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So I am 99% certain someone is stalking me, not sure who they are. But I've made them plenty of times. I'm a 21 year old guy if that matters.
>Started a few months back, at the start of the college semester
>Got some weird requests on faceobok, from fake accounts
>Knew they were fake, because I google image searched their profile pictures, was almost always the first result, some high profile social media person or model every time
>Told...
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Wow I wish a cute girl would stalk me OP. I say stick your dick in her, careful though she might be a yandere
>>16990446
Nah my dude, something is seriously wrong with this girl.
>>16990454
I'd suggest you lock your doors and windows at night. As a matter of fact check to make sure you have no hidden cams in the shower or in your toilet.
Of course you could confront her again but you might be raped.
My family is super racist and I'm not. I'm black, dating a white guy. Should I ever introduce him, or just hide him forever? We've been dating for a while already.
Pretty sure this is the real deal, and we're going to be together for a very long time.
Are you super tight with your family or have you moved out?
Prob gonna have to keep on down low if that's the case. Stick up for yourself and bf if your family finds out. Cut them out if you need to.
Love yourself and your man. Fuck that shit. If it's the real deal. Let love take you guys to where you need to go.
It's really unfortunate, and super shitty to think of, but you're going to eventually have to consider who to choose to stick with, your boyfriend or your family, mostly because your family is going to put you in that fucking horrible position. If you've been dating for a while--and if you're serious, this is important--then strongly think of when and how you'll reveal your boyfriend to your family. Because you can't hide him forever.
I'm sorry it has to be this way. It's unfair. But it is the reality of your situation, so learn...
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>>16990389
first of all, congrats for recognising bigotry regardless of its source. However expect that you will run into problems because of it within your ethnicity more often than not. and it won't be limited to your family, minorities have a higher percentage of people believing they are okay to hate any race and it doesnt count as racism.
are you a mostly self sufficient person? or do you still live with/rely on family for any direct assistance?
Gf just told me she doesn't love me anymore, after I asked her for help with my recent depression after I'd been helping her with her depression for more than a year.
How do I cope?
Feel so used.
Want to run away.
>>16990381
>how do i cope
are you sreiously asking this question? seriously? are you really asking that question?
>>16990385
Yeah, like i'm in any state to be logical or eloquent.
>>16990393
then delete thread and go to /pol/
>tfw no qt depressed anon to nurse back to health
Got into both of pic related (undergrad), now I'm trying to decide where to go, leaning towards Brown tho. I've read that placement into banking/consulting is about equal at both, so I'm not too worried about that, but how should I decide where to go?
What state do you live in now?
>>16990339
Commiefornia
I'd probably choose Brown although I can't give you a good reason. The networking miight be a little better in the Northeast. The thing about going to Duke is that you're probably going to have to deal with that "Yankees and Commiefornians suck" bullshit that southerners like to spit out.
Thanks to cunts of B and some futanari bullcrap, i've developed and interest to chicks with dicks. But I know i'm not gay. Like I find sex with chicks beautiful and passionate and or dirty and sexy.
While I find guys fucking gross, like I hold a sfrong hatred for my own gender but i've learned to tolerate it.
Only way I can explain my predicament in a way that makes sense is basically.
> See an ugly bitch
> Makes me angry because shes ugly
> Knows shes easy...
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>>16990317
>I've developed an interest in chicks with dicks
>But I know I'm not gay
Stopped reading there.
>>16990317
Would taking expired painkillers be such a bad idea? Hydrocodone with acetaminophen. Expired a good 5 years ago now. I'm not sure how opiates or Acetaminophen degrade over time, or if either become toxic. Been on some bad pain as of late, I was debating on taking them a few days ago when my prescriptions ran out, these few days have been hell! Google's given mixed replies. I'm still in an unholy amount of pain right now from my surgery 2 weeks ago. Doctor can't renew for some odd reason. No I'm not an addict, actually hate the non-narcotic affects associated...
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>>16990210
they say medication doesnt really go bad it just becomes less effecgtive. that being said, 5 years is a bit extreme.
google has the answers you are seekign tho.
>>16990217
Google does not, I have received mixed opinions from supposed pharmacists and I'd say a fair amount said don't and a fair amount said go for it. A fair amount of articles from reputable sources provided similar results. That being said as well, I checked several drug (user) and drug (addiction) forums and there were reports of people taking the same class medication 10+ years after expiration with minimal to no bad reactions. But for all i know they got lucky. Those who overdosed, died etc... Are no longer with us to write their experiences or provide any outlook. Those are die hard users though, recreationally and from an addiction standpoint and they know damn well their life is on the line. I'm just in pain, don't want to be in pain but don't really feel like putting my life in danger.
>>16990217
Although, I will say thanks for your insight and thoughts. Cheers mate.
How to combat romantic loneliness? I've got a lot of friends, male and female, but lately have been just immersing myself in my hobby. It's a social hobby too so I meet new girls and guys regularly but I've lately been yearning for a relationship. I've had a serious long term girlfriend in the past and flings but it seems everyone I meet just wants to hook up or date around. I feel restless and can't really pinpoint what to do.
not sure what to tell you. sounds like you're doing everything right. though its vague so its har to know for sure.
i tend to get my romantic loneliness worked out by fast flings that last a weekend.
>>16990209
I just feel so empty hooking up and am burnt out dating. I was hoping I was doing the right thing by continuing to focus on myself but lately even my own friends seem so alien to me.
>>16990274
still ont sure what to say, cuz its all so vague, you know. i was gonna suggest exploring new friends.
tell me what is this hobby?
What is your most regretful break up?
Why did it happen?
>>16990181
i broke up with a girl cuz i found out she'd been going to the gym with her ex (who i often clashed with). she had been doing this for months and never mentioned that they went together, and often just talked shit about him.
she tried to make it up to me, she did soem weird hand engraved mirror thing, where the mirror is sandblasted with a certain design.
the design was specific to me, and had the quote 'ever have one of those days' which i was famous for saying back then, i intended...
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>>16990189
Oh, that is genuinely upsetting.
I would take the fact that you stepped on it by an accident as an actual, psychological end to the relationship. I dont know, I believe in these things.
>>16990207
maybe. i lived in really tiny military housing so had placed it on the floor by my backpack while i reached for something else, then heard a crack and realized hat i had stepped on it.
either way its not a big deal. it was an art project for school she just happened to use images specific to me.
Oblivious or just over analyzing?
4 days ago a group of 4 of us left the building (2 Other guys and this girl) and were walking and as we were about to go our separate ways she commented about how she was cold, and I had the only coat out of the group.
Note: I have seen her looking at me from a distance, and she has sat near me when a lot of other spots were open.
>>16990146
if you want to make a move, go for it. if you dont, dont.
>>16990155
I am gonna do something soon. Just trying to gauge her interest though, and she seems to be somewhat interested, though not as obvious as others
>>16990146
for sure a missed opportunity.
Wouldn't necessarily say oblivious but have you ever talked with her. Do you know anything about this girl?
It's not too late to take a chance with her. Just pay attention to her next time if that's the case.
Has anyone here had an abortion or been with a gf who had one? Did you regret it?
Yes. No, but it probably marked the downfall of the relationship.
>>16990109
yes and yes. but i probably would have regretted it just as much if i hadnt, because thats also a big life changing thing.
its like trying to decide which hand to chop off. one of them has to go, but i need my right hand for most things. so id choose the left.
might regret that hwen i realize its my masturbation hand.
all that being siad, you have to remember that you CAN have a kid later in life. you cant undo the kid if you decide to keep him
>>16990109
I didn't but I watched my old roommate and his girlfriend freak out and drive down to PP to get one.
Guy was 35, she was 17. It was a chaotic mess. I don't think they regretted it cause less than 5 hours after they did that, they were back to fucking.
Am I wrong to be angry here?
>go to rave with gf
>been dating two weeks since the event, had sex multiple times, hung out all the time during those two weeks
>get detained for being publicly intoxicated
>find out by my own gf last night (she was holding information from me) that while I was in jail she met up with some guy she knew before we were together
>he found her in the crowd, they danced, and she said he felt...
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I'd dump her ASAP.
You hang out with some real classy ladies.
>>16990011
>mfw i dated a spic named edgar who goes to raves
but unless your gf has a penis i dont think its the same one.
that being said
>my gf saw a guy she knew
>he made a move
>she turned him down and went back to friends
>IM SO FUCKING MAD ABOUT THIS
wow what a tool you are
Did I move too fast kissing a guy on the third date?
>>16990009
>Did I move too fast kissing a guy on the third date?
It doesn't matter. If you have feelings for him and you want to kiss him, kiss him. He's going on a third date with you which means he's obviously interested.
Don't sweat it, just do it.
>>16990013
Thanks. I'm worried because he hasn't texted back yet
the timing has zero bearing on anything, so don't worry. If he ends up rejecting you, it will be because he doesn't like you as a person and a woman, not some silly arcane rule about dating.
I recently came to the conclusion that I am depressed. Despite having a happy and successful life on paper I cannot get out of bed in the morning.
I have started daily meditation and have been for 2 months which while providing me slightly better understanding of my depression it hasn't changed it.
I do not have a horrible life by any means nor do I have a singular reason I can point at and 'This is why I am depressed!', regardless I spend every night in bed unable to sleep without some sort of aid. Interactions with others during the day have become...
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Lifestyle change? Sometimes its your lifestyle thats the issue try gym, social activities and maybe explore more hobbie options.
>>16989911
>i came to the conclusion that i am depressed
>not my therapist or psychiatrist
that was your first mistake.
>i have a happy and successful life
>but i am sad
this is an oxymoron. if you were depressed you wuldnt be able to objectively acknowledge the happy stuff happening, cuz to you it wouldnt be happy. it'd be humdrum at best.
>how...
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read the wiki page on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, then read Feeling Good by David Burns or just go to his website and read all the blogs- for both the public and therapists.
it will take about an hour and afterwards you'll have the tools you need to toss your depression out the window within about a week's time.
I need help /adv/
Recently I've been having increasingly frequent romantic/sexual thoughts about my best friend, but we're both guys. It's gotten to the point where I want to try "experimenting" with him but I'm not sure of his sexual orientation (he's never been one to talk openly about it). I want so badly to be more than friends but I also don't want to end up making things weird between us by misjudging the situation.
Wat do?
>>16989891
hot.
truth be told, you might not be feeling legitimate sexual attraction. maybe yo uare more self aware, but a lot of guys get these weird confusing feelings and dont realize that htey just want to feel closer to other dudes, and they have strong love type feelings. but love does not equal romance as family has taught us, and it certainly doesnt equal sex as family has taught us.
sometimse these feelings just mean you wanna cuddle with your bro, kiss him on the cheek, or what have you.
or...
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>>16989891
>Wat do?
If you attempt a sexual relationship with him and he says no your friendship will be permanently weird. That's a face.
If you attempt to have a sexual relationship and he is also interested then there is a small chance you could cultivate a relationship with him but, if you break up your friendship would also be over.
If you're asking if there's an easy way out of this there isn't. Anything you do will either be painful or...
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>>16989897
I don't see why a picture is necessary
I've got a brother who refuses to have a mature relationship with me, or the rest of our family. He's 28, I'm 22, and to this day he still resents me and acting like an adult. When I walk past him though the house he will hiss at me. When I say something a little boring or obvious at dinner he becomes upset, as if I've ruined a fine intellectual conversation. He belittles our mother, and calls her crazy even though she's depressed from having been through several major medical problems, the deaths of three family members, and the mental illness of a...
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Have you tried smacking him, in front of your parents, hard?
>>16989839
He's too fat for that to work with out a physical implement, and I don't want to hurt him. I just want him to stop being self absorbed and disgusting
>>16989850
Do you think he behaves like a child because he has been hurt to much. Probably not.
Pull his shirt over his head and unload onto his skull. Don't worry, he'll be fine later that day.
If he wouldn't lesson, and wouldn't talk - the line has to be draw.
Then you can ask him what's going on inside his head
