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Where do I meet girls? I don't need to know how to talk to them or what to say or when to ask for numbers. I just want to know what situation is appropriate to start talking.
>>16992176
Any situation could be a chance. Every situation is different. Just don't be autistic and try to hit on chicks at like funerals and shit.
>>16992179
>not hitting on chicks when they're the most vulnerable
nigga you serious?
>>16992188
If you wanna be scummy then sure. Go for it. It takes all kinds I guess.
I see a girl everyday when I pass by some lockers, how the fuck do I start a conversation with her?
Compliment something she's wearing then ease into a conversation.
>>16992058
try seeing wahts in her locker. be subtle, but get a look. something to comment on. then the next day walk by, and see it and be like 'oh hey is that XX?' even if you know nothing else about it. just ask, gauge her response. she'll say
>yeah i like XX cuz YY
then you say you havent really seen it or heard it or whatever and ask her follow ups about hwy she likes it etc. see what happens
>>16992063
>Hey um I don't know you and you don't know me but um nice clothes
>Thanks
>You're welcome
Walks away
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Let's talk about suicide, guys. A general thread about suicide, not wanting to live, attempts, or people you know who have done it successfully. I like talking about it here instead of /r9k/. I can get an actual discussion on this thread that can help everyone instead of hostile whining. A few months back I posted a rough draft of my suicide letter here and got some helpful pointers on my letter along with some kind words to move forward.
A little about me:
>Touching mid-twenties
>Self-loathing out the wazoo
>Pretty functional for the most part, graduating college in a month, but I don't see myself as a functioning part of society in the next few years.
>I have tried sitting on the train tracks twice,
>Was almost arrested the first time
> Second time a kind nice, young woman talked me out of my drunken state by telling me her mistakes around her twenties with me and shares a pizza with me.
>Trying to get my drivers license. Fail the test, I still can't pull off simple gestures.
>Burden on my family without a license
>I was thinking of driving school but everyone thinks it's a waste of money
>So I can only depend on them to teach me to drive, but they aren't consistent with me
>feeling like a failure anytime i'm behind the wheel because i'm only practicing once a week.
>Just feeling like I'm losing at life.
>Currently looking for a new vice to indulge in before clocking myself out for good.
Are you guys struggling with anything, let's talk it out.
>still in high school
>doing not so well
>family is having hardships with money
>they know I can't get in unless I get a scholarship
>pretty much no future after highschool
>thinking about ending it all after graduation
>I want to make music but parents won't believe in me
>>16992098
You don't need parents to believe in you to succeed in music. Music is beautiful as long as you love it and are serious. What's stopping you?
>be me
>never experienced pure and true love directed back at me. Only one way.
>high hopes are only led to disappointment
>no motivation or discipline to work towards my goals and future.
>failing university will ruin my life
>nothing good going for me, no true friends
>bonds dissolve easily, I can only relate to myself and few fellow autists on the Chan of 4.
>planning to take a one way trip to aokigahara
>all I've ever wanted is something genuine
>>16992098
OP here. I'm sorry to hear that. It fucking sucks to be failing in high school and to have financial troubles at home on top of it. It makes the home a living nightmare. I kind of went through the same thing. My parents got divorced, mom went through money problems, I was in my freshman year and I got suspended so many times for bullshit. My life was a mess and I couldn't get my shit together. The one thing that kept me going was my interests and extra curricular focuses.
I know you didn't ask for any advice, but the one thing I would advise is if you have any hobbies/a thing you're passionate about is to invest in it as much as you can now. It's always better to start earlier to begin scratching the surface on what you like and hone in on what makes you attracted to it. I knew what I liked in high school, but I didn't have the foresight to understand WHY I liked it, to focus on that and become better at it. When you have that focus, it cuts away all the bullshit for a little while and gives you more grounding.
Is it possible for guy virgins over 30 to ever have a sex life without resorting to hookers? Or is that basically the point of no return?
>>16992052
There is always a chance. Don't give up.
change is possible at every age
>>16992052
yep.
just remember you have a better chance with over 30 girls. not 18 year olds.
Why do people on this website call any guy who has a healthy relationship with his wife/gf a "cuck" especially if he's not 6' tall?
>>16991965
It's a meme you dip
>>16991965
because they're miserable
>>16991965
I don't think I've ever seen anyone here getting called a cuck for having a healthy relationship with his partner. And I doubt most people mention their height when they're asking for advice/talking about their relationships.
Maybe you're projecting a little? Just a tiny bit?
So my girl went out to a party last night, and some old fling she used to have popped up and him and her did some things but there was no penis touching or sex at all( i know i sound like a child) but before it could go any further she called it off (she was also drunk as fuck). when she got back home she told me about it. I had some work to complete so i stayed in. What would u guys do next? would u give her another chance? Would you just drop it? its really early on in our relationship, but we have known each other for a while. I just want to here what you guys would do in this situation. She said she called it opff because she thought about me and all this other crap. So should i drop her? give her another chance? Or was it myf ault for letting her go out in the first place? AKA wtf would u guys do?
>>16991929
>its really early on in our relationship
OP you don't have much invested in this so call it off. If she was really serious about you she wouldn't have let it go as far as it did. Soon as the guy approached she would have shut him down.
>>16991929
Yeah she doesn't have much respect for you it seems, but whatever man your life
>>16991959>>16991984
damn......good point
the only thing that s keeping me from dropping this, is that we were dating for a while and while we where dating, we didnt see anyone else or date anyone else but as soon as we get into an actual relationship, i get shit on by this news. I have no idea what to do now, damn u guys r prob right.
How do I become an early riser? I've no real time to workout these days so I need to hit the gym before work which means I need to get up at 6.
One thing that always wakes me up is just putting my feet on the floor, I guess if your trying to get into a new habit I think there is a app called 7 weeks. The idea being that it takes 7 weeks to form a habit. Might be worth a shot.
>>16991836
Set a really loud alarm and set it to ring every minutes start from the earliest time
>>16991836
Go to bed earlier, obviously.
Just reducing sleep won't work.
I speak from experience.
So for a year now i have a ratter (someone who uses a RAT program to keylog, spy trough webcam, and veiw my screen) spying on me and need advice on either tracking him down or stopping the problem completly, this guy lives in my neighborhood, any action will help, or any programs will help, really anything
> stopping the problem completly
That's piss easy. reinstall windows or buy a new computer. don't install software from junk email again.
>>16991759
I didint, someone got in to my computer physical and downloaded some shit, like i said, in my neighbourhood
>>16991767
>someone got in to my computer physical and downloaded some shit
who'd you tell your password?
Is it okay that I'm leaving HS without touching a girl's hand. I just got the "let's just be friends" for the third time. I've always been a loner, but I wasn't socially inept or ugly. Is there hope for me in college?
There's always hope, but you're gonna have to change some things. Don't expect magic.
You say you're not ugly? Good. Socially inept though? I'm not sure I believe you. Maybe you're not horrible, but if you've never touched a girl's hand, you could be better. Not saying that to put you down, but if you want to improve it's important to have a realistic outlook. If you don't know what isn't great, you won't know what could be better.
>>16991703
Well, it's not that I can't hold conversation, I just choose not to talk. I normally just sit quietly and read. Since I do that all the time I'm seen as "smart". It's pretty shallow
>>16991683
What did /soc/ rate you?
Right, im going to sound pathetic but im lost and need some help
Known this girl for 6 years online, we dated a little when I was 15 but not for very long, still stayed in touch but grew apart when I met my ex when I was 16.
We met up at the end of Feb and I stayed with her for a weekend, was fantastic. Very loving weekend filled with kisses , cuddles and sex. We were both so happy.
Went back to my city but we stayed as loving, texting all the time, skyping and saying "I love you" constantly. I obviously fell for her more than she fell for me, I asked her several times what we were to each other and she was adamant we weren't dating because shes scared id run off with another girl or we'd break up and she'd be heart broken.
We had a small argument about this last Friday before she went to Germany for a week, we didnt speak at all and I checked facebook and saw she removed our only photo together , So i sorta knew something was up. Keep in mind this girl enjoys playing head games.
We spoke for the first time yesterday and I said " We need to talk". She was pissy from the start by full stopping constantly and short sentences. But she more or less told me plainly that we wont work out because shes scared and still a bit resentful from when I was 16 and left her for another girl.
But through the conversation she kept contradicting herself.
"I dont think we can really be friends after this" So i removed her from Skype and she readded me back an hour later.
"Part of me wants to be stupid and just run off and come find you, but im trying to be level headed"
I mentioned the fact that im glad we're both on the same page and she said "It would have sucked if I hadn't of been like this and was all enthusiastic and running into your arms for you to shoot me down"...Like, has this started because I said " We need to talk" and she wants to save face? Or am i just fooling myself by thinking I still have a chance
Pic related. Me and the girl
>>16991612
You aren't foolish for thinking you have a chance. She's very obviously interested. But she sounds like she doesn't know what she really wants at all and has some growing up to do.
>>16991629
I can post some of the conversation if that'll help?
Man , she was meant to be visiting me later this month, I know if I can just see her face to face I can stop all of her worries but online its hard
>>16991635
If you want to post it go ahead.
IMO girls who play mind games are not worth it. But that's just me. If you feel like you can live without this girl (which you can) then tell her she needs to get her shit together and figure out what she wants. Then tell her you'll be there when she makes her choice.
What's a good job for someone who's schizophrenic and has horrible social anxiety and is also semi fat?
>>16991604
Go innawoods and liv offa tha lan.
>>16991604
animation
>>16991615
I feel I wouldn't make it very long. I don't want to be homeless which I hear happens to a lot of schizophrenics.
I fucked up by getting good at writing and english in high school instead of science and math.
Whats are some arts and writing majors that will actually get me a job? (not journalism)
editorial
With arts (don't know too much about writing but I imagine it really isn't that much different), a degree will be basically useless. A portfolio is what you need. Classes can definitely help, but if you have enough self discipline, a lot of education in such fields can be already found online. Wanna be a fiction writer? Write some damn fiction and send it to publishers.
You basically have to just actually start doing whatever it is you want to do and get yourself noticed.
Whats wrong with journalism? You dont have to cover politics like many people think. There are all kinds of forms of journalism. Im personally getting into sports writing.
let me start off by saying marijuana is not legal in my country but can be accessed through very easy means and is very low risk
my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years is depressed and she wants to use pot as it makes her happy. she cant drink alcohol, it gives her really terrible heartburn and she only recently found a hookup for some and hasn't smoked at all during our relationship until now.
i dont know if im ok with this. I was raised in a very against drugs household, my parents being the kind of people who might have a beer 2 or 3 times a year. I really don't look up highly to smokers or people who do drugs at all. I might have the odd beer myself but thats it.
My problem is i dont know if i want to be with someone who does pot, or any drugs other then alcohol. Im 22 but i want to be with a girl i can think of having kids with and i dont know if i also want to have kids with someone who does stuff like this (its stupid to think about kids at 22 i know, but i dont want to waste time)
what is the warrant in never having done something as well? I feel superior to people who do drugs but ive got some terrible personality traits. I could just smoke some pot with my girlfriend and get it over with but then i might hate myself and im actually worried of that.
>>16991521
Tell her youre against smoking and that you thing itd be better if she just found a better way to cope, like talking with you more or something cute. If she doesnt listen well then that will lead to bad communication which means she wont be a good person in the long run, let alone having kids
First of all, dealing with depression through drugs (even prescribed antidepressants) is a terrible idea, second of all, if her doing marijuana is a big concern for you, tell her so and work shit out.
In saying that, smoking a bit of weed isn't the worst thing in the world, but given the circumstances it really should be avoided.
anyone?
Ill TL/DR it,
girlfriend has depression, wants to get back into smoking pot/cant drink alcohol. I dont respect drug users and dont know i want to be with her any more but i also dont know if i should give up on my morals and try it with her
Is the stingy character of my bf a signal of not loving me? I'm a girl.
We're together for about 1 year and 3 months, we're in a long distance relationship, we see each other twice , even 3 times for a month. I don't work cause i'm a high-school student and i have to beg my parents for money to pay the ticket once for a month (25 euros). I also have casual earnings, and i spend often for gifts for him. That said he WORKS and has a very good income every month, but he tells me everytime that he's gathers money to buy his own appartement. Hence he pays 2 tickets or often 1 ticket for a month. He rarely offers me going outside for meals and he rarely makes me gifts. I noticed sometimes i spend more money than him if we go out, and it isn't a problem for me, but he's often worried for spending to much money...
Am i having problems myself or his behavior is really wrong? THANK YOU FOR ADVICES
If you're in a relationship of any sort with someone who has already graduated high school while you haven't then you seriously need to reconsider what the fuck you're doing.
>>16991484
There is not enought info I think.
You use your parents money and he uses his own income, so for you it's maybe easier to spend.
Even saying that, my boyfriend and I live in different countries. He works and I study so for me it is easier to move. He offered me several times to pay for my flight (120€ or so) and asks me out for dinner often, even having poor income.
>>16991512
I'm 18
He's 22
there's not so much difference in age, and we're not from USA , so our ed system is slightly different. He works in cs and he didn't finished college.
Hello. Is there a way i can ''purify'' my mind? Everything is so porn-fied. You know the state you get after you fap? The inner-peace, the dettachment from porn. Is there a way i can be like that all the time? To stop being
>that's so fucking hot holy shit i ogtta fap to this now
>damn this image is so hot i need to see it more
Everything ends up in masturbation, and while i see no problem in just fapping to my imagination, i wish i could see at mildly pornographic things without going into a masturbatory rampage, or being blinded by hornyness. All this overly sexualness makes me doubt myself way too much, regarding sexuality, fetishes, and such.
Get laid OP
>>16991370
I do once in a while.
>>16991365
The more you're drawn to porn/sex/etc, the shittier/uneventful your life is.
The thing about masturbation is that it easily becomes something to pass the time with.
You just end up jerking it, because there's not much better to do and it feels good.
It's also easier to get really horn at stuff when there's nothing to occupy your mind. I can tell by personal experience that not having something to work towards is one of the shittiest things in life.
As for the whole clarity after jerking it, you'll never replicate it 24/7. You'll eventually get horny. What you can change is how well you can distract yourself from it.
