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when charcoals are burning without smoke, do they release carbon monoxide? do i need the top part of this sort of grill to do the job?
OP here, this question is for suicide.
>>16999601
Just grill yourself some delicious hamburgers. Melt some American cheese on top.....mmmmm
i might do that as im dying, maybe ill get to eat one before i pass out.
My friend got his current girlfriend of 3 months pregnant. Both are extremely irresponsible and cannot afford themselves. Both are in a bad situation. Both are ex heroin addicts. She's been on Suboxone for like 6 years, and not prescribed to it anymore, but still takes it. Both are smokers, sometimes vape, but still smoke a lot. They should get an abortion, but don't want to, but if she keeps smoking, problems will ensue.
Look they're addicts. It's really impossible to quit smoking if you're in a certain mindset. And it's not that easy to 'force' a mindset. It's almost not even her fault. When she wants a cig it likely feels like she's dying of thirst; that is a hard feeling to overcome. There comes a point in addiction where its really not a CHOICE you just have to do it. Whereas for someone else who's a smoker, they have a different mindset and awareness, different abilities mentally, they could put it down and never look back.
Whether people change or not depends on their mindset, awareness, if they're mentally ill, and if they want to change. You can't do that for them.
You make this thread so fucking often. Just stop. There's nothing you can do for him and you need to get your fucking nose out of their stinky business. People fuck up their lives all the time. Sorry your friend is retarded but that's the way he is and you can't fucking steer someone else's life.
>>16999642
Relax. I'm not trying to fight. Thank you for the advice, but you didn't have to respond. I know there isn't a way to save him, but I don't want him farther down the shitter. You know? Do you have a good friend you really care about? And worry about?
What is this? It started out really small last week but now its getting huge.
>>16999594
I'm no expert in these things, but if I had to make an educated guess I'd say that's a dog.
>>16999598
The fatty bump on his stomach
>>16999598
kek
Femanon here, I wanted some advice on what career I should choose to go to college for. I'm 21 and have only completed one core class, English, because I was stupid and dropped out after one semester.
I've been thinking maybe vet tech, but I'm not entirely sure. Does anyone in the veterinary science field have any tips or pointers? I'm not looking to get rich, so shit tons of money isn't really that important. What courses should I focus on after I finally complete general Ed courses?
waitress
If you don't mind seeing animals suffer and die in front of you on a daily basis, sure go into Vet Tech. I personally couldn't do it.
Ladies of /adv (and I'm aware that means a certain type of lady) how do you feel about being approached by men while you're working? I don't necessarily mean by coworkers and colleagues, but sure, chime in on that too. What I'm referring to is if you work with people, do you think it's inappropriate to be hit on by men? Do you like/dislike the attention, or couldn't care less either way?
I live in a county with the largest senior citizen population in the state. I had to take my mother to the hospital, and while she was having tests done, went to the cafeteria to eat. While I was eating, this beautiful woman walked in and bought something. She worked there, cause I saw she had an ID tag. I didn't say anything though, cause I feel it's inappropriate to hit on women while they're working, whether they just don't like it or don't have the time to chat with anyone anyway. I know I don't like being approached, because I'm very nervous about sexual harassment policies while I'm working. This was the prettiest woman I've seen since I've been in this region.
>>16999536
Only do it if you're sure she likes you.
>>16999545
>"Only talk to girls who are slutty"
Depends. Is he less than hot? Is he creepy? If yes to either, fuck off.
There is this girl who like me and I like her too, but I'm too shy to tell her. Any advice on how to, and how to get over it?
Pic unrelated
Just be like. . Hey we should hang out sometime. You don't have to throw all your feelings on the table straight away. What's the context on how you know each other?
You can't he older than 15, right?
>>16999523
She goes to my school and we sit next together in a class, even though we talk a bit more outside. The thing is, I don't really know her that well. I want to know her more, but I feel like I'll lose the chance if I take too long. School has about 3 months left for me and then I return to the U.S. (bc I moved to France for the timebeing.) I go to France about every year, but no way it'd last that long if I'm gone all that time.
Be Poor. Get pulled over. Speeding Ticket and Driving without car insurance.
Now have good source of income. Driving a 2001 buick.
Where can i buy minimum car insurance and what should i be paying in the state of Tn?
Kek
Only an idiot would drive above the speed limit while not having insurance because poor. I drive around without a license and no insurance and when I do I drive like I have a warrant on my ass.
>>16999505
Are you white trash?
>>16999505
Is there a compare-insurance-companies website in the US? Tell them what you want and they give you quotes from various companies. (They get a commission when you click through)
If not, look in your local phone book for insurance agents in your town. Phone a few and ask for quotes.
Please help me. I can't decide if I should go to the concert alone.
Pic is me as I'm waiting for it to start.
what concert
Are you going to have fun and meet anyone new while sitting at home?
>>16999477
Local singer. Kartazia.
How crippling is depression or anxiety?
I work at an office with my cousin and apparently he recently stopped his anti depressants. I don't work Fridays and he asked for Friday off because depression related things so I'll have to cover. Is depression just a meme? He seems perfectly fine now and I think he just wants to play fallout.
Is there anything else I can do? I'll invite him out with my friends sometimes but he mostly refuses and the times he does come out he'll bail after the first bar.
Also we're both 24
Just keep the invitation open. I have a friend who does similar things. Usually doesn't want to do anything. You can't really force him too either.
Depression and anxiety can be really crippling depend on the person or severity. I know it can seem like bullshit sometimes but it's more likely that he's having a rough time.
>>16999425
>>16999443
Yeah never close the invitation.
Depression does some not so great things to peoples mentalities.
Like the other anon said OP, he's probably not having the best time.
>>16999425
It's so frustrating when people don't understand depression and think "you were fine yesterday." I'm one of the most outwardly social and extroverted people you'll meet on the surface, but I have bouts of crippling anxiety and depression that I just can't get control over. It feels like the weight of the world is crushing me and I just want abandon everything that isn't the small space that is my room.
I have mostly had to tough through it, and some years are better than others, but try to give him a break and learn up on it.
I'm impressed he called out on depression and anxiety though, I'd never dream of doing that. Which probably doesn't help anxiety, hah.
Basically for reasons I won't get into here, I have to interact daily with someone who is a complete asshole and treats everyone around her like dogshit. She then puts on a front like she's always the one being mistreated. Every interaction with her is like she's putting on a performance for a panel of judges, waiting for them to award her technical points.
For example, she might say something along the lines of "Did you take X? It was sitting on my desk." Like she didn't just call me a thief to my face. When I say as much, she comes back with "That's not what I said. Why are you being so defensive?" etc. I usually just let shit like that go, because leaving is not an option and she seems to thrive on conflict. How do I deal with this asshole?
>>16999422
Tell her you don't appreciate it when she talks to you like that, or treating your colleagues like this is inappropriate.
>>16999436
If only it were that simple. When I say something like that, she always turns it around somehow and makes accusations that I'm being defensive, paranoid or some other pseudo-psychological nonsense, then walks away. She took psych 101 and thinks she can label everyone's behavior now.
>>16999449
Then tell her she's a dumb bitch and nobody likes her and not to talk to you unless it is work related
Fuck yourself you stupid cunt
QUESTION TO THE LADIES HERE:
If your Gf is waiting till marriage, is it then ok to use porn as a substitute till the time is right, or is that cheating?
>>16999409
Femanon here.
I think it's absolutely fine. Actually I think the use of porn throughout your life is fine - even when you get married and the notion of that being "cheating" has always been confusing to me.
But that being said, I never cared for saving my virginity for my true love. Yeah, it's a nice fairytale, but I would dread being stuck with a partner that I was not compatible with sexually.
So that makes me and (your gf?) very different. I would talk to her about it. If she thinks it's cheating, it's cheating. Same thing the other way around.
>>16999409
Get out now!
Why would you date a girl who wanted to wait until marriage? She's clearly crazy.
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I tried to repeat myself rational formulas and lines (like "there's nothing more i can do about it" "it's no use beating myself up for things" "thinking about this changes nothing outside" etc.), but it's almost like i always need to think and obsess over something negative in my life.
Even when my life doesn't have real problems, i come up with a silly and stupid one, but i give that "problem" too much value and importance. To give you an example, i cried because a ship (pairing two fictional characters) i like will never become canon, and i'm male. This isn't a big deal at all rationally, but right now it's like that ship is the most important thing in my world.
I'm trying to distract myself trying different stuff, but i don't have a "passion" (be it a hobby, a job or a relationship) in life that takes my mind, so i always go back to the current obsession or problem, and i feel miserable even when i'm doing other stuff like studying.
Thanks in advance for any help, try to be as detailed as possible.
Bumpan
>>16999404
i wish i could help but when it comes to 'i cried cuz my ships will never be canon' there isnt anything anyone can really say other than get over it.
the best we can offer is the advice to get therapy and talk it out more.
>>16999404
You need to move on, and for lack of better words "grow up"
When it comes to the emotional waves of human beans, everything is relative. Right now, not much of any real importance is happening in your life, yet relatively speaking, your emotions have adapted to this fact, and you are creating drama over things that people with a higher level of maturity see as ridiculous and absurd.
You're mind is affixing values to experiences that most of adult society would consider childish and insignificant. This is simply because you are not taking on the greater responsibilities of adulthood, for one reason or another. It may be your fault, it may not... that is irrelevant to the point... -- the point being that you need to move your life in a direction that will give you experience in dealing with greater trials and tribulations.
Your self-esteem is likely low. You fear rejection (in all ways). The only way to learn to overcome this is by dealing with it more. Practice makes perfect, afterall.
If a person who is bad by default does something good, does that make the person good?
If a person that is bad by default does not do something bad, does that make that person good?
More importantly, if a person who is bad by default, realizing he's a threat to anyone in his immediate surrounding, deliberately isolates himself from society, thus voluntarily withdrawing himself from life, does that nullify the fact that the person is, by default, bad?
Be honest. I don't want to be comforted, I want to know what normal people would really think.
>>be honest
You're a faggot op.
Also, there's no such thing as inherently bad or good people, there's just the shit you do. Actions are what matters, and no one of them wipes out another.
>>16999383
>there's no such thing as inherently bad or good people
>actions are what matters
This goes under the pressumption that people make decisions at all times instead of being influenced by the way they are.
Some people simply have short temper and are selfish, while others are calm and kind.
Which is to say, the course of action of different people can be completely predictable based on their past behaviours, thus confirming the thesis that the future is, somehow, fate. Therefore, being bad and good can be said to be inheritly inherited traits.
>you're a faggot
Keep in mind I never said I'm the given person when making your reply.
>>16999373
good and bad are subjective qualities, perceived by those you are associated with. there are those who are more asocial and those who are more prosocial based on their intrinsic motivations (which could be instinct or conscious decision).
how you act is ultimately your choice, though you may find it more difficult to perform good acts when driven by asocial motivations. the real question is: what do you want? is this to do with your sense of self worth or do you think such things have a greater meaning in life?
/avd/ motivate me for my intervirw today
All is well op
>>16999362
What is /avd/?
>>16999362
you're a dumbfuck if you don't manage to get the job.
Do any of you have a significant other who is difficult to contact/anti-social at times?
My partner often disappears off the radar for a few days. Nothing sinister, he just finishes work or school, gets home, sits down and shuts off. He makes an effort to get in touch with me through the day but it's not abnormal to not hear from him for a few days. When this happens, I usually like to leave him to it and wait for him to get in touch.
Although I appreciate it's just what he's like as a person, sometimes I can't help but take it personally. He's usually on my mind throughout the day, so I find it quite difficult to accept the fact that he doesn't think to send me a quick message to say hi and ask how I am sometimes.
I find it so odd that really I'm just looking for people who can relate to his behaviour themselves, or maybe people who have partners who do something similar? It would be nice to know that it's not indifference, just habit. Sometimes it easy to forget that not everybody has the same thought process as yourself.
>>16999355
iots not indifference.
Look traditionally guys went out of their cave hunting when they had no contact with their families for days or weeks. Prolonged non stop contact with people is tiring. We need a break.
>>16999355
>a few days
Was this a typo, or you for real?
>>16999360
Thanks for your response. This definitely makes sense and is why I leave him to it. I assume he's just sitting at home watching tv or recovering from his day. I like to think he doesn't get in touch because he knows we're fine and I don't need him to be there all the time. We also see each other fairly often, so it's not like we have anything really important to talk about. However, it would be really nice to hear from him, just to show I'm on his mind.
I'm trying my best not to let it get to me because I've known his habits from the very beginning.
