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Why do you grills wear makeup?
>>16984749
Because I feel prettier like that. I think it improves the way my skin looks and it makes my eyes look prettier.
Plus I do like putting makeup on - It's one of those rituals that makes me feel like I am taking care of myself, looking more feminine and pretty.
I usually don't wear much stuff, just a very light foundation and mascara.
>>16984749
To try and hide imperfections and feel less ugly.
I've been on two dates with this girl now and I don't know if I want to take it any further.
Physically speaking I'd say she's at least a 7/10 and I think she's attractive, but every time things get the slightest bit intimate she shies away and becomes really awkward.
E.g. whenever I make eye contact she looks either down or away. This really pisses me off as I never get to look at her face. I genuinely can't picture her face that clearly in my mind.
Another example: at the end of the second date we kissed. It was terrible....
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Stick around, faggot. Its better then most other girls who've taken 20 cocks already. Depends on your preference tho, experienced or shy types.
Does she have big titties?
>>16984648
OP here, she doesn't have big titties from what I can tell. She hasn't worn any particularly revealing clothing. I'd guess average B/C titties.
I'd say stick with it. Hard to find people that have good conversations.
As you said, she's probably just shy and I imagine the more you get to know her, the easier time you'll have of holding her gaze.
As for the kissing, for most it just takes practice.
So my girlfriend said recently that she doesn't really think getting married and having kids is for her. She imagines herself as "the cool aunt" in the future and thinks kids might be too much responsibility. I'm trying not to worry about it too much because she's only 21, but in the back of my mind, getting married and having kids is something I've always thought I'd end up doing.
Should I not worry about this at all, since neither of us is anywhere near being ready to get married and/or have children? Or should I worry that I might...
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Make it clear that you do want to be married and with kids in the future.
>>16984602
Keep your opinion steady and don't falter. Some women try to test the waters with their bf by saying they're not interested in having kids whatsoever when they actually want them.
In the next year or few years she may change her opinion, but if she doesn't it's time to leave.
>>16984607
I did try to make it clear that I want to be married at some point when she brought it up a while back, and after I explained the legal benefits of it she seemed to come around at least a little bit. I think some of her thoughts on marriage and the like may stem from having divorced parents.
Computer science degree or cyber operations degree?
Pic not related
>>16984594
Computer science is way more employable
Thanks anon
>>16984594
Wtf is cyber operations?
M/23/Australia 198cm white
Had sex once with a whale when I was 19.
Every day I think about taking my own. Just ending it here, and getting out of the matrix. It's always a question on my mind, what comes after. When you get deep in researching humanity, you see that we're all minor fragments in this world waiting for death. We will eventually go extinct.
I don't take any medication.
I don't have any close friends.
I have a great job.
I don't socialise, including at work.
I only see women as objects. Would fap...
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Just an edge master
Women are objects though. Just find one you like that'll give you kids and stick with her. You'll change into a well adjusted normal male after you fall in love with her.
You sound like a bored human being, OP
Let's say you're a guy who wants to learn how to be happy by himself and you're tired of the relationship bs.
How can you achieve happiness or satisfaction by yourself ?
>>16984468
Okay, so nobody here thinks it's possible to be happy without a woman and nobody gives a fuck about this subject, right ?
>>16984743
Fuck you /adv/ is a slow board you twat. If you're this impatient and intolerant with everything I can see why you're unsuccessful with women. Of course it's possible to be happy without women, do you know how I know? Because aside from even my own personal experience men have been living without women for thousands of years. You think you're the first man women have passed over? Get some fucking perspective.
You find something worth living for and you use your time to work at it. Like...
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>>16984468
>>16985144
This, OP you faggot.
Should I try to reconcile with a good friend that I haven't spoken with in years? (It was over something stupid and I overreacted - basically my fault but I was young and stupid) or just leave them at peace
I don't see the harm in it, unless you think they'd have reason to still hate you for whatever you did...
Don't expect to be their friend again, but yeah, wouldn't hurt to apologize and try to reconnect a bit.
>>16984388
Why not? Though don't be apologizing just so you can be friends again. If you genuinely sorry then just apologize.
>>16984388
Contact him privately (email or letter, not FB). Just say, without being too gushy about it, that you regret losing contact and would like a chance to learn what's new with him and to share some of your own stories.
Take your cue from whether he responds, and how friendly he is.
Any good books on the do's and do not's of dating? I don't have any dating/romantic experience, and I don't want my naivety exploited by less-than-reputable women.
>>16984336
>I don't want my naivety exploited by less-than-reputable women.
Trust me, you kinda do.
>>16984381
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>>16984403
>Fucking kids these days using that word when they don't even know what it means
I've recently dropped out of university and had my student finances stopped but my landlord is being a dick and wont break the lease. My rent is about £400pcm and I near enough can't afford it, I work at mcdicks and near enough all my earning now go to cover the rent. It's depressing to think i'm just working for a house that I don't live at. It fucking sucks, I've spoke to him and if I don't pay he'll basically squeeze it out my parents which are poor as fuck.
what do????
>>16984326
Should have stayed in halls if you werent sure you'd stick out your course. Nothing you can do about it sorry.
>>16984326
Use craigslist to set up a stealth sublet.
>pro: might even earn a little more from the sublet than the cost of rent
>con: if you sublet to a shithead and he trashes the apartment, you're on the hook for his damages
>>16984326
Why'd you drop out? I take it you're American?
I think my girlfriend wants to break up with me. I can't function. Yesterday I paced around my apartment for 5 hours waiting for her to get home. I tried escaping in TV, video games, music, exercise, etc but I just couldn't get out of my head. Now I'm at work 30 minutes into my 8 hour shift and I'm absolutely terrified of being stuck in my own thoughts the entire time. I don't know what to do. If she leaves me I will probably just kill myself because I know if I'm like this just thinking of her leaving me, I'll be a complete wreck of she actually does
If you wouldnt be that type of person which posts that shit you just wrote on a random website like 4chan she probably would have less reasons to dump you fella
Tell her that you are afraid, and tell her why. If she wants to break up with you, she will do so, and you won't have to die a thousand deaths like this anymore: you can get on with your life. If she doesn't, she will reassure you of that, and then you won't have to die a thousand deaths like this anymore: you can get on with your life.
Either way, you won't have to die a thousand deaths like this anymore: you can get on with your life. Wouldn't that be nice?
>>16984821
>Tell her you're afraid
If you wanna be dumped do this especially.
I'm too sad to fall asleep/
I don't want a fucking counselor, I just need to remedy this as quick as possible.
Advice?
What the fuck is going on with /adv/
am I the only one seeing this
>>16984270
Found the newfag
>>16984272
>newfag
not even close. I've been browsing 4chan on-and-off since 2006.
A girl that I'm close to and was pretty sure we can get a relationship going pretty soon told me today that I am acting "Cold" or I am a "Cold person" way too often for her to have a relationship with me and that I need to change that.. Yes I know I am a bit "closed" person, but I don't really think I've been acting cold with her..
What the hell does that mean? Can someone explain who's experienced in this? What does a woman want and what do I need to do?
Really need to sort this out and change for the better if...
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>>16984201
Stop being a buzzkill and focus on positive shit instead of looking at faults in; society/people/ideologies etc.
Show empathy towards others, be a nice person. This isn't hard anon.
Basically she's saying your a dick and you should get over yourself or else she won't put up with your shit. So get your act together
>>16984201
>relationship going pretty soon
>acting "Cold" or I am a "Cold person"
she desperately want's you to make the next move (body contact, kissing, asking her out on a date, whatever comes next). she feels like you aren't really interested at that point. hurry the fuck up anon
>>16984211
Fuck man I kiss with her on a daily basis, hugs and all shit maybe it's just not enough or it doesn't feel sincere for her..
I think it's the way I act towards other and all that more than her.
If there are any employer lawfags here then this should be over quickly. If not, you get to have some fun.
>Minimum wage
>Currency booth
>Three of us share shifts
>None of us interact outside of work
>But within work, we're tight
>Arrange the rota amongst ourselves
>Always cover each other if one is sick
>Nobody has ever had to come from another store to cover while we've been there
>I'm leaving to go Uni
>Have personally set my leaving date for June 1st
>Know I'm obligated to give four weeks' notice
>I want to hand my notice in ASAP
>Just so management bring in a suitable replacement in good time and fully prepared so as to not leave the other two in the shit
If I hand my notice in a month before the obligatory period, is there any possibility they could fire me?
Legally or otherwise.
I'm in no mood to go through a tribunal and could use the money up to the point before I fuck off.
Thanks in advance.
>pic unrelated but rejoice in their magnificence all the same
I don't have any law to back me up, and I'm probably not in the same country as you, but I can't see why they'd have the four weeks' notice requirement if they were just going to fire you within those four weeks anyway.
>>16984176
They almost certainly won't fire you. They'll probably thank you for giving them so much notice.
>>16984181
I want to hand my notice in advance of the legal/obligatory period
>>16984182
I'm thinking the same but I've developed a reputation as being "too big for the job" (not that I could help it - I have a different humour/vernacular to minimum wage monkeys).
Plus, I'm kinda phoning it in already.
I'm probably being paranoid but a part of me thinks they'd see me as a toxic influence and they'd like...
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I'm 21 years old and I've realized that this is as hot as I will ever be. I have never had a boyfriend and I don't enjoy too much men's attention.
I have a friend who is ok looking, funny, stable, educated, wants children and he really likes me. We have known each others for years and we do everything together. We go to dinners together, we watch movies together, basically the only thing separating us from a couple is that we don't have sex. It has been close a few times though and we've kissed in the past.
I have never been in love but I know that I don't love him really in a romantic way. I care about him a lot, but I don't feel big passion towards him.
I just don't think I'll ever find anyone "better." It's not easy to find men who like me anyway and he has seen the good, bad and ugly but but still stays by my side.
Should I just stop hoping for impossible to happen and go for it?
>>16984091
>I don't feel big passion towards him
Hmmm
I think you just answered your own question
>>16984091
Getting ready to settle at 21? Ouch. Maybe you should try doing some things you've always wanted to and then deciding if settling is a good plan.
That's not exactly fair to him, is it?
>you have been friendzoned
>but you're still here
>disappointed sigh
>I'll take you
Conversely, maybe love grows. Take it slow. But you are settin yourself up for an affair or divorce when you find "the one" who you immediately feel a passionate sexual interest in. You'll tell yourself it's love and shit when it's lust.
TL; DR: bitch move, too young to settle
So guys, is there a specific term for the style of drawing in pic related?
>>16984079
Drawing birds with le funnei phrase
>>16984079
'Cuck Meme'
>>16984079
pretty sure there's a book about it
