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>>16999859

how old is the kid?

>>16999859

18 ,so he can leave asap and doesnt need to suffer anymoree

>>16999859
>>16999878

the healthiest way is to not make it any secret. these days kids always seem to find out (at least on TV) and there is no reason to keep it a secret. one easy way to do this is to have pictures or something of the birth parent(s) around the house, or an item from them or something and just point it out to them, even as a baby. as they grow up they just assume its normal. once a month going over pictures with your child (here was you at the park, here was us at disney land, here was you at school, and here is a picture of your birth mommy at the hospital or whatever etc) so as they develop into a conscious and understanding human being its there. by the time they are old enough to understand it they dont really care, cuz they were raised without any confusion around it. if any other kids have quesitons they dont explain. there might be one conflict a year but its not a big deal.

its kind of like how some kids were just raised and taught about sex at an early age, so they can sit there and talk very clinically about it with no shame and just laugh off the kids who get confused or are grossed out or what have you.

>>16999855

eat that cowshit you pussy

>>16999871
Oh I'm planning to tomorrow, I'm just trying to gather some knowledge before hand.

>>16999887
eat it

Well, i would only ask my bf that question if i'' down with hearing about how he beats his meat to shemales and furry porn. But i have to admit that i somehow understand your gf. The first time a bf/gf asks you this question you usually stay on the safe side to test the water and see how sensitive they are about that topic. You can go "full honest", later on, when you have progressed to watching porn together or whatever. Weirdly enough, i'm observing that i'm more drawn to porn that has some elemnt in it that reminds me of my bf or our sex. You could watch out for the same and then tell her that. Maybe that vid is especially neat cause the girl has similar boobs as your gf. Or the way she moans reminds you of her. Or they do that position you two love. Things like that

>>16999841
>past experiences
That probably hurt her the most. Don't ever tell a girl you're fantasizing about an ex.

It'd be worse if you lied.

did you take medications? drugs like antidepressants have some long term side effects
give it 2 years to wear off

>>16999845
No.Never have. That's why is so horrible,its like something broke inside my brain for no reason at all.

>>16999834

go talk to people. only way to get better is by doing it. talk to a therapist if that helps

>>16999811
I have recently learned from trained professionals that suicide thoughts are not really that uncommon. On the contrary, a lot of people goes through this, but doesn't speak up because of the taboo associated with it.
So I just wanted to tell you, that what you are experiencing isn't just you "fishing for attention".
I'm glad to hear that you are convinced that you are not going to go through with it. Nevertheless, I would try talking about this with someone you trust. Do you have any friends or family that has suffered from depression or anxiety? I think you'll find these people have a lot of insights into what you are experiencing, even if you don't have any of these disorders.

>TL;DR: You are absolutely not an attention whore, so take yourself seriously.
>Suicide thoughts are not as uncommon as you might think.

>>16999811

is it worrying? no. you are technically correct, but you are just being dumb. if you are REALLY dumb, thats worrying, but everyone has these thoughts here and there. suicide isnt a foreign concept anymore. its something that we hear about everyday. so our minds naturally wander to it for various reasons.

in regards to your feelings, you have to realize that you dont have to tack on 'suicide' for feelings to be valid. people seem to think that if they dont use the word 'depressed' or 'suicide' that they arent feeling anything important enough to address.

sit down and make a list of all the things that make you sad. can the problem be solved? is the problem real? a lot of problems can be solved simply by letting it go. friend being a cunt? not your friend anymore. that girl being unresponsive? dont give her anything to respond to. dad a twat? dont talk to him.

if you absolutely cannot talk to a friend about it, go talk to a therapist.

>>16999865
Makes sense, I'll try to talk to a friend of mine.

>>16999870
That's why I hesitate to talk about this and tell people that I'm depressed, I hate self-diagnosing. But the thing is, I lost my mother to cancer last year, and everything changed from that point onward and extending further back to the day she was diagnosed. After a whole year losing track of life, I'm trying to get things back on track now, but every now and then when I get overwhelmed, this thought pops up, and it just made me wonder if it's normal to get this. But now I understand what you guys are saying, I will talk to a friend about this.

has anyone ever told you that B vitamins help a lot with allergies? bees collect pollen, and turn it into 2 products. Honey, and vitamin B5 which is what the queen bee eats. Maybe she needs B5 because of all the pollen in the hive, lol.

maybe bees do to pollen, what a vaccine does to a virus. the bees break it down into a compound that gives you immunity. or something like that.

The best sources of vitamin B5 are chick peas, cauliflower, kale, avocado, legumes, lentils, egg yolks, broccoli, and brewer's yeast

>>16999809
Maybe you could try wearing a mask over your nose and mouth like Chinese people do when they're sick. Maybe it would filter out some of the pollen

We met at a get together of mutual friends. He was 22, i was 25.

bump.
fast day today.

>>16999782
Tinder

Why did you choose that topic? How long has your presentation to be? What is the point you want to get across? There's a phlethora of interesting cases, i love the topic. But for people that aren't into it it might be too intense, especially if you go into details. The most interessting part imo

>>16999781
Ask yourself this,

Do you want people thinking what you did your report on reflects you? If you stand up and talk about interesting murders you are going to be know as that kid who is interested in murder.


Pick something more PG-13

>>16999799
Well, I just thought that it would be interesting, there's something thrilling in that... I really want things that will leave them thinking about my presentacion for a long time, I want them to think about all the cases. It's supposed to be from 5 minutes to 1 hour.

>>16999816
It's okay! I'll tell them that I choose that topic to make them aware of some dangerous things, that they can happen to everyone etc.

Ask her in person you pussy

>came to advice to brag

Git out

Shea gonna kill you. Don't go and lock your doors and windows
>;)

She's insane.

>>16999746

>its not worth getting into but instead of getting into it im going to spent two whole sentences saying its not worth talking about instead of talking about it cuz that somehow saves more time than just talking about it.

as for eviction laws, it depends on where you live, but most places have a sort of squatters rights. im not sure on the true details, but essentially they shouldnt be able to throw you out. if they see you are in fact moving out they wont have much of a problem etiher. they will come and be stern but thatd be the extent of it.

my advice? stop bullshitting about 'do it right'. doing it in the 24 hour period is not doing it wrong, its just more exhausting. get all your stuff and get gone.

They're probably gonna come and put your shit on the sidewalk. Doesn't hurt to ask about an extension especially since you found a place.

>>16999746
Since you won't say what it was that means you're ashamed.

>>16999731
Should've thought of that before you applied for a job out of the country!

>>16999731
They're going to have to know eventually, because they will have to get you a French work visa for you to work there.

I'm going to guess that you applied online. Didn't the form include your home address?

If not, you're just going to have to tell them where you are. Suggest a Skype interview.

>>16999735
It's not something that would influence my decision in taking the job offer. But just something to think about. Chill lol

>>16999759
THEY will? I'm 20. I made clear that I'm American living in America.

Superior 4" Master race reporting in

Keep trying with two fingers, slowly work your way up to more.

>>16999726
Muscle relaxers/pain meds

she was lying

No girl would admit to having herpes; they're too vain.

A cold sore maybe? Legit excuse but not many would be so forthcoming.

>>16999684

1/5 people in america have herpes.

of those people only 1/5 ever show.

of those who show, many only ever get around 3 out breaks in their life.

hardcore people get em once a year, but with medication they are shorter, not as extreme, and not as contagious.

the question now becomes, do you really want to risk getting a lifetime disease for a girl you never even had a first date with?

how the fuck should I know?

>>16999668
Her age and interests?

Gift card

tard

My advice on how to quit is to start by hunting for your next job. Contact former coworkers from this or other jobs you've had. They can often give you the inside scoop on available positions and might even put in a good word for you. If you need to take calls during business hours, be discreet.

Keep your cards close to your vest. You want to stay on the best terms with your present employer so that you maximize the information you have at hand. This allows you to wait until the last possible moment before submitting your resignation. Bear in mind that giving notice is not simply a heads-up. It is, in that moment, your resignation. You can be relieved of your responsibilities and privileges that very moment. Don't hand over the letter unless you are ready to be immediately escorted from the premises.

>>16999666
Why did you refuse?