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I consider killing myself or think about how great it would be if I died in an accident, every working day. Should I seek psychiatric help? Will it actually help me?
>>16993471
Have you considered donating whole blood in advance for the tax you're likely to put on the bloodbank when you inevitably fuck up your suicide attempt and need upwards of several litres of blood to recover?
Get your good parts out before you fuck up someone else's day.
Seek therapy, seek help from family and most importantly seek Christ
Look to friends, family, mentors, hobbies, passions, anything that peaks interest. Psychiatric help can work wonders.
I attend school with Hayley I'm in 2 of her classes and I sit close to her during lunch in the cove, I have mutual friends with her. Lets start off easy she's is or is turning 19 very soon and she's still in grade 11 she's lied to this guy named Dom who is 20 years old a druggie and lives in his moms basement about her age so for the longest time he thought she was 16, which is completely fucked up, the funny thing is, is that Dom dosn't want to date anyone he's honestly just using her for sex which I can see from just talking to her friends about...
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>>16993456
How do you deal with this? Why do you even give 2 flying fucks? What the fuck? Sage.
I just dont want to be the next person she targets she's crazy and a horrible person please help
>>16993456
>>16993456
any other pic of her ???
What are these on my skin? They're like small red dots covering most of my body. They're not itchy, very hard to see unless you really try, arent elevated so you can't feel them. I just feel weird looking at my body and seeing them. I have allergies but since i'm young i've never been to a doctor since so far all they do is cause sneezing. Not sure if this is an effect of that. Here are a couple of pictures.
Leg
Ankle.
Literally nothing. It's a white person thing.
Vape fell in a urinal, can I catch anything? I washed it a couple times.
>>16993333
Stop vapng loser
>>16993355
I know..... but am I safe? Urine is sterile right?
>>16993360
kek
So, this is dumb. The girl I liked was a few months out of a long term relationship (4 years) when I told her I had feelings for her. She said she didn't want anyone, just wants to be single. She didn't have the guts to outright say she didn't want me and strung me along for a while, but that's beside the point.
My stupid brain keeps making me feel like shit whenever I see/hear/perceive something about her single life because it makes me think 'she didn't want me, she wants that instead (casual sex, getting stupid drunk, clubbing hookups)'.
Of...
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>>16993318
if she got into a relationship with you after only a few months out of her last one, it WOULD NOT HAVE WORKED. even a little bit. she wants to forget about her old bf and find herself again. she would be comparing you to him, thinking about things he did differently, etc. she made the right choice by not doing that to either of you. it's her right to decide what to do with her life, she rejected you, get over it my dude.
>>16993329
Fuck, it's just hit me hard. Yeah, I did a dumb thing. I don't want to descend into self-pity and I'm trying not to be bitter about it because I understand as best I can where she's at and I do care about her.
I only posted this thread to appease that neurotic little part of me that stops me from letting go completely and encourages that self-pity, those feelings of shittiness. I want to be able to deal with that.
U dont spill ur feelings on a girl. Thats feminine as fuck. And u gotta let her emotional wounds heal.
Sorry if this one's a bit tl;dr, I just felt compelled to really detail the whole situation.
Part 1:
So there's this girl i've been hanging out with for the pat year or so. She's a very busy person between college and her work, but the few times we managed to hang out were some of the most enjoyable experiences i've ever had with a girl. (and i've dated quite a few times prior to this) Things started with not much more than a physical attraction and the fact that I briefly knew her during high school, but I quickly joined the club she was...
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>>16993303
Part 2:
But just yesterday, the club which we started (that now had a good 10 or so members) went on a trip to a math conference at a university in LA and the beach afterwards. The beach trip was fun as hell for the most part but at the end of it, one of her male friends got pretty drunk and her and I decided to help him to the car. While walking, he started talking to her about how one of his friends was really into her, and wanted to ask her out.
Without a second thought she gave him full approval to have...
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Damn I feel bad for you dude, I think you're just going to have to take it as a learning experience. Next time you have to take the initiative if you feel that strongly about a girl, I've been in a similar situation as well.
You can alternatively try asking her out. But she said that line about how she was interested but then lost it when you didn't try anything. I've talked to a lot of females and they always say once they lose interest, it's gone and it's impossible to get it back. So that might be too late.
>>16993452
Yeah, if I'd asked her out when I first decided that I liked her a lot (which was after a series of several dates (movies, hiking, etc.)), things probably would've gone better. But I was too obsessed over doing it at the "perfect" time, which of course, never came along. And now I just kind of feel like an asshole.
Doing taxes.
Should I do it online? Either TurboTax or H&RBlock.
It should be free, since I made way under $62K, but are there any hidden fees I should know of?
>>16993281
Also, no, I don't have health insurance, and I'm aware that there's a fee for that. Tried to get coverage in Fall, didn't qualify.
>>16993281
bump
>>16993322
Pro-tip: If you say you couldn't afford health insurance for the entire year in the turbotax app you won't get any deductions.
Have fun.
Sorry for the walltext, but I needed to say it all. If you don't want to read everything:
TL;DR: Homossexual/Bissexual people don't bother me except when my gf says she might be bi. Do I have prejudice?
I have some gay friends and it does not bother me the slightest. Actually, I have a lot of friends in common with one gay guy, but I'm the only one who knows he's gay because he knew I would not treat him differently or anything (but the rest would).
The thing only bothers me when it is about my girlfriend. She thinks she might be bissexual...
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Its natural. More competition. I felt the same when my ex told me she was pansexual
>>16993274
I feel bad about it though. Like, I wanted to don't really care about it. She says she wants to make out with a girl to know if she's bi or not (if we break up).That really makes me sad. Is it just me being jealous?
>>16993261
She also have smoked pot before and she says she would like to do it sometimes. That also bothers me and that's one of the reasons I think it's me being afraid of she becoming a very different person.
What is intelligence /adv/? What makes you find someone is intelligent, for example?
My normal reply is that intelligence is subjective and isn't easily defined.
But, to /seem/ intelligent is another story.
To seem intelligent, you should be articulate and confident in your words. Avoiding common logical fallacies would be a must. You'd need to be able to speak about political ideas without getting emotionally involved, and most intelligent people recognize the complexity of things and realize that there is no one answer to any social question.
>>16993070
>>16993095
Also people who call themselves intelligent usually aren't
>>16993129
How do you support that point of view? What makes you determine that someone isn't intelligent?
How can I be successful?
>>16992994
depends on what you want to be successful at.
>EVERYTHING
by listing those 'everythings' you want to be successful in and deconstructing what it takes to be successful in them and going from there.
thats the best we can offer without specifics.
>>16993009
Hmmm....
How do I stop being so addicted to the internet?
Do I simple have a bit of a compulsive attitude ? I have like 9 tabs open all the time....
Please I need advice.
I need to Help and I can't if I keep coming back here and shitpost all day.
>>16993037
the biggest thign about the internet is that its a sloth based addiction. if you wree too busy you just dont do it.
the big question is, if you werent on the internet, what would you be doing?
Girl I've been dating for last 5months has always been weird about kissing/touching her neck. Said she was choked when she was younger and it kind of triggers her if someone touches her throat. Last night while in a sexy session, she put my hand on her throat several time and I choked lightly. Do you think she was secually abused or that she trusts me?
>>16992981
>triggers
you are not welcome here
>>>/tumblr/
>>16992996
I couldn't think up a good word, agitates? Becomes taken aback?
>>16992981
it sounds like she was abused, definitely do not choke her even if its lightly and even if she wants it, or it upsets her if you dont. she's doing it to hurt herself.
Need some help here... Pic unrelated.
I know this one girl who is from my office at work and she has become super clingy and attracted to me but she's not my type nor is she the least bit pretty (she's more or less ugly in all my friends' perspective). She keeps following me after work as well and keeps trying to see who I text and shit. Since she also lives on campus like I do I'm getting a bit worried. I see her 3 times a week at work. How do I tell her nicely that I'm not interested in anything serious or how can I keep her away from me?
>>16992891
You can try and be extra polite by saying you are already committed to another girl and you won't cheat ever.
Or you just say to her she is ugly and then watch mental meltdown.
Dont tell her she is ugly!
Ngl i dont think u need ur friends approval of whether she is a hottie, anyways not the point tell her ur into incest okay sorry, just say shes not ur type or she reminds u of a family member... Ik i just said incest thing but one of dem should do:')
My mother has been an emotional and financial leech on the house for years now. She hasn't worked in 25 years but loves spending all of the income my dad and I bring in.
She's home all day, she doesn't cook or clean or do anything other than sit around eating junk food and making everyone else around her miserable.
Because of this, my dad's suicidal and he wants a divorce, but he's afraid of losing his house and half of everything we own if he goes through with the idea.
So my question is whether or not there is any way for my dad to make...
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How did you get to this point of hating her this much? Are you projecting your dissatisfaction with your life onto her?
>>16992894
They clearly stated what their mother was doing and how it made their father feel. It doesn't take much to figure that out. You come off as presumptuous.
To anon, lawyer up. Build up a case and provide evidence. Look into legit employment records, if there are any physical documents left over. If you have siblings, hopefully they see this the same way. Regardless, take the proper precautions, contact a legal professional who is versed in this kind of stuff. Go on from there.
I'm sorry...
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>>16992894
Did you read any of OP's post
Hey there /adv.
What do you think about rock/punk/goth girls?
Lets say you are not a part of any subculture, if such "bad girl" passes you by, or drinks a 25 year old whiskey on rocks at the bar, do you find it intriguing or are you indifferent?
I am just very curious about it, what do you guys think?
Pic kinda related, I guess.
Was one, still have some traits.
Most of them are postured assholes that are pretty superficial. They have a cultivated persona, and if it isn't obvious, that just means they are so fucking good at it that they are GREAT liars. They might have malicious intent (best friend is a serial cheater, 3 bfs at a time, uses her "damaged" image to emotionally manipulate them) or they may be balanced individuals who just like what they like.
>>16992855
How old are you? This question seems so childlike.
What I will think:
>rock
Never seen / heard of.
>punk / goth
Woman with very unusual clothing style. Might be attention whore.
>drinks a 25 year old whiskey
A lot of money / alcoholic / wants to get wasted.
> intriguing adjective
>in‧tri‧guing
>something...
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>>16992855
indifferent
really could not give less of a fuck
if anything, i avoid them because their style indicates attention whore tendencies
How do I pick one out. Plz help thanks
What do you want it for?
Go to the kind of store that sells bikes for your purpose and ask them. Or go on a bike forum.
Also, I agree with you on stuff in a lot of other threads but, unless you're an elaborate troll, you need to work on making your delivery something that doesn't inflame the sensibilities of people on 4chan.
>>16992859
Sometimes I worry that maybe I am an elaborate troll. But I made this thread before and it died because I had to go to work. Didn't feel like typing it all out again but maybe it could help.
I'm thinking like a street bike. I want to take t to work and school, long distances. But sonetimes there are dirt roads and I like to jump curbs? Was looking into this and maybe a hybrid bike would be okay. Just not sure.
Well, I would recommend bicycle that:
> is cheap so when it gets stolen you won't go bankrupt
> is from normal material (aka steel frame) because you won't tell the difference anyway
> is mountain bike because it is the most versatile you can get and it won't break so easily as city bikes with thin wheels
> has unique color (because the more weird it looks the less chance it gets stolen)
> has technology...
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