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To all my brothers and sisters on 4chan i need your help. I just checked my dating profile (OK Cupid) and a girl messaged me "hi" I have no idea where to go from here normally I'm the one sending the awkward text. But she looks like a really nice lady so what do I do 4chan bros
I'm the one in black
Reply in binary because it's a bot
>>16961939
boy you're ugly. respond. look at her profile and see if there is a common interst to mention
That's it guys, I'm gonna kill myself. I had enough of this pain.
I don't have any other person to say goodbye for me.
Do you guys wanna say something or can I just go and do it?
mind telling us why?
>>16961539
Failure in life.
I don't feel pleasure in living anymore.
How are you going to do it, I've been considering it myself
I need some serious help, whenever I talk to someone, the most difficult thing is keeping eye contact. It is extremely awkward and I can't seem to get the timing of how long to look at them. I either continuously look away every 2 seconds or I stare too deeply into their eyes for too long and all of this is very uncomfortable. I'm starting college next week and I went to orientation yesterday and It was cringe worthy socially for me, does anyone have this problem and/or a solution to it? I'm really trying not to be that weird awkward guy like I was in High School.
>>16960124
Armchair doctor here: sounds like you're autistic.
>>16960168
I'm not, I do have bad social anxiety though, but It's an on an off thing that just get's more awkward the longer the conversations goes on.
Avoiding eye contact is a signal that one is anxious, afraid or intimidated.
Looking in the eye is a signal of confidence and power.
When talking to people, you should always look in their eyes, simply choose one eye and stick to it, if you think you're making the person uncomfortable you can simply look away for a moment pretending to look at something in your surroundings and then look back into the eye, but do it smoothly and calmly.
There are people who are easily intimidated, anxious and simply can't maintain eye contact, specially if they're talking to someone with a strong aura of confidence and power, but if you're making everyone in the room uncomfortable then you're probably gazing at them like a serial killer, just look people in the eye normally, don't stare at them like you're superman shooting laser beams.
Didn't see one!
Mom,
I love you. You mean the world to me, and you are by far the most important person in my life which I know I can actually trust. I don't take you for granted, you raised me, you are a wonderful person. But my god, what you did, the mistake you made, you are such a stupid fucking cunt. I love you, but you're such a dumb fucking cunt and I wish I were never born so I'd never have to witness the utter stupidity of your actions, or rather, lack of actions. I hope things turn out for the best somehow, but I doubt it. You're a fucking dumb cunt. But...
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Bitches sure are thirsty. Talk them up for a bit and they just want to 'come over and play games' haha I almost fell for that, cause I'm so naive. Then I remembered that thing I remembered and politely told her about her
Brandon, you are a sad drunk piece of shit and you should get a fucking job and stop ditching people that love/care about you.
You fucking neglected me when I fell in love with you, and you strung me along and dropped me. You're despicable. Remember how you warned me about your friend I was talking to?
You told me, "He's creepy as fuck and wouldn't leave Avery alone" or some shit.
I know the real fucking story. She's a cunt who led him on, just like you're a cunt who led me on.
I'm glad I didn't listen to you because I'm...
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I'm a loser and human trash for being a 24 year old girl who's never been able to get a boyfriend right
I really feel like killing myself
>>16961485
Just date one of the guys off here.
Problem solved.
come back when you're 35. You've still got plenty of time
dis you op
so, i'm good at having sex. but i suck at making love. how do i do that? how do i keep it gentle and loving just for ONCE?
pls respond
The only thing I can suggest is practice. Make being gentle and loving your focus before during and after. If you're in a committed relationship, ask your partner what she wants from you.
Stroke/play with her hair, hold the cheek while kissing, gently rub with the thumb. Hold chin (gently) while kissing. Look into her eyes (although some might think that is weird, so don't stare for too long.) Kiss along the neck and breasts but do so slowly. Long deep thrusts, hold the hip and pull her closer to you. Just kiss a lot on the mouth and body, and generally do everything slower. Whisper some pretty things in her ear. Stuff like that.
Have i done fucked up?!
This girl had a mad crush on me before but i think i fucked up.
Yeah, if she lost the respect you are fairly fucked, man.
Get it Off your chest
>>16953755
Being in edgelord on the internet was probably one of the better decisions in my life
>>16953761
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>>16953755
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do guys like girls that are needy? who text them often (not like constantly, but a lot) call them often etc.??
I feel like ive gotten really clingy towards my bf and I kinda feel like hes better getting angrier with me/being more sensitive than usual and such...
so ive started to try keeping more of a distance (letting him text me first 80%of the time, set up plans, etc.) to show that im not super needy/clingy and im fine on my own
thoughts?
whats annoying, desirable, etc?
Everyone is different, I would say I'm similar to you in terms of how much contact I prefer.
It's good that you've backed up a bit, especially if he's been a bit moody.
I think as long as the timing and amount of contact is pretty equal between both people it's probably fine.
>>16961137
I like to hear from my SO at least once a day via text, but I like my space otherwise. I hate the phone, so calls without purpose would get annoying.
Clingy isn't good, but neither is a "I can take him or leave him" approach.
>>16961137
nobody likes neediness. no one likes a clinger. you have to have your own life, hobbies, shit to do, etc. i have terminated relationships over this.
This is the shape of my head, what haircut would be good for me?
>>16961132
Style your hair, preferably with something not too glossy or hard I guess, I'm not really an expert. I'm guessing you are Indian, or some kind of middle eastern and the stereotype is that those people use awful hair products and style terribly.
>>16961132
It might or might not work so use common sense, but some kind of undercut is still kind of stylish
>drank nothing but soda from '93 to '14
>worry about muh weight and muh teeth
>decide to kick it, and find some good-tasting water
>pic related is pretty good
>also start drinking coffee every morning (about 8 "cups")
>fast-forward to today
>gained more weight than ever
>people are telling me it's the...
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You need to get into the habit of drinking just plain water.
>>16961129
drink water and you will drop a fuck ton of weight.
8 fucking cups??!?! I'm hoping it's just black and even then it's still bad. I think you should consider the "go natural meme", while natural =/= good it's an easy way to become a bit healthier since you clearly have no idea what you're doing.
I know this a pretty common thing, but I feel like I am afraid of being intimate with people. I am a generally reserved person and I try to control my emotions when handling situations. I think it's because I've been hurt by people close to me and it has become a defensive reaction. My problem is that I struggle explaining my feelings to friends and when dating. It's not because I don't know how to explain it, it's that I feel uncomfortable when I do. Does this make any sense?
I noticed this about myself when I was dating this one girl for a while, she was super sweet and really nice and it freaked me out. Mostly the idea of someone reciprocating was totally bizarre to me and I feel extremely bad that I couldn't convey to her that I appreciated her. If anything I felt sick that someone was trying to get intimate with me. Like eating too much cotton candy and puking rainbows. I guess I'm just too used to hiding my vulnerability and my emotions.
We're still somewhat dating, mostly because we both go to school in different parts of the world and we have intentions to hang out with each other.
Can anyone relate to this at all? I know there is this idea that in love, we tend to gravitate towards people who treat us the way we see ourselves hence why people bitch about girls going out with douches and why going out with nice people can be off putting. Now that I think about my last two long term relationships were pretty one-sided and felt emotionally abusive.
I can kind of relate. Putting your true feelings out there is, for lack of a better way to describe it, sort of dangerous. I feel this way because my history is mostly full of people betraying that sort of trust, and I have enough trouble with social situations that I don't want people to make it harder for me. People have always called me strange, weird, creepy, etc. I've worked on not appearing as such, so now I hide my real thoughts to not be excluded.
But I can't relate all the way, because what I really want is someone who I can be myself around,...
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>>16961090
Yeah I totally get what you mean, and I guess my problem is being comfortable with my emotions and feelings rather than seeing them as a nusiance.
>Had sex for the first time last 2 days.
>Can't stop thinking about sex
>Have a paper due soon
Any advice to stop thinking so much on sex? Even when I try to watch something it pops up. How long does it last?
>>16960878
Have more sex while you still can
>>16960878
fuck or fap
gotta get the poison out to clear the mind
>Placing random, meaningless stickers in public places just to make people think about it.
Is that so bad an idea? I always felt like I should try this out.
>>16960850
My hometown is littered with Antifa stickers despite the fact that it's already a liberal shithole. Apparently not actually having fascists isn't good enough, we need to be at all times aware of the fact that kids with fluorescent hair are ready to do... something if someone says anything right wing.
So basically I find it preachy and annoying and I'd rather you put stickers up your ass, because why advertise your opinions like they matter?
>>16960885
Eh, that's heavy. It wasn't exactly what I was thinking but it makes sense. People could come up with weird meanings with the stuff I'd stick around.
>>16960892
Who cares about weird meanings?
Everything involving anything can be caught up wrong, you shouldnt think about it that much, just do it.
And as long as nobody sees you nobody will know that YOU put them there in the first place.
How am I supposed to pick a new haircut? I've had the same hair for years.
>>16960795
Went from long hair (6+ yrs) to undercut today.
Feels great and looks great.
Grow a mullet
http://young-stalin.com/ has some decent hairstyles you could use.
grabbed this from the /fa/ wiki so take some of these styles with a grain of salt, but overall it's a good reference to use.
