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I have utterly failed at college and developing a normal life. If I go on like this, I will kill myself.
Where can I go to start over?
I welcome suggestions such as the military, a monastery or some organisations. The more specific, the better.
That's a huge range, OP. You'll learn a lot by asking this as a series of questions on Google.
>going into military
Research different branches. Read blogs. Ask questions.
>going into monastic life
This is one I considered myself. But the choices are limited. You need to have faith in a diety. You need to know what you want, what to expect, and what you would be sacrificing.
See what I mean? That's just two of the options.
Peace Corp
Missions
Orphanages
Serve...
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>>16976617
Having no real friends nor success in college or work for the past 2,5 years has worn down my psyche to this point where I am at now.
Today has been one of those days. I spent all night wrestling with suicidal thoughts and plans, called in sick at work after not even an hour of sleep and now I'm roaming the internet to find the answer that will save me.
I can see myself and how pathetic I am acting. I am totally convinced that I need professional help. At this point, I even look crazy.
WHAT...
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>>16976657
Hahaha you sound just like me man
Can't give you mich advise though, I've failed my fair share of stuff and everytime things look good they find a way to turn around
But thats the thing, you can think about going to the extremes (but you wont)
You can think about suicide (but you wont do it, everyone has someone they care to much about)
My only advise based on experience is to just ride it out and not care to much, things'll be good sometimes and sometimes bad
How do you make a relationship exciting again?It's only been 6 months in and some of the fire went down a bit after constantly being together and doing everything together. We still love each other though, but I want it to be fun again.
Sounds like your relationship has moved a bit too fast. Also at 6 months atm and it feels as if we just started dating. Maybe spend a bit less time together and instead go on proper dates again? Take the pace down a notch
>>16976561
Actually we broke up for 2 months after being together for 4 months and now we're back to being on again. So basically we were just picking up what we started. Yeah, I've considered spending less time together but we're colleagues so we see each other often and sometimes eat lunch or do our homework together
>>16976592
Sounds like this isn't the real deal dude... Why did you break up?
I am 20, yesterday my girlfriend for a year and a half, my first girlfriend, my first I love you, my first kiss and whom I lose my virginity to left me. I am in a state like I just witnessed a genocide, no tears, no taking to anyone, just watching soulless to the infinite void wherever I go and also with the desire to punch and strangle every girl I see. When is this feeling going to go away, how could I speed the process?
There is no speeding the process. It's hard. Keep moving forward--you can push yourself for steps you may not be ready for, but that could easily backfire down the line (like a new relationship, etc).
Feel the feels as they come. Appreciate what was and how you've grown.
>>16976556
Thank you, I really needed some words
>>16976533
Find something to occupy your time, but not something that simply gives you an escape. I highly suggest refraining from rushing into another relationship, as it will most likely end quickly, and only delay the healing process.
Get a hobby, or find some way to better yourself. Learn an instrument, try a sport, or -my favorite- start lifting weights. It will keep you busy while allowing you to work through the emotions as they come. And believe me, they will come soon; the shell shock phase is temporary.
Godspeed, OP
So, it seems to be common ground that the one thing that deepens a relationship the most and makes love grow is if you get trough difficulties together. But, what is the definition of "difficulties"? Can you give me examples from your own experiences anons?
>>16976474
It's different for every couple.
We lost our home in a fire. Had to totally start over. My mom and my wife's mom both died within 1 yr of each other. We have a child with a disability. And I have to travel and sometimes relocate a lot for my job. I started having issues with alcohol and depression, was and still am an asshole. Almost cheated once. My wife is wonderful though. She's the glue. I would have never gotten so far in my life without her. I truly believe that. She knows how to handle...
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>>16976496
That's a wonderfull story anon... Thanks for sharing it. Do you think a couple can be as deeply in love if no hardships come up (for whatever reason), as a couple that went trough a lot of trial?
>>16976506
Absolutely.
I have 2 girlfriends (bad start, I know, I'm a piece of shit if low self steem, addicted to drugs and I have a few mental illness), I've been with one for 5 years and the other one for around 1 year... The last one got pregnant I think and I don't know what to do.
My "main gf" is the one that I've been 5 years with, the other girl is awesome with me, she supports me when needed and my "main" gf doesn't, what would you do /adv/? I've been doing DRUGS HEAVILY to avoid thinking about it. I have an stable job and can support her and the kid, but fuck it. I'm just 24 and I'm not freaking out because I have tons of benzos and weed, and other stuff. I'm afraid of the kid because I've been doing LSD, MDMA, Coke, tons of weed, Ritalin/Concerta and tons of Benzos....
>feels shitty man
>pic related
>shit happens man
>>16976424
Get rehab, drop your "main gf", and be a good parent to that poor soul, if it's too late to abort.
Shit happens, if you really didn't want to have kids you could use better protection or avoid fucking. Be responsible.
>>16976424
Well you need to find out if she pregos first off.
>>16976424
Nothing you can do. The chips will fall as they may. All you can do us them up as they fall and react accordingly.
As for the drugs, you're a fuckwit. Get cleaned up. Please.
How do you choose between two girls you love?
>>16976149
Ask them about anal.
>>16976151
Both stay away from butt stuff
who says you have to?
Any Tinder relationship stories? I've recently went on my first Tinder date and things are looking good. I'm curious however what the success rate is or if many solid relationships come out of a thing like Tinder.
>>16975979
Met my gf on tinder 6 months ago. Will be married in 5 months.
>>16976005
That's ironic, I met a girl I'm plowing a few days a week / all day, that will be getting married soon, to a guy she met on tinder.
ANY girl that goes on tinder is a whore, EVEN if the girl is "just looking for a platonic relationship", just code for "I'm thirsty af and I want 5 dicks in me, just shopping for some new big dick".
>>16975979
If you're looking to put ur dick in a hole, go to tinder. If you're...
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Had roughly 100 matches. Went out on dates with 4 of them. The last one ended up being my gf. (now ex gf btw).
So it worked for me, and I know a fair amount of people that obtained serious relationships from it. I will re use it as soon as I'm over my ex.
How do I get my wife to stop cheating on me with her boss? She says she can't stop because he's willing to do things in bed like treating her rough that I'm not willing to do. I can't leave her because she is my best friend and she is kind of mental disabled so she depends on me. She can't quit the job because we need to pay rent.
threesome with the boss
take notes
do what the boss does when youre fucking her
>>16975940
divorce her.
op i suggest you fuck her boss
How to DECREASE sexual stamina?
>>16975925
>How to DECREASE sexual stamina?
I'm 18 and have had 3 partners, all of which have had varying problems with how long I last. I wanted to know is there any way to reduce the time it takes to ejeculate and if there's any tips I can get. Thanks in advance
stop fapping
>>16976728
Wrong
Start fapping more
I've been wronged worse than any being in the universe and I don't know what to do but hate everything even more.
What do you do when many people work together to wrong you and even get children to sing and dance to music that's about about violating you?
I feel like I live in the worst reality that could ever be imagined.
I don't think being wronged is your issue. You sound like you have a tremendous amount of paranoia. Associating things that are likely not connected at all...
>>16975923
I think you're mistaken, myself and others have been being used in this bizarre sickening story which proves total mind control and we're being treated as robots as an excuse for violating us.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B6sDqmRjzkJFckxLQXV4eUdJeDQ
The Canadians know damn well god exists but sit back like pigs in a pen of shit waiting to sexually violate such people while Americans make cryptic entertainment singing about us being violated.
Like I said, being wronged worse than...
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>>16975915
This is a new high in mental illness even for 4chan.
What even is flirting? What does it mean to come on to somebody? What really is the meaning of checking somebody out?
I got to thinking and I realized I don't really understand what these things mean. I'll be 21 soon and as far as I know I've not experienced or done these things yet.
I understand the concept of flirting but I've never seen it up close.
Romantic movies are filled with flirting. Its just playful banter.
I don't know how to flirt either. I can only remember one woman in the last two decades to even look like approaching me to talk. Relationships are a waste of time. If women won't approach me then I'm ugly so I won't approach women just to get rejected. Fuck this world!
Why even bother
>>16975927
Calm down there bub
Anyone know how to get DMT?
Go to sleep.
have you tried asking your dealer?
Tor
>female friend has been upset at me because I've been hanging out with another female friend
Why?
Either doesn't like the other person or is jealous of you spending your time with them..... which could mean she's into you.
But if she is into you and is jealous of you spending time with other friend then being in a relationship with her won't work cause you'll be expected to give up friendships left right and centre.
>>16975795
Because having female friends is the most betabucks thing you could do.
>>16975795
holy shit does the girl in your picture have a name?
I grew up in a catholic family, but we were never really hardcore religion junkies. On a scale from 1 to 10 we are like a 2 maybe 2.5. We don't even go to church. Lately, I've been thinking about what really comes after we die, thus making me think of religion. I looked at the 10 commandments, and I've already broken like 2 of them, by stealing and lying. Honestly I'm looking at them, and even if I go to confessions, there's no way I can go through life without lying or stealing (appearantly if you do something unhonest to someone, it's co suffered...
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Catholisism is not based 100% on the bible, Roman Catholisism is sort of a spin off from Roman Paganism, where they adore different gods for different problems, instead in catholisim they do it with saints.
So many have looked and looked into the bible not finding anything fucking interesting and then becoming protestants just because they did not get this point.
Catholisism is not a dead religion, every single word form every single saint is "the word of god". A lot of catholic believes are based on Aristotle and Socrates and Plato. Read "The Repulic"...
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Also read "The City Of God" from Saint Augustin the founder of the Church as we know it today, and be amazed. Also Saint Thomas Aquinas "Summa thelogica"
I was born in a Catholic family too and I decided to distance myself from that religion. I believe it is not necessary to have a label at all to live your spirituality and organized religion as a whole seems too brainwashy and powerful to me (inb4 fedorafaggit). Also, I don't want nothing to do with a belief system that says that my divorced parents should suffer eternally because they committed "adultery". Seriously, don't affiliate.
do I have a schizoid personality disorder?
I feel related to a lot of the symptoms and I read about a guy here that had it and I relate to him
ive been diagnosed with ADD, depression and social anxiety
I cant feel anything other than very mild sadness and anxiousness (the social part of it is almost gone, I still get nervous but im able to make friends and met people)
everything disappoints me, I always get my hopes up for something to potentially make me happy and it always fails (drugs, love, sex, friends, moving to a big city (the city I grew up in....
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when my grandfather died I wasnt able to grieve him
things I used to be really turned on by now dont affect me at all
there are very few points in my life when I felt strong emotions and they always made me feel alive
one being when my dog was about to die, for some reason I still care for him
I dont have any real hobbies or things that I can do effortlessly
I feel like im going through the motions all the time
im not able to think of a thing that could make me happy other than drugs
I dont have any existencial problems and nothing scares...
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>>16975635
Me as fuck. I think about personality disorders sometimes, and I feel like me(and you) either have major depressive, avoidant, or schizoid personality.
Whenever I try to reach out to people (whether it be to a girl/co-worker/whatever) and get a negative result I get a ton of negative feelings. What most people wouldn't hold a grudge over, I do.
I also never cried at my grandfather's funeral and I have trouble expressing emotions. It's almost like I live to just respond to people
>>16975673
I dont get that, I used to get really reaaally affected by social discomforts and stayed at home a lot because of that but after my medication I kinda just dont care anymore in that aspect
life is boring as shit
