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>>16999097
Thx anon, u da real mvp

I'm beginning to not want to be around you or let you touch me. You say you're not doing things anymore but I can't trust that. And you make it obvious that I can't trust it. There are so many things that I am keeping to myself right now to protect your feelings but I'm getting to the point that I just don't give a fuck anymore. I understand now why you have been fucked over so many times. All that said I do love you and I don't want to hate you. But you're starting to leave me no choice.

I manscaped.

Will you be my GF?

>>17007665
probably. what's your annual income?

>>17007669
kek

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>>17007403

Are you two the last descendants of a dying race and this child your only hope to keep your species going ?

I have a friend (male, 20 years older than me) who raised his daughter alone, didn't end well.

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unfortunately you have no control over what she does with her body. accept the fact that if she doesn't want to keep the baby she is not going to.

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Yeah, it's hard, but it's the right thing to do. I know a couple of guys who have ended up taking sole custody. My brother went to court to get his ex out of the picture and has raised his son alone since my nephew was 2-3 months old. Support networks are important, as is keeping yourself from slipping into depression because that shit is difficult. Difficult but worthwhile.

OP, you don't owe your soon to be ex anything, but if she's leaning towards abortion, you're going to have to work hard to stop that. In most countries, you're at her mercy. Be clear about doing this singlehanded if necessary. DO NOT TALK ABOUT FINANCIAL MATTERS. If she's deeply selfish, she may abort just out of fear that you'll go after her for support money later. If you refuse to discuss the matter, and just say "Don't worry about that. I've got this, and I'm not going to force you to be a part of the baby's life if you don't want."
Plus, if you refuse to take support, it weakens any future attempts on her part to fuck with you and the kid. AND, if you need to come after her later on for financial assistance, you always can.

>>17006082
Girls don't fix your life they just multiply your liabilities exponentially

>>17006095
This right here.

All human beings are selfish, anon. The sooner you realize this the better. Even when people act out of "out of the good of their hearts", they're still elevating themselves socially/morally, and getting some warm fuzzies. People only do things if it makes them feel good (physically or mentally), or benefits them.

Upon realizing this, the question switches from
>What can other people offer me in relationships?
to
>What can other people gain by being in a relationship with me?

If the answer to the second question is nothing, then you have your answer as to why you're alone. Improve yourself by gaining useful skills and knowledge. Make yourself beneficial and interesting to be around, and the rest will follow.

>>17006082
I'm hopefully going to get my Girlfriend tomorrow.
Wish me luck guys.

>>17006001
You should commit yourself to a mental hospital/ get a therapist
Stop dating people

>>17006029
yes because you know it's not like i haven't been in a hospital before. you get to a point after a while where the shit just does not help.
cannot afford a therapist, not everyone has money.
you're so helpful thanks mate.

>>17006001
You're not meant for relationships, at least with the mentality that you have now. You sound like you're playing the victim, but your outwardly actions do nothing but harm others, whether it be emotionally or mentally.

I know what it's like to have depression, and I was actually diagnosed with it when I was 15. I still struggle with it regularly, but have learned to deal with it on my own and come out a better person in the end.

Make a conscious effort to improve yourself and your habits, and fix them as well. Also, see a shrink. If you feel that these things are too hard, time consuming, pointless, or whatever else, then feel free to continue being worthless.

What advice were you looking for exactly?

Guy here

>What is it like rejecting [women]?
If she's a bitch, it's awesome. Shuts down her game and opens up all those juicy insecurities, and it makes her want you more. If she's nice but homely, inexperienced or just not what I'm after I'll let her down gently - there's no need to hurt feelings unnecessarily. If she's hot as fuck sometimes it's just a great ego trip to say no thanks. tl,dr: it depends on the girl

> What is it like knowing that the very fact you are a [man amongst boys] means youre attractive to the opposite sex, no strings attached?
Pretty cool but frustrating at watching other men struggle with women and not see the blatant errors/mistakes/fuck ups. It's also a hassle when your very air attracts women and you're just trying to do something simple like get groceries.

>As a man I can't even imagine what it's like to be the selector sex
There is no selector sex. Don't lump yourself in with my gender and blame your problems on being a man. Attractive people get to choose,period. It doesn't matter what gender you are, being a male isn't the problem. The problem is that you're a very shitty male and there are better ones like me out there.

>>17001036

4/10

>Imagine my face when Im sitting there with some of her old college friends hearing stories about her being passed around.

I bet it's not even that bad you over-reacting faggot

Okay need to say this quickly.

/adv/ is mostly populated by women and SJWs who will tell you what a sexist pig you are and then compare sluttiness to cereal choices.

YOU ARE RIGHT. You are 100% right. Do not let them convince you otherwise. Break up with her and don't look back.

>>16993030

I would be repulsed and most likely end it.

Disgusting.

>>17002964
You have to choose.

Satan tempts us in many ways. If you truely believe that Christ died to that you may one day ascend to heaven, then your choice should be clear. Sex in a situation like this where she has clearly stated that she is not interested in commitment goes against the "do not commit adultery" commandment.

Here is my advice, as a Christian who committed adultery when I was younger-
It's not worth it. It's about 10 minutes of total pleasure, and then as soon as you finish you feel overwhelmed with regret and guilt. That guilt lasts for a very long time, and for some people it shatters their image of themself and hurts their relationship with God.

To be honest, you might not even enjoy the sex. My sex was with a girl who loved me and whom I loved, but it was before I married her so I still felt the guilt. Sex with someone you don't love is missing a large component of what makes sex so amazing. The emotional connection is what it's all about.

I'm happily married now, and my current wife and I waited until marriage to have sex with eachother and it was a lot better for our relationship with eachother and with god

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>>17002964
realize that your views of chastity are archaic and brought on by how you were raised.
Then, proceed to fuck the shit out of her.
No disrespect to your beliefs, but seriously something that might be true shouldn't get in the way of pleasures

>>17002983
This dude, fuck morals embrace hedonism. Rules are made to be broken, fuck what our ancestors thought, they were old bigots. It's 2016 after all, enough following old desert fairy tails. #Feelthebern

>>17002076

It's viewed as selfish precisely for the reason you outlined, in the context of circumstances you described.

People are inherently selfish so that advice is also selfish.

It's your life, do what you want with it.

As someone who's been where you are though I'd advise you to get a few second opinions before you do anything rash. And read some articles about how suicides have effected family members and friends.

Besides that, your life, do with it what you want. Make sure your suicide method is flawless though, you don't want to end up dying painfully, or becoming disabled or whatever.

>>17002089
I know how it would effect some family members. I know my mom would probably be devastated at first, but would accept it after a few weeks. I already fucked up my sucide. I don't think things through ( I'm not very intelligent at all) and I was brought to the hospital . They are keeping me in a special ward so they can make sure I don't try to kill myself. How is this even legal?

Why do women wear makeup all the time, especially fake eyelashes ?

>>17000639
Because I want to and it's fun. That's honestly it. A couple of weeks ago I wasn't really doing anything so I didn't need to wear it, and by the time I actually had a reason to wear it I was so excited to put it on

>>17000639
some women wear makeup all the time, some do sometimes, and some never do.
some wear it because it helps hide what they don't like about their face. others do it to try and make people think they're more attractive. still others wear it because it makes them feel pretty

>>16999210
>Is this like a common thing now with guys, they just do it without even asking? What an asshole thing to do.


Once people get to the point where they are permitting each other to do stuff like
- see each other naked
- touch each other's naked bodies
- fuck each other
- stick their dicks in the other person's mouth

then yes, it's pretty common that they start to do all sorts of things without asking for permission first, because they have developed a pretty high comfort level. Your boyfriend might be a bit of a dick, but it's not apeshit insane for him to think that if he can stick his cock inside your mouth that he can get his sperm on your face. He's not going to walk up to a girl at the bus stop and cream her face, but come on, his dick was in your mouth.

>It was just completely degrading and humiliating.
Why's that? Was it necessarily so, or was it the way he did it?

>>16999210
It's what happens when you don't have the common goddamn courtesy to either swallow or spit.

It is a violation of trust if he meant to do it, could be he just didn't realize how close he was.

Could also be he doesn't give a fuck what you think and has decided to do the stuff he always wanted to before dumping you for someone who fulfills his needs sexually.

You should have talked beforehand and set your boundaries, nobody is the clear wrong doer here.

In today's modern age, its not that big of a deal to ask for facial permission beforehand or to forbid it from happening without asking. But you both are equally responsible from now on to communicate what acts are acceptable and what's not.

>>16996915

Same reason why the meme is "TFW no gf" not "tfw no bf"

I love sitting through these adv shitfests because it's a window into a world I have no understanding of. It's almost hilarious how much you westerners suck.

See I'm Muslim, raised in the US, never dated or had any part of this sexual liberation crap.
>all women are whores!
>stop choosing bad women!
>good girls don't exist!

>all men are pigs
>stop choosing bad men!
>good men don't exist!
That's all this is, round and round.
What the hell do you even want from each other? What do you honestly expect? Because all I see are directionless people who are vaguely angry at the opposite sex about... something.

Seriously, I'm courting a few women for marriage right now. I see guys every day upset that they're still virgins at my age, and I'm proud of it because it means I have the right to a virgin wife. You think I even bring up what my hobbies are or ask about her interests? I don't give a shit. I don't care what she looks like, she doesn't eat American poison so she's not fat so that's good enough. Is she moderately religious and does she want to raise kids the same way I think kids should be raised? That's all that matters. The point of marriage is to have kids, raising kids is a hard fucking job, and I'm looking for a quality coworker not some hot slut that gives me butterflies in my stomach. Trust and love comes when we swap virginities.

All I can do is laugh while the west falls apart, you idiots did this to yourselves, both men and women.

>>16996978
That's rich coming from a culture where women are basically property.

You're not ugly anon. Maybe a different hairstyle would help. But you are by no means ugly ^-^
I actually think Asian boys are cute.

you are not ugly you assfuck, stop showing off douchebag

SE Asianfag here. I'm 100% Vietnamese but look Indian/Arab/Hispanic/insert brown people here. Your looks aren't your problem.

>no one likes me
Pick up a hobby, you'll eventually find people.

>no friends
>Pick up a hobby. Even local Magic games.

>Asian girls will not even give me chance
This should not be a priority at all. Focus on yourself, nigga.

>nothing but a college degree to look forward to
You're bettering yourself. Keep at it. Everything else will follow.

Stop being a lil bitch nigga, step up, and focus on yourself being happy.

K I'll start,

I know that we're very far from eachother and that we agree to not let that stop us from meeting new people, but it just might not work for me. Yes A is cute and she seems into me, but it wouldn't be fair to her because she's almost like a place holder for you. This situation is painful, but it feels like it will be so worth it

Remember hearing Tell Me A Tale on the late night playlist. Searched for a couple of days and couldn't find it.

A few days later you sent it to me out of the blue.

I held your hand too much. Felt like I did.

I wasn't an easy person to be around a lot of the time. I'm sorry for how things ended, and I'm sorry for the things I did. Took a good deal of time to accept that you really did try.

Not sure what kind of person I am. I don't know much of anything anymore. I'd presented myself as something I wanted to be but was too afraid to be. I'm trying, now.

I got used to loving you and not wanting to. I'm ready to move on, which is why everything is starting to feel real and scary again.

Take care.

Hey
I hope youre doing well with your music career. I remember the first time you played and sang to me, i will forever cherish that moment. theres a lot of things i havent forgotten and i hope you still remember. Like the night on valentines day when we were walking alone in the streets, holding hands while it snowed. Thank you for giving me good memories. I hope to meet you again very soon so you can see that i didnt break my promise
sincerely m

You're in the right

You did the right thing, if he thinks its worth fighting for her, you should consider dumping him. He is clearly attached to the romance

>>16999730

ur not wrong. she crossed a line. you didnt give an ultimatum in my opinion you just said what you can and cannot deal with and left it up to him