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Idk how to feel about all this. So anyways back in January, I started talking to this girl I thought was cute. We had an okay thing going, never really got a chance to hang out because her father ended up finding out that I smoke/drink and basically told her I'm no good. But I still liked her and she liked me...
Anyways, we have a class together this semester so that's fun but she started talking to my best friend. Texting him and whatnot. I didn't think anything would come of it. Well of course, something did. They started hanging out almost immediately,...
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We walked up a floor and then another. I said "isn't your class on the last floor?" And she just said yes and kept walking. When we got to the top floor, she started telling me how she felt. She regrets starting a thing with my friend because she still likes me and likes me more every day (so same situation as me) and she said she doesn't know what to do. I kinda consoled her and she wrapped her arms around me and I just held her. We started to get really close and looked into each other's eyes a lot, at this point I knew what was gonna...
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>>16982115
>>16982122
Faggot. You already broke the bro code. Just Fuck her if you want. Just know that you are the sun of the planet and never deserve a close friend.
>>16982122
talk to you friend like an adult. find out how he feels. if he says leave it, then you leave it. if he says you can have her, then have her.
you could have said all that without the crappy erotica.
i've been there, and i think some girls like to work there way through groups. they get off on this shit. she might just drop you for another guy.
Posted this yesterday:
I need help. I am 28 no finished education (still in school) no job, still at home, no friends, no gf, no willpower, no wishes/dreams, no money. Bad shape, feel like crap. Drinking/wanking allot.
Can someone help?
Thanks for the reactions. I am still in school but I seem to lack the willpower or self disicipline to do anything. I had money saved which is gone now and I sometimes leech of my parent ( which I feel bad about).
Any more tips? Planning to ban games/bs internetting, is that good?
Shit forgot the subject!
Random hot girl bump.
You're 28, dude.
I'd expect this shit from some edgy 18 y/o but come the fuck on.
Hey, future me. How are you doing?
i have never really kept porn in my computer before. but now kinda thinking of starting to save as much as i can, the more the merrier :D, what do u guys think ? should i ?
I never understood the point of saving porn once I get off to it I never care for it again or go back to it stop watching porn get a real girl only reason to save porn really is if youre going have no internet access for a long time
>saving porn on your computer
What is this? The early 2000s.
I'd say no, I have like 15GB of porn and I still keep looking for more most of the time because I don't want to watch the same videos. If you find some amazing vid/pic that always makes you cum though you might as well save it.
How do I handle being lonely? I see beautiful women almost every day and it hurts the core of my being to even look at them. I wouldnt even consider myself unattractive, by most standards I would say im a decent 7/10
definite first world problem, its getting to the point where I cant even function properly. I dont want to sound like an /r9k/ autist but I dont know how to form >tfwnogf without sounding like a meme
What should I do to not be lonely?
tl;dr: tfwnogf
>>16981711
>how do i handle being lonely
the bobcat teaches us to be alone without being lonely.
>i see beautiful women
>it hurts not being able to look at them
you CAN look at them. you literally do.
>i wouldnt even consider myself unattractive
>I HEAR IM A 7/10
said literally every single OP of this exact thread. post a picture of yourself and lets see what you are working with. if you dont post it there is nothing we can do to help you.
>i cant function properly becuase im single
or perhaps you are single beacuse you can't function properly. as in, by living a normal cofortable and enjoyable life while being single. do this and you will likely find a special lady.
>what should i do to not be lonely?
do the things you love. have creative hobbies that take up your spare time, but also make an effort to go out of the house at least twice a week to socialize. you can do this by purusing hobby shops, or even attending events form those hobby shops, or going to meetup.com and finding groups that line up with your interests.
no matter how introverted you claim your hobby is, there are always people who at least want to sit around and talk about it.
>>16981758
>you CAN look at them
You misunderstood what I said but I understand
Ill try getting new hobbies. The one thing I liked doing was lifting weights and I haven't been able to do that in probably 4 months
>>16981803
you are unfortunately a funny looking guy. you will never be rolling in the pussy. but that doesnt mean you cant have a fairly regular dating life.
meet alfred enoch, your new role model. he is the star of 'how to get away with murder' and the 'oddly cute for a skinny black guy' guy.
that hairstyle is the hairstyle you need. you now wear button ups, and a tie, and a vest if you can work it. your casual wear should be thick stripes as well.
never let your hair get longer...
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Basically just asking if I'm right.
I'm dating a young woman. Heavy kissing in each others bed for a night but nothing more.
Is it still okay to meet another girl next month?
I think I'm going to be together with her but till now it's nothing fix u know.
i should tell the other girl that I'm dating a girl, right? And should i tell the young woman that I'm gonna meetup in club with the other? And maybe i shouldn't even meet another girl
Bump 3
As long as you are not kn a relationship it is fine
>>16981771
Don't you think it's important where you from? I mean this isn't a international social rule, isn't it?
I'm 23 years old.
Are there any decent single girls left in my age group or is my life over?
there's no decent girls in any age group
Fuck you onnabout?
>>16981677
>are there any decent single girls left in my age group
yes
>or is my life over
nope.
>>16981727
what the fuck are you, gay?
How do I conciliate red pill view (only confidence matters) with black pill view (only looks matter)?
I used to believe in the former, but I saw a lot of guys who did nothing special (no witty lines and no being overconfident/arrogant) who got nice and cute girls.
Then I fell into the latter. There are still some exceptions but this one decribes reality with greater precision. I disagree on the uselessness of personality but I never saw a guy getting laid only by his "confidence". I know guys who tried to be "confident" and got ugly girls who...
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Have you tried considering the idea that humans are more complicated than you're giving them credit for and that the way people perceive you cannot be summed up by an ideology as thin, generic, and black & white as the 'pills' you're describing?
Nah what am I saying, you're posting frogs.
>>16981685
>anti-frog
>>16981669
Iron pill == looks matter + confidence matters == exercise more
>>16981685
Yes, humans are complicated, but you can draw conclusion from most humans seeing their behaviour. Statistics about people generally show a gaussian distribution, not uniform.
I don't like frogs at all, just thought this one suited the thread well.
>>16981700
Do you think a jacked 5 can really compete with a skinny natural 7.5?
Ill cut to the chase: I need a job. Desperately.
I have about 2 years of retail experience, know how to work a register, handling cash, you know the typical stuff employers are looking for. While I understand many employers will reject me, ALOT are rejecting me, even some I gotten interviews in the past before, and it makes absolutely no sense.
For example, I got an interview from Best Buy a couple of months ago, but I was denied the job because the interview accused me of not being very interested in technology, despite telling him multiple times my hobby (and what I would like to do for a living) is fixing computers. A good friend of mine has been told the EXACT same thing from the same person when he got an interview as well. Turns out he's a dumb fuck, he's not there anymore, and a manager I worked with in the past works there now. Told me to apply, I applied for 2 different positions and I was rejected. What the fuck.
I don't know if it was my resume, my work experience, or those god-fucking-forsaken assessment questions, but I really, really need help. How do I increase my chances of getting a call back from these places I apply at? What advice can you give me on those assessment questions? Ill post my resume on next post, dont feel comfortable having my resume shown easily on the catalog.
>>16981662
How many application did you submited? The job market is very tight right now, so it's not unusual to have to sent around more than 200 a month to have a chance. You also have to be very mobile and ready to drive one hour every morning, and not only apply to firms in a close radius.
It's very hard to know what's wrong if you don't have a lot of data. At the first look, your resume is okay so you might do blunder on the interview. Are you dressing well? Are you able to talk about yourself...
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>>16981684
13+. I right down who I sent apps to, that way when I am done with as many apps as I can possibly send, Ill give them a call. Plus I am still applying to alot of places so the number will be bigger.
I do not have a car so I have to apply to places that are like within a 5 mile radius, although recently my friends assured me that if I need a ride they're more than happy to do so until my car is fixed so there is that.
As far as dressing for interviews, I would put on somethings that's a little...
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What can I do if at times my social anxiety is almost as bad as Tomoko's?
See a therapist?
http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
This may help, as well: http://www.adaa.org/tips-manage-anxiety-and-stress
The simple answer is find the root of your anxiety and resolve it. The hard part is resolving it.
>>16981631
I heard that some social anxiety therapy can be uncomfortable in the sense of making you talk with a group of people. I don't know if I could do this.
If a first date doesn't go well, is it safe to say that it was because the girl didn't find you attractive? Does personaility/connecting really play that big apart?
Basically my good female friend said she met up with a girl that I went on a date with months back. The date was kind of weird and her and I never talked again. My friend told me that the girl thought I was "Cool and attractive but didn't see it going anywhere" and I don't know if shes just trying to put it nice to me.
OP, you probably said something during the date that put her off.
Doesnt mean you aren't attractive, just means you said too much.
I replied in the other thread but I'll paste it here.
It happens. Just because it didn't work out doesn't mean your personality sucks of whatever. Just you guys didn't click. There was a guy who I found incredibly attractive and funny but once I talked to him one on one I realized we had nothing in common interest wise. I think he's still a really amazing person but sometimes the chemistry is just not there.
>be 18
>go on date with guy who's 28
>he's the most gorgeous thing in the universe
>he's full of interesting stories
>i can't stop talking about high school because i had literally just graduated
>establish some kind of awkward younger sibling vibe
>uncomfortable side hugs galore
>never text him again
Yeah, it just happens.
How do I stop interpreting my lack of romantic relationships as being unworthy of one?
Logically speaking the lack of homosexual behaviour in my home town can't be seen as a flaw in my caracter, but it's hard to be unloved without feeling unworthy of love.
Self pity
>>16981573
im gonna say what i said in another thread.
i hate lasagna. its the worst. my mom makes what most people claim to be 'the best lasagna ever'. despite this i hate it. but my mom doesnt stop and think 'oh i must be a horrible cook' just cuz i dont like lasagna. she just serves it to people who actually like it.
you are lasagna OP.
go be the best lasagna you can be.
this is even more applicable to you because you are a faggot in a small town.
come visit...
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>>16981601
I have been pitying myself for 22 years and it has not helped a bit.
Life is a funny beast. Sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down. The worst day ever can be salvaged by a tidbit of good news, alternatively everything can be going swell then come crashing down in an instant.
Regardless, we all look to tomorrow with some hope that it might be better than the day before it.
>>16981488
What? What are you rambling about?
Seriously, this is some middle school tier philosophy. Ask a question and get it answered, that's how this works.
>>16981488
I swear it was the 30th today.
Where has the week gone.
Also, there's something wrong with your fb post. I can't like it for some reason.
>>16981488
Uhh.....okay?
>Cringe.
How does one become more confident?
>>16981420
Gym helped me. I feel so great leaving the gym, my confidence goes through the roof.
>>16981420
become a mysoginist and put women in their place
I personally can't leave home alone or order at subway but it's mostly psychological.
I can get myself into the mindset where I hit on girls or be social, I just not give a fuck and remember none of it matters.
It's not what you say but how you say it
