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What kind of jobs are there out there that are nocturnal? I like the night.
All that comes to mind are security guard and drug dealing.
Prostitution comes to my mind
taxi driver
>>16990915
factory work
gas stations
hospitals
anywhere thats open 24/7, really
adv/ I came to a realization today and I don't know how to handle it. See, I am a compassionate person. When I see a friend, I tell them it's nice to see them. If someone is hurting, I do whatever I can to help. If someone calls me with a request or a favor, I'm there and always deliver in spades. Folks who need to vent, on occasion even complete strangers, feel I am a good listener and tell me about their problems. I love when I can do something to bring a smile to someone's face.
But even though I give 100% of myself every day, literally nobody pays...
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>>16990835
Sounds like you want to do good things and succeed at pulling through, so keep on doing 'em. The problem you cite is that no one wants to get together to hang when you want to. Is this a frequent problem? How frequent? Are you asking the right people who would normally want to get out and get social? In regards to seeking people to console you, are you looking to the right people? Some folks are downright stinkers at listening to other people's problems, which is typically the foundation of consolation.
i am not as generous as you seem to be, but i know what you are going through. The hard part is that you are naturally generous, compassionate and thoughtful. No matter what the answers to your questions, you are still going to naturally want to help people. You may be able to find balance (which is what i think you need if you want to stop feeling hurt or disappointed), but that takes so much work because you have to fight your natural tendencies.
>>16990857
I suppose that's the crux of my issue, that people I associate with are generally not the compassionate sort. A side effect of everything I posted in the OP is that I feel I don't have any deep bonds with people because more often than not I'm just a shoulder to cry on, or just that funny eccentric guy. I've also been used in the past by manipulative people, and I always walk right into them because I tend to believe the best in them at the outset. It's never gotten to me in the past...
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my dick shaft's skin is swollen. i tried jacking it and it was still swolen. usually if i have an erection the skin is really thin, but it was thick and bloated around the shaft. not itchy or painful or anything just swollen. Should I be worried? I can go into the doctor on monday but idk if its necessary. Its my dick so im worried. Also the pubic mound was a little swollen. Do I have cancer? Is this common?
>>16990749
Your dick is slowly transitioning into a vagina
>>16990749
see a doctor
>>16990752
no it's not
>>16990753
ok, but in the meantime wtf man
Could it be creatine or beta alanine? I take them for lifting but if its either its probs the alanine. inb4 im retarded for taking supplements. I'm gonna not take any for a few days then put creatine back and then alanine back to see if either was the problem (if the swelling goes away when I stop taking, if it doesn't then its insta doctor)
I have PTSD from being physically abused daily from age 8-17 and off and on after that til age 25. This information was leaked and people are mocking me and calling me a liar. My symptoms have improved dramatically, but after this, I've been crying all night.
Does anyone here have PTSD and has anyone from the internet ever found out and mocked you over it? How have you reacted? Because personally I want to torture them and that's not an exaggeration.
I have no one to talk to about this who understands and I feel so alone.
I'm diagnosed with it but I don't believe I have it really - the past is over its ancient history and you cannot change it. Look to the here and now and not worrying about the future (don't go full tard). Nothing matters anyway it'll all be over and you'll die before you know it. When it comes down to it why give a huge shit, everyone gives too much of a shit and just fills their lives with misery.
When people mock me it reminds me that I'm a freak and I'll never be normal and I'll never be able to relate to other people and no one will ever understand me. And nobody gives a shit about me.
me and my ex bf are trying to be friends after a lot of on again off again relationship stuff
we broke up bc he doesnt think he loves me (he also doesnt know what "love" is)
i feel like he does love me and just doesnt from the way we speak and from prior experiences
how do i discuss this topic with him without sounding manipulative? i'm not trying to "brainwash" him into being in love with me, i just want him to try to assess the situation
>>16990638
Easy, tell him you like him. There's no fucking reason to figure out if he loves you unless you want him back. Go after your dreams faggot.
>>16990645
he knows, i told him when we started talking to each other again
we've been trying to be friends for about four months now after not talking to each other for six months (which was excruciating for both of us)
What is the point of being your friend? He gets to see you date another dude?
He gets to listen to your dumb inane bullshit "feelings"?
how to create/ generate a tripcode?
How to use a tripcode?
I guess it works now?
Why do you need one? You're on an anonymous imageboard, there is literally no need for one except for identification purposes, which you then drop the name and trip when you're done with the thread.
If you want a name and trip, there are plenty of other sites that want and encourage that. The whole point of this site is to be anonymous, you just end up looking like a rude jackass when you take on a trip for no reason.
Bump for interest
So, should I send or not? Been a while since we broke up and it just bothers me so much that I can't tell her how I feel. Considering cutting it off, since I'm actually 100% over her. I want her, but I'm over her, get what I'm saying?
Text
"I'm Batman"
Problem solved.
>>16990600
yeah id cut it off. sometimes we wanna say things to get em out, but its pointless.
id cut off and affirm your new beginning.
You're not over her you stupid faggot.
>hurrdurr I'm over this chick
>I'm just gonna text her just cuz lol
>I want to get back with her
>I'm going to make a thread about her
>hurt I'm totally over her lol
Drop her and kill yourself
How do I get into music production? I got given abelton and I need something to learn so it might as well be this. Any one here good with it?
bumpe
is Bring broken?
>>16990588
Yes, I know a few things about it. You can get in by having some music knowledge. At least have a keyboard usb or midi whatever.
People that are in marriages or long-term relationships, please be honest:
>Do you ever have true fun anymore?
>What are you doing to have this fun?
Married men (friends) I know don't seem to be enjoying their marriages. I've known some friends for a long while and the vibe has definitely shifted after marriage.
I know it's possible to meet people and continue trying new things, but some relationships just seem to suck you into them and "new experiences" besides who is wiping the toddler's ass stop happening.
Is there anyone out there who still enjoys meeting new people or trying new things after marriage or does everyone just comfortable and miserable?
I don't know if two and a half years is long enough (though we have known each other five), but I'll answer anyway
>Do you ever have true fun anymore?
Sure we do
>What are you doing to have this fun?
Idk, we just enjoy each other's company. We're always finding new inside jokes, new games to play, playing old games, reminiscing about things. We're each other's best friend.
They don't know how to adapt to stagnated living. On top of that, they haven't accepted the fact that there are some things you're going to sacrifice for the sake of being committed to a long-term relationship. Communication and adaptation is a fucking big part of keeping a relationship enjoyable as it goes on. Both parties have to be open and receptive to either trying new things or putting effort in prolonging the facets that made the initial stages of the relationship enjoyable.
>>16990531
Exactly. Every marriage I've seen has been one of complacency that sounds exactly like this:
>What are you doing to have this fun?
Idk, we just enjoy each other's company.
That sounds like code word for watch a few tv shows, smoke some weed, and go to sleep frankly. That I'm dissing that because I've been there too, it can be very nice.
But... Is that truly "new" or "fun"? Is it really enjoyable to have yet another inside joke?
seems...
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Why do I read these texts over and over? I have about 5 text messages, each from a different girl basically friend zoning me.
I just re-read them over and over from time to time just wondering how things could have been different or what I could have done. The pain is great when I re-read these and I basically have to cry myself to sleep otherwise I will keep rereading them.
How do I get over this shit? My life feels like crap.
Also, is it a possibility that I am depressed? I hate to admit depressing because I feel like it is some sort of "cowards"...
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>doesn't tell us what's wrong with you, or even what these girls said
>expects us to fix your life
>>16990497
No anon the problem is 100% you put women on pedestals. You try to befriend them, you think you're too forward if you ask them out, whatever. The point is you instantly idealize this fake world where these girls are perfect. The odds that they are shitty people is massive.
The solution for you anon is to go out on dates, lots of them. You'll learn from experience just how shitty, boring, bland, and cunty women can REALLY be and how most of them are.
>>16990505
What do you mean what they said?
Its all just friend zoning so its all essentially the same. Basically, "I am not ready for a boyfriend right now."
>>16990513
I try not to put them on pedestals but its very hard to deal with women when you are dealing with them from a position of... weakness. I feel like I am at a disadvantage in every situation when dealing with women.
>>Alcohol
Close friend of mine doesn't drink often, but when she does it's balls to the wall. She gets obnoxious and embarrassing.
Tonight was one of those nights. When she stumbled to the bathroom, everyone looked around and had some comment about how drunk she was.
Have you had something like this?
>>A friend who doesn't know when to call it quits?
How do I tell her she is borderline alcoholic?
"I think you may have an alcohol problem and it's been making me worried for not only you but our relationship with each other. I'm not mad but I'm really concerned."
She's gonna get super defensive. Throw out thousands of excuses
Stand your ground.
"I don't think we can be friends if you keep behaving like this"
Probably a fuck you, and no I don't have a problem excuse.
Don't budge.
She'll cry.
Don't budge.
"I'm here for you and I love you as a...
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>>16990423
Put her in an environment where she's super comfortable and relaxed, then talk to her like an adult and tell her you're worried. Tell her that people were talking about how fuckballs drunk she was, and how this is a regular thing with her when she does get drunk, and how it isn't good to get to that point of sloppy-drunk. Ask her why she gets so fucked up. Be prepared for her to get defensive, accusatory, and possibly even antagonistic.
>doesn't drink often
it's not an alcoholism thing then. Maybe she just likes to drink the pain away sometimes.
I have like no "proper" desires /adv/. I feel like I have no drive to do anything that most people would find fun.
For example, I hate traveling. I have no desire to ever travel outside of the USA because most other places are pretty ass. I feel like shit and I feel unfulfilled.
What can even be done? The only thing keeping me alive is porno and waiting for the video games I am hype for.
Another thing is that I feel like I have already missed the woman I would want to spend my life with. She friend zoned me and now all I ever do is try to find...
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>>16990377
Try playing an instrument
Piano-chan will never leave you and will always let you touch her
>>16990386
why do you have that picture saved? FOR WHAT PURPIOSE!
>>16990415
I really liked that meme when it was popular on /v/
I also like foxes
So I have a very big head, to the point of xl hats won't fit me, I really want to wear a hat, I know it will look good on me and I really want to try one out, but I can't find a good hat that fits my head, I want a snap back hat like the picture but I don't know where to look in stores online
>>16990374
Snap backs are almost certainly a no-go
>>16990383
Dammit, I don't like the other style with the rim of the hat not bending
>>/fa/
Hey, so long story short my health insurance is currently out and I have extreme anxiety due to not being able to afford my SSRIs.
I have to keep my job until I can find a better one, but my job requires me to socialize often and consistently with others and without my meds im having anxiety just thinking of going to work, and have had to step out due to panic attacks when I am at work.
My current solution is Alchohol. I seem to be rather sensitive to it, and a small amount is enough to tone down the anxiety and allow me to work. Not the ideal solution, but it's...
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Bump bump
How much are you drinking a day? Have you experimented with different doses of it?
>>16990479
I'm not sure how much I'm drinking a day exactly.
About 3/4 of a bottle of beer that's 6.5% is enough to get me relaxed, given enough time.
Sup nignogs,i am 19, about 6.5/10 guy with tane(just slighty) and beard,i am about 185ish height(in the most situations the tallest guy) with a bit of extra weight (not fat) and thanks for my genetics (from the fathers side,its pefect) i look like i exercise a lot,but in the reality i spend 2/3 on my computer and 1/3 going out,i always had problems with approacihng a girl,i just dont have balls,but after i break the ice i end in hour conversations but .it usuallu just ends there,so i am asking for any tips you can give me for girls,like seriously any tip which can help .me even...
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Also.ask any questions if needed for a tip
>>16990269
the best approach is the tailored approach. not just for the girl, but for you.
you already know all the generic mishmash. now show us a recent accurate picture of yourself, and we will tell you
A) what to fix
B) what to keep and
C) how to tailor an approach to women based on that.
describing yourself doesn't do us any good. for one, you'd be a bit inaccurate. in addition to that, you described half of americans in your age range, who all look vastly different.
if you cant...
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>>16990281
What actions are needed to make.me.look interested?:)
