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Been friends with this one girl for years. Nothing ever happened between us except a nice chill friendship. 2 nights ago we get high and end up hooking up,which is a first for us and she tells me she has a boyfriend. Today we texted, both apologized, but then we both agreed that it was nice, and neither of us feel guilty. She's not telling her boyfriend, and I think us hooking up might be S regular thing.
Should I stay a side nigga?
If you're ok with being involved with a cheater then I don't see why not. Personally I think it's not cool but what matters is what you want.
>>16975612
Hold yourself to higher standards. How would you feel if you were her boyfriend. Plus it's just sleazy. How do you even respect her now?
>>16975612
There are two ways you can go with this:
One option is to decide for yourself who is in the wrong and let the other know. If you feel she is in the wrong, let him know. If you feel as if he is in the wrong, let her know. Do it when the other person is not around. When you act in a way that favors one of them, do not make your intentions apparent to anybody that is associated with the other one in this relationship. This is the riskiest and most complex path to take.
Then again, the implications of this...
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I need inspiration for something funny to talk about for five minutes.
In what context? Why try to be funny if you're not funny? I'm sure you have lots of other nice qualities, anon
>>16975506
It's for a class, I'm funny, but my funny is more situational ya know? And thank you.
>>16975517
>It's for a class
dude we're not mind-readers. I have no idea what your fucking assignment is, what class you're in, what kind of humor would be appropriate, or really any information I'd need to help you. Learn how to start a fucking thread
I'm seriously considering suicide I feel I have nothing left to live for and Mabey I just need some help any advice
>>16975490
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HbTAmN4m2lQ
It doesn't matter if you believe or not. Just watch and relax. Enjoy the story.
Try going to a good psychotherapist, I highly recommend you to go with one who applies Albert Ellis therapy (psycho-cognitive therapy), I mean, psychoanalysis does not work for these sort of problems.
you can use your lifetime trying find the cure of some disease, just saying
So i have a bunch of masses growing in a different parts of my neck, face and testicles. Most are small, hard, and immovable. Only one is fairly large, also hard and immovable. I've had an ultrasound to check my testicles because of the pain i've been having down there, and my doctor said there's nothing to worry about after she reviewed the results. Anyways, i've been finding new lumps in my neck and i've brought them to her attention, but she basically brushes them off and says they are just cysts, although to me they feel more like tumors to me, because...
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>>16975475
you ahve nothing to lose except for a co pay by getting a second opinion anon. even if they are cysts, they soudn like htey are something that needs to be dealt with. how does she believe these cysts were developed?
Post a picture
I've found, through my own experiences, that doctors are weirdly dismissive of issues like this. They'll treat the symptoms but often they don't even want to talk about the root cause, or how to prevent.
>>16975475
I would get a second opinion. That sounds pretty serious to be honest.
>moving for a cushy job that's actually enjoyable
vs
>staying with the girl but likely end up with a job that doesn't fit
Whenever I talked to her about it before I always played it off like moving wasn't going to be an option but I just don't know anymore
I want this job but I'm gonna fucking miss her senpaitachi
>>16975452
have you considered trying the middle grounds? as in, asking her to come with your OR finding a new job in the area.
>>16975469
I would never ask her to come with me, she needs to stay here and graduate
The jobs in the area for the most part aren't ones that would be enjoyable for me, and the chance that I get one of the select few that might be is rather slim
>>16975478
id move then. relationships tend to... well, end. then you are stuck there with a shitty job.
you spend more time at work then you do wiht your gf even if you live together. if you have the chance to do soemthing you like, then do it.
may i ask though
your job now?
what your new job would be?
pay differences in the two?
how long til she graduates?
how long you been dating thus far?
How do I fuck a girl without catching feelings? Seriously, how
In an exclusive relationship
By knowing that all that shit from social media and just in general is bullshit, I'm referring to love, a "special person" bla bla, is a person more, move on m8, is not like you need to hate a person but just don't be clingy.
>>16975403
You don't.
>>16975437
But cool people do it all the time
I love in a place where everyone is an asshole. I've tried to make friends for years but just can't. Where do I go to make internet friends?
Run into an asshole in the morning and you ran into an asshole. Run into assholes all day and you're the asshole.
Take a look at yourself first before you blame everyone else.
>>16975332
this
>where do i go to make intenret friends
the internet. specifically meetup.com but if your place is too small for that then cragislist discussion section.
>>16975332
I get along with most people everywhere else. For example, when I travel to Lousiville for family, I get alog with almost everyone I come across excluding family and friends. I just struggle here because it's a small town, and everyone is a farmboy who lives in the country
Is it bad if a girl doesn't reply to your text after 3 hours?
>>16975298
Only if she's seen the text.
>>16975310
how do you know if she's seen it?
It's bad if you're this needy.
She didn't reply because you reek of desperation.
what do you message a hot guy that you dont know who does fucking good music for the first time?
If you're a guy: "I like your music"
If you're a girl: "can I suck your dick"
Only the girls get responses
>>16975273
I'm a girl but i don't want to seem fucking thirsty as fuck
>>16975297
Then just give him compliments and be slightly flirty
Are smart people insecure about their intelligence or is this insecurity a sign of stupidity? I often have a hard time figuring out what category I fit into, I really can't tell if I'm one or the other at this point in time.
Smart people can be insecure about their intelligence. Dumb people can be insecure about their intelligence. Insecurities can be based on real or imagined faults. If you ccouldn't sort that out, you're probably on the dumber side. Sorry.
>>16975111
First part of this. Being insecure about something is related to personality, and the trait doesn't really matter much.
>>16975111
I disagree, most dumb people are not that introspective, I believe it requires a certain amount of intelligence to see how others see you.
If you are insecure about something it is more likely inexperience vs unintelligence
I got rejected by this wonderful girl who I was half in love with about 3 months ago. I really felt like she led me on at the time, I was angry and resentful and I couldn't deal with seeing her happy so I completely cut her out of my life. Every now and again though I'll see her on social media, looking beautiful and I'll fall to pieces.
I just can't handle it, I know I was never really going out with her but my heart is still completely broken. I really still feel like she is the one for me, no one I've met since then measures up to her.
I...
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id like to know this too im in the same exact situation
>>16975040
>how do i move on
by moving on. whatever your life was before, just do that, but without her.
>i completely cut her out of my life
>Except all her social media
>i fall to pieces
cut her out of your life. you know... block her.
>im depressed cuz a girl rejected me
life is full of relationship turmoil. if you arent mature...
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I am bad at motivating depressed individuals but here is what I would do :
1. Go and tell her exactly what you're feeling and why you feel like you fucked up, it doesn't matter if she forgives you it's just to get it off your chest.
2. Get a premium pornhub pass and fap the day away.
3. Get some friends and do something that might take your mind off it or something man idunno.
If all else fails, when you kill yourself make sure you leave a note saying it was her fault. Revenge from beyond the grave...
My problem or my curse is I seem to be attracted to short hair tomboys, who end up either lesbian or feminist man haters, idk wat to do, I'm not attracted to any other types.
What's the problem here? Become the kind of guy that they like.
You say "feminist man hater" like it's a bad thing... but the truth is that more than anything else, every girl just wants to feel like a girl.
>>16975019
We're going to make it, brother.
Friend, I understand your feel, as I'm also in the same position as you. There are a few short haired tomboys at my university, but they're either with another guy, into chicks, or feminists. To make it worse, there's very little porn with cute short haired tomboys.
Hey /adv/
I was in Israel this winter and I was about 50 yards from a terrorist attack on a Cafe. Look up Dizengoff cafe shooting for video if you want.
I did not see the shooter but I heard the gunfire and ran to safety in a house down the street.
This was the first time in my life I didn't try to help someone in need. A few years ago I pulled a man from a burning car that had been halved by an 18 wheeler.
Sometimes now I feel like some people died in that cafe because I didn't run towards the attack. Many people bled to death because the...
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No. It wasn't you who opened fire on random people at a cafe. You protected yourself, and that's fine. You don't have to be a hero, and not rushing to the sound of gunfire isn't something to feel guilty about.
>>16975011
If you didn't have a gun, there's nothing you could have done. Running towards the gunfire without anything to defend yourself would have gotten yourself killed. Running towards safety when you hear gunshots was a natural thing to do.
>>16975011
>Sometimes now I feel like some people died in that cafe because I didn't run towards the attack.
Running towards the attack only works when you are already VERY close to the attacker: close enough that he can't get his bearings on you before you're on top of him. If you were across the street, you were too far away. The only thing you'd have accomplished is getting yourself killed.
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I need some financial advice, /adv/. I'll try to make it as tl;dr as possible. Anyways, I'm 22, my bf is 26 (hopefully soon to be gf).
The plan is my gf (just to keep it easier typing, not for some sjw bs), wants to get facial feminization surgery so she can finally feel like a girl. This is literally the only thing holding her back from being happy at this point, she doesn't tell me, but I know she's very upset and depressed about it all the time. I want to do anything to make her happy. Last year we were trying to plan out and have the surgery done by sometime this year, but things happened and changed, and now it looks like it's going to take a while longer.
The surgery costs 24k, and I can get a loan for 9k. As of now, she makes 10.50/hr or around $1400/month take home. I work off a commission and make anywhere from about $1000/month - $1800/month take home. I'm working on programming so I can become an entry level software developer, but until then me and her, we both need better jobs.
The gist of it is, how the hell do I make this happen? She was very sad today since we both realized that we need to make more money to make this work. As of now with what we make, it might even take another whole year and she really, really wants to get it done asap because of not feeling comfortable as herself now at all. I always try my best to make her happy, but we need to get this done.
My question is, how? What kind of jobs can I get that pay well? How to save? Side work I can do? How to budget? If you anons were in the same situation, what would you do?
I'll answer any questions needed if it helps, I'm extremely desperate to make this work.
>>16975004
Kill him, then yourself you degenerate scum.
I would say some shit about fucking degenerates but I am new to da 4chans and am afraid I will be banned, so here is a legit response.
Your bf should learn to make the most of his situation and accept that he won't always get what he wants. Try and make him feel happy in his own skin, and don't harm yourself trying to accomplish something he might regret (most trans people regret surgeries they have).
IF he really loved you he wouldn't force you into a situation where you had to live uncomfortably just so he can have his little fantasy.
>>16975025
>new to da chans
go wherever the fuck back to where you came from
I just got out of a relationship about a month and a half ago, my best friend and her boyfriend have been my exs' rock through the whole thing mostly her. I just found out two days ago he was threatening suicide. So he went to her apartment, her bf was at work on midnights. They drank all night till like 8 am He kissed her neck, she pushed him away. I still feel like it should never have gotten to that point and blame her, I could give a shit less about him, he just did it to hurt me, because he knew I wouldn't care if he moved on. Also he did Coke after we broke up...
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>>16974988
you are a shoe
>>16974993
Shoe?
>>16975002
yes. you are a shoe.
