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Being driven home from a party on Friday night, while drunk, I let slip that I had a crush on a fellow co-worker to the others in the car. The worst part is the biggest blabber was also in the car.
What do?
>omg anon is attracted to the opposite sex WHAT A LOSER
Is your job safety patrol at an elementary school? Because if not i can't imagine any co-workers caring
Quit your job, obviously. That's the normal, rational thing to do
>>16970519
Ya, no one gives a shit dude.
>be me, assistant
>boss is normally pretty hostile to me, partly his personality and partly my own fuck-ups
>task: order him a 7 x 10 picture frame
>first one was half an inch too small
>order another one, ask him "7.5 by 10, right?"
>he says yes
>frame arrives, turns out it should've been 7 by 10.5
>calls me a "horrible fucking assistant"
How much of this is my fault? If it isn't, please share stories of dick bosses so I can feel a little bit better
Get a New Job
>>16970503
It's very important experience for my career goals. I've only been here for three months. At the earliest, they can fire me in May.
Tell your boss he's not going to talk to you like that in a professional environment. Bring a voice recorder to work if you have to, but it's not going to get better if you don't confront him.
You may just be sensitive, not that I'm doubting your story, but some men just communicate in a crude fashion like that, without realizing how they come across.
Are you a female?
How do I get sex stuff secretly? My mom / step dad open every package that comes into the house, no exceptions (unless I happen to be there when it arrives, which is unlikely) I'm 18 but I live in a small town so I'm terrified of going to the one, tiny sex shop we have. I mainly just wanted lube and maybe try one of those little tenga eggs. I can't think of anything besides going out of town to do it, but that'd cost a lot of time and gas. Ideas?
Mail it to a friends house. Pharmacies sell lube. Go to a novelty gift shop at the nearest mall.
If I have kids I will never treat them like this what the fuck is wrong with your parents. Mine did the same shit, it's a horrible feeling to be LITERALLY 18 YEARS OLD and have your rights constantly violated. Get a PO Box at the post office. They're like 30 to 80 dollars a year, and if the package is too big for the box theyll hold it for you to get at the counter.
>>16970508
I don't want my friends knowing I'm buying fap material either lol, I'm sure they know I'm a loser who can't get any enough already. I still don't want to buy in public though, idk feels uncomfortable to me.
>>16970557
Yeah it sucks. I've talked to my mom about it and she doesn't really open them anymore unless there isn't a name on it, but my step dad is an asshole and he really doesn't care so he'll open anything that comes to the door. He is pretty heavy set on the "it's my house I will open anything that comes to my house" ideal.
Do women approach guys solely in the belief that they are successful?
My friend who is about 5 out of 10 has been approached by quite a few girls recently due to them seeing him film music events. They all asked for his number but he doesent have a phone so he told them to add him on facebook, and they asked about his profession. He is 22 and a virgin. Some women have approached me before when i have been wearing a suit.
If he's a virgin, all of what you said amounts to nothing. Clearly being approached doesn't mean shit
>>16970425
why does it amount to nothing? he isnt doing it for pussy. he has a passion for filming. he is shit with women though which annoying me because he gets chances.
Here's another headscratcher for you, OP:
Do men approach women solely in the belief that they have a hot ass?
I feel like such shit /adv/. I feel like I am doomed to only ever be an observer. I look at my friends on facebook and snap chat and their lives seem so exciting.
I have one dude on snap chat who gets to go to so many parties and be the life of the crowd. Girls like twerk on his snap chat and blow him kisses and shit. It looks like they have a lot of fun. They are funny and I guess a blast to be around.
What am I doing? I sit here just watching all this shit with envy and knowing that I could never do that. not at this point.
I am fucking 26 and it feels like I am trapped in a cage. Never had a girlfriend. Never really partied. No clubbing. The problem is I am not even sure if I want to do any of those things. I realize how shit it can all be after the party is over but god damn.. I am lonely, bored and sick of just watching.
What the fuck can even be done? The people on snap chat are in their fucking early twenties. I am late 20's so I would look out of place hanging out with them.
Help me. Is there any hope? So sick of just WATCHING.
Same age here, similar trouble, but with experience.
search fb events and if something seems interesting, go there, if nervous, take afriend with you.
do that and repeat, find hobbies... can´t help you with relationships, but you will find friends this way...
little hint: most of those snapchat happy people are making it glamorous even though they feel like shit most of the time too.... it´s mostly just fake...
>>16970373
but the snap chats look so fucking HYPE.
I wish I had more hobbies. I feel like shit because my hobbies are shit. I am really envious of a friend who is like a wood carver. He makes excellent carvings. I wish I could do something like him but I don't have the capital(it seems like any hobby worth doing.. you always need a workshop or garage to fucking do it. I live in a studio apartment so none of that would be happening).
Go travel. For real. Go travel to a different country. especially over New Years.
I'm a lot like you. I'm a quiet guy, no clubbing or anything crazy. never go to parties. Last winter I went to Europe on a personal vacation. Man it was Nice. Just go get away and explore something interesting and exciting. Also, I was in Venice for New Years and stayed in a Hostel. Great experience. I'm not good at approaching strangers and starting a convo. But in the Hostel it was easy because everyone there was open and interesting. You could comfortably just talk with people. So I hug out with a cute Canadian girl and these 2 cool dudes from Brazil and Germany and we explored all over Venice. Then we went to the NYE celebration, saw the fireworks and then got drunk as fuck at the hostel (the Hostel had a huge party for its guests) and it was so fun!
So I got a cross tattoo on my right shoulder but I now feel as though it makes me weak. What should I do?
>>16970336
Make it a black diamond. Get it removed.
Is that it? Post a pic if not. You can cover it with another tattoo (we can give suggestions if you post it)
>>16970378
yeah Im working on getting it removed but I think there will be a ghost image left of the cross which isn't good.
I was recently exiled by a community of friends from college for being a red piller.
Does there even exist ANY kind of in-person community of like minded red pill individuals? And if so, where (and how) do I join them?
Or are all in-person communities blue pill by nature, and I must hide my true self when around other people at all times?
join a aonic fanclub so u can hang with the rest of the edgelords
Can't you have your own thoughts without calling yourself a communist
kids today wtf
>>16970279
>I was recently exiled by a community of friends from college for being a red piller.
Good. Take the hint and grow the fuck up.
>Does there even exist ANY kind of in-person community of like minded red pill individuals?
The sex-crimes wing of your local prison. Maybe the ward for sexually dangerous patients at yout local mental institution. The methods for joining should be obvious.
>Or are all in-person communities blue pill by nature, and I must hide my true self when around other people at all times?
You will never be able to hide it for long. What you really have to do is stop being a redpiller.
So next week a female friend of mine is going to visit me while my parents are away this weekend.
Last week, we met and ended up playing Outlast, in the dark, which was pretty fun actually - so we're probably going to repeat that.
However, being the kissless virgin that I am, I wonder if there's any way to turn this into... well, more. Maybe some kind of FWB situation?
How would I approach that? I don't want to lose her as a friend, but I'd enjoy physical contact for once.
I don't have any tips because I'm a pathetic viring too, but I wish you good luck anon.
>>16970006
"You look tense. Would you like a butt massage?"
yes - golden
no - "Okeydoke, sorry I asked, you just have a really massageable butt. Want to play outlast instead?"
Enjoy ensuing awkward silence.
>>16970027
>good luck
thanks
>>16970028
I laughed at least.
Anything... slightly more serious, maybe?
This is my first time posting on here, so sorry if I'm doing something wrong.
For the past few years, I've been sad, unhappy, unfulfilled and feeling like something is missing. I'm pretty sure no girls like me and the ones that I actually like or am attracted to never are interested in me. Every sort of involvement with a girl is always online I can't stop falling for girls thousands of miles away even though it brings about the worst of doubts. The first ever "local" involvement ended up being a lie and not what i thought it was, resulting in me deeming it not a relationship.
18-20yr old kissless virgin, I feel like I'm destined to be alone. I'm not too worried about virginity since I'm saving myself :^) but besides that. The girl I like, no loves, lives miles away in another country, I tell myself to not bother with distance but I can't help it. Im really serious on this but things never work out for me and I'm seriously lost. As well as my lack of discipline and motivation in life I feel like everything is spiraling out of control. I'll never have a qt gf or experience the fun of life that others do and the thought of that pains me. Should I give up on long distance? Does it ever work? I have all these doubts, negative and pessimistic thoughts, about it and her even though I trust her, even though it;s basically one sided with maybe a percentage of it being returned. Is it possible to be motivated, because the fun in everything I enjoy is gone and I fear for the future. I overthinking, worry and stress everyday, about girls, life, the future mostly. I basically don't have any "proper" friends, people to hang out with and have fun with. Just friends I've met online (though these people I'm closer to than anyone ive met in person) or acquaintances or people I converse with in uni.
I need some help but I don't want to see a psychiatrist/Councillor and have that on my record. Any advice will be appreciate. Thanks. Sorry for the long post.
shamefully bumping this.
>>16970034
Bumping again. I apologize if this isn't allowed butI really need help on this.
>>16970000
What a waste of quads.
Get professional help. I don't know where all that "muh untarnished record" shit is, but it's illegal for a doctor to divulge any information about a patient to anyone. Not to your parents or to your employer. The only time is when there is some sort of lawful reason, in which it will only be for investigative purposes.
Get help, dumbass. If a doctor ever reveals your shit, you could sue him for hundreds of thousands of dollars and live the perfect little NEET life.
Get. Help.
Long distance can work. The problem is YOU.
>lack of discipline
>lack of motivation in life
>all this doubts about her
>overthinking, worry and stress every day
>no proper friends
What girl would want to be with someone carrying so much fucking baggage? Not only does she have to deal with a LDR which is already difficult for all but the most well established relationships, she has to deal with a depressed, insecure guy who even doubts her loyalty? Forget about it. You'd be burdening her.
GET HELP, DUMBASS.
I'd like to go to Norway for a year to study the language and culture. My husband isn't excited about the idea, and doesn't want me to go. Would it be unreasonable for me to go? We'd be able to stay in touch on Skype.
>I'd like to go to Norway for a year to study the local tongue and see their north poles
Heck, I wouldn't be excited either, baby. How far is the actual distance? How often would you actually see each other in person? How many sex partners are you going to have during these twelve months?
How old are you and how long have you been married?
>>16969938
He'd be in NJ. I'm not going to cheat. We might see each other for a week a couple of times while I'm there.
My son just came out to me as gay and he's only fucking 11 years old! He's barely into puberty and way too young to be deciding something like this already!
I don't know what to do or say! I don't want to push him away but at the same time I don't think he's old enough for that yet! Can anybody give me some advice here?!
Chill out could just be a phase, look into who he hangs out with a limit tumblr use
When did you decide you were straight? I personally came out as straight at 11 and my parents thought it was a fine age for the "choosening"
>>16969802
He doesn't hang out with anybody, really. He's extremely shy and I have to force him out of the house.
>>16969804
Who the Hell comes out as straight?
For the past 2 years I have been using a fake fb account pretending to be a girl, using well placed pictures, sometimes even using my gf items to support evidence of it.
I use it to mess around in pages and groups, never making any actual friends. But not long ago I gave nice advice to some people and we been cool friends. I always say I am engage, and I am in a serious relationship, which I am in.
I met this one gamer dude and for some reason I decided to stick chatting to him, and motivated him to get a job . For the past 4 months he has had a healthier life style and even showing amazing progress.
He doesn't love me, I respect him too.
Is it time to stop this charade? I told him a life time of my stories. Most are true but with twisted parts in them.
I am bi but I wouldnt want him. I like my woman a lot. This just turn in to a sick hobby.
Maybe I am just unbottling my story here for some reason...
It's a bit scary that if I tell him the truth he would just loose it.
Is it better to disconnect slowly?
>>16969775
You fucking what? The worst part is when you implied you'd do it again.
Let the one guy down gently, without telling if possible, and don't do that again. If you don't hurt this guy, you'll hurt someone eventually.
If you cared about your gf you'd close the account and cut all ties to this guy
>>16969812
He's catfishing him, he doesn't like him.
I tried to make it work, I wanted to, but something wouldn't let me.
M/21, her 21. I met her at a rave. She was cool and we hit it off really well at first. We dated for 2 months. Been through a lot at the time. We had sex a lot. We hung out ALL the time. I always felt like she would cheat on me though for some reason. Honestly, I could see her bending over for some guy just to get high or going to a club without me and not telling me. At first, she had so many limits: "No sex until she trusted me, No blowjobs, No cumming here etc" All until I basically had to force her to do it. I had to force everything on her, initiate everything. She never made me feel special. Never loved me in bed like I loved her. I did most of the work. And she was a freak. She started letting me do everything to her. I was kind of disappointed because I knew she probably was doing this with tons of guys before me. Fuck that. She told me one day, just out of the blue, she sucked off a black coworker once when she was high. I don't know why I didn't just walk the fuck out and tell her nice knowing you,
Whenever I'd get mad about not trusting her, she'd say "are you jealous?" We had dinner together, watched movies, went to events and even hard times together. But one thing that never changed was I always felt as if something was missing. Something was off, not right about our relationship. And I could never be 100% comfortable because of this. It only added to my depression and anxiety.
>I had to force everything on her
>What went wrong here
Gee, I wonder
She seemed innocent at the time, but of course, the opposite was true. She was always a pain in the ass about things. Say whatever came to her mind, even it would hurt my feelings or belittle me.. She even made fun of my dick once telling me it was small and that it's not really impressive at all. This was supposed to be in jest, but it hurt me. Like I said, no care, just blurts out whatever the fuck she wants. Anyways, I always had this feeling that even those we had sex and spent a lot of time together, she never really liked me, or at least, liked me in the way I hoped she would -- being the only man she needed in her life, both physically and emotionally fulfilling. She made me feel I was neither. Just like a fun little buddy she liked to have sex with or something. I didn't even enjoy the sex that much. Seriously. I would get pleasure when she left for work and I turned on the computer to fap. Sometimes I couldn't even look at her or maintain erection fucking her. I had to pretend a lot. It hurts me because she was really great, but what is great anyway? Plenty of people can be just as special, interesting and fun. I'm too hung up on her being one of my first actual serious relationships.
Probably worst thing that's ever happened to me, and that's a big list of shit. She didn't do anything but waste my time, money and hurt my feelings. I found this girl who I really liked, and of course, she seemed to be really "into" me. I made the mistake of being her boyfriend. Because relationships are cute and shit, right?
I hate myself and my life even more now which I didn't think was even possible. Now I am 99% certain I am never going to find love or any companion. I'm hardly human anymore. I have no room for feelings or any semblance of hope that I can one day feel like my life ever meant anything.
I feel like being single is the only way for me.
>>16969756
How is it so hard for many to understand that women are people too
..and most people are dicks one way or another, some more than others.
My brother and I did 23andme and got our results back. He's about 40% French/German, 50% British, 10% Iberian. This makes sense - my mum is French and my dad is English, and his family has been here for hundreds of years.
I got completely different results though: 98% Scandinavian, 2% other northern European. The only possible explanation I can think of is that I'm adopted.
My parents have never said anything to that effect, and my earliest memories are with them. What else could it be, though?
I guess it makes a kind of sense, I'm taller then either of them, whereas my brother is slightly shorter than my dad. My hair is curly, while theirs is straight. It's always been put down to natural variation, though. My face also looks kinda like my mum's.
I'm... not sure how to handle this. Should I say anything to them? Would it just upset them?
Or those genetic tests are unreliable scams
Your mom cheated and cucked your dad with the baby
What's 23me?
Is there any way to deal with them?
Even when caught in the lie, they still deny deny deny, and pretend they're right, you're wrong, and can't possibly see it any other way.
This guy I made a bet with, swears to god, and his first born child that I was unable to collect my twenty dollars from the bet he lost, so he confirmed with me to put it in my house screen door, and that I got it.
That never happened, never contacted about my money, never recieved my money, never would've directed the man to leave it in my screen door that doesn't shut, when it's a further distance for him to travel there, when he could easily stop by my work to hand deliver the money if it so had to be during my working hours.
Basically, I'm out 20 bucks, and a friend.
you're gone deal with people like that your whole life
If anybody ever asks you to loan them money just say you're broke.
>>16969563
It wasn't a loan, it was a bet. A yearly bet we regularly make on the super bowl that I'd lost the last few years in a row, and this was the one time I'd won and he was supposed to pay up.
>>16969553
>I'm out 20 bucks, and a friend.
$20 is fuck all to learn who your friends are, I'd spend £100 to get rid of each fake friend that I have ever had.
Your issue isn't one with compulsive liars, as you haven't said he has a record of doing what he did, he is a debtor.
THINGS YOU CAN LEARN FROM YOUR EXPERIENCE
Don't make bets/loan money to cheap people (those who don't buy their round of drinks, those who can't keep on top of their own finances)
Don't make bets with people who don't pay out when they lose
Don't make bets with people who make bets but can't afford to pay out
And most importantly:
Don't forgive debts, in 6 months or a year he will be back, he will maintain that his version of events happened and you will think "well it was only $20", then it will happen again.
The only reason you should ever talk to him again is because he is paying you back, even after that I wouldn't ever get into ANY financial involvement with him.
Sources: I learned the hard way.
