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What can I do about this?
I'm a 20 year old girl, didn't grow up with a dad (in before daddy issues) and ever since I became sexually active (17), I've almost exclusively been into white, married men, ranging from their 30s to late 40s. I find them so much more attractive than men my own age, they have their shit together and they're just a lot more mature, so the usual reasons.
But I also feel sympathy in that a lot of these cases these men's wives treat them like shit, don't respect them, don't really cater to their needs in any way. So in a way I feel like I'm actually taking care of them and loving them in a way their wives aren't.
How do I stop these feelings?
>>16987283
>inb4 daddy issues
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>So in a way I feel like I'm actually taking care of them and loving them in a way their wives aren't.
These are men betraying the person they swore would love until the day they died, unconditionally. They're basically scum of the earth.
You put them on a pedestal because you didn't have a father and want them to be yours and to have a connection with them, but they're just using your body and that's it. They will throw you away eventually because their family is still a bigger priority than a random teenager. Perhaps one of these dysfunctional bastards might even divorce to be with you, but if he did that you wouldn't like him anymore.
I guess if you ever want to be taken seriously and viewed as a respectful woman you'd understand how trashy what you're doing is and the feelings will stop naturally or you'll force them to.
>>16987298
You don't understand how shittily these wives treat their men though.
I want to understand humans.
I had a chance in Japan to participate with some foreigners (many of them exchange students) to help some 'all-girls' high school students with English assignments.
In Japanese high schools, students aren't allowed to wear makeup, that being said, there are makeup-less beauties in beautiful uniforms everywhere.
You and I know that it's not hard to tell when a guy likes a girl. Many of these girls are 15-17.
I am confused because people preach about how savage and disgusting it is to be attracted to anyone below 17, barely even 18 these days. They say it's gross, it's against the rules and whatever their reasoning may be. But when arrogant foreigners are introduced to beautiful high-schoolers, they contradict their claim-to-be beliefs.
>Are people saying ‘it’s wrong to like be attracted to someone under 17’ just to sound like a good person?
>From my experiences, people say that, but can’t follow up on it at all, especially when they have a safe(r) opportunity.
>Thoughts?
>Are people saying ‘it’s wrong to like be attracted to someone under 17’ just to sound like a good person?
No they say it because it fucking wrong , there are plenty of beautiful girls above the age of 18 why would you want to go to children for that sort of thing , attraction to 16 and 17 year olds is somewhat understandable these days because of how the dress and present themselves they don't look that young but either way it's just a no go zone
>>16987165
>Are people saying ‘it’s wrong to like be attracted to someone under 17’ just to sound like a good person?
Depends on who's saying it. Most people agree with it because it's simply society's standard of behavior. Note the variation by country in whether the age is 17 or 18 (or something very different).
I personally think it's wrong because high-schoolers generally are not emotionally mature enough to participate in sex or relationships, and can easily be seriously hurt. Those of us that are older have the responsibility to try to protect them from trauma until they're ready to engage romantically in safe and mutually beneficial ways. I'd say my absolute limit would be around 20 or so.
Of course, not everyone thinks this way. After all, in many places the average age at which people lose their virginity is around 17, which implies that for every person that loses it at 19, one person first had sex at 15. On top of that, in many places boys under the legal age are expected and pressured to be sexually active, hence the constant posts on here by people saying "i'm 19 and haven't lost my virginity yet, i'm a worthless neckbeard and going to die alone aren't i".
>>16987165
there's no denying that there are some really beautiful looking kids and teens. a lot of supermodels are around 16 years old. it's natural to feel attracted to them, but it would be wrong to act on it.
they aren't mentally stable or mature enough to handle a relationship with someone who has more life experience.
hell, at this age, they'll fall for the "nigerian prince scheme" under the right circumstances. this puts them in a vulnerable position to be manipulated. and when they are this young and impressionable, how you will treat them will shape and affect their mentality for life. you can easily make them a sex slave at that age and fuck them up for life. this is why people think pedophiles are disgusting, because they literally fetishize kids and get off on the fact that they're so naive and easy to manipulate.
if someone is an adult and don't understand this yet, and still chooses to act on their sexual desires on kids, they're probably weak in character, morals, and empathy and should therefore be treated as the subhuman that they are.
>be friends with a group for 5 years
>for the past year, one boy from the group invites me to hang out 1 on 1 every so often
>never calls it a "date" though
>I say yes sometimes, want to give him a chance
>decide that I don't really like spending time with him 1 on 1
>he still asks me to do stuff
>every time I say I'm busy or not interested in going to something he follows up with "well how about ____ then?"
>still has never asked me on a date or confessed feelings
I don't know what to do here- he obviously likes me. I wish he would confess to me so that I could politely tell him I'm only interested in a friendship with him and he'd stop asking me to hang out 1 on 1.
I feel bad about constantly declining his invitations to things. I've been giving him very strong signals that I'm only interested in friendship with him, but he keeps asking to hang out 1 on 1.
I feel wierd about saying something like "I'm not interested in you romantically" out of the blue because, again, he has never made any ACTUAL moves that he wants more than a friendship.
I was thinking about just saying something like "oh thank you so much for inviting me but I actually started seeing someone recently and he said he didn't feel comfortable with me hanging out one on one with another guy"
What do you think??
Again I'd have no problem rejecting him if he came right out and asked me, but he's so lukewarm it's difficult to justify an unprompted rejection
>>16986917
This guy sounds like he got instructions from /adv/
>>16986921
Really? I hope he doesn't browse here lol that would be awkward.
I wonder if he would be able to tell who I am from this post and the back of my head
>All these mind games cause you dont want to swallow your pride and have a one to one conversation with someone.
What are you? Still in high school?
You're afraid that if you tell him that there's a possibility that he'd just brush it off and pretend there were no feelings in the first place, or that he wouldn't be pretending at all.
Stop being an immature little brat.
>girl i love has a boyfriend
>he's literally perfect
what should i do?
move the fuck on
move the fuck on
fuck the move on
Is Oral "sex" allowed before marriage in Christianity?
>Oral sex isn't sex
You're adorable.
>>16986566
"Stay moral; go oral!"
Enjoy Hell, btw.
No but anal sex is permitted
How do people have unprotected sex without freaking out about STDs and pregnancy? Even with birth control and pulling out, there's still that chance, isn't there? This is something that's been bothering me lately since my gf and I had a talk about how to up our sex life.
It's just jarring that we use condoms every time, yet I'll be with friends who will say that they never use one, or girls that will worry about being pregnant. Is there a responsible way to have unprotected sex, or are you just being a risky idiot by doing it, no matter what?
I raw dog my girl, and I know I'm being stupid, so I switched to condoms. Most of these people think "I'm careful, I pull out so it won't happen to me" but that first pregnancy scare usually sets people straight
Oh yeah! You bet there's a chance!
Most of the girls in my hometown are all single moms cause they were too dumb to believe the pull out game existed.
At least you and your gf are smart and talk about that shit.
There's always a risk even with condoms but really, plan b or the pill will do the trick. Keep on keeping on OP
My girl is on birth control so hard she doesn't have periods
My girlfriend came out to me as transgender. I am attracted to females, but I'm in a committed relationship with my partner. I am shocked and I don't know what to do. Any suggestions?
>>16986218
Shes mentally ill. I wouldn't touch it with your dick.
But seriously, abort. Gently.
>but I'm in a committed relationship with my partner.
Under the pretense that she's a mentally stable girlfriend. Not a mentally unstable half sheman thing.
>>16986230
this desu senpai
Clinically depressed trans girl here. I desperately want to feel close to someone, physically and otherwise.
I've never had a boyfriend and don't know how to make it happen. And I'm already almost 30.
Hate my life.
>>16986180
Have you been to therapy op?
>>16986180
>trans girl
Mentally Ill man*
FTFY
>>16986180
being clinically depressed means you are not stable enough to be in a relationship. by saying 'i am clinically depressed' you are admitting that your life and emotions are outside of your control, so how could you possibly help someone deal with theirs if you cant even deal with your own?
relationships do not fix people.
>have crush on coworker
>we live about 10 minutes away from each other
>she is moving to another branch of the company, so I won't see her at work anymore
>today is her last day, i emailed her: hope you're well, good luck in her new position.
>she replied: how have you been? thanks, please stay in touch and have a good weekend.
w-would it be weird to email her on Monday and ask to get a coffee sometime?
i do have her number, got it 6 months ago, but have never texted her before, so i think it would be weird to text her out of the blue
or is this idea autistic and will make her ignore me and tell her new coworkers about the weirdo who asked her out over email?
>>16985911
It wouldn't hurt to try and the chances of you EVER seeing her again are super slim. Unless you guys have like company parties and branches get together or something. Do it OP, you have nothing to lose. Don't worry about rejection, it's the only way to progress in life. You have to fail to move forward. Fuck her coworkers.
btw email or text, personally I don't think it matters which, but texting seems to be a more personal form of contact. I'd go with texting.
>>16985929
>Unless you guys have like company parties and branches get together or something
in december there are two big parties where people from every branch is invited, but nothing else.
i think i'll email. i've never texted her before, don't want to surprise her with a text. would rather continue the email chain
we're not that close either, i've never contacted her on skype for example.. but i never contact anyone on skype, i'm a friendless loser
is there a good way to word the email?
bump
was thinking of emailing the following on monday
>i've been good. do you want to grab a coffee sometime in (cityname) [we live in the suburbs and commute to work]
what exactly does 'please keep in touch' mean?
we have going away emails at work, and everyone writes it. she wrote it in her email.
is it just a nice thing to say? asking for a coffee is a way to keep in touch right?
FWB like when I talk to her dirty while fucking her.
>you're such a little whore
>take my cock you dirty slut
That's pretty much all I know how to say.what are some dirty degrading things to say when fucking?
"You like that don't you, you dirty fucking slut? Yeah I bet you do after your daddy left you alone and miserable. Fucking slut, I bet you were sad and were left wondering if he left because of you."
> i wanna take a fat shit on your chest and then make you eat it.
I almost called her a cumdumpster but didn't want to reveal my powerl level
Ask me anything :(
>ask me anything
literally troll or literally attention seeking
go fuck yourself
Who did it?
>>16985764
Babysitter. Mom paid some asshole high school guy to watch me when she was at work.
I need help and i dont know what to do. My 14 year old cousin is being cyberbullied. This has been going on for months. The cops and the school arnt doing anything. Need help please!!!!
Is it possible to be in a good relationship if you are mentally ill (depression, Bipolar...).
Only if it's under consistent and effective treatment.
>>16985604
No. Now quit fucking around on this website and solve those problems before you worry about muh gf
>>16985610
I am using treatment through a psychologist.
>>16985611
Nice if you could give some suggestions. Fucking around 4chan is not fun at all.
Hey /adv/. Any advice for a man getting married tommorow?
>>16985397
Spend time to reflect on the past and look forwards towards your future with this woman. Also don't do anything retarded like a bachelor party in a strip club. Also, congratulations anon.
>>16985397
its not too late
you can still escape
>>16985410
Oh! Some sincere advice! Thanks, anon
>>16985423
Ha, about what I expected. I know I can but I don't want to.
Also, you're free to ask me stuff if you have anything in mind that's related to me or the wedding
I'll keep it short as I can. I'm mid 20s. Great job, everything else going for me. Thankful for that.
Been in a relationship with a gorgeous girl for 4 years now. We've been long-distance ish (100 miles) nearly the whole time. For the first 6 mo, I discovered that she had been cheating on me off and on w/ her ex. When I found out, I was devastated, and broke it off. Got back together about a month afterwards - I was lonely, school was difficult, and she seemed remorseful. Since then, things have been mostly good, save for a guy getting somewhat close to her a few months afterwards. I did what I said I wouldn't do and got back with her and now have fallen for her.
I keep having recurring thoughts lately of her infidelity. How blatant it was, how badly she lied to me. I know I'll get blasted for admitting this but I have nowhere else to go, and yes I'm being serious. I just want some strong words of advice.
Should I let the past be the past, and move forward? I'll always be hypervigilant about her cheating. About her talking with guys, about what could happen in the future. Wondering if she's cheated with me since and I would have no way of knowing. My family is not a fan of her, but I'm prepared to stand up to them if I were to ever take it further and propose/move in.
What should I do? I could easily cheat on her this weekend (some girls are a phone call away), she wouldn't know. Part of me feels like taht would "make things even" and I could move on in peace, but another part of me feels like I'd feel shitty for it, and I've never done anything like that. Should I break it off? Stay with her and forget about it because it all seems good now? Please help.
Hi, Cuck.
Not sure what to tell you, you'll never forget it. I'm not even sure if forgivesness is possible due to that. Forgive but not forget doesn't seem to work for serious discretions. For me I feel like making it even would work for me but I don't know for sure. You can't go on and keep wondering about this friend or that coworker, that's no way to live. Why doesn't your family like her? They know?
Should I cheat on her? I legitimately would have never thought I would do this. Would it make me feel better and be able to move on and forgive her? I barely ever see her and have a really high sex drive. She's madly in love with me right now so breaking up would NOT be easy or quick.
>>16985401
No, it's not because of this (at least to my knowledge).
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