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Why can't I get laid. I got coincidence, decent looks, bit boyish, my only big problem is my hight. 5' 6". I don't want to turn into a wizard
>>16986242
I meant confidence, I hate phones
>>16986242
>>16986282
I'm 5'6" and i get laid just fine.
post a picture of yourself so we can see waht you are working wtih. if you refuse to provide us with that we dont even know where to go.
its not even a matter of ugly vs. hot but we gotta know what your look is.
>>16986335
Post your pic, 5'6" mackdaddy.
Let's see what it takes to get laid at that height.
I'm a man in his mid twenties, as I a child and early teen I was chronically raped and abused. I'm okay with the fact, although unfortunate. Despite this I still have an extremely difficult time discussing things related it to it. I don't care what somebody does or doesn't do with their body unless they're violating or hurting someone. Often times I am not given the same courtesy, and it affects my ability to make friends. The topic comes up now and again, of course. I'm not a very good liar, so when I tell them the truth they often start treating me strangely or jumping the shark with who I am as a person. I don't feel comfortable enough to label my sexuality and when I try to describe my history and preferences in any minutia they seem to get aggressive or upset, either because I can't describe it in one sentence, or feel the need to council or dictate how I need to handle my own body, even though I myself am comfortable. I've been told to just decline, or just push the conversation along to another subject but often I just get odd looks, or people just get more curious and pry further. I also don't want to seem standoffish either. Even my best friend from childhood friend will rag on me about it, although mostly in social settings. It can get extremely frustrating and often puts a barrier in my friendships.
Make asexual friends they don't care about sex and never bring it up
>>16986237
quit being a faggot. literally no psychological issue is fixed/improved by avoidance
>>16986237
OP trust me no matter how hard you try to ignore your problems they will always find a way to come into your life and fuck you up. The best thing to do is try and find a way to make it not bother you anymore because in this era of EVERYTHING being sexual you cant avoid it.
Do guys always have to make the first move? Do american girls always expect the guy to make the first move?
I've had a lot of gf's, but also been rejected a LOT. I hate the rejection so I never even attempt at making a serious first move anymore. If a girl plays hard to get (or is trying to, I'm not sure if they're just being rude), I immidietly dump them from my conscious. I notice girls staring at me but at this point in my life I'm too bitter to even attempt unless they show serious interest first. I hate women expecting anything from me.
Do guys typically have to make the first move in society?
>>16986204
typically yes, universally no. if you are too afraid to make a move you are going to miss out on a lot, and this is coming from a guy who thinks people SHOULD spend more time single. but you gotta be brave when the person might be right for you.
i think the biggest issue is you are putting 'rejection' in your mind as something bad.
its not. there isn't a scale by which men are judged. girls dont say 'I SEE THROUGH YOUR ILLUSIONS AND KNOW THAT YOU ARE ONLY A 5.4 ON THE MAN CHART!'
girls dont reject you because you are a bad person. A girl will turn you down because she is not interested in you.
in another thread i told the story of how my mom made what most people would claim to be the best lasagna in the entire fucking world. everyone loved it, neighbors would pay her to make it, an actual fucking chef asked my mom for her particular recipe to use at his restaurant.
but i hated lasagna. i would gag, i would puke, it was the fucking worst. but that doesnt mean my mom made a bad lasagna. it just means it wasnt the right meal for me. you are lasagna OP.
go be the best lasagna you can be.
there is no cloaked man in the sky with a chalkboard keeping track of the number of 'rejections' you get.
>>16986213
thanks. this has been the best advice I've gotten in a long time. maybe I'm just a unique taste that only some acquire? I have been rejected quite a lot, much more than the gf's I've had (which is about 10-13). and when I say rejected a lot I mean a LOT. but I guess I'm an acquired taste?
thanks anyway. that helped a lot.
>>16986224
i think you got it wrong mate. you arent an acquired taste. i think your assumption that most men are tasty is wrong.
do you think ,most men are walking around not getting rejected by girls they ask out?
you got 13 relationsihps, which is a lot more than i can say. i seemed to get 'turned down' every week, but it doesnt bug me, cuz ive had to turn people down to. sure not as many as a girl turns down, but it just shows that if they WERE the ones pursuing us, we'd still be knocking people down to.
you arent an acquired taste. its just a faulty metaphor because there are very few men who are universally enjoyed.
and thats okay. having women universally adore you wont actually change the rest of your life at all, its not a measure of what makes someone good, or fun, or cool, or what have you.
Just broke up w gf of three years.
How do I meet/date/fuck Women?
Before being w ex only way I got w girls was when I was drunk or online.
I'm actually pretty decent looking, I'm very physically fit, clean up p well, am relatively confident, catch a lot of girls looking me up and down, paying a lot of attention to me, being overly friendly, at this point I know Its not just a coincidence, I thought it might be the case at first but now I'm sure I'm not just being overly confident. But I just fail and fall flat on my face when I try to go past friendship.
I was 90% sure this girl wanted me for good reasons, asked her out, turned down. Made a joke to girl that always checks me out, kind of rejected. Made tinder, only got bots or women ignoring me excluding one who actually talked to me, but then canceled at the last second.
I almost just want to give up. Like is my personality that shit.
If you're decent looking, it shouldn't be hard.
Read this:
http://revolutionarylifestyledesign.com/how-to-get-laid-on-tinder-how-i-banged-10-new-girls-in-5-weeks/
I use okcupid and tinder for casual sex. Use at least 2-3 good pictures of yourself, and make your bio short.
"Just moved here. I enjoy pizza and hiking."
When you're about to message a girl, don't say hi. Do not say hey. Do not say How are you? Say something clever or something that grabs her attention. I usually message a girl
How does this work?
We're supposed to hang out and cuddle, right..
If the girl responds, she's interested and most likely dtf.
Usually the response is "Yes that's how this works" or "ha maybe :)"
If she's immediately showing interest, I say something like "I'm always up to cuddle ;) So what are you looking for on here?"
If she responds with something serious involving a relationship, don't reply. If she says something casual, say "Same here, I think we'll get along great. We should hang out this week, what's your schedule looking like?"
After she responds with her availability, ask her for her number then set up a time/place to meet
I only came here for the tits and the fact that the site has changed appearance and sucks now.
>>16986768
>how-to-get-laid-on-tinder-how-i-banged-10-new-girls-in-5-weeks/
kek what an achievement
And old friend texted me this. I stoped talking to her after a fight we had around November. What do I do? She sent me a thing like this before. I dont know how I feel. Do j want to befriend her again. I guess i am in a sad point in my life but i am getting by.
Gross. Why would you ever associate with anyone who wrote like that?
>>16986112
I've seen that kind of talk before.
Extreme psycho alert----DONT BEFRIEND! ! !
Your ex-friend sounds like a retard. I suggest to ignore this message.
If I only have anal sex, am I still a virgin?
So a gay bottom can never lose his virginity? :/
Yeah no.
>>16986090
Yeah yes, as long as they wear a chastity cage.
I asked this really amazing girl out 3 months ago. Something about her I just can't break the feeling. Is this feeling normal? It feels like an anchor has been forced into my mouth, down my throat, and deep inside my chest, and it's too heavy to pull out.
How do I move on? Here's how it went.
We'll use Anna as her name, and Jordan as my name.
>Me: Hey; I'm Jordan :) [I made sure to smile without looking too creepy] She looks straight ahead, as if finding something to say
>Her: aand i'm Anna.
>Me: Yeah I've seen you around alot so
>Her: Sorry I was like do I know you? I'm terrible with names haha
>Me: Yeah... Kinda why I asked you who you were in the first place
[We both laugh]
>Me: So.. Anna. I that French? [Her real name is pretty unique]
>Her: Umm.. Yeah. It is
>Me: Huh. Cool!
>Her: So you're a senior?
>Me: Yeah, and you're a junior right?
>Her: Yeah
>Me: Cool!
>Her: So.. What class are you headed to? [This was during a passing period]
Due to my inability to speak up, and I didn't really want to tell her I was going to computer science, I kinda just let these crowd of kids walk by. I still said it though, just a little inaudible.
Since we were coming up to the fork in the road I wanted to ask her. Big mistake?
>Me: Hey, yeah i'm heading the other way and I just wanted to ask you something.
>Her: Yeah?
>Me: I was wondering if you'd be up to doing something sometime?
>Her: Oh you know what I have a boyfriend
>Me: Oh okay. Bummer.. Alright, see ya!
That was that.
I still think about her everyday and it's been 3 months. When I asked her out, I was too late. She is dating this junior guy in my special ed class, and he kinda looks like me, too.
How do I move on? Would apologizing to her help?
If u want to date her just wait till she breaks up to ask her out again. Do not apologize for showing interest thats cucky as fuck
>>16986063
I wonder if she'd come up to me since i'll be gone soon, to get to know me better.
You don't know her at all. You're in love with an image.
Hey, so my boyfriend just broke up with me and I feel (and know I will) terrible. He kind of threw some hints at me but I passed them off. Anyway, I was a little much obsessed with him, I have very little self-steem and independence and was very depending on him, everything I did was in some way or another because of him. I was aware of this in the relationship, we talked about quite often but never really got better. Now we broke up because he just stoped loving me (but he would very gladly stay as friends, but really I cant right now) and so I don't know what to do with my life or what to do to not feel like shit 24/7, some advice in how can I improve my independence and jealously and all that shit monogamy does, or at least how to not feel like utter shit?
Fuck other guys
>>16986086
Would do that if it were easy for me... but I'm very bad socializing, I will try though
Obvious troll thread.
Is it bad if I get best friend drunk to have sex with me? I won't tie him down or anything, just loosening him up.
>>16986009
tfw im not your best friend
ill do it sober
>>16986009
Hi Denise.
Using intoxication to obtain consent is bordeline rape.
Rather than 'tricking' him into sexual activity, which he may not actually want, you should try to pressure him while sober by dating and being physically intimate where appropriate.
Men can be very slow to realise that you're interested. Be persistent and make your intentions clear.
This will hopefully lead to him wanting and enjoying sexual contact with you.
Hope this helps.
>>16986009
depends how drunk you get him imo.
When I enter my house, I smell a gas like odor but after a while I don't notice it anymore. Should I be worried about a leak?
replace your gas stove if youve got one. ours was leaking
Do you keep your windows closed tightly all the time?
Call the gas company you dingbat
So I may have fucked up a bit guys.
I'm 22 and I've not got laid since my last relationship ended 3 years ago, it's been nothing but bad luck since then.
The other day however I started talking to a friends mother (single btw) and it got flirty quick which I wasn't expecting but I was quite enjoying it.
From there she sent me a picture of herself, told me the things she'd do to me, what she wanted me to do to her, etc. If I went there she'd happily let me fuck her and I wanna do it.
The problem however is that 4 of the people in my friend group are her kids, 2 slightly older and 2 slightly younger than me, and another mate of mine is seeing one of the 4. She's happy to be discreet by the looks but I'm worried a bit, if it come out me and her were fucking it'd likely cause some trouble somewhere, and I wouldn't know how her kids would react.
So wat do? I wanna get laid and this is the best shot I've had in an long time but it feels like I may be shooting myself in the foot as well.
STACY'S MOM HAS GOT IT GOING ON
absolutely bail out of this situation immediately. you don't know how the brothers will react but it will be bad. i was in a very similar situation with 3 of my best friends of 15+ years being brothers.
>friends mom is pretty hot
>always been pretty friendly to me because she has no friends and is starved for attention
>freshly turn 21
>alcohol enables a lot more flirting
>something happens and i'm accused of fucking her by her husband
>everyone believes it
>all of my friends turn against me instantly
>it takes months of staunch denial for people to believe me
>it's been 5 years and my relationship with the oldest brother and father is completely unsalvagable
>>16985991
Should have just fucked her out of spite at that point.
So I fucked up, and now my SO won't have sex with me and won't really talk. This morning she was asking me if I wanted her to do anything specific during sex . I told her that while really hard to do it would really turn me on if she wore brwxes during sex. I also told her how I think her small breasts /body is really hot. She's pretty much disgusted at me now. How can I fix this?
I meant to say it would be hot if she wore braces during sex.
so, did you tell her that you like children?
Do you? Did it come accross that way?
Just saying that you like braces and small breasts isn't enough for most people to assume that you're a pedophile- most "teen" porn is exactly that- small breastes, braced women with their hair in pigtails.
How have you reacted since? Have your reactions affirmed her susspicions?
>>16985954
To be blantantly honest I find 13 and 12 yr old girls really hot. I don't want her to know that,and I think that's how it came across
These headphones are really high quality and I love them but this crack appeared a few weeks ago and eventually broke. The wire is completely intact and I don't want to send them back for a replacement because that'll take time.
How can I keep the 2 pieces together? Tape sort of works but they move around and become unwearable every few days until I retape
>>16985900
Superglue and a few coats of plastidip
>>16985905
My superglue says it doesn't work on most plastics?
>>16985919
Get some model glue, it specifically is made for plastic.
I've learned that love is not usually like in the movies, two people falling in love with each other at roughly the same time is pretty unlikely. Last two fuckbuddies I've had eventually fell in love with me and I felt that it would be dishonest to call someone I don't love my girlfriend, so I explained, "sorry, I really like you, but I don't feel that strongly about you", that was that and they eventually moved on to find boyfriends, and that was fine with me.
I eventually figured out that you don't have to be in love from the start and that most relationships start as "convenience relationships", aka fuckbuddies that cuddle, kiss a lot and abuse heart emojis while texting. I recently met a girl I had been chatting with for a couple of months irl for the first time, and she lost her virginity with me and we fell asleep cuddling afterwards. She felt that it was an amazing night and told me that she felt pretty attached to me already (we had some smalltalk earlier about how sex fills you with oxytocin and literally makes you more attached to the person you're sleeping with). I didn't (and still don't) have any strong feelings for her but I figured that convenience relationship I mentioned earlier would be a good idea at this point.
We continued chatting daily and about two weeks later, she said that she really wished this would work out but that she doesn't have feelings for me. She still really wants to meet again and sleep over though (we're talking a 3 hour train trip), and that "It's not impossible that we'd have some heat of the moment sex".
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So, I feel like I could probably convince her to be my girlfriend, at the very least give it a try. I don't have any strong feelings for her so I wouldn't really take it badly if we're just done romantically/sexually at this point, but I'd prefer being with her, 'cause falling asleep cuddling with someone a few times a month is a lot nicer than being alone. I'm not sure about the moral choice here though, would it be dishonest to pursue a relationship at this point? Worth noting that she thinks I have strong feelings for her and feels kinda bad about not reciprocating them.
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>>16985861
Hi Tara.
No, the situation you describe is quite normal. Men can be slow to form attachments to women.
You should examine and speculate on how you will both spend time together and proceed with the relationship along those lines you can envision.
Even if you have very little in common, if you enjoy her company, there's nothing objectionable to becoming more involved. You may find your attraction to her will develop over time as you become more invested in eachother.
Hope this helps.
>>16985864
I only date when I'm not that into the girl. It avoids a lot of shit down the road and you can always walk away easily if things start falling apart.
4 Months ago my GF and I of 3 years decided to purchase a home together. We had previously been living in an apartment together.
30 days ago she went crazy, suddenly, out of no where, and now she wants to end things. She cannot tell me why she wants to leave other than "i need some independence and need to clear my head." She now refuses to sleep in the same room with me. Our relationship was never abusive. I have never raised my hand or voice to her. I cook her dinners, take her out occasionally, and even had a strong sex life at one point not long ago. Its just odd that out of nowhere, she wants nothing to do with me. Her come and go schedule does not seem to indicate a third party, but i suppose can never be ruled out.
What i fear, is there is going to be a battle over who gets the house. How does something like this work? . I am not the one who flipped a screw and wants out for no apparent reason. The loan is in both of our names, with me being the primary on the account if that even matters. State- Ohio. Age- 26, 27.
If this is the wrong forum, i apologize. Please direct me to the correct one.
>>16985774
How much do you two make? Any kids?
No kids and not married so you're on equal footing in the event of a dispute I would think. I believe if you're the primary you probably have more of a say but I would discuss this with a lawyer. Not advocating wasting money on one right away, but get some info. The more you know the better prepared you will be.
>>16985781
I make about 35k, she makes about 40 with on-call. Purchase price was 152k with monthly payment of $1020. She has a crazy car and student loan payment so my "Money in the bank per month" is actually higher than hers. I could do it alone, but barely.
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