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TL;DR: Met a girl online last week, we really hit it off and I'm thinking about visiting her across the country for one weekend. Thoughts?
I frequented a webchat that is extremely populated in my country, to find girls for webcam sex and so on. It's always been about just 1 videocall and then I block most girls, or the girls block me, nothing serious, it was just quick fun for both and that's it. But last week I met a girl, we started talking, and really hit it off, really connected. The past 4 or 5 nights we've spent them together, talking in Skype. Not only sexually, just hanging out, talking about anything. I feel like I'm at least infatuated with her, and she's sent me poems about me and so on. Also, she's actually a SuicideGirl (pic not completely related, it's not her) and really hot, keeps sending me videos and pictures and so on (not a catfish or anything, already got that possibility out of the way)
I've already made her clear in various moments that I want a relationship with someone near me, that I'm not into LDR. She understands that and says she won't be hurt. She's actually coming to live to my city in 8 months or so for academic reasons (she told me this before I actually told her my city, just in case you guys think it's a ruse) but I'm not patient enough to hold a LDR for that long, and I might meet someone else along the way.
The thing is, I'm thinking about buying a plane ticket and rent a hotel room in her city, so we can meet for one weekend. I'm still in college and don't have much money, and I'd probably have to lie to my parents (still live with them and they're the protective kind) so it's a bit of a crazy idea, but not sure if it's a good one. What do you guys think?
No - so many times no.
a) There are so many things that you can spend your money on instead of buying a plane ticket.
b) Lying to parents - because of a girl... i don't even...
Best advice - do the hard yards and meet up some girls offline. Yes its very hard to do that, but will do you a lot of good in the long run.
I would urge others to give a more in-depth explanation of how much of a bad idea this is.
>>16987260
>Met a girl online last week
>Want to go across the country for her.
Hi OP.
Let me just say, as someone who literally DID cross the U.S. for a girl when he was a teenager: No.
You met her a week ago. In all actuality, you barely know her. If you had known her for years, it would be one thing. But you met this chick a week ago.
Why not?
I mean, Life's all about a good experience.
If it works it will be a valuable experience, something you enjoy.
I did the same, went to germany from easter europe for the same reason, for 2 weeks. and it was REALLLYY GOOD, it wasnt even about sex only or w/e, the experience is just amazing.
she was super excited, and we really hit things off. she visited me after 3 months in my country.
so tl'dr, yeah go for it, dont be that one jew that thinks he shouldnt spend money for something he actually enjoys ;b
I'm sure many people have dealt with the epiphany that one day you will die. I'm going through this right now and I'm wondering the ways that I can deal with this. I'm just uncomfortable with the notion that it will all end, all I love, all I cherish and enjoy, will dissolve into nothingness.
Simple question, how can I deal with this inevitability?
>>16987251
>I'm going through this right now
How the fuck are you just now realizing that you're going to die one day?
>>16987264
op is 5 years of age
>>16987264
Everyone knows thy are going to die one day, But It only just really hit me the full blown facet of death itself. When we are young we don't think about it, but as time moves forward the notion of ones own death fully sinks in.
I know nothing about tattoos. Im curious can any decent artist draw you a thin line tattoo like attached or does it require special equipment etc. And the artist usually specializes in it?
First of all, the lines on that tattoo look like shit.
>>16987205
Just an example, also not the question
Why not just ask a tattoo artist?
Got a job interview at Intel.
Any of you work for them? Any tips?
ask them why at the Intel museum in silicon valley, you are not allowed to type AMD on one of their computers.
>>16987189
You're going to have to be more specific, what's the job description
>>16987189
prepare to get your ass handed to you on the whiteboard
but they'll still hire you anyways regardless of how much they murdered your ass if they are serious about evaluating you
Hey /adv/,
I split up yesterday with my gf.
Today she was sending messages to me and crying on the phone, wanting me back, saying she'll change for me, that I'm the most important person in her life and she can't live without me, she loves me like no other, she wants the best of me. I split up with her because I am unhappy with her, because everytime we argued and forgave each other the whole thing went full circle and after 2 weeks or 2 months it started again. I lost myself in this relationship and became a robot (I was no longer happy, emotionless, lost my fun character, tried to be serious to suit hers, cut loose from all my friends).
She is not a bad person, she is going through lots of trouble in her life and she is lonely which makes me feel guilty. I told her I'll meet her in an hour to listen to her and she gets one chance to talk.
Do you believe in second chances?
All my friends and family are telling me to end it because the relationship is poisonous and it's not worth it because in a year the same thing is going to happen again. Because if we are arguing over petty stuff and feeling depressed now, in the future when real problems occur things are going to be worst.
I'm going through a guilt trip at the moment.
Have you been through anything similar?
Let. Her. Go.
She is not worth your time, and your relationship will never be the same again.
Sometimes you just gotta be a dick, and only think about what's best for yourself.
There are plenty of other girls out there, and I'm 100% sure you will find another girl that will make you happier.
Good luck OP.
If everyone close to you is telling you to end it, then I would definitely say end it.
But if you won't listen to them, its highly unlikely what we will say will make any difference.
Don't end it, give her an ultimatum. Date her on like a probation and if she really cares about you after a month talk to her about any issues you have and THEN if there is problems end it with her so it's not a doubt in either of your minds that you could have been.
How do i got about pursuing a relationship with a friend i have only know through online means for a long time?
over the years I have accumulated many friends online who have stuck together on our own private teamspeak. recently i have started to have feelings for one of the girls in the group but I don't really know how to confess those feelings to her or how our preexisting relationship would change if she accepted my advances. I just don't want to end up like one of those guys who regrets never chasing after the girl of their dreams.
>I just don't want to end up like one of those guys who regrets never chasing after the girl of their dreams.
Just fucking do it faggot. Talk to her about this, not us.
>>16987107
Just don't out right confess your feelings, that will makes things awkward for the both of you and you will most certainly get the "let's just be friends" speech.
First, has she shown any signs of interest in you? This is the most important because if she shows no signs you pretty much have no chance. For example, does she like to be alone with you over others, does she change the tonality of her voice when around you, etc.
>>16987181
but how? if it was in person it would be easy, i would ask her if she wanted to go do something sometime and let the relationship develop from there. but online we are already doing something together i cant really suggest a date, what would the equivalent be for that even?
Just tripped on lsd this thursday with a really good female friend of mine. We knew each other pretty well and basically we are almost the same - character wise. We can talk about anything and it's always great, but we noticed that we are the only ones in our lives who can be silent next to each other and still feel great. We knew this before taking the acid but I feel like it only reinforced it.
We both feel amazing next to each other and we don't even have to talk...
What does it mean?
It means you're comfortable around each other, be happy with that.
>>16987146
Yeah but I forgot to add that we don't really rely on ourselves. We are enjoying each others company but we wouldn't really mind if we dissapeared from our lives.
It's seriously strange, I never experienced anything like this before...
>>16987175
You just want one of us to tell you she likes you cause you like her, just make a move you pussy. Hurr durr wuts it meen
/adv/, you helped me turn from the left to the right since January 2015. I just wanted to say thanks, since I don't think people come back here much to show that this board sometimes gives good advice.
>>16987047
idk man I think left is cute. But hey at least you feel better right ?
>>16987050
I dig the name, but I don't particularly feel that much better... the compliment on fat me is appreciated, though.
Question - why do you like the pic on the left?
>>16987054
Not that anon, but you look happier on the left. Maybe it's just the picture, maybe not.
I will tell you a small story.
Once upon a time, there was a really popular young man, who could easily get away with anything he wanted. However, he was hollow in the inside, he didn't felt anything for anyone in particular, and eventually, considered suicide.
The man had a bunch of great friends, money smarts, and women, but still felt that without any emotion, life was not worth living.
In the process of comitting suicide, he was saved by a certain friend who he always disregarded. After being saved, his friend was overtaken by emotion and confessed her feelings towards this young man. For the first time, he felt something, and finally was happy. His long desire of wanting to feel something finally complete. He started dating his newfound love, and remained many happy years together, until both could finally get married and finish their education.
Seeing how happy his cooking would make her and others, he chose to become a great chef.
However, things never remain happy forever, life is full of disgraces that infest us where it can hurt us the most.
After a few months of being happily married, the young man discovered his wife had breast cancer. Upon discovery, his wife confessed that she had felt certain symptoms before, and didn't wanted to worry her husband. She always had a tendency of keeping things that could hurt him to herself. Too late to do anything, she was given mere months.
He spent the rest of his days trying to make her happy, and wishing this was just a terrible nightmare, the though of loosing her killing any possible sleep.
(Continue)
>>16987044
This isn't therapy Anon
I'm sorry that you're going through whatever you're going through but if you have so much to say, then take it up to a Therapist or a professional
Your odds of solving your problems there are much higher than here
No one is gonna read this wall of text
I did. Keep it up anon.
dealing with grief too
just found out my girlfriend of a year has cheated on 4 multiples times in the past month with my best friend. quick fucks
i was in a deep depression and she read my depression that i was breaking up with her soon.
we would be out a show for example and they snuck out for a quick fuck shit like that
she tells me she was blackout drunk everytime, she was sad and he initiated enabled and led her
he'd buy her shots and get her piss drunk
she's begging me to stay
she's threating to hurt herself if i leave
i don't know what to do
everyone knows
even our parents
her mom is sweet and supportive with me
the dude won;t even reach out to me. i keep calling him and ignores me.
he claims hes either at work or asleep
what should i do with her, him, everthing?
i've never been through something like this
Hey /adv/. I kept in touch with this teacher who taught me during high school. We tend to email each other once every month or two. Is it a bad thing that I tend to write way more than he does in our emails?
Thanks.
>>16987038
Why would it be? Are you afraid this teacher isn't interested in talking to you?
>>16987041
Yes, I don't know of he is replying purely out of politeness when he actually thinks I am annoying.
>>16987038
This exact query was posted a couple of weeks ago and got good responses, including from teachers.
There is no reason to reply to this repeat posting.
i procrastinate again. how do i get off my bed
>>16987030
go back to sleep
Procrastination is lack of desire
You'll never procrastinate a good fuck because of how good it feels
Whatever you're procrastinating, try to make it somehow ddesirable
Assign yourself a reward for finishing the task
>>16987030
I'll tell you tomorrow
Now in the past 2 years, and much so today, have been having intermittent pain in my groin.
the past few days have held elevated pain for me. there seems to be some inflammation on the cord and pain when pushing on the region of the inguinal canal (not the surgery site where they went in which was farther up my body, was open not laproscopy)
sometimes it feels like something is shifting... yet nothing can be felt, no buldge. just some minor swelling of the cords. and pain of course.
what is going on? what can i do to reduce this? i know cannabis is a pretty good anti-inflammatory, can i use that?
if i don't feel a buldge, is it still possible i could be having a problem with it coming back?
there was one incident, where i felt severe tearing pain all the way up from my groin to my stomach, i imagine the inguinal canal. ever since then, when i do get pain it is slightly worse than what i was experiencing (i think/feel like) it has never been that bad again though.
>>16987014
Bait
>>16987016
what? how does this even remotely look like bait, was it the cannabis part?
Med student here.
Best case scenario: new hernia on the same spot. It can happen, however its uncommon if they used a prolene screen (I guess that's how they call it in english)
Worst case scenario: chronic inguinal pain is a possible complication from the surgery. There isn't much to do about it.
I suggest that you see a doctor so that they can physically examine you.
>After this summer coming up I'm leaving to Japan for a semester
>Have had a grill penpal there since forever, its been at least 3 years
>Going to be in the Osaka Prefecture, where she happens to live
>She sort of expressed this odd romantic interest in me
She IS Japanese, but she speaks English pretty well. She spends most of her time studying other languages, and she has an English instructor. Thing is, she is sort of getting obsessed with me, and we haven't even met face to face. We just write letters, and hang out on skype or snapchat from time to time.
Over time things have started to lean more and more towards her having some kind of interest. To the point where it is now just getting downright odd. She called me "husband" the other day, jokingly, but still weird. If she can't get a hold of me for a day because I'm busy, she panics, or if I don't respond in a timely matter, etc. She often stays up way into the early morning hours just to talk to me.
I'm kind of wondering. Do I continue contact with this girl, so I have a contact that I know when I get there? Or do I just slowly (or maybe abruptly?) fade things out with her? She knows I'm coming after my summer break, and is "already making preparations". What these preparations are, I have no idea. I feel like she may murder me.
I mean I like her well enough, or use to at least, before she started to get crazy. Cute as all hell, seems nice, but even after three years of speaking to her, its sort of hard to tell without actually meeting her.
help
bamp
she's not gonna fucking murder you, don't be so dramatic
just visit her at some point when you're over there and see what she's like
>>16986960
I think she may want to have sex with you. Maybe preperation's are her going to the store for a box of condom's and birth control.
Does anyone else need to pee after ejaculating? Is this normal, and if so, why?
I really, really need to know.
it's normal when you consider that you're stimulating the area that you pee out of. guys can still urinate when hard, but it's usually harder since your urethra gets blocked when you're about to come, so by the time you finally do come, you've got more urine that's built up.
almost every time i have sex i have to pee right afterwards. as long as it doesn't burn, you're fine.
i actually wait/force myself to pee after jizzing so I don't have any leftover cum staining my underwear
>>16986881
its normal. you dont get all the cum out of your cock, so pissing clears it out.
sup i need some advice be prepared this shit is long so hope yuo are i for a read
>be me in 8th grade
>developing normally for my age
>girls love me and im starting to get in with the popular croud
>have no problem talking to girls, shit is just coming naturally
>all in all its a good school year
>school year coming to a close
>start spending more time with my father
>one day he starts acting different
>says that he is depressed
>think nothing of it
>mother tells father that he should seek a professional and get help
>he says that he doesnt need it and that he will get over it (spoilers he doesnt)
>couple of months pass its summer vacation and im about to be entering highschool
>he is getting much worse
>starts swearing constantly and grabbing his head
>pulling at his hair constantly
>oookay wtf?
>ignore this
>mom says that instead of swearing that he should say things like "help me god"
>he starts saying this instead of swearing
>few weeks later it gets worse
>he is literally screaming "HELP ME GOD"
>like a fucking mad man
>literally screaming to the top of his lungs into a pillow
>this still hasnt phase me at this point
>>16986808
FRESHMAN YEAR
>things are going great at school for the most part
>imm soking weed everyday with this kid who later turns out to be a shithead but whatever
>talking to alot of kids, some would say i was "cool". i was just very social
>same shit as before confidence is really high, think i can take on anyone
>still getting the girls
>going out mad with firends getting drunk and doing stupid shit
>dicking around in class and not giving a fuck
>at home things another family crisis happens
>sister get sent to a mental instituion
>dont know what happened to her and still dont to this day
>again i am some how unphased
>forgot to mention at this point my father is working so i dont really see him going crazy all too often
>im home alone sometimes which i like can get some sleep and actually get my work done
>year ends and not to much happens
>>16986811
SOPHMORE YEAR
>16 year old me
>same shit as before getting girls getting in good with cool kids
>talking to real cute girl i know and feeling good
>she likes to hear me talk about getting fucked up and shit for some reason
>chill with childhood friend alot
>he is good, smart kid encourages me to do good in school
>dick around in shool
>about halfway thru the school year i decide to try hard in school
>this proves rather difficult with all the screaming and shit but like i said hes working so i dont hear him to often
>sister is back which is good i guess
>>16986814
JUNIOR YEAR
>things finally caught up to me
>stop talking to alot of kids going as far as to purposefully dodge them
>still put on a persona looking like everything is alright
>its not
>the constant screaming my father is doing is driving me insane
>he starts acting more irrational
> i start hearing his screams even when he is not there
>decide to just go hard as fuck in school so i can go to a goof college and everything will be alright
>endure
>spend alot of my time just doing school work and sports
>these eat up my time like crazy
>sit on my ass and play videogames on my free time
>dont talk to girls that often
>start to not give a fuck about my hygene
>skip days brushing teeth
>start getting cavities and teeth are yellowing
>start losing my hair at 17
> confidence is lowering
>cant really carry conversations with people
>fuck what happened to me man
>school is wrapping up but shit at least i pulled in some good grades
