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If I think about breaking up with my gf sometimes, do I just need to man up and do it? She's great, and only wants to make me happy, and when I think about being without her I'm sad but also not totally torn up.
Does the mere fact that I have considered ending it multiple times mean I should just do it already?
If I have to ask these questions does that make it obvious?
All her friends are also my friends...there's like this social pressure to keep this thing going so it's not awkward.
I'm also probably moving to another city (5+ hours away) in a couple months and have always hated the idea of a long distance relationship
Sounds like you want to do it but are afraid of social repercussions, being alone, and hurting your gf's feeling. You seem like a good dude and nice people feel conflicted about this stuff
You don't need a reason to end it, if a relationship isn't vibing with you anymore than that's enough, but doing what you want is seen as selfish and rude so it's harder to just act on your emotions, you know?
How old are you OP?
>>16996011
I'm 22, and it's not like it's my first relationship.
I feel pressured to at least keep it going until I move away, which I know is selfish. It's not like I can't stand being with her, we always have fun together.
However there are frequent arguments, she can get pissed just from me saying something the wrong way. Tbh, she just seems kind of immature. She's pretty conservative, but a bit dirty in the bedroom. I was her first time, but before me she had dated a guy 10 years older than her and others so it's not like I'm the first guy she's been in a relationship with her
>>16996022
Hey OP, was having the same ruminations as you. Broke up with my girlfriend yesterday. I figured that if I'd been thinking about it that many times, it would have been unfair to continue the relationship and string her along. She was also in a place of her life where she needs to do something and I'm more established and looking to travel, so there was that too (she's 20, I'm 26).
Basically, I'd get it out of the way as soon as you can. I had to wait until the end of a holiday we'd booked months ago but I managed that long and simply had to pull the pin because I felt so guilty about continuing it.
God speed friend.
Today me and my girlfriend almost got mugged.
Two guys came over to us and asked for the time. Told them the time and wanted to move away, but then they asked for some spare change and we declined. Tried moving away again, but they blocked our path and insisted we give them our wallets and everything else in our pockets. One was going in to grab me, but I panicked and punched him in the nose and hit the other guy in the neck as hard as I could. Then we ran from them.
Should I report this to the police? should we be afraid to go through the place in fear of retribution? It happened during the day, but in an alleyway of sorts, but they did get a good look at our faces. We both go through there every day, since it's the shortest path back home after uni.
>>16995928
Yes, go to the police.
Luckily from the sound of it, it was probably their first time trying to rob someone like that.
>>16995935
They seemed to be intoxicated, since it was hard to understand what they were saying and they reeked of alcohol. Since i'm almost sure I would of gotten shanked if they were "pros".
>>16995939
Believe it or not, most people aren't willing to severely hurt someone (and risk killing them) for an unknown amount of money. Honestly if they were "pros", they wouldn't do it during the day either way, let alone targeting 2 people.
If you do go to the police, include that they seemed to be intoxicated.
How do I build discipline?
I can't help you OP but I'm just bumping because I'm in the same boat.
I've worn down what discipline I had to the point where even being productive for half an hour a day is an immense struggle.
>>16995846
Same boat here,
Its hard but most important part is yourself.
There are audio books about this or other informatioin. Altouh i havent had the disicpline to do it ;p
>>16995846
I built discipline by hating myself.
Who here has majored in math? How has it worked out for you employment wise?
I switched over to math late in the game and got really tired of being in school at 25. So I put it on hold and now I am in the goddamn Navy.
Bretty cool
>>16995739
How do you like the Navy? Could an ex-stoner get in? I heard they pretty much turn down anyone who has smoked more than once.
>>16995836
It's pretty cool so far can't beat the benefits and traveland all that shit. Sure you can as long as you don't have that shit on your criminal record. Just tell em yoube never done the stuff
>Broke up with exgf 2 months ago
>Toxic relationship, she was manipulative, didn't had time for me, just friends and shit, she didn't cared if we continued or not
>Ended it to not fight anymore and cool things down
>Ex go to a trip, gives me her house keys and asks me to take care of her dog.
>"My parents say that it's OK, they trust you"
>Lie, her parents didn't knew
So I went to her house, gave the keys to her parents, explained them and then I apologized for the situation, didn't stole anything and I did what I was suppossed to.
I got super mad, I hate lies. But she explained to me that she lied so I would take care of her dog and that
>"I was going to tell my parents anyways"
I asked her to stop using me and playing with me, because I know she also likes other guy. She denied everything but finally accepted since I know the truth. After all she said "yes, I fucked up for lying and playing, sorry, I still love you".
Right now I don't know if I can trust anymore, she used me and then lied to me. But I don't know if i'm being a douche or if i'm overreacting for this.
What do you think?
She's your ex. Why are you even still talking to her? You owe her nothing. You're done with her. She doesn't need to be in your life. Tell her to fuck off and never talk to you again.
Stop being a pussy ass bitch and drop her like you should've done before.
>>16995595
Yeah man, you're fucking right. I stopped talking to her when we broke up but she talked to me and we agreed to be friends, since that's what we really liked.
I never expected her to flirt again with me, I clearly said "friends" and she agreed. Or even use me for something as big as this.
Thank you, i'll do that, luckily nothing bad happened, so i'm not responsible of anything. But I don't want something else to happen, this girl is acting weird.
>>16995586
You probably ae an asshole. Most of us are at one time or another. But not for this.
She used you. If you want to be generous you can choose to think that she felt you were still friends and this was just a small favor. Or you can be annoyed.
Still, though, in the cosmic scale of Things To Be Pissed Off About, this ranks pretty low. Just write it off as her being her usual self and have nothing more to do with her.
>Work really hard on important project in programming class
>Hand it in
>Teacher takes forever to mark it
>Finally get mark back today
>12%
>Check files I handed in
>Handed in an incomplete version by accident
Is there anything I can do at this point? The teacher took her damn time with marking so it's been well over a month since I handed it in.
My mark is pretty much fucked in this class because of this, so I'm pretty much panicking trying to figure out if there's anything I can do at this point.
>>16995506
You could talk to the teacher? Explain what happened. That's the only option you really have.
>>16995535
Yeah, I sent her an e-mail. Waiting back now. I'm just bitter because I did so much work and it was all for nothing I guess.
>>16995506
feel so sorry for u :( <3
Ummm you can talk to the teacher and say that you'd like to have something like a second chance
[spoiler]Not sure if this is supposed to be on /g/ (or /v/) or not but[/spoiler]
hey /adv/, I'm finally able to up my mustard rice game and have a few questions:
Where do I start in picking the right parts? obv the criteria is something like budget vs performance (also how well part a works with part b) but I don't really have a point of reference.
How can I git gud at this down the line?
Other practical advice?
My mate got his tower (built by his mate) for $1,295 AUD - specs in pic related
How is it?
>>16995486
Nothing wrong with that PC in your pic, though it would be much better for gaming with a 4GB 970 instead of a 2GB 960.
Also skip the gaming keyboard and gaming mouse, get a proper keyboard and mouse, I suggest a logitech mx800 combo.
>>16995486
And if you don't want to build your own, try pccasegear.com and have a look at the systems on there - they're about the best value you'll find for your dollar in a prebuilt in australia.
>>16995537
Thanks but its ok. I'm really interested in learning about my machine and the PC hardware biz in general.
Hmm, how did you get into it yourself?
I'm not sure about this.
>straight female aged 20
>Have been seeing a gorgeous guy for a while
>he's quite literally model status and easily the best looking guy I've been with
>we go on a mini holiday and of course we fuck a bit
>he's pretty good with it, I enjoy the sex mostly
>he starts getting kinkier, wants me to finger his asshole while I suck him off
>don't think too much of it, I've heard of males enjoying this before
>he starts to talk about how he's fantasised about me having a dick
>wants me to fuck him with a strap-on
>feel a bit weird about it but don't tell him that
>we don't have one at the time so I'm saved for the moment
Long story short, is this guy gay? Or at the very least bisexual? I'm not necessarily troubled by this, but I just wonder a bit. He could just be totally confident in his sexuality. He's never had trouble getting it up.
Thoughts?
>>16995433
Hmm he might just be into being dominated, maybe try and dig in that direction a bit further. But you're right he could also be bi or gay, try testing the waters about whether he's thought about being with a guy ever.
He's not gay. Most men enjoy prostate stimulation, despite it being taboo.
Get a realdoe. It's a strapless strap-on that you hold in your pussy, looks pretty realistic. Only issue is that once you're well-lubricated, it gets harder to hold in, and if you enjoy it too much you can accidentally push it out. Still, it's good for the futa illusion.
A lot of guys are into futa, and into having their prostates stimulated. I wouldn't be too worried about it unless he starts asking you to dress like a man during sex, or only puts it in your butt.
My mouth has been insanely dry for the past 4 days. I have not changed my diet at all or at least not much. I know I'm not dehydrated because my pee is a healthy color and I drink 2+ liters of water every day.
What's going on? What can I do. I can't really afford to see a doctor right now and I'm hoping it's just a quick Easy fix
Anyone?
>>16995367
Check if you have any other symptoms of type 2 diabetes, even if you aren't fat.
>>16995367
Not a medfag but drink only water,a sweet drink can make you more thrsty
>>16995367 let me make this clear, you need to give some head and swallow every last drop. That'll do it.
I don't come to this board very often, so I'm not sure what my general structure should be, as far as my question. I also almost never ask for help. My problem is:
>I can't stay with a girl for more than a few months.
>Things in their eyes are usually perfect. I treat them with respect and dignity, I maintain the relationship well.
>Seemsgreatman.jpg
>I leave them.
I have a hard time describing why I do thing. For lack of a better word I find them boring.
The relationship begins great, the sex is great, we hang out, they come over, we talk alot. Everything is great.
After a few months, can't stand them, need a lot of space, start looking at other girls, I break it off.
Another 2 weeks or so the cycle repeats.
>I'm 27 now. This has been going on for about 6 years.
Are my standards to high or low?
How does this end?
How fucked am I?
Is my brain broken?
Bumping for someone similar to OP
OP here, bumping with planes.
~Tower please respond~ I don't have many airplane jokes.
so I found out that my boyfriend has been masturbating to nudes a mutual friend sends him. like he's gone so far as to pass up sex for masturbating so I did something I'm really not proud off and snooped in his computer and found them
what do I do? I feel like I'm in the wrong for snooping and god I really wish this wasn't happening because I love him so much but it's totally shattered my trust in him
is breaking up the only option? am I being a stuck-up controlling bitch for getting so upset at him jerking off to another woman?
It is completely reasonable to be upset about this. Dump him. You did the wrong thing though. Fess up and then dump him. This relationship isnt healthy on both sides.
Usually when men take up jacking off instead of sex it's one of these reasons:
You aren't attractive to him any more, and he doesn't have a desire to have sex
He feels like you with hold sex or reward him with sex so he'd rather just jack off
Hes unhappy with the relationship and is staying with you because you love him and he knows it but he doesn't love you.
Instead of breaking up, try to be as sexy as possible and get him riled up, try lingerie and shit like that. Just remind him how good and ready you are, and he will probably want you and you only again. And if he doesn't you might as well admit you were snooping, because you could at least bring it up and his reasoning instead of breaking up on the spot.
>>16995279
Agreed. You shouldn't have snooped, and he shouldn't have cheated. Neither side has clean hands anymore, but that means this relationship has gone mutually toxic. I am sorry, but for both your sakes, it is time to end it.
It is good that you understand your mistake, though. Learn from it, and resolve to do things more cleanly next time.
any alpha guide?
Eat a lot of garlic.
>>16995202
Make the girls laugh at the expense of someone weaker than you.
there are a few Alpha traits you have to be aware of. Alpha males have presents. This doesn't mean being huge or anything. You just have to walk like you're the shit and talk like what you have to say matters. They are also dominant. You have to take control of situations. No beating around the bush, directness is key to being alpha.
I have my first john tomorrow and then i'm booked most the week
How did this happen? well i'm naieve and put all my eggs in one basket
>be a par college student
>be geeky girl with a bit of chub
>super hot med student wants me
>super critical of this cause i'm not that hot but he convinces me to purely depend on him and fall in love
>move in quit my job at his insistence
>get dumbed and tossed out after 6 months
>broke, depressed little to no self worth
so advice before i become a whore?
Well, if this advice doesn't fall on deaf ears it could help. However, it most likely will.
The steps to problem solving are thus:
1. Identify the problem
2. Determine solution for the problem
3. Develop a plan to enact the solution
You need to get your life together, and if being a whore is going to help you do that, then by all means sell that pussy.
However, if you're just using this as a stall for yourself to build your confidence while you wallow in pity because your "love" left you. Then you're better off being homeless; or going to live with your parents.
All in all you need to be more self aware and open to solutions. However, that's just a strangers opinion of you.
Honestly though, come up with a game plan, don't be an indefinite whore. If you're smart enough to go to college you're smart enough to fix your life mistake.
Have you asked your parents for help? I don't think they'd want to see their kid turn to prostitution.
>>16995189
>>super hot med student wants me
>>super critical of this cause i'm not that hot but he convinces me to purely depend on him and fall in love
>>move in quit my job at his insistence
Posted all the red flags that you missed lady...
Bitch there's a reason I avoid hot girls that are interested in me. That's a red flag right there. A fucking trap if I ever saw one.
Secondly, the whole "purely depend" thing... yeah, never but that much faith in someone - people are assholes.
Lastly, if he insist that you have to quit your job, then that's a bad fuckin' sign. That is literally him making you completely dependant on him, in this situation he has all the power.
Don't give someone that much control over your life mate. Keep options open, because people aren't dependant at all.
Ok, ex girl called me last night. My phone was closed but the provider tells me who called me and when.
The thing was like this: Had sex for the first time, was not great for me, for her i have no idea, she came twice with oral. No bj for me. The nex day i got my ass dumped, i took on drinking, for 2 weeks in such manner that my hands fucking shake if I don't drink at least 3-4 beers / night. My life was a hell for 2 weeks, skipped all the classes, i looked like a homeless person for 1 week and half, basic dumped beta faggot stuff.
Now, this morning was great, I went outside, exercised, I feel on top of the world right now. (aparently it really helps)
10 minutes ago I switch to no-airplane-mode (i anticipated her call, phone was off pretty much all weekend). I do not want to feel like shit again so for now i would not speak to her. I did not called her back nor would i, at least not until I escape this shitty phase. She probably wants to get back together (i "broke up" with her one night because i was fucking full, could not take anymore of her problems then, the next day she practically begged me to get back, my mistake...i fell for her), what should I do fags? I would agree to be "friends" with her but not now, I still have feelings.
Cmon faggots, don't abandon me
>The next day i got my ass dumped, i took on drinking, for 2 weeks in such manner that my hands fucking shake if I don't drink at least 3-4 beers / night. My life was a hell for 2 weeks, skipped all the classes, i looked like a homeless person for 1 week and half
what
>basic dumped beta faggot stuff.
no, it's really not. what the fuck is wrong with you?
I developed feelings for her m8...it sucks. I took drinking as self-medication, did not helped much.
So i am fairly new to this site, only been here around 6 months on adv asking things around and figured this is a rather useful board where people actually put in effort to come up with reasonable advice so i decided to finally ask you people if one of my biggest problems can be solved.
For the past 2 months i have been burning 400 calories at the gym every 2nd day for and kept a journal explaining how it all went that very same day. I have had to put off going to the gym due to me finishing my security training course which i have been studying for due to an exam but i figured it was time to actively put some effort back into hitting the gym and doing it better this time
My experience of following this pattern of 400 calories on the treadmill every 2nd day has been slightly effective but not enough that i could call it progress since sometimes i would only burn very little every week. I have been trying to eat less and i am working on that but it seems that only time will help me adapt to it. I want to know if burning 400 calories is a good ammount or if i should aim much higher like 700? an overweight guy can lose much more weight much faster than a skinny individual i know but i cant help feel i would be overdoing it? any good advice on how to burn this fat from my body within a year's time? i want to follow a pattern that works much better than the one i am experimenting with now.
Also i am 18 years old.
More information on the gym i go to.
It literally is 3 minutes away walking, right in front of my apartment.
The gym offers a very wide range of tools and has many rows of treadmills and other cardiovascular related machines.
There is a section dedicated to weight lifting ranging from a bench press and lat pull down all the good upper body related machines are there to work with.
I have been using the leg-press at a high intensity after every 400 calories i burn to make sure my legs are spent for the day.
i usually spend only about 50 to 60 minutes at the gym each time i am there due to not aiming for much more than burning calories and working on my legs.
It's not just about the calories, the the kind of food you're eating and its effects on your blood sugar levels also affect your weight loss. If you're eating simple carbohydrates like bread and potato, you need to replace them with veggies like broccoli, asparagus and anything else with fiber. Fruits should also be kept to the minimum.
So basically, avoid carbs and anything else that spikes your sugar blood levels and your body will use fatty tissue as energy
>>16995145
Will try adjusting to this from now on, this sounds like solid advice thanks.
