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What you said is fine. If placing the onus on them isn't working, you can just ask if they'd like to do it again sometime. If they say yes, then try to arrange a time. If they say no, then sorry about your luck.

>>16979474
If you're male, asking the girl to call you is a no no. A big no no. As you can see by your results.

Women like being women my friend, and they respond to you being a man.
>Man
>"I enjoyed tonight, and I want to do it again. I'll call you."
You don't ask. You don't give them the option of calling you at their convenience. You tell them what you want and, if they don't want it, they say no.

>>16979507
>>16979474
Also, you should be checking to see if she wants to fuck. Most women, unless they've got some preconceived notion of "I don't fuck on the first date," thing going on will fuck you on the first date if you're smooth and it went well.

Hence the success of Tinder.

There could be a million different motivations. The only relevant information you need to know is that someone who is as hot and cold as the girl in question is emotionally unstable and incredibly selfish. Avoid this girl at all costs.

>>16979348

Attention whoring. She obviously doesn't understand how saying things like that can affect a guy.

But you also seem to be very immature. This sounds like some shit you go through in High School.

Who gives a shit. Don't dwell in the friend zone over some bitch.

Slip your dick in and spill you seed.

>>16979309

Don't worry about it mate...

They won't bother anyway.

>>16979315
not you but I'm handsome, sorry - op

Speaking as someone practicing abstinence, I usually am only dating girls who I know will respect and also practice themselves. If not, I know by the end of the first date and just find someone else.

Not hard bro.

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build it yourself.

>>16979257
If you already know the specs you want, you should seriously reconsider building your own. It's pretty damn easy nowadays, to the point that I'd say most people can do it with no problem (if your fear is frying a part, it's as simple as touching metal [such as the case] every once in a while to avoid that).

As for a comparison of the PCs if you ignore my earlier advice, both are fine. Don't bother upgrading the CPU if it's a gaming pc, i5's are fine for that. If you're satisfied with the graphics card after playing games consider getting a bigger SSD, being able to store more on it means more stuff you can quickly load.

Building a pc isn't stressful unless your choice of case sucks, making cable management a bitch.

Building pcs is fun and if someone handed me cash to do it for them I would build a pc any day. I highly recommend doing some research into different parts and checking out benchmarks and reviews before buying a prebuilt. You might just end up wanting to customize the whole thing yourself.

>>16979241
Get the fuck over it. She is your ex...

>>16979245
Thing is, the reason she dumped me was the fuckboy she was fucking while i was unaware. I'm angry at myself for giving that bitch credit she didn't even fucking deserve.

Write an angry letter and burn it or tear it up and throw it in some body of water/river. Burn her things or throw them away. Work out. Go drink with your friends and vent. Complain on the internet. Whatever helps you.

Have you tried talking to her about the way she treats you?

Maybe she is stressed about work and taking it out on you. Not that it makes it okay or anything, but you two should communicate.

>>16979222

Why the fuck are you still laid off?

>>16979235
Hey, thanks for the response!

Yeah I've tried talking to her many times, she sometimes apologizes, but then immediately justifies herself, saying well, you should have known blah blah, comes off as a half assed apology really.

As far as work is concerned I ask her about that and nothing in particular ever comes up. Believe me I would be the first to hear about it if there was something.

We definitely communicate, but it's like she doesn't really care how I feel about the way she acts.

She gets me to check her phone when "the green light flashes" even when she's asleep cause it's one of her app games usually and she wants me to do shit on it (i.e. feeding the dogs, upgrading heroes in clicker heroes) that kinda shit, but one day I saw an email from a dude called marsh and he was bitching about his life, and I felt like I was intruding into something really private and I was closing it until I saw him say "only thing I can realy offer you in your situation is money" so I was like "wut" and had a look.

The whole thing she wrote is like what some emo schoolgirl would send someone to get attention.

"Yeah I'm doing well... new computer, some good stuff, got married that's the end of the social bullshit."

Then she goes on about how depressed she is
How we're so poor we can't afford food
How bills are piling up and they can't be paid
How she's so ill her life is painful every day.

The depression thing has always been true. Just because she's happy a lot doesn't mean she's not depressed I know that, and she does have a permanent illness that keeps her pretty weak so that's true too.

The food thing is complete bullshit and there are no unpaid bills to speak of, I have a pretty good job so money isn't an issue unless she wants to live in a mansion in space or something .

So I keep going through and seeing what other kind of stuff she's saying to others and there's all sorts of depression speak all that stuff, yet whenever anyone asks about her she never mentions me. Not once in over three years of conversation am I mentioned. The only mention was the most recent one that said she got married and the other guy didn't even flinch.

>>16979181


I'm not sure how to react. I'm mad as fuck that she's lying about her situation online and making everything out to be terrible, but mostly I'm mad that she's pulling this high school emo drama crap via email when we're both well into our twenties and there is no indication that she is unhappy at all.

I don't know whether to confront her or not, the other night she got upset with me and started crying that "I don't want to be with her anymore" because I'd been sleeping a bit during the day, and she was full on in tears and I told her that she was being incredibly stupid, and I was really annoyed because "now I can't be mad at you about you randomly telling others how depressed you are" she flinched at that, but kept going with the pity parade so I comforted her and we kept going.

Do I bring it up again, and ask what the fuck?

TLDR: Wife making up shit, never mentioning I exist and constantly talking about being depressed with people she met online.

>>16979178
>>16979181

These are both me, I must have entered the wrong trip the first post, durhur.

GOOD NEWS! you are a idiot.
she is guilt tripping you, and hustling the other guy in her life why didnt you go alpha on the fucktard on the phone?
>because you are doormat
are you surprized she is lying on the internet? and the fact that not everybody tells the truth on the internet (what a shock!)
of course people make shit up otherwise we wouldnt have sites like tumbler or (didnt) reddit
you really need to talk to the other half about this other guy on the phone or txt him from yours and say: who the fuck are you talking to my wife? and what has bullshit has she told you? then add at the end never contact her again or i will break your legs. simple

>>16979066
No, this is big.

Break up gently.

>>16979093

I'm in a similar position as OP's gf and it would fucking kill me if my bf broke up with me over this.

>>16979098
Guys need sex, sorry to break it to you

>>16979045
idk, i am not into Trans stuff, but if you cut [Penis] you will get a lot, by far , guys for you. not mean to offend. To get guys you need to have one of this 3 qualitys: Sexy, Inteligent or really nice personality. if you havent one of this, you wont. Only if you want to be a whore

>>16979045
>I'm trans mtf if it matters

Bwahahahahahaha
Of course it matters dude

>>16979062
Is English not your first language? I'm smart and nice. Sexy who knows.

It's only a lost cause if you don't try I suppose. I would observe her, clothing demeanor, hair color, anything to try to make a connection to. If you are going to initiate a conversation, you have to come with some substance ( you can't just really go over there and say hi , what;s up, because she'll be like wtf is this guy doing.)

> I see you like x from the shirt youre wearing, - I see you here often, thought I'd come over and say hi -

>>16979001
How long have you been staring at her?

>>16979001
Just fucking do it faggot.

>>16978978
Learn to cook, you're hopeless

>>16978978
Dress up as a school girl and take it up the ass.

>>16978978
I have no idea
Idk maybe like the "back" part of the benis away from his body near the tip sometimes.

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I'm in a similar situation. However I've never been in a relationship. I've just recently started seeing this girl and have been using /adv/ a lot lately for this exact type of thing. From what I've learnt is that you have little to no control over this type of situation. You must simply let the ebb and flow of life take you wherever. I'd give you more specific advice but my experience dating is less than minimal. But you can't look at your current situation as if this is how it's going to be forever. For instance; she gets another job, or you get another job, your schedules change, someone starts going to school. Keep at it basally, if you think she's worth a shot. And to know where it's going, you should probably tell her where you want to be. That way she has an idea of where to go with you. That's how you find out where the relationship is going. But you can't just throw it on her like "do you want to be in a relationship?". Like I said patience and consistency is probably the best policy here. Sorry, I'm being pretty vague, but I don't know what to tell you. Good luck anon. Best of luck.

>>16979137
Thank you, I appreciate it.

Thats kinda what Im doing now.

Like I said, we have been on one date and have already planned for another so she must be interested. I am interested.

But on the flip side, me and my ex was so much more exciting at first. But we had been flirting and building up a intimate friendship before we went out. And it exploded into this burning passion.

This girl is a girl I had talked to just a few times before asking out. There is no fire, and that makes me nervous.

I dont wanna waste over 3 months on something that might not be...especially when I dont know where its going

>>16979158
Dip your feet in before you commit. The beauty of your situation is that you're not committed yet, nor do you have to be exclusive. Date around if you're unsure. And once you find the one you think you're going to go the distance with, drop the others. That might sound unorthodox, or messy, but it's not like you're cheating on anyone yet or are you exclusive with anyone yet. I image you're young, use your youth to explore whats out there.

hahahahaha

>>16978865
They stand out in the crowd, shouldn't be hard to find.

You think that women are looking for a particular kind of man based solely on their own height and fitness.

100% guarantee that you're going to die alone at this rate.

>>16978743
Its only overrated when you can have as much of it as you want but when you're thirsty it's the best thing in the world.

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Sex is the most overrated thing in the world.
Our culture ascribes so much importance to it.
It matters if we've ever fucked or not.
It matters how many people we've fucked.
It matters how many times we've fucked.
It matters how long we've fucked.
It matters how well we've fucked.
People wanna know and control what other people do in bed. They want to judge them based on the sexual acts they have or have not committed.
They judge their partners based on how many other people they've had.
They judge straight and gay people, cis and trans people, men and women by different standards.

And the truth is, it doesn't matter. None of this matters. It's just sex. Do yourselves a favor and stop asserting so much meaningless importance to it. Just fuck people you wanna fuck and don't fuck whom you don't wanna fuck. Don't judge anybody because of their sexuality. Stop thinking about beauty standards, about nude pictures, about pornography, about religious norms concerning sex. Just do whatever you like.

Yeah its overrated, heroin is far better.

Seek out some mental health providers and explain to them what you told us. Take their advice very seriously and apply it diligently.

The alternative is going to be a horrible life :(

>>16978526
nah

>>16978511
Look dude, nobody is equal. Be the better person. Teach your children: your sons and daughters the truth and teach them discernment. You can't save everyone, but enough people who understand the importance of genetics and finding proper mothers and fathers for your children will make all the difference in the world when the time of reckoning is at hand.

Fear not. Stand tall!

what?
you look in the mirror and think of black people assaulting a non-exisiting person?