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Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something we cannot explain to you. In video game terms, you are lvl 1 social skills and the "Interpret signs" ability requires level 10 to unlock. Get more experience.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
>Brandon
Fuck off
>>16973567
Has anyone really been far as decided to use even go want to do look more like?
>>16973567
I accidentally a whole Dr. Pepper is that bad?
General advice thread
Do you want to talk about it?
I'm so fucking tired of talking. I can't believe all of this is happening again. 7 years of this endless spiral of fucking sadness, and it's really getting worse every time it comes back around. I barely get to pick up the fucking pieces of my heart and mind, and then it all gets shattered once again. It's like all my life is about is just picking up broken pieces of myself. I don't even have any motivation to do it anymore. I won't kill myself because I know it'd tear apart my loved ones, but I really don't enjoy living at all. The brief moments of happiness seem only to exist, so I can be reminded how fucking depressed I am. And whatever brings me that happiness turns into the very nightmare that causes my suffering. I'm so fucking tired. I thought that I was out of it this time. I took a lot of convincing, but I was convinced. In that moment is when everything fell apart. I just exist, now. I don't live. All I feel is just sadness... I'm so damn tired.
>>16969197
My 5 year old son has severe autism and can not talk. My 2 year old daughter has cancer and the past year of treatment has been incredibly difficult. We still have a year of treatment to go. My Fiance and i have not been able to get marred due to our daughters cancer treatment. My family leans on me for all the emotional support and direction i can give them. Our sex life has been very low which is understandable but still frustrating. My fiance is the primary income for our family since i am primary caregiver to our kids, which is a full time when cancer is involved. I live in constant fear that my daughter will spike a fever which will result in us spending 2 weeks to a month in the hospital and running out of money. My fiances family tho nearby reserve the right to judge us, but never offer a single bit of help. And my fiances father is a convicted pedophile who can not help and will not help as long as i am alive. Sometimes i want to die but i keep may family safe and alive in a lot of ways. I know its hard on my fiance too so i try not to dump on her. Having a 2 year old daughter painfully suffer to be cured is hard and there is still another year left. All the while my son still can't communicate with us.
>>16969269
I know it doesn't do shit, but I fucking pray for you, man. I hope things get better for you and your family.
My friend is being harrassed on facebook, how do I respond ?
I don't see the problem here. Also, way to censor your friend while posting name of the other person. I hope this isn't a "subtle" PA request.
Best thing to do is advise your friend to ignore that lady - she obviously has a huge stick up her butt for some reason. Your friend should "unfriend" her too.
That's not harassment. It's a simple discussion.
Everyone says "break up" but HOW do you break up with a dangerous person under such difficult circumstances without destroying your entire life in the process?
>we live together
>all my belongings are mixed up with hers
>she has no car and treats mine as if it's hers
>my personal phone is under her parents' plan
>we're connected on nearly every app and most websites we use
>she's facebook friends with members of my family
>she knows where my family lives
>she knows where i work
>she's threatened to kill herself if i don't figure out all our problems
>she's threatened to kill herself if i don't continue dating her
>i still care about her though (fuck me)
I DON'T WANT TO LIVE LIKE THIS ANYMORE
I WANT TO GET OFF THIS WILD RIDE
WHAT THE FUCK DO I DO?
Talk to family you trust about it. Talk to her family and say she's talking about suicide. Have her family take care of her, tell them you can't.
>>16969897
>i still care about her though
Made up your mind, you wanna break up or not?
>we live together
move out
>all my belongings are mixed up with hers
you are a man, you need 1 pants and some money to survive :-D
>she has no car and treats mine as if it's hers
move out with keys
>my personal phone is under her parents' plan
get new number
>we're connected on nearly every app and most websites we use
get new accounts / blacklist
>she knows where my family lives
>she knows where i work
inform your surroundings that the crazy bitch might come
>she's threatened to kill herself
i wonder if she is serious about it. If she is, make her, problem solve itself. But she is bluffing anon. Seriously how did you not find out sooner she is crazy?
phone the police and tell them all of this shit so they can keep you and your family safe while you separate
is this a case of domestic abuse?
How do you people seem to be able to get sex so easily? I went out every weekend to a bar, game, even a pier to go fishing for the last month, and I can't even get a girl to talk to me. Tell me your secret please
Are you an introvert? Do you communicate like a normal human being? How do you look? How old are you? If you're 18 or younger, it'll take time, if you're in your mid-twenties, maybe there's something you're doing wrong. What's the problem you think?
>>16974132
>I can't even get a girl to talk to me
>girl to talk to me
Sounds like we've ID'd your problem. How many girls did YOU talk to?
>my guess: 0
I'm 27 and last week spoke to 10 random girls at the bar, 0 at the fishing pier, and 5 or so at the hockey game. Nothing.
Not a wizard, but I feel like I'm missing out on a lot.
What is the best Career? I was considering going for finance and getting in banking/investment banking but considering most bankers are heartless jews I'm not so sure anymore. Maybe i'll do engineering or something and actually do something useful. What do you guys think?
>>16974003
>best Career
>best
That's subjective. The biggest question is: what matters most to you, liking it, having good prospects (can easily find a job), or eventually being able to make as much money as possible (even if getting a job like this is INSANELY competitive and difficult)?
>>16974003
>I was considering going for finance and getting in banking/investment banking but considering most bankers are heartless jews
>I realized I'm too fucking stupid to handle spreadsheets
FTFY
Hijacking this thread because OP can't be helped.
Is aerospace engineering a good major to xhoose? I'm interested in it and all, but from the bureau of labor statistics jobs there's a 2% decline for them. When I graduate will I still be able to find a aerospace engineering job?
Here is some unsolicited advice. kill me if you must.
>if you want a 'gf' you are doing life wrong
relationships are unique, each and everyone. people are not appliances. to say 'i want a gf' doesn't make sense because you have no definition of what a GF is, or rather you do and are just looking for someone to fit that standard.
people like each other because they see each other as special, and in turn feel special because of that person. you should only want a 'gf' becuase a very specific person makes you want them in your life. otherwise you are just asking for someone to fill a random series of traits. why would a person want to be that to you? just a random person who happened to say 'yes'.
by wanting a 'gf' you are no different than those 12 year olds on the internet who go from chatroom to chatroom asking each random girl to be their date so that they can tell everyone they arent single. Focus instead on making your life enjoyable by doing the things you want to do. you dont need a romantic partner to share your life with. even if you had one, they wouldn't be interested in doing every thing you wanted to do. so do what you want, and when the right person comes along they will see you being happy and want to be a part of that.
>>16973536
>dont just hit on a woman
its no secret that women are the ones who are approached, and they make decisions on which men to keep in their lives. that being said, desperately drooling over each and every girl as if they are a potential love interest is silly.
give yourself more value by not letting a woman sway you on first impressions alone. before you ever begin to say anything remotely flirtatious, talk to the girl. see what she actually acts like when you interact with her. have a normal conversation. if there isnt anything special there beyond her looks, friendzone her. or simply stop talking to her. you do not need to hit on each and every girl that looks good enough to be your partner.
doing this gives you more value, and the psychological effects are great. in addition, women will take you more seriously. instead of being 1 of 500 men in new york who went straight for the kill, you took the time to get to know them. whether it goes anywhere or not, this approach also just gives you practice talking to girls in a casual context. its less pressure than trying to impress them.
>>16973536
Smart advice, I'd say avoid a serious relationship like the plague as a man, but that was pretty balanced and well thought out.
>>16973544
>only ever use dating apps as a supplement to your real life dating.
dating apps are toxic. consider the following
>people use dating apps because they arent having much luck in real life
>they go to a dating app where they are introduced to an entire smorgasbord of men who want nothing more than to bang and/or date them
>after just one day they will have seen everyone in their area
>within one week they would have talked to everyone they are interested in
so anyone who has been using the app for more than a few weeks clearly has some sort of issue. likely, they are the female equivelent of what i discussed in my first post.
they want a 'bf' but because they have a very specific idea of what a bf is, they arent finding it anywhere. instead of seeing if they have real chemistry, they are simply walking down the aisle, trying to figure out what is the ONE thing at the groccery store they can buy, based solely on pictures and labels.
if a woman is on tinder for too long, they are losing their ability to feel chemistry.
you as a man can fall into a very similar pattern here, but with the added harshness of constant rejection.
it is an app made for people who want to date, yet no one seems to have success there for very long. that should tell you something.
She was ovulating at the time. From what I know I pulled out in time and nothing got inside of her. Her period is due in a week and she's freaking out coz she has sore boobs. Is she being paranoid or is there a chance of her being pregnant?
bump (no pun intended) coz im worried
get a test
>>16973355
I've gone through several scares... If she is preggers lmao, goodluck familia, its all in the hands of the gods.
looking for advice from camwhores.
Me and my girlfriend are broke students and are interested in making a bitt a cash by camping together. However we are both pusses and don't wanna show our faces(masks maybe), is this a possibility or would we just not get anywhere. Also if this is a possibility, how would we get started. thanks
*camming
Masks are fine, but do you have good bodies? Are you good in bed? Would it be interesting to watch you have sex?
>>16973265
I have a decidedly average body but she has definitely got a banging body, petite but decent tits and fat ass. i think we are pretty good in bed but desu i can't know for sure as no ones ever watched us and passed judgement haha, we would be willing to do shit like anal or kinky stuff too if that helps
What`s the best way to shoplift?
>>16972082
>take item
>put into basket
>go to counter
>place items from basket onto conveyor belt
>give money
>get free bag
no one loses!!!
>>16972082
>stuff melons into shirt
>steal a wig
>steal make-up
>???
>profit!
>>16972082
Putting the merch up your butt of course
>Question for femanons
How can a man become a feminist?
>>16973972
depends on the definition of feminist. the most logical and well meaning one is simply to vote in favor of feminist (but just) legislation, and support women in any situation you can that makes sense.
as in, dont hire someone just because they are a woman, but do not disregard them for being a woman either. whenever you get a choice that is between male and female stop and say to yourself 'am i siding with the male simply because he is male?'
It can be hard to see the line between choosing someone purely for being male and becuase you'd get a long with them really well (which is often tied to being male to a large degree).
but as long as you try to be the best person you can and treat all people equally, you are doing a good job.
if your end goal is to get your dick wet, just say "women are people too" and i swear i wish i was lying when i say that.
if you think that there oppressive situations for women exist, what >>16973982 said applies. the basic idea is that you look at everyone as people equally. as long as you can do that and be a good person, you're good to go
>>16973982
Hmm. Intredesting. Personally, I long for gender equality in a misogynistic world. So is voting for Killary because I want to see women take a leading role (to help quell sentiment that females are second rate) a good start for me? Or is that the wrong way?
Banned from fit for posting this.
How do I get rid of a cuckolding/femdom/humiliation fetish?
I don't want to be this way. Why does this stuff turn me on? Is it because I feel inadequate?
Has any successfully gotten rid of this fetish?
why? just become a pimp and make dosh off your bitches
>>16973950
why would you post this in /fit/?
>>16973950
I can't tell if you're memeing but if your not I'll try to help.
Do you have problems with self hatred?
Where you abused as a kid?
Do you also get satisfaction from physical pain?
Is your fetish racial in nature (only like to watch Mexican or black guys etc)
Are you in a relationship where you are cuckolded currently?
I was wondering, do you guys know any ways to cut yourself without causing any really harm? Like are there any specific types of knives or blades to use.
>>16973660
They don't call it self-harm for nothing.
Bad case of pic related?
>>16973719
Well I don't want to maim myself. I've just had some intrusive thoughts about cutting myself and I'm curious.
So /adv/, recently I was swerved by a girl and it's got me rethinking all the shit I want in my life.
What do you want in life? And how are you working towards it?
To explore.
I'm working to get a good enough job to have the means to do it.
>>16973426
for the most part i just want to be a TV writer. that goal will likely never happen in a real sense, so ive built my life in a way that lets me work out my creative kinks the same way. mostly with web series. im learning 3d animation (cuz the new motion capture is amazing) and will likely transition into doing 3d animated series instead of live action in the future.
outside of that i just want to be happy. so if something doesnt bring me joy, i get rid of it. ripping a bandaid off is only temporary pain. everything i do i do becuase it gives me joy, or it will give me joy due to the reward.
To love, I don't think I'm capable of it
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