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/adv/, I need to ask you something:
How do you know if someone is quoiromantic if they are in a mutual romantic relationship? I need to write an essay on this...
Anons in /Pol/ aren't helping.
Plz help
Especially if you are psych student.
Okay /adv PLEASE help!
Is it unreasonable to get upset at your GF for not wanting to film a sex tape with you
She doesn't send me nude pics of her either. I like having stuff to look at about her when she's not here.
>>16993995
just use nudes of other girls then geez, at least you asked your gf. I couldn't be bothered to ask mine.
Op, you are childish. YES, it is unreasonable to get upset. Try looking at it from her perspective.
>>16994019
I didn't mean upset in that way.
I mean upset like kind of let down you know.
Is it a bad idea to try to pick up a mcjob right before I become homeless?
>>16993968
Bump
Why the fuck would it be a bad idea? Because it's beneath you? Try begging and sleeping in a box.
>>16993968
Of course not. Take the job, moron. Would you rather end up prostituting to fat old men?
help! any way to slow it down...my dad is bald so in know im doomed, but i don't want to be bald in my twenties.
any advice,home remedy...
here are some pics
People keep catching me talking to myself which I do involuntarily, usually short phrases like "how are you"
Tell me what to do you insufferable cunts
>>16993904
Go see a psych to treat your schizophrenia.
>>16993904
stick a phone or one of those blue tooth earphones to your ear. people will judge you less.
>>16993921
Personally I'd judge him more (desu)
Being an absolute cockmongler with the stupid bluetooth peice is worse than being a nutcase
I have to see the chick that rejected me and wanted to stay friends tomorrow for the first time, what do? I'm honestly just feeling done with her, but don't want to be rude.
>>16993891
Dont let feminazis tell you otherwise.
If being her friend causes you trouble, you can't be friends. Friendship is a two way street.
Youll kind of be a dick for backing out, totally, because she does care about you and value you, but we all do shitty things and hurt people sometimes.
The ideal situation is you become fine with it, accept it, and stay her friend, because nothing wrong with friends, and then you dont have to hurt her.
But you come first, Friendio.
Shamelessly self calling /thread because this is as direct and grounded in reality as it gets.
>>16993914
I agree, but what should I do as I immediatelly see her tomorrow? I still feel a sense if defeat and shame because of it. I feel like she's giving me a false sense if hope as well, simce she said to "leave it at that for now".
>>16993923
>I still feel a sense if defeat and shame because of it.
Thats your own baggage, man. Her not being romantically interested in you is no more her fault than it is yours. You went for an opportunity and it didn't pan out. Big fucking deal. That's life.
Pick up your shit and move on to the next one. Not to mention the fact that nothing is more unattractive then a dude throwing himself a pity party.
>I feel like she's giving me a false sense if hope as well, simce she said to "leave it at that for now".
Maybe she is putting you on the back burner. Its a real possibility but you can't let that affect the way you handle this. If you're ok with being the toy on her shelf she can pick up whenever she decides she wants to play with you then do it but don't be surprised if it feels shitty and shameful.
If you really don't think you're ready to be smiley and friendly with her then back out. There's no shame in that. You're making an executive decision for the sake of your own sanity and well being.
You had feelings but she didn't and getting that thrown back in your face hurts but the point is you have no control over that, the only thing you have control over is whether or not you're ready to be just friends with her.
Obviously you're not.
Yeah it's another suicidal post among the many others please be patient with me. So last year I was doing pretty good, I had a miserable abusive childhood that I'd started dealing with I found lots of people suffered like I did and still muddled through life, I came to terms with my sexuality and I was doing okay. I had a job I didn't hate, reconnected with my friends after a depressive slump and I was hitting the gym thanks to /fit/. Then on new year's I was sexually assaulted by a friend. January 1st he found me while I was passing out on a bed after the party. There was no penetration Andi got away but I was violated. I went to the hotline for it they helped me come to terms with it, helped me forget the guilt and urged me to file a police report. I told someone I thought was my friend and they said if I didn't press charges they would tell everyone what happened. So I told her I would and instead I cut off ties with her I couldn't bear the thought of people finding out about this I stopped talking to that whole group of friends and when I reached out to someone I thought I could trust again they were more concerned with their own social problems and just didn't seem to care about me. I blocked the guy who did it from everything erased his number he did apologize came at me with a bunch of excuses and the people at the hotline told me to save the texts to use as evidence but I couldn't. I couldn't even go to therapy at the local support group like they said to. I wanted to wash that whole day away and now I'm more depressed than ever. I don't know what to do. Shame keeps me quiet and self loathing makes me want to kill myself. He's out there still drinking with our friends and having a great time. I'm so sacred that if they find out that they'll all say it was my fault that they'll think less of me. I just want to die and I'm scared and unhappy. How do I live?
>>16993865
first of all i'm so, so sorry this happened to you. i wish i knew how to make it better and give you proper advice but i don't, i don't know how to fix it. however i want you to know that you did nothing wrong, it's not your fault, and other people acting shitty about it is not a reflection on you, it's on them. find better friends, if you can. i would forget about them
>>16993930
>however i want you to know that you did nothing wrong
besides getting blackout drunk.
op, was he drunk too? if he was, you should accept his apology. you dont want to held accountable for getting wasted in a setting that was not your home, which is an irresponsible and immature thing to do. he shouldnt be held accountable for his drunk actions either, especially since there was no penetration.
Look, I understand. It hurts, but in some situations, it is better to let is go.
See, I was molested as a child; there was nothing that I could've done. By the time that I acknowledged this fact though, the guy who did it was a changed man who wouldnt dare do it again. There would be no point in me bringing it up or feeling hurt by it. So, I accepted the past and let it go.
>>16993961
It was our friends house I was in the bed minding my own business I went over my case with the woman at the hotline it's solid don't try to justify his actions to me. Please don't try and take away my dignity here. He wasnt black out drunk he apologized for what he did because he knew what he was trying to do and I stopped him. I fought him. I'll never forgive him either. I'm not looking for help with sending him to jail I'm trying to get back to normal.
i just drank bleach what should I do i drank about one cup and I fell bad
Throw up. Seek medical attention.
Purge. Call 911 if in the United States.
chase it down with some ammonia and presto you have chlorine gas inside you.
That will finish the job.
How do i stop being fat
eat less
Figure out your BMR, eat less than that. There are about 3500 kcal in a pound of fat, so...
Cardio is great if you care about your cardiovascular health, but an extra 300 or so kcal a day isn't really worth the effort of super hard cardio to many who just want to lose weight. You should still do it, absolutely, but don't make it the end-all-be-all of your fitness routine.
Lift. Seriously. Muscle burns calories and you can increase your BMR in this way that cardio can't. It's also way fucking easier to push yourself through than calisthenics.
So my girl in a sorority and at first it was weird but it made her happy and I got into it so it's okay. She gave most of her time to these people, i've stayed by her while she was making so many damn banners or posters or things like that.
but then they elected this new bitch (I'll call her Shitsputin) as head of Internal Affairs (not the actual title, but it's the role.) SO Shitsputin has a big inferiority complex I guess and my gf is a tall hot blonde but she's also high functioning autist, so she makes an easy target. Shitsputin, as soon as she gets an ounce of power, makes her life hell. Making her pull extra shifts, dragging her in front of tribunal for rumors every other week, humiliating her in public, breaking like every sorority rule there is to make my gf's life hell.
BUT Shitsputin is bffies with all the dictators of the sorority, so not only do they make all sorts of excuses for Shitsputin, defend and vouch for her when my gf tried to do something about it (once she realized she was being targeted and hazed). They also spoke to the campus officers first and made themselves out to be angels, so now the administration just thinks my gf is dramatic and whiny. The national organization won't do anything about it either cause of the bad press.
Meanwhile, my gf is getting nasty anon texts like, "you're tearing this apart for attention bitch" and "it's good you're dropping no one likes you". She's getting bodychecked by bitches on the way to classes who then act all sweet to her when me or someone else is around.
She's leaving the organization but that's not enough. No justice has been done here. Shitsputin needs some recompense for making the situation that my gf cries to me almost nightly for. What can I do that won't trace back to me or my gf? How can I get justice for my bitch and make Shitsputin regret ever abusing her power and being an asshole?
pic unrelated, sort of. my gf sent it to me for my birthday.
Well, your only real recourse is to wait until she has children and then secretly slaughter her first-born and feed him to her.
>>16993774
>No justice has been done here. Shitsputin needs some recompense for making the situation that my gf cries to me almost nightly for.
Shit that happens in high school and college doesn't matter. People suck and young people suck even more. Try to avoid being childish about this.
You're not seeking justice, you're seeking revenge, and its a waste of time and energy. In your adult life you'll encounter tons of people who "deserve" retribution for their shitty behavior but if you make it your personal duty to enact revenge against every dysfunctional person you cross paths with you'll waste your life on a task that accomplishes essentially nothing.
Revenge won't change this person and there is a good chance it will come back to bite you in the ass so at the end of the day you'll be slapped with consequences for your revenge and the person you did this to will wake up in the morning exactly the same person as they were before.
You stand up to people when they treat you like shit. You confront them for their behavior and you be the "bigger person". I know it sounds like some grade school shit but people will know what kind of person you are if you elevate yourself above petty things.
If they refuse to stop, you get them out of your life. This is the proper way to conduct yourself as a functional adult.
Get practice now because it'll save you a lot of headaches when you grow up.
>>16993816
>shit that happens in college doesnt matter
Getting a degree, job connections, friends don't matter? kek
Tp, OP. Tp and paint.
When I hook up with new girls I don't know how much I should tell them. Perfect example? Well, I like eating ass it's one of my favorite things. This is not something a lot of girls like having done to them. Ideally I'd like to say something along the lines of "have you ever had your ass eaten? Did you like it? Ima eat your ass."
For what ever reason this is a big step sexually for a lot of people. So I always feel weird about asking. So in reality I only ever eat ass WHEN I have a steady girlfriend IF she lets me... So almost never:,(
Now I've talked to dudes about this and the advice they give me is just not to ask, one because girls don't like it when dudes ask, and two she won't be able to say no. That seems like really retarded advice to me. What do you think about it?
Also ladies should I feel weird about telling one night stands little things like "sit like this" "bend over the bed" "arch your back" " suck my cock" or kinker things like asking them if they'd like to be tied up?
I feel like I'm limiting myself sexually because I'm scared i might make a girl uncomfortable or have a bad time by asking too much. Is this as big of a deal as in making it? Should i just take the lead and expect them to tell me if they don't like it?
Usually, people like to keep things simple until they've achieved a level of familiarity with each other so as to be comfortable. Mostly any girl who would do anything with you the first night you met her must be so sexually liberated and shameless that she'd make a pornstar blush.
You bring it up to your steady GF when you think it's appropriate. Like maybe you do I little "I do your weird thing you like, you do mine thing."
Trying to filter girls early by asking if they like their bootyholes licked isn't going to go well. You'll scare off girls who might have eventually tried it in a different context.
Repeat after me, "Consent is sexy."
What would you do if you had a girlfriend you love that had hip pain that prevented you from having sex with her? She has a hip disorder which has gotten gradualy worse, and I fear it will get to the point where we won't be able to have sex at all. She's only 19 and I'm 22, I fear I'll be stuck in a sexless relationship. She could go without sex completely, but I need the intimacy. I don't know what to do.
A sexless relationship is more like a good friendship. Maybe with more makeouts and cuddles than the usual relationship. Unless you can make up with sexy methods that don't involve just you pounding her (I mean, that's really not the only thing two people can do together) then you're probably better off searching for someone else.
>>16993709
I've been thinking about that, but I don't know if I could bring myself to break up with her. I don't know if I could hurt her like that. But at the same time I feel like I'm to young to be having to deal with that issue. When we go out I look at other women and wish I was with them instead sometimes because they don't have this issue, even though I love her.
>>16993731
If you're often wishing you were with other people you'd be doing her a favour by leaving. I don't doubt that you love her but you clearly don't love her enough to be happy. Let her find someone who does love her enough to not want to leave, she deserves it.
And you also deserve to be happy within your own relationships.
Okay, so I've had a ingrown hair "down there" that will not go away. Fed up, I've decided to go to the doctor.
But do I call the gynecologist or dermatologist? Do gynecologists deal with ingrown hairs? Do dermatologist deal with the skin of lady-parts? Who do I call? Besides, the Ghostbusters. I don't think this is the time to call them.
>>16993579
where on the labia is it? Tucked inside? On your vulva?
If it's anywhere "inside" your labia, gynecologist. They are better equipped to handle the delicate stuff down there.
quit being a wimp and dig that shit out. anything sharp and clean will do.
Just pull/squeeze it out?
I have chronic depression and I've had fatigue for the past 6 months.
I went to a clinic and got bloodwork done.
My hope was that it was thyroid issues or diabetes, or a vitamin deficiency despite my carefully selected supplements.
It's none of the above.
This means it's all in my head.
I'm forced to basically get on antidepressants or live a life not worth living.
I'd rather die than take prozac or whatnot. For a few reasons.
My state is medical marijuana legal, not recreational.
I have no interest in weed other than to try anything to get rid of these problems, I've been offered it at parties and by supervisors at work, turned it down every time.
How could I convince my doctor to prescribe this? I don't want her to turn it down for thinking that I'm just interested in getting blazed because I'm a teenage shithead.
Tldr how do I convince a doctor to give me weed for medical purposes.
Pic related. We're with stupid.
try not smoking nigger cabbage
love the pills m9
>>16993484
Weed is a bandaid, antidepressants are/could be a permanent solution.
Pills are considerably more effective than weed. For one thing, weed is a depressant.
Try the Prozac first, and if meds don't work (which they usually do -- they have clinically proven efficacy), there are other options.
I'm currently on Luvox (an SSRI) and getting my brain shocked twice a week.
So I noticed an issue I have when I talk with girls, I always would feel like I had a good talk with them and it went well, but then I get into my head and start thinking really shit thoughts like, oh she was just being nice don't talk to her again she will hate it, or she only talked to you out of pity dont bother her. Like no matter what I always feel that way, I was talking to a girl at my store i work at and it was going well but then she asked me to get something for her and when I turned around this guy we worked with just walked in and started to talk with her and in my mind I thought oh she probably made an excuse to make you leave so this guy she likes more then you can talk with her, like I dont know why I think like this because its fucking me over trying to find a girlfriend
>>16993478
Why do you think you deserve a girlfriend?
>>16993478
You're paranoid. Like actually phsychologically paranoid. Seek professional help.
>>16993500
I don't deserve one I just want to have one, someone to care about and someone who loves me
