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How do I know if someone's got a fancy for me?
ask dude, the worst they can do is say no, stop friend zoning yourself
Ask them out you faggot
>>16983985
You ask them out. Nothing else works.
I take care and live with my niece. My sister has a drug habit and her husband is total trash. I've only started taking care of her about four months ago. Anyways, she's 15. Very shy and awkward at school as far as I know, and grades have been dropping. Found out she's been shitting on me and has been doing to a 17 year olds house every week to smoke weed for the past few weeks and recently is slowly weening off meet and animal products and is becoming vegan. She's seeing a psychiatrist and psychologist for generalized anxiety and depression. She's become...
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>>16983828
I would do whatever is necessary to get her to stop using weed. I have nothing against weed on principle, it's just generally better for growing kids if they're not drinking, smoking, or using drugs. Plenty of time for that when she's an adult. If she has anxiety and depression, that's probably why she's using weed. Is she on meds? They might not be working very well. That being said, you don't want to overmedicate her. If she needs meds, she needs them, but the less foreign substances...
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>>16983828
You've done all you can now go out get yourself a fuck
Lay down the law on the drug abuse. Watch to make sure she's getting proper nutrition as a vegan.
The rest, while perhaps distasteful, is not all that concerning. Just make sure she's not dumping too much money into it, or preventing people who need actual medicone from getting it.
The closer I get to graduating college and getting older, the more panicked I'm becoming.
The one thing I thought I wanted to do doesn't seem so appealing the closer I get to it. I'm terrified because I don't really enjoy anything. I've been fighting depression forever, and I've tried so many things. The only hobbies I have are there to escape.
should probably just end it now, it'll only get worse
help
Seriously. The number of people on advice who think they are special.
Who the fuck doesn't freak out (some disguise it more readily) at life changes? It's perfectly normal to be anxious about things like graduating and entering the real world. It's perfectly normal to have a mid-life crisis.
Explore your emotions and anxieties. Realise it's fucking part of growing up and living. Keep moving forward.
This september I will be starting trade school to be in HVAC. I am excited for it, I just got a job 2-3 weeks ago at Sam's Club. I work in the kitchen and they are moving me to moving carts all day. The pay is good, 10 an hour. But I dont particularly like it, and I have really bad knees and a messed up shoulder so it makes these tasks even harder. Especially since there is no sitting at all. Should I stick with it till september? Or should I try to find something else till then. Once school hits, ill be going m-f 7-3 at school so I want to put all my time and effort into...
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>chronic pain
>learning a trade
You're already fucked son
>>16983571
yeah, if you're in pain and you already don't address your physical fitness on a daily basis seriously, you're basically just killing yourself with labor work.
so, yeah... take care of your damn body, regardless if you stay at sams. also, maximise every last benefit you can from them.
>>16983571
You didnt read my post at all did you?
I said the 8 hours of standing is tough on my knees. Doing HVAC is not 8 hours of standing. yes it is hard work, but you can do a lot of it sitting or even laying down.
Law School or History Graduate School?
Goal for the former would be J.D., then practice in criminal law, preferably as an assistant prosecutor to begin with.
Goal for the later would be PhD in History, and then to teach as a History professor.
I have the ability to do either, but not the funds to do both. Which is the more practical choice? Which would lead to me having more chances of landing a job with reasonable pay right out of school?
Pic unrelated.
-America, btw.
Law school is very expensive and saturated. Since most PHDs are funded, I'd do that, assuming you can get funding.
>>16983412
... you really think you're gonna start as a fucking assistant prosecutor?
>spending 150,000 in unforgiveable debt to beg for grueling, shitty 80 hour workweek jobs that net you 35k a year... if you're lucky enough to get a job
get real kid
up /adv/. I'm about to graduate with a BS in Biochemistry. Not really sure what I want to do after college. I've got some work experience, managing budgets, supervising employees but not much lab experience so I'm not sure how hard it would be to find work with my bachelors. Gonna graduate with a 3.8 major and 3.3 cumulative.
I'm pretty interested in intensive medicine and have a massive hard on for adrenaline and thinking about getting a paramedic certification. I know they don't make a ton of money but I don't really need much. Bad idea?...
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>>16983301
what itch are you trying to scratch?
your financial setup? your intellectual satisfaction?
Itch? I'm pretty bored. Going to school every day is taking its toll, I don't think I could do another 7+ years of schooling to be an MD.
I've got no student debt and own my own home, only thing I make payments on is my motorcycls. Intellectually I always enjoy learning more but don't particular feel the need to be certified by doing so.
>>16983599
hmm, making payments on a bike is pretty dumb, but whatever. only house debt is pretty good place to be.
If you're not feeling a pull, I'd say just take a job to pay your bills and give yourself some time to think on it some more. especially if you're healthy, single, no kids.
if you have lots of practical experience as a project handler, or a manager as you say, you shouldn't have any troubles.
i asked a random girl i thought was really pretty out 2 months ago and she rejected me.
i can't tell anyway cause it would be embarrassing. i've never had a girlfriend before too because i didn't really want one up until this point, i got my shit together and asked her out.
how do i cope with this feeling of having no gf
>>16983252
Just enjoy the single boat a little longer. The first few moments are amazing, but later on in life in the relationship, if it lasts long, problems develop and interest is lost. Unless you two are crazy for each other and never have those issues. I'm not saying relationships are bad, but just enjoy your freedom a little bit longer. Don't sweat it if she rejected you, there are plenty of other girls out there who are better than her. Cope with having no gf by staying true to yourself and continue to do you...
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>>16983252
>how do i cope with this feeling of having no gf
the same way we all do
fap,animu,vidya,4chan repeat
if that is not your thing, follow >>16983291
>>16983291
this, totally this
I'm in a 8 year old relationship and OP I can tell you the interest is lost, very lost (mostly from his side... I'm the crying little bitch behind him looking for attention with my heart broken). So enjoy your beautiful lonelyness
Ok I am scared because I cant control my panic attacks in public. I live alone and dont have a car so I have to walk everywhere. I had an episode today on the bus where I freaked out that someone touched me and I threw my drink at him and just started screaming and shaking. I cant see my therapist for 3 months due to some insurance BS. What do I do? I cant go to one of those phych places because thats where I was sexually assulted and its too traumatic plus I need to be able to get things done with school daily.
Did I accidently load tumblr instead of 4chan? No?
You need to get a friend to go out with you and after several trips your panic and anxiety will hopefully be reduced to the point you can control it. A form of CBT maybe.
Geez you are broken as fuck. Nobody here can help you. See a professional immediately, how do you even function?
>>16983000
What if you dont have friends that live in your area? I like to hang out in my house but I need internet for my laptop which I cant afford and I need to get groceries, go to school, sell my plasma, collect cans every night, and take the mail to my grandma at least twice a week.
Ok, so here's the backstory.
I (19) live in a house with my brother (21), my mom (56), and my dad (50), and I've lived here my whole life.
My brother, who we'll call Mark, started dating a girl, Jessie. She was, at the time they started dating, 17 and pregnant, and moved in with us because of a bad realtionship with her own family. The biological father, John, did not wan't to be a part of anything at first. When the baby, Mary, was born, a little over a year and a half ago, Mark and Jessie were convinced that they'd be happy together....
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Sorry, it wasn't posting
At this point, it's still possible that Jessie will come back, but I'm trying to prepare for the worst. That said, if necessary, I will help fight for Mark to get custody. Mark is by far the more responsible parent out of him, Jessie, and John. If we were to let Mary choose, even though she's only one and a half, I'm absolutely positive that she'd choose Mark.
However, Mark isn't Mary's biological parent, and he and Jessie were never married. Ultimately, I'd like to know what the chances are...
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Meh. Since there is no biological connection between Mark and Mary, so I'd say you're chances are 0%. Maybe if you can prove some major failures like Jessie totally neglecting her child, otherwise...
>>16982861
You could try getting a complaint against her to child services but then they would probably give custody to John.
In this situation you have no control over Mary unless you offer to adopt her.
You could tell Jessie to GTFO or give up Mary, but that may not turn out good for anyone.
how bad an idea is asking my TA for her number
I think she's cute, and I could be misreading signals but she's was pretty chummy
anyways, I'm reviewing a paper with her tomorrow for a final and was thinking of asking for her number at the end but mentioning that it'll be post-final
I'm most nervous of it not going over well then she gives my final a shitty mark
Thanks /adv/
She's your TA so I'm sure you have some way to contact her, like an email.
So do that AFTER the final, don't even mention it to her before the final.
>>16982584
be direct
dont be a faggot
these two things should help
>>16982591
I do have her email, but she's going to be away. Also isn't doing it over email shitty?
It feels (and feel free to correct me) the best way would be in person but to make sure she gets its post-final
What's wrong with me?
- 21 years old
- Two digits of bed partners
- Enough money to do whatever I want
- I'd say I'm an 8/10 to look at (hard to judge for myself desu)
- Never had any sense of empathy
- All my life, emotion has been absent like my feelings are constantly in a neutral state
- I have a shit ton of friends
- I love drugs as they actually make me feel stuff
- I have the feeling that I don't know how love feels. I've been in love, sure, but after my last GF I don't think I'll be able to feel...
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Psychology board?
Anyone?
>>16982306
If you're still here OP, it sounds like schizoid personality disorder. These statements in particular:
>All my life, emotion has been absent like my feelings are constantly in a neutral state
>Not satisfied by life in general, I always feel like I carry around some heavy burden but I don't know what
>I work for charity, probably as some failed attempt at redemption
>The emotions I show to people are mostly a facade and I'm just saying things that are appropriate in the situation, I don't actually feel what I say
>I actually feel my lack of motivation for anything burning in my stomach
are all pretty textbook schizoid. Go see a professional, schizoid isn't treatable with advice. Generally requires extensive therapy.
And damn there's a lot of schizoids on here. I suppose it supports the theory that schizoid is much more common than the literature value (mainly among men, schizoid women are extremely rare) because the vast majority don't seek help.
Lately I have been eye-ing an older guy for some time. He looks back at me a lot too.
He looks angry 100% of the time, has a reputation of yelling and swearing at people and is generally disliked where he works.
I have said "hi" a couple of times and he replies like the nicest person ever though looking like the type of guy posted in hatefuck threads and smelling like an ashtray (which i have begun to like now).
I always pussy out when around him. How do I talk to him?
>>16981974
Hand him a note that says, "Date this weekend?"
Try caressing his balls
Try asking him out nicely, try to pay attention to how he treats others while you are around (specially waiters) if there's nothing out of the ordinary then give it a go (oh an be on the look out for what makes him mad specifically)
How do I answer the "Are you still doing X" question honestly? I've been NEET for over four years and I haven't had the nerve to tell my doctor yet; I just keep pretending to still be working where I used to. He knows I have anxiety, but he thinks I'm managing. I'm not interested in trying medication.
>>16981649
I don't think there's any other way than just telling him. It's probably better in the long run. Most likely nothing bad will happen if you do it.
>>16981649
by telling him 'no' then explaining when you stopped and why you lied.
this isnt rocket science. there isnt some trick to this. its literally answering the question
Just lie like a normal person.
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences...
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Did the name really need to be an acronym?
Heads up, you should probably leave the title as ask "Ask the Opposite Gender Anything " at the very least.
It makes it way harder to search the archives for the thread if you change the title.
>>17004439
>>17004443
Meh, i'm on my phone and was feeling lazy. Sorry guys. Should i delete and make a new one?
