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Earlier today I got matched with a beautiful girl on tinder.
Normally I don't really care much about tinder matches because they're way too much hit or miss to worry about it, but this girl is so beautiful it hurts. I mean, she has no bio and only two pictures, but I've been staring at them for the past hours and I keep imagining us going out together and wondering what things she likes and what we could do on the weekends and how we are going to name our children and where we would retire when we get old.
How do I approach this? I don't want...
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it's prolly a bot
>>16996827
This.
Match-ups really don't mean shit, especially when 70% of match-ups are flat out ignored completely.
Just strike a conversation and expect the worst.
>>16996827
I doubt it since it says she studies in a local university. But anyway, it's more about me not screwing up, since I still don't know anything about her.
what did you study to get a great life/job?
What should I study?
for good lifestyle?
Followed my passion and found a job I enjoy, it's more of a day-time hobby than actual work.
Money isn't an issue if you love what you do every day.
>>16996818
whats ur passion?
>>16996809
>What should I study?
>for good lifestyle?
Pickin' cotton and singin' negro spirituals for your master.
Hey /adv -- I feel trapped in my relationship. I have a policy of 100% honesty, and I've told my boyfriend on a number of occasions that I'm struggling with the relationship.
>been in relationships almost consistently for last 3 years
>want out
Issue is that he won't let me breakup with him unless I flatly say that there's something wrong with him, because otherwise 'we can change it!'
Help????
Well it's not really about him letting you break up or not, since there's no such thing, but you really should question what is making you want out of the relationship first. It also makes the breakup talk a lot easier.
Why are you feeling trapped?
>Issue is that he won't let me breakup with him unless I flatly say that there's something wrong with him, because otherwise 'we can change it!'
What kind of logic is this?
>if there's nothing wrong with me i can help you fix your problem!
>if there's something wrong with me I can change!
you dont need permission to break him with him, if he really needs a reason just lie and say there's someone else, that will shut him up.
>>16996791
>What kind of logic is this?
>>if there's nothing wrong with me i can help you fix your problem!
>>if there's something wrong with me I can change!
Sounds pretty reasonable desu, especially without knowing more about OP's situation. But yeah, you don't need permission if you want to, obviously.
Is moving on relatively fast after a breakup a good idea?
My gf of two years broke up with me two days ago in a really terrible manner (which she now regrets).
So while I was drinking at a friends place I messaged this girl I had a crush on two years ago. She seems to be super into me and I'm pretty into her.
And honestly the only lingering feeling I have as far as I can tell is "slightly pissed off"
So should I pursue this now, or give myself a little more time?
At least in my mind, the danger of moving on too quickly is that there's this internal competition between your new "relationship" (or whatever) and your old one. That just drags out how long you stay hung up on your ex.
If you're the kind of person who can put the past behind you then it's fine.
>>16996723
Two days is not enough time. By all means go see this girl but don't take things too fast if you think you really like her.
Also sauce pls
>>16996728
I'm a very "never look behind you" type of person.
The only thing I am concerned about is that my ex has some stuff I can't get back for a few weeks.
I just want my stuff back and for it to be over.
Hey /adv ,
I have got female friend that I used to talk with when we were in the same school
She super hot and pretty much out of my league imo
We didn't talk for a long time but 1 month ago
we went out in paris together during the entire day
Even if it was awesome it was a one time thing
We didn't really talk since then but for some reason she texted me last saturday to tell me she want to spend a week in my appartement
All my friends told me it wasn't just to play cards
but in my mind I can't even think that's...
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>>16996619
Sounds like she's homeless and just wants a place to crash. Kek.
>>16996658
might be true
but she is doing 4h of driving to come
she certainly has better place to end up in
>>16996668
Difficult to say. You don't just spend a week in a town a four-hour drive away for no reason. But there are so many possible reasons that it's hard to know what's up.
My advice: come up with a list of things you could do together. A big, big list: pack the week solid, with more than you could hope to actually get done in just a week even if she had no other plans. Then, the next time tall to plan this out, blitz her with the full list. She'll tell you what her plans are then.
Hi /adv/,
I don't really have anything to say about it. I got waitlisted from my top-choice school, and I was shocked to find out because it wasn't even a reach school, it was a safety. I only applied for two other schools which I'm okay with, and there's always the transfer option, but I was really hoping I would enroll this fall.
Am I fucked? It's still really hard for me to accept the fact that I will most likely not get in. Especially since it was a safety school. I was thinking of writing an email to the admissions office, but it said...
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That's what you get for being white. Tough shit nigga.
I'm confused, if you have two other schools as options, what's the problem? So you didn't get your first choice, you applied for those other schools in case this happened, didn't you?
I got waitlisted to a top-tier law school and still got in
>it was still a huge waste of money though
Does anyone have good ideas for a surprise party? Any idea is welcome.
>>16996519
a surprise party is often surprise enough. booze, food, etc.
unless your friend is of the dork variety you dont really need to be more specific than that.
mine loves magicians, so for his birthday we planned a night at magic castle, with dinner, and a seance with his favorite magician.
Don't tell the person you're throwing a party for them
>>16996524
Nice idea, haven't thought of that before.
(Please direct me if this is the wrong board for this)
To cut this short - I'm pretty productive at work, get along with my colleagues, tend to have few problems during the day etc. But at home, it's the complete opposite.
For example:
- My (bedroom) sink is currently filled with vomit from getting drunk at the weekend. I should empty it, but I really can't bring myself to do anything about it - so it just sits there.
- It's been about 4 days since I last took a poo. I mean, I feel like I need to go - but I'm terrified to leave...
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>>16996484
>vomit in my sink
not sure what you are asking for here. clean it. there is no secret way to make yourself clean it. its literally, walk in, say 'god thats nasty' and get to work.
>not pooing
dude, just go poop, this is the easiest thing ever.
>everything else
JUST DO IT. THERE IS NO SECRET.
nigga you know what you need to do
The fuck is your problem?
Go clean your shit. Go to the toilet when you need to piss. Stop leaving shit around. Get some god damn discipline and put shit away when you're done with it. Are you a child? Because that's how you're acting.
Are girls put off on casual sex with guys that wear glasses?
They usually say they like glasses a la "jus b urself" and "they make you look smart/classy/whatever", but I'm beginning to perceive that despite my looks I'm being consistently seen as a long-term dating prospect instead of the hot fling I want to be just because I'm wearing glasses. For reference, the frames I use are fairly thin, but the correction is fairly high.
I could be wrong of course, so if you've ever noticed a difference in female attention between contacts...
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Does the term "overthinking" mean anything to you?
>>16996444
Thank you for your advice
>>16996438
If the correction is high that means you will have thick lenses. If you have thick lenses they will not look good with thin frames really. Go for something like pic related.
My daughters junior kindergarten teacher tore my daughter out of my arms with enough force to bruise her arm on the first day of school. Since then I have been trying to use the system to get something done, but the system seems more interested in protecting the teacher. I am looking for some interesting and non-conventional ways that I can get a measure of justice with this abusive teacher, and stay out of jail at the same time. Any advice?
>>16996420
Sorry to hear that OP. I am sure she probably didn't mean anything about it. Is she a first year teacher? She may have been feeling overwhelmed on her first day. It's still horrible that she did such a thing and I certainly cannot condone such behavior as a fellow teacher. How high up have you gone? Did you just talk to the principle?
Well the best option would have been to take pictures of the bruising and go straight to the police, not the school.
But i'ts April and you're talking about the first day of school so obviously the marks are gone.
I don't think there's much you can do at this point. You could still try going to the police but I don't know how sucessful you'll be with no evidence. Then again when it comes to children they'l pretty much just take her word, so maybe.
>>16996420
>teacher tore my daughter out of my arms
Sounds ridiculous.
Is your daughter immovable object?
Can't she use legs?
Why didn't you let her in time so no harm?
>bruise her arm
No big deal until arm isn't ripped off / broken. Try to not being so cling to your child next time or use brain more.
I need some advice on getting out of going to the wedding. I don't really like this friend of 20 years so not going his wedding will fuck up other friendships.
My friend just announced that he's getting married. A date has not been set yet, but I'm assuming it's going to be spring 2017.
I've known my friend for 20 years. I never really liked him, but somehow the fucker is always in my life.
When I tell him I'm not going he is going to flip the fuck out.
Help me get out of going to this wedding anons by suggesting some excuses
Stick your hand in a woodchipper a week before the wedding.
Well your options are either fuck up your friendships with the others, or suck it up and go to the wedding. It'll only be a morning or afternoon of your life
You stuck with this guy for 20 years when you never really liked him?
I'm sorry, OP, but you're out of choices. Unless you're in the hospital, the courthouse, or the morgue, you have to go. Consider it one last duty to a dying friendship.
As the title suggests. Im searching for a place where i could just take a plane, take the bus, hike, and just start living there far away from civilization. Along the cost and islands would be preferable. I have considered phillipines so far. My budget is fairly decent. I am of legal age. This is not about why i want to do this.
SE Asia in general isn't the worst idea, but I wouldn't stray too far from civilization. Weather disasters and insect-borne illness happen a lot in that area and you'd need help when they strike. There are some pretty chill places in Indonesia too.
Cool idea until a hurricane / typhoon / tsunami comes.
Also you should learn how first symptoms of missing certain minerals / vitamins looks like. because McDonald may give you obesity, but living on some island can be much worse nutrition vise. Also tropical mosquito can give you super powers.
Maybe buy a Pocketbook, some solar panel and 64GB epubs to occupy yourself.
Good luck on your strange quest :-D
Cambodia maybe.
there's a girl I like really much and have been talking to past 2-3 months, we kissed, hugged, got jerked off etc.. but she told me she gets very "attached to people" and that she still has feelings for her ex even though they broke up like 4-5 months ago..
Is it worth it to pursue this girl? I really fucking like her and all that, but a part of me is thinking that I will just end up getting hurt and wasting my time in the end, since she wont have feelings for me? ( More than "I like you" ).
Any tips on this? How do I act.
anyone?
>>16996324
OP don't do that to yourself find someone who only wants you she needs to get over her ex before she is suitable to be in another relationship
>>16996428
that's the problem, it almost felt like im a relationship with her already before we talked and shit happened and etc.. now I just don't know.
You are probably right though..
I have a phone interview coming up tomorrow regarding an IT position at T.Rowe Price.
I have never done a professional interview before and I have never done a phone interview.
Does anyone have any phone interview tips?
What questions will they ask?
What questions do I ask them?
Ask about vacation time, sick pay, how long the work day is, shit like that. Sorry, I couldn't help myself, they are probably going to ask about hypothetical scenarios or times you "led a team to a goal" or got something done with limited time.
research the star interview format
>>16996323
No, no, do not ask about anything regarding benefits or how long the work day is. Do not do that.
So, bit of back story. Was in 3rd year of 5 year masters engineering course and completely fucked an exam, plus its resit (mix of hating that subject and not getting it). My advisor of studies tells me that I can either resit that class with just the end exam, or I can resit the class with attendance, where I'd have to attend lectures, Labs an class tests.
Now last year the mark distribution for the class was 60% exam, 30% for two class tests and 10% labs however he said that if I did resit with attendance, while I would have to attend the labs and tests to make...
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Pay the guy off.
Have some fucking foresight you lazy piece of shit. If you keep taking every day as it comes you're going to keep blundering into 100% preventable issues like the one you're in.
Also you need to explain why a single course is determinate for your entire 4 years of schooling, let alone a single test. You also seem to be implying that you didn't attend class unless you were forced to, unless I misunderstood? Instead of making excuses how about you motivate yourself?
>>16996469
how do i motivate myself?
