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So i somehow cut myself while sleeping and have been putting on some aloe vera on it for a week, today it "healed" howerver it left a very visible scar right under my lips, is there anyway to remove it? Thanks
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Sleeping with combat knife under pillow like /k/ommando? :-D
>>16999353
how do you even cut yourself sleeping mate?
>aloe Vera
I can you were taught anything by anybody who cared.
Put some Neosporin on the cut.
Not aloe....lol.....
You put aloe on sunburn, silly.
Question: why do I feel so miserable and unhappy?
Context: 23yo male, caucasian.
Doctor. Going to start my PhD next year. College professor. Writing / editor-in-chief of college book to be used as main bibliography of said subject in medical schools throughout the country.
General 23yo hobbies and activities, nothing out of the ordinary.
Sleep well, proper eating, whenever possible (sometimes I can't have lunch, since our lunch hour is during family visits to the patients, and we have to be available)
I feel like I'm doing ok in life. And yet,...
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>>16999327
You didn't mention any love interests.
>>16999333
Currently none. Last relationship with gf lasted four years, she cheated on me, I discovered it, ended the relationship (February 2015).
Think about the time before you felt this way - when you were happy. What was motivating you? What made you happy?
Do I need to be the best guy she ever met in order for a girl to be in a relationship with me? How is that possible considering people meet loads of other people every day? I feel like I will never be as good as some other guys she will soon or eventually meet in college or at work.
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No, be yourself. If a girl looks or talks to you in a way that shows interest ask for her number or ask her out. If she accepts woohoo. If not rinse and repeat
>>16999281
You've got a lot to learn.
>>16999316
thank you captain obvious, that is very good advice that I can put into practice right this instant, have this rock as a sign of my gratitude
It's almost been a year since my ex-girlfriend ended things with me. We were together three years. I've taken the necessary steps to move on with my life, and for the most part I'm in a much better position than I was back then. We have not spoken since, nor have I seen her or know what she's doing (blocked off social media etc).
I still think about her every day. Usually the feelings are numb, but today has been particularly difficult remembering it all ended this month. I feel like I'm doing something wrong and that I shouldn't be thinking...
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>>16999266
Are you or have you met any other girls?
That's the only way to really forget her.
>>16999324
Dated one briefly. No success otherwise.
Stop thinking of her because you know she's not thinking about you. You'll wake up one day and realize how pathetic it is.
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So we all know that actual rape is horrible.
We all know those faggots that say that orgasm = consent are just idiot virginal trolls that watched too much porn.
But we also know that rape is just about the number one fantasy of women.
Why the fuck IS that? Are you just imagining a rape that is unrealistically vanilla and romantic, like a big hunky clean Fabio that gently forces you to submit to him? Or is it the actual awful parts of rape - the pain, the rudeness and selfishness of the rapist, the danger of injury or pregnancy - do those things actually sound hot?
I suppose it's the idea of control (same with cock caging/chastity/cuckholding/bdsm/ect) but taken to its extreme. I feel that a lot of fetishes and kinks are based around the idea of giving up control, or taking it, or ect-cetera.
Personally, I have a rape fetish. It only manifests itself around seeing powerful, arrogant type characters though. I don’t self insert--I fantasize about them being brought low and humiliated, and rape is one of the fastest ways you can do that.
The latter. Because societal conditioning has made it so that the rude arrogant and selfish men are the most desirable.
>See Bond movies
It's fucked up. It's twisted, and it wont change for my generation. Unfortunately it's spurred this side culture of supposedly "Alpha" males on 4chan that think women want to be raped, not understanding the idea of a fantasy, but meh.
It's an issue of semantics. Most women don't really want to be "raped" in the sense that we think of, including the violence and pain. They do however crave the rush of excitement, of the unknown, being "taken" forcefully (not painfully). Basically they want to feel helpless, but secure at the same time. They want to feel like they aren't in control, but that the man doing it is "alpha" enough (strong, capable, aggressive) to control the situation.
Part of it is the the adrenaline rush, as fear does turn many people on, especially...
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I hear that 99% of long distance and internet relationships fail. People who were in or know personal examples of the 1%, what made that case different?
What do you consider "not failing"?
Been in a long term/long distance relationship for 9 years now, but we live close enough to each other to see each other every other weekend or so. Probably moving in together as soon as we can afford it.
>>16999201
>What do you consider "not failing"?
Not breaking up because of reasons closely tied to the distance. In my case I'm tempted to with this girl in Portugal (I'm in the USA), I bond with her way better than anyone from my home country, and there's a real possibility of closing the distance in the next 2-4 years since she wants to do her PhD here, in the same field I do. Not only that, distance is inevitable if I succeed in my career goal of working in Antarctica.
>>16999190
What's wrong man?
Can't find any local grils?
Anyone here hate getting gifts?
I'm not talking about being disappointed or feeling bad because someone got you something you know they can't afford.
I'm talking about getting gifts in general. I always feel sad or guilty, like why would someone spend the money on me? I'm not important enough to drop 20 bucks on, I'm just some guy. Not like I cured polio or something.
Any advice? I've told people not to get me gifts but it hasn't had much effect. The most I get is "Of course you deserve gifts, it's your birthday/christmas/whatever"...
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>>16999181
no, I don't because I don't feel I'm a worthless piece of shit like you do
but I used to feel like that
>>16999183
Stellar advice, thank you for contributing.
>>16999187
since you're so fucking dense, instead of asking people not get you gifts, work on your self-esteem and get over your shitty insecurity, you bimbo bitch
I cut off all my friends due to depression but I'm having second thoughts.
>Deactivated all social media and apps
>Avoided them (99.9% are online)
I feel like I'm doing this for reassurance but clearly they don't really care since no one seemed to message me or ask me if I'm ok. I had decided to just shut myself off from everyone but I fear I may be making a grave mistake.
>>16999139
If you don't like your friends then why does is matter. I did the same thing an now the only friend I have is my wife an my bf I talk to on ps4
>>16999154
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>>16999139
Op, if you stopped all communication and shoes signs that you don't want to be bothered, why would someone bother you?
Girlfriend of six and a half years just ended it.
Please tell me how to survive this...
>>16999066
Reconnect with family and friends
Drink/party with those friends
Meet and have sex with new people
It's literally the only way. It takes time. Chin up bro, youll make it
why did she end it..
>>16999078
She and I are apart, on other sides of the world. She felt as though we were holding each other back as she wants to travel and i want a career in film.
I understand where she is coming from, but in my eyes, the idea of travelling with her was equally as appealing as any career opportunity.
I want to think she knew this...
>she's on IUD
>i was barely sober enough to get it up
>put it in for a few seconds but kept losing boner
What are the chances that pregnancy could happen?
IUD is almost fool-proof
Being limp doesn't mean there isn't sperm
Not cumming doesn't mean there isn't sperm
There is always a chance.
Sperm are crazy-ass mother-fuckers ;)
But with the IUD, chances are slim.
Next time, try a rubber.
Or just don't try if you aren't ready for the consequences....
>>16999056
>Next time, try a rubber.
Yeah, no kidding.
I barely remember doing it.
We were both trashed.
I basically got a recap the next morning, along with "This NEVER happened" because she has a bf.
Without the IUD, your odds would be about 1 in 30. IUDs are almost as effective as the pill can be (and in practice they're actually more effective, because the pill is prone to user errors while IUDs are not).
tl;dr - The odds are not zero, but they're extremely low.
How do I deal with ageing? I don't know whether I can be ok with it but it's unavoidable.
Can you still be considered attractive at the age of 30 or 40?
I wish I could share my young body with someone I cared about but all I've managed to do is develop unrequited love for people, I've never been able to get a relationship.
I guess I'm just depressed about it all.
Ageing is something we all have come to terms with.
Rest easy knowing that in the end, we all die.
And although our lives may look different right now, our graves will all look the same at the end of the line.
>>16999031
>Can you still be considered attractive at the age of 30 or 40?
women no
men yes
sry just being real with you cupcake
I'm also going through my crisis a little early. So what I'm doing is saving up for a breast lift + implants, working out, and taking as good care of my skin as I can. It's basically trying to beat back the ravages of time with a stick, though. Eventually, the stick's going to break, and I'm going to get wrinkly and die, just like everyone else. Hopefully my tits look nice for whoever does my autopsy, though.
Hey /adv/ I'm secretly into amputee girls. Where do I find one of these cyborgs? Also, without coming off as a creepy fetishist. I am one. Just don't want to seem as though I am. You understand.
>>16999013
DID YOU JUST COME FROM /b/???
There was an exact same thread
Gtfo to syria youll get lucky there
No, now I must find it.
Paralympics Rio 2016
Do long distance relationships work or is it just a myth?
I'm talking country-wise/across the globe distance not just an hour ride away.
It seems for me that the only girls I get interested in and actually connect with is online, irl no one is interested in me neither do I get to meet many girls. Whereas, online I've spoken to people through mutual interest and things "hit off" at first and have always tried to do my best to make things work but it was never really mutual just ultimately the person leaves or my worries get the better of me making...
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>>16998997
>>16998997
>Do long distance relationships work or is it just a myth?
It works when one or both partners are willing and able to move to "upgrade" it to a physical relationship.
This doesn't have to happen immediately, and it shouldn't be done at the cost of job prospects/etc, but it should be a goal in mind. The moment you "go official" and tell people "i'm in a committed relationship with X", you should be able to describe your plans to be...
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>>16998997
If there is a Chance, don't do it! LDR comes always with problems
I don't have a problem dating girls my age (I'm 22), I've had 6 partners over the last 3 years. The problem is:
I'm into older gals. Girls my age aren't really all there. But I don't know how to go about dating them. I'm not talking about old ladies, I mean late 20s early 30s. The kind that has a job and lives on her own.
Where do I even look?
The internet?
>>16998995
> make a fake profile on a dating site
> message em
> ask their kik or number
> tell them you lied about your looks when they ask for a selfie
> tell them you did it because you were self conscious about your looks around older women
Works 50/50.
>>16999006
>>16999012
I guess what I'm asking is what dating site is the best for this?
I'm not self conscious about my looks.
Other methods involving more truthin' than lyin'?
How can I become HD
blahblah u must just talk to her bro blahblBOOOPPah sympathy n btw brah just believe in urself
>>16998847
Wow thankyou bro I feel much better now
i think goku just tossed a spirit bomb at you.
