicine for flights.
>le no good men left!
>mfw am:
>23 w fit 6' (workout 4x a week)
>traveled three continents
>speak German
>earn 60k (literally what a middle class family earns in my town)
>own place/car
>close relationship between friends/parents
>wide variety of hobbies
>attend...
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>waaahhh girls don't pay attention to me when I think they should
Ask some more out and you'll eventually find a taker.
Since you're asking for advice on 4chan your probably a massive beta, boring, socially award, have terrible game or are unattractive.
Pick one or all of the above.
It's a numbers game man.
Meet as many people as you can, when you find one you get along with well, make sure you let them know exactly how you feel as soon as possible and take them out on a date etc
Meet lots of people, Put yourself out there, be confident and have lots of charisma.
Honestly there is no advice anyone can give you to help you in this situation, im 24, jobless(and have been for 2 years), a drug abuser, and i've managed to jump from girlfreind to girlfriend for the last 6 years.
I'm 19, amd everyone was amazed that I'd never had alcohol before. Is everyone this degenerate or am I just out of touch? I loathe alcohol since it only fucks you up and possibly others, am I wrong not wanting to touch the stuff, let alone underage?
21 years old here and I also never consumed alcohol as of yet (I'm also an atheist so it's not for religious reasons). As a matter of fact, considering it's a drug that could only degrade your conscience and warp your reason, thus throwing you into a risk group for an early death, I assure you you've done the right choice. Not only does the consumption of alcohol and its effects elicit behaviours that make you look legitimately retarded and dumb, it's also a factor for violent deaths in accidents and it tends to cause violent conduct on some individuals....
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But getting fucked up is great, OP.
Yeah, it can be dangerous, but there is such a thing as responsible use. A couple beers isn't going to make you retarded and ruin your life. You just have to be enough of an adult to keep it to a few, and on occasion.
>>16959942
All right, but how do I stop disliking ever person who has bastardized alcohol amd only used it as a drug. Alcohol used to be a cultural thing, but that's long passed. I have a friend in Austria who occasionally drinks tropical alcohol things, and while it's legal, it just bugs me to no end. Of course I'm not a spaz and tell her though.
>>16959950
Well first I'm going to wrokf for a gov agency, so I need to be clean. Second, I don't need...
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4chan what do i do? my mom is abusing my dad right now, she's literally hitting him and trying to get him in jail, do i call the police? do i just wait it out and hope he kicks her out/ she leaves? she pretends he beats her but he doesn't, she has a whole file of injuries she gave herself with no proof he did it, and she's extremely immature. please help.
Yes call the police.
Video. Report to police to save his ass and yours.
>>16959886
she's stopped hitting him and he's asking her to leave after it's daytime but she's being an asshole
It ends
whatever you want it to be.
Since my parents divorced my father has become a reckless son of a bitch.He used his political influence to sue my mother and take everything from her,even put her in debt falsifying her firm.Not only did he leave my mother for a manipulative resentful and opportunist woman,but he also started a new family,putting all his resources and care into that. Since thirteen I have problems and I even dropped out of highschool.Now I'm 18 and finishing senior year. The worst part of the story is that my father swept everything under the rug and pretend that didn't happen.I have...
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>>16959862
Everyone's adolescent years sucked, you're hardly unique in that.
Here's a thought, you're 18 now how about you move the fuck out and make something of yourself far away from your old man. You would never have to see him again if you don't want to.
Join the Navy, that's what I did to get out of the shitty hood I grew up in. Half of the guys in my crew when I was in HS are dead now because of stupid shit, ifi hadn't left I probably would have too.
>>16959880
How could I leave my mother alone? I just can't,she is the only one keeping me from disappearing. My adolescence wasn't the issue,it was just a plus.I don't want my father to get away with it,I need a choice.
>>1695>>16959862
Find a way to ruin his business. Leak personal stuff. Put CP in his computer.
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>fat, ugly bastdard
>been trying PUA
>get deluded about myself, go outside feeling like I'm fucking awesome. People greet me
>second approach ever
>notice girl checking me out, this NEVER EVER EVER HAPPENED WHAT THE FUCK I STILL CANT BELIEVE IT
>approach, she is giggling, touching her necklace
>I'm not a social potato and know some shit about PUA so...
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Bump. Would like to know how to build myself up again after this screw up
Your PUA chucklecucks don't have any advice?
Seriously, it was only your second approach. You gotta keep at it.
>be me single
>clubbing with friends
>all of them obnoxious
>me chill
>girls be rolling their eyes at idiot friends
>then they look at me
>just chillin, not trying
>two girls climb in my lap
>well hello ladies
>you're a quiet one
>yea...
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I'm a 19 year old guy and I'm scared of kissing girls or having sex. Wat do?
>>16959824
Do you WANT to kiss girls or have sex?
>>16959824
Don't be afraid, it's nice
>>16959825
YES! But I'm scared.
Let's say you want to learn to be happy or at least glad by yourself (no relationships, no kids).
How did you achieve this ?
>>16959823
You don't. You can't learn to like something you don't like.
I've never wanted kids not because I'd be a shitty mother- I wouldn't be the best or the worst- but because I want that 20 years to live my own life, not raise/pay for kids. I want to explore the world and build a career and do what I want. I don't even like being around kids for more than a couple hours at a time.
As for a spouse, couples who have been married for a few years never seem happy to me. I mean you get the rare one that seems super happy, but that's definitely not the norm. I'm not strictly no relationships, but I just kind...
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>>16959831
Good luck telling that to your biological clock.
This large spot became noticeable on my neck about a year ago.
Was at first a perfect oval and then slowly got larger and less defined.
At one brief point midway of its existence their was a thin red bruise alongside one edge of it.
It does not ich, burn or hurt.
It does not feel more dry then any oother place on my skin.
Thanks for any help you can give.
Have a great rest of 2016.
>>16959820
My dad has that.
It's just a spot.
Not even kidding/trolling, get checked for throat cancer, my uncle died from it and he had a similar mark around the time he got diagnosed with it.
Anytime your body changes, you need to get medical advice. Maybe it's nothing, maybe it's something. But it isn't worth ignoring and then having a serious problem.
Promise--call dr for appt Tuesday morning.
As a guy with working-class parents, I worry at times that my girlfriend looks down on me - Her family carries more 'status', and are certainly wealthier. She is more accustomed to a better quality of living.
The romantic in me says don't be silly, but at the back of my head I'm always wondering if she'll decide to seek out a more worthy partner.
>We're both students in our twenties.
>>16959813
As soon as she realizes that you can't provide for her up to her standards, she's going to seek out a more capable mate. Either make something of yourself or make her unattractive to wealthier men.
I think her parents will be more concerned about how you treat their daughter, rather than how much money your parents have.
>>16959830
This. Period.
Sup guys, either I have a massive weird pimple. Or I have herpes.
I dont think it's a pinple since it is much more sensitive then other pimples I had as well as it seems there is no white stuff inside.
What do you think?
Bumpity
Ingrown hair.
I've had that before too, looks just like a clogged pore or ingrown hair. Shouldn't be a big deal
I'm at the first year of uni rn, in the winter semester I never really go out, the friend I was talking with was more of a nerd, he rarely got out saying that it's cause he's tired and lots of study to do. Our friendship just passed away over the time and we text occasionally now. Anyway I went a few times with guys I know from school or dorm but they were not really friends if you know what I'm saying.
This semester I was standing outside my dorm and was smoking a ciggy when I saw that this cute chick from my class is coming to the dorm, I knew her...
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So we are sitting in a bar like a couple weeks ago, we are rolling spliffs and B. always gives her a mouth to mouth shotgun, he wants to pass me one too but I always refuse, not minding it really. Next day B. texts me and tells me what happened the other night; when I went to take a piss after he gave her a hit he wanted to move it on a higher level and started to make out with her, after a while she pushed him away and told him that she had a relationship with a girl and that she really doesn't want a relationship rn.
Allegedly she had a bf before her and when I was talking with her about why we would quit smoking she would say that she will definitely quit when she'll be having a baby.
I'm confused about her. I want to make some moves but I don't want to fuck it up because since B. tried to move on her she became less of a friends with him and he always tells me that it feels like she avoids him.
I tried talking to her about it once "What if I had the same feelings as B. for you?" I told her. She was just sitting there, thinking and she was looking straight to my eyes the whole time, when she finally got some words for me, people we were chilling that night came back to the table. It seemed like she isn't going to be negative about it but I never got real answer but I know she likes me at least as much as I like her.
What do?
Shame.
