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I'm in a peculiar situation.
This all takes place yesterday.
> Back in hometown for a few days
> Chilling with the goons
>We start goofing off on tinder and see a girl from high school
> I text this girl(Let's call her Alana) who used to have a thing for me
> Alana invites us over for weed and drinks
> Flirts with me the whole time and then starts preaching about her newly acquired open sexuality from college
> Says I can sleep over whenever I want
> Friend talks me out of this.
> I just wanna get my dick wet.
> Few hours later.jpg
> I'm at a birthday party and I'm the surprise because I live almost 1000 miles away.
>Party is lit
>Birthday girl (lets call her Roxie) and I used to have a thing, never got serious
> Still love her
> I still get nervous around Roxie even though I'm an adult.
> Her FUCKING PARENTS ask me to stay the night with her( is this a white people thing?)
> I said tomorrow maybe
> Friends think I shouldn't do either one since I'm never coming back
> I think the opposite is true
Should I sleep over at the Alana's, who I know for a fact will fuck me like it's my last day on Earth? With Roxie I might be too scared to make a move on and even if I did, there's not really a guarantee that she'll return the affection.
I have until tonight to decide.
Pic kinda related.
>>16991750
You love Roxie but you'll never see her again?
That sucks man. If you're sure you don't have a chance at being with her, then just bang Alana.
>>16991758
Roxie was flirting a bunch too but I'm not sure how much of it was alcohol induced.
>>16991838
If you fuck her and never see her again, it might make those bittersweet feelings even more bittersweet. Ultimately the choice is yours.
Do you get your dick wet like you've never gotten it wet before? Or do you take the risk of nothing happening for a chance at seeing what could've been but won't be?
Ok /adv/, pathetic story time aka how I lost my virginity then ended up bingedrinking for a week, now craving alcohol like loser.
I met a girl in a student dorm I was staying in at the time. She was fun, kind of childish but kind of cute. All the shit started out like a joke, I was flirty and direct. All this time I was dating another girl, my ex’s boss and everything was well. Both are older than me, ex’s boss is 25 and this chick who completely fucked up my feelings is 22. As I said, both are beautiful. Probably a 7/7.5/10 here on 4chan. Ok, now, let’s call the 25 one C and the 22 one R. R is married, separated, soon to be divorced and has a kid. C, not any of this bullshit. (which I accepted in the end) One night I was messing around with R and we kissed, since then we started speaking more, hanging out etc. I ended up ending things with C thinking that something with R will happened. Fast forwarding 4.5 months, one night things were moving fast…I went down on her three times, she came twice. Then we had sex, like a virgin I was fucking terrified that I will cum fast. That didn’t happened, I did not cum at all after 40 minutes of intercourse. Can’t figure out why, probably the emotions or the extra fucking thick condom. The next day things were going ok
>cont
I texted her good morning, like sometimes I used to do. She responded and we texted a bit, I was at classed and kinda distracted. In the evening I texted her and she replyed at first but then she stopped. Never panicked, let that go and continue hanging out with buddies. At some point I’ve seen her coming back home so, naturally, I wanted to speak with her. I asked her to come and have a smoke with me, she agreed but she was a whole different person. Freaked out when I touched her(sometimes when I talked to her I would put my hand on her knee or whatever, shoulder, hand, etc – “let me pop this here” kind of guy), was mostly silent, etc. Ok, asked her if something was wrong, silent. Asked her to see a movie, agreed, tried to kiss her, kissed me back. At that point my head was spinning. I was more confused than when I first put my dick in her. So, the movie was over, (Sinister – never, but NEVER watch this shit) and I asked her if she wanted to continue our thing. She said no. Ok, whatever. We “broke up” before, I decided that this was going nowhere so, the next day she called me and turned the whole thing over.
Ok, we “broke up”, I went home, slept like a baby. The next day was a free one. I never felt bad a second that day, not a second. It was the next day I realized that I was in shock.
>cont
Ok, the next day, in the morning I was fucking down. Also a free day and I thought “what the fuck, let’s get drunk” so I went outside and bought a bottle of whiskey. Baaad idea. Finished the fucker by evening and I was craving more since this shit makes me feel on top of the world. Ok, go outside and buy another, what is the scholarship for? (apparently I am smart, no kidding). Finished half of that shit and stayed on omegle since 4 am, seen some tits and stuff, it was ok. I went on like this until the week was over and I went home. In 3 days I drank 4 bottles of 750ml of whiskey. I got home(I have two homes, one where I study and one parent home) at 10am, went to the store and bought another one, cos I was too lazy to carry that ½ bottle I had left. My mom never spoke a word about alcohol until I was on my 7th bottle.(that weekend – I was fucking wasted all the time)
>cont
I went back to college after the week was over, got there, drank the leftover whiskey and bought another one. There goes about 200$ worth of money on whiskey and cigarettes.(about 6$/pack). Ok, so, Since 20th of march this is pretty much my life. Get drunk and spend time meeting fucking losers like me on omegle.
>Now it gets to the fun part
In my fucked up head, I have fucking feelings for this girl. I have called her once to see how she was the other weekend (exactly 1 week ago minus 2 hours) and texted her 6 days ago to have a smoke with me.
Two or three days after she broke up with me she posted a picture with a rose with caption “thanks” on facebook. Now, it was not from me, a mutual friend mentioned a guy who asked her out that night she posted. I was fucking devastated.
>cont
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Has anyone escaped being a loser in their mid-20s?
Seems like things have cemented at this age, and whoever you are now, (aside from major incidents), is pretty much who you'll ever be.
>>16987335
That's not true.
People stay the same because security goes down.
They get tied to marriages cars mortgages and debts. They're less willing to take the risks or behave in the ways that bring about change. They get stuck in a routine and stop trying new things.
You can always change. Even if you have all of the above holding you back you can go join a yoga club or take night classes or do something, anything that challenges and refines you.
>>16987335
What's stopping you from traveling?
>>16987339
>People stay the same because security goes down.
Kinda meant for your average 25+ loser that frequents. Most of them seem to stay stuck.
>>16987345
I wouldn't mind travelling, but doing it alone seems harrowing. I mean, I'm your average sperg who's never been holiday.
the drill, you know it.
lets get something straight here... fuck you.
I'm not trusting you anymore, I'm not working with you in a collaborative way anymore. that is some massive bullshit dude. I'm this close to telling the customer to coordinate with you and just washing my hands of it cause fuck that level of disrespect. if you wanted that, you shouldnt have sent it my way and to dictate shit to me and make this a completely non profitable waste of my time after I close shit... thats fucking unacceptable.
you weren't gonna do it, but now that I'm doing all the work and closed the deal you want 50%? are you fucking high?
seriously, this close to walking away. how do I walk away without damaging what that customer will say? it's not even worth it now. literally any other project, literally the smallest thing on my books, is worth more now. that is a massive waste of my fucking time.
AND, AND YOU PROMISED SOME PRO BONO SHIT.
man you need to learn some fucking respect and you need to realize that this is not your shit to be getting into. get the FUCK up out of my business.
btw the next time you interrupt a conversation between me and one of my customers in an obvious weird powerplay bullshit way, I'm gonna call you on it right then and there in front of the customer. you don't understand, I don't need you, or that particular customer. there are literally millions of customers within 50 miles. I will gladly lose that customer to tell you to shut the fuck up and respect what I'm doing. desu, they hate it to. shut the fuck up, mind your own business and butt out of mine and stop trying to fuck shit up.
fucking asshole. I'm quitting whether or not this works by the way. its not like fucking things up is gonna keep your golden employee around. you act so fucking ugly you couldn't pay me enough to stay in this position.
I had a really nice dream. I was looking after this kid, then we somehow got to this field I used to play in when I was a kid. Getting there we ran past a girl from college I had a crush on for years who I thought I'd forgotten about. The field was much bigger than in real life, and the grass was silvery green, tall and dripping with fresh dew. We raced over the edge as it dips into the bank of a hill, I jumped over and won and slid down. There was lavender on the side. It felt good to run, I was felt like I started off slow then zipped along like the wind, it was great. I remember holding tufts of grass and pulling them out to speed up really fast.
A very vivid dream. I wonder what it means. Probably nothing. But it was nice somehow.
Pretty sure me and my friend both said that we would be up for sleeping together. We're really close so it would be more like incest than anything.
My scummy neighbours were screaming and I want to do nothing but pin them down and just bite their faces until there's nothing left.
Give me a random name, G-Chan.
I found a female friend of mine on tinder randomly (she broke up with her boyfriend a couple weeks ago)
I like her, as in more than a friend, but I haven't found the time nor the energy to ask her out. (Plus I work with her and relationships with co-workers either get you heartbroken or fired) Still, I wouldn't mind smashing because she's a solid 9/10
So anyways without thinking I swiped right, and today at work she saw me and said "was that you on tinder that I saw?" And I sheepishly said yeah. She told me it wasn't a big deal and that she sees guys she knows all the time on tinder.
My concern now, is that she obviously didn't swipe right on me. I know this could mean a lot of things, but my first thought is she's not that into me (although she DOES talk to me quite a bit at work, idk if its flirting or not, I'm bad at telling)
What do I do, /adv/? I may just break my rule and date a co-worker, but I at least want to smash. And if there's one thing I know about girls, is that after breakups, they start to get "dick withdrawals" (every girl I've been close with has told me this) How do I approach this?
If she wanted to date you, or at least want to sleep with you, she would have swiped right.
>>16994032
See im the kinda person i would've asked her flat out why she didn't swipe me but I can tell you aren't so I've got no advice for you
>>16994049
You must be autistic to think asking that is a good idea
is it bad to hit a girl? i know its wrong to hit anyone but ive been watchin shows like jerry springer and cheaters and it doesnt make sense. A girl would cheat with some other guy who didnt even know the girl was in a relationship and when confronted the guys fight it seems barbarian and stupid like they are fighting for a mate. Would it make more sense t hit the woman in the middle of it all?
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Of course that would make more sense.
But people, male or female, will go after the "other man/woman" before they'd go after their partner.
If they hit the girl, then there will be police warrents and arrests for battery.
Wouldn't it make the most sense to not act like a trained monkey for the audience?
How do I permanently kill my sex-drive? I have always been disgusted and ashamed at myself for having sexual thoughts and urges. I've gone through months of NoFap but in the long run it does nothing to deal with the building up of frustration. If any of you guys know how to turn ones self asexual, please reply.
>>16993679
I'm also interested in this.
castration
then join a monastery of your choosing
When you get the urges say a prayer.
My family tell me that i have been screaming in my sleep and now they are waking me up with shocked expressions telling me that i have been screaming for hours. I'm confused with this i rarely if ever have nightmares or sleep disorders. I googled it to find a result for sleep terrors which states that i would have nightmares when awake. I dont have any of these terrors but continue to scream what should i do?
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Sounds hardcore, OP. Now all you need to learn is how to wake up from the sound of your own screams
On a more serious note, start a dream journal.
>>16993667
You should try marijuana it blocks the brain from dreaming while asleep
>>16993678
Where do you have that from? That would be seriously unhealthy. You're basically saying it completely disturbs normal brain function.
I wish I could sleep and never wake up. My mind is shackled to this body causing constant torment to my mind. I will 22 this Thursday and I see no point to anything anymore I have reached my limit. I live with a lot of rare allergies that cause me to get sick very often this year has been my worst year yet I am sick at least once a week. I have a couple other medical conditions that cause my life to be not so great, I have crohns and a serve anxiety disorder that makes me get so exhausted that when I go outside I will sleep for around 18 hours. I also have an auditory processing disorder, dyslexia and a memory problem, I have been diagnosed with these since I was a kid. Around when I was 12 I started having an overwhelming desire to kill myself, just one day after going into the hospital again for being sick I just saw no point in any of this. I have been getting help for it but it does not go away because I am still sick and incapable of doing the things I desire.
When I was 18 I tried going to college full time I was not able to do it because I was sick so often. My parents never saw me doing anything with my life because I am sick all the time. When I was 19 I went to school for graphic and web design part time, part online and part in person at night. I felt so ashamed that I could not handle day school so whenever someone would ask I tell them I was full time, I made new people I met not aware of my medical conditions but a lot of people would think I was really rude because they sometimes felt like I ignore them or run away when they try talking to me.
My mom got tired of me being anti social to her standard and set up an online dating profile for me I met my fiance there. I was feeling a lot better for the next couple years I had someone to hangout with when I was sick and my grades were really good and I loved graphic design. Last summer I finished my graphic design and got a job, when I had this job I got even more sick and started developing an even worse anxiety disorder. I got so sick that I was being hospitalized at least once a week. My mind was decaying I made a choice to pick my health over my dream career. To me my career would be my child, I have no intentions of having kids because I do not have the health to care for kids and it is not for me I do not want it. It was December and I quit my job. I am still recovering from working and are now back in school for photography online so I can start my own business and work a couple times out of the month doing freelancing. My family thinks very little of me and I am moving out on my own in November. I have to get married in September.
I am going to be honest. I see no point in this suffering. I am tired of always being sick. I have been to so many specialists but nothing helps I just have a deadly combination together of shit that should not be put together. I want to be dead. But my family is too selfish to let go and end my suffering. I tried to kill myself in January but I ended up getting hospitalized. I have been getting help for all these things for so long but nothing is helping.
>>16993595
I am either not myself pumped with drugs and numb or I am myself and in constant pain or just sleeping all the time. The only thing that calms me down is by playing games and pretending I am in a different body in a different world. I know things are not meant to be perfect but I hate this torment. I hate being only half alive. I hate this. I see no point in suffering and dragging my body around just to be able to play games 20 hours a week. I see no point in not working at all either and just playing games straight. I am tired of finding out I have another medical condition. I am tired of all of this. I just want to fall asleep and have my little bits of body parts that cause me constant pain be able to be used for someone to help them feel better.
No stores are open currently so I can not make an escape bag. I am done with all of this. I do not want to be alive for my 22nd birthday if I am I will feel like god is laughing in my face.
Help me please Anons. Help my suffering end.
I'll bite.
But only if you don't blogpost this shit and tl;dr it
This is just a rant about your shitty life from the looks of it and i'm not gonna sit there and read your self-pity.
>live in NYC
>go out with friends in the city
>never meet any pretty girls
>see beautiful stranger girl on subway
>make eye contact
>she leaves at next stop
>never see her ever again
Why does this keep happening? I hate life.
Can't you appreciate the fleeting beauty of that moment? Unspoiled by reality, it will forever exist in your mind. How bittersweet. If she had been made any more real, if the moment had gone on to long, the drudgery of existence and the colorlessness of your days would have infected her like everything else. I personally cherish those moments when I saw beauty that I never saw again, and that I never tried to make my own. It will exist inside my mind until I die, and I can carry it with me, whenever I want to feel that sweet pain, that harrowing elation of a single, ephemeral instant forever lost to time. Everything is lost some day. And even more never held. Why not love it anyway?
>>16993613
Because it's extremely frustrating.
>>16993643
Embrace it.
He disowned his adopted daughter because she is dating a black guy
What kind of advice would he need? "Stop being a shithead"?
Those are the type of people you cannot reach. It's better to just cut them out of your life.
thank christ these people still exist and will exist forever
Please. I know this story may be long, i will try to sumarize everything. As i write, i am crying on the keyboard, so please forgive me if i make many spelling mistakes.
I've met this girl on Tinder. We talked a lot, she was shy(a cousing made her tinder) and cute. We went out a few times, and kissed , cuddled and stuff. I thought we were going to have a relationship soon, she was everything i hoped for. But i was afraid, because in january my gf dropped me, saying she wasn't interested on me anymore.
I am pretty young, only 21yo and i think i have great carreer prospects. So, by being single again i thought i could enjoy the benefits of it, and being happy. Until i met this girl on tinder.
I decided i should make her go away. So i made a tinder account, and matched with a girl i knew she was friends with. Point is, i told her(the girl i was talking about since the beginning, let's call her Lisa) that i uninstalled tinder, because she did too.
So...the plan was that the girl that matched me would tell Lisa about it. And she did, and then she came to talk to me. I panicked and noticed that i made a mistake, and explained everything to her. I used prints of me talking about how sweet she was with other friends i had.
She said : '' I don't hate you or anything. I think you're already old enough to think like this, right? You don't owe me anything, just be honest. If this thing we have started like this, i wouldn't even want to know about what would have happened later. I wish you the best. ''
So. I won't go after her. I know i fucked everything and i DESERVE to suffer, and even if she would come back, nothing would be like it was earlier.. But i wanted to share this with you guys . Please, redpill me on being less of a faggot on the future.
I did everything i condemned .Is this the end of the world? Seems like it.
>I think i made the biggest mistake of my life
>I've met this girl on Tinder
no
I think you don't know what "red pill" means.
Also, what's the advice you need? "Don't fuck up things for yourself intentionally"? Or maybe "Stop being such a huge fuckin' idiot"?
>>16993539
i'm sorry, there's something wrong with it? She didn't seem the kind of girl that uses tinder, she even deleted it.
I need some advice here, a couple of months I told my crush I'm in love with her and asked her out (she was one of my best friends). She rejected me and I haven't talked to her ever since. I know I made a huge mistake but is there any way to get the awkwardness away and just be friends again?
No, not really
Closest you can come to is dating other women while maintaining some variance of friendship.
>>16993186
Fuck her friends. She'll inevitably get jealous and come back to you. Then you make her lick your butthole and move on to the next slore.
Or you could follow the toxic SJW/feminist rhetoric that's plaguing this board and be forever a cuck, your call.
Just approach her and tell her that if she doesn't like you that it's ok and you can still be friends. Don't try to force someone to do something they don't want to.
When I was about 8 my mother left me and my dad to run away with her new lover. I lived alone with my dad for 2 years until the day he killed himself. After that I started living with my dad's sister and her family. They were wonderful people. I am 20 now and have just started my life, however recently I got call from my father's sister( who I consider to be my real mother) that my biological mother wants me to call her to rekindle our relationship. This is the first I have heard from her since she first left us. I hate to death but at the same time really want to see her again, if that makes any sense. Should I call her, I am so confused.
Just have a conversation with her I think. You might regret not at least giving her a chance and just because you talk to her once doesn't mean you have to have her back in your life completely.
I wouldn't. My dad left us when I was 1 for another woman and he kicked us out of the house. We had to live with my grandma and my mom worked 2 jobs. 10 years later he came back to see us said he was praying for us and he loves my sister and I but I told him that when we needed a loaf of bread he wasn't there and now that he needs me he wants to meet me. I told him he's a stranger to me and to have a good day. But I don't know how you feel so IDK.
Talk to her. Lay it on her that you think of your aunt as your real mother, the person who supported you financially and emotionally.
She's fucked up, and hopefully realizes it by now. Be open, but be cautious.
Just asking again for a few more opinions. But I am more so looking for interpretation with this girl and her actions
4 days ago a group of 4 of us left the building (2 Other guys and this girl) and were walking and as we were about to go our separate ways she commented about how she was cold, and I had the only coat out of the group.
Also on quite a few occasions she would show up when I'm eating lunch and sit right near me, while alot of seats are empty. Also I have caught her looking at me from a distance a couple times.
She seems to dust her hair more when near me, and tends to laugh at my terribly stupid jokes
too vague, what advice are you looking for? You should put your hand on her vagina next time she sits next to you.
>>16993268
It should be somewhat obvious that I am looking for some level of interpretation as to her actions as she is quite outgoing with alot of people put shyer when it comes to me.
>>16993293
Ok, that makes sense.
Hand on vagina. Also, you sound like an asshole
