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I dropped out of college, can't get a job, have no friends and have only a few hundred dollars of savings.
I'm 22 and gradually going crazy.
I have given up.
Where can I go to die?
Join the military
>>16991224
There's always a reason to live you just haven't found it yet. Talk to someone, your friends or family. Just don't give up, you've got potential to get into college in the first place.
the forest.
If you have a mild form of autism, is it safe so say that it's close to impossible for you to get a normie gf?
Also, are there any cultures where women wouldn't consider mild autism to be a big turnoff when dating a man? Or at least, where being a blond haired blue eyed guy would easily get you a date, even if you have mild autism.
>>16991120
you're not a normie, you don't get with a normie girl, go get yourself a mild autismo girl
>>16991124
The bad thing about getting a mild autismo girl is that they're far more fat and unattractive than average - at least from my experience.
I think this is because mild autism is hard to diagnose in good looking women, since the way social interaction works among women is different than among men - good looks get you more social interaction if you're a woman, even if you're mildly autistic, so you don't complain and therefore don't get diagnosed.
Define normie gf.
>If you're basing you concept of women off a 4chan meme than you're an idiot.
What would you do if you met the girl of your dreams but she didn't want to have kids knowing you do?
This is a question I'm asking for personal reasons, not a poll. Thanks.
Then she wasn't a girl of my dreams in the first place.
Women who don't want kids are rare. Let her go so she can be another man's dream girl you selfish cunt
How old is she? People's perception of that changes with time.
here's a summary of my situation
>18 going on 19,, ausfag
>when I was 11 I started fapping to misc sexy imagery I could find in books/mags
>started doing it to online porn at 13,
>so I've been using porn for 5ish years, my interests are pretty varied but mostly standard
(everything from amateur/creampies to vanilla hentai and light bondage)
>with 2nd girlfriend, she's really tight so I always have to be really careful when entering her
(this means I have to go really slowly, and its stressful cus I don't want to hurt her but I also don't want to lose my wood)
so, with my last 2 girlfriends and one casual hookup:
>I've only managed to cum during sex once (HJs and BJs never work for me either)
(when I was semi drunk with the casual, she's less attractive than my current gf)
>I generally find it hard to keep an erection
I find my current girlfriend quite attractive. I can cum really easily to the photos/videos I have of her,
and I also get REALLY hard during foreplay so I don't think it's an issue of attraction
I've done some research, and sites generally say
>the constant switching between tabs of internet porn affect the brain's arousal
>porn causes your sexual expectations to change
>you'll get used to the grip of your hand, so it'll be hard to cum with anything else
These all sound reasonable,
but I'm able to masturbate to a single video quite easily
my girlfriend is basically "petite" and I can get off to those sorts of videos quite easily
and not too recently I came through sex, and I can cum with my hand even if my grip is quite soft/gentle
What helpful / interesting / inspiring advice or experiences can you all share with me?
ITT: Deathgrip, Erectile Dysfunction or general sex difficulties/issues discussion
>>16991061
OP here
forgot to mention, some sites say a sedentary lifestyle could affect erections
I'm fairly sedentary these days, but I was doing cross country twice weekly with my last girlfriend
and my experience hasn't really changed
also, considering how young I am (I'm also underweight) that shouldn't be the issue right?
I am planning to get a rowing machine though, so the exercise factor should be taken care of soon
shameless flacid self bump
Are you cut? That can have an impact on sexual sensitivity
I consider myself an online dating "veteran" so to speak. While I don't pull women at an alarming rate, I have pulled high quality (career, intelligence, decent looking) women in the past. The reasons the situations ended were simply because there wasn't a good fit or some sort of mistake was made.
As I come to the end of the line, (I'm getting tired of online dating), and just as I was going to delete all traces of my profiles, I come across a smart, decent looking femanon.
Long story short, after a few days of talking, although things seem to be going really well, she randomly changed and then accused me of having a girlfriend (I haven't dated anyone officially in three years/ I never gave her number out). She claimed that a female called her and said to stay away from me.
I told her that it's impossible because I don't speak to any of my exes (truth) and I never even told anyone her number (truth).
After about 3 hours of me blowing her phone up, sending her facebook messages/texts/voicemails, pleading my innocence, she sticks with her story, finally picks up, hears me out, and tells me that she believes me, but if she ever hears that I'm talking to another girl when we begin to date, she's done forever.
After all of my begging and pleading and even crying slightly, she instantly changes back to how she was with me. Sending me cute messages and ensuring me that she's mine and she's not going anywhere.
Some facts that might help:
>She has a 4 year degree in childhood education
>No longer wants to pursue the above career (but won't say why)
>Seems to have nice parents (what she tells me)
>Has a sister who met a dude on xbox live and moved out of state at a young age
>Seems to be very outgoing
>I just want to know if this is some sort of tactic some femanons might use to see if the dude they're talking to online is really into them? I've been meeting girl online for 10 years and I've never experienced something like this.
>>16991044
dude, she is clearly fucked in the head and she played you like a violin, don't continue anything with her, get out before she fucks your head up too
>>16991044
Sounds like it may be a case of BPD, OP. That's assuming the most likely option: alternatively, she could be a sociopath, or a role-play dom that has mistaken you for a sub.
Basically, if you get off on being emotionally abused, she's perfect for you.
Otherwise, break it off. No, there's not much hope of helping/fixing/changing her, don't even think about it.
>>She has a 4 year degree in childhood education
>>No longer wants to pursue the above career (but won't say why)
To take a wild guess: she's unemployable because someone happened to walk in and caught her (verbally/emotionally) abusing the kids.
Not saying this out of nowhere, where I live right now teaching is unfortunately a popular occupation for those with BPD and this happens often. No hate, my grandma's one of them.
Just gotta understand that these problems make depression and anxiety look like child's play.
>>16991051
Played me like a violin? I mean, I just don't see how that's an attempt to play me. We both haven't even met each other yet. She has the power to drop me in a moment's notice, but she's still sticking around. Why put someone through so much crap, and then still stick around if you don't really know them or have had built enough time together to develop trust? It's really weird.
I could have just called her crazy and dropped her, but I'm getting older, and finding a childless girl is getting harder and harder. On another note, she is in her early 20s, but she sounds extremely young. She's is definitely of age though.
>be in drive thru
>pickup truck comes behind me with unusually bright headlights, like blinding
>me thinking his high beams were on, turn around and yell "do you really have to blind me right now?"
>he yells no but i can blindyou now and starts flashing his high beams
>figure the guys drunk, just ignore him
>minute later he pulls up next to me
>says "hey.. Youre a bitch!" And spits on my windshield and throws a water bottle at me
>drives off towards parking lot beckoning me to go fight him
>ignore him and be on my way
I feel like i Shouldve just called the cops. But i really didnt want to deal with whatever the fuck this was. Buti feel like im less of a man for not defending my property. What do you think
should've escalated that confrontation then shot him and claimed self defense
you should have gone out there and sucked his dick. you little bitch.
>>16990994
Yep you're a man bitch now. The only way to fix this is to track him down and rape his wife at gunpoint
My girlfriend of 3 months just had sex with another guy because she was drunk. Now I've never been drunk before so I don't know if it's that good of an excuse. My question is, to those who have been drunk, does it really cloud your judgement that much?
>>16990961
it numbs you, thus it does cloud your judgement - no, drinking is not an excuse, she's just trying to shift the blame from her own poor decisions to alcohol - the alcohol was clearly forcing itself down her throat, fucking alcohol man, every time :- (
depends on how drunk you are. i have been drunk enough that i barely knew who i was and could have been talked into anything. but generally no, this is not a good enough excuse to cheat. alcohol removed inhibitions, so it's likely this is just what she's like.
No. alcohol doesn't change your desires, just removes the thought of consequences.
my live-in bf moved out today. we're broken up, and i cant stop crying. i dont want to get offline because if i stop distracting myself i start crying its 5am i just want to sleep but it hurts to bad
>>16990959
and its going to continue to hurt. recovery is usually a gradual process in situations like this. what you need is more distractions, and i suggest distracting yourself with something productive and/or profitable.
>>16990981
th..thanks
>>16990959
Don't lure yourself.
You WILL get better, but it will hurt a lot first. It's not fun, but you just have to go through this. What's remaining of your love for him will slowly turn into pain, and you will have to process it until there's nothing left.
Then you will be able to rebuild yourself and try again. I'm going through the exact same thing right now. It's very hard, but it's like that.
I started working out to improve myself and started to channel my pain into will. I guess it's a solution.
Sorry for what happened to you. Be strong.
I was making enough money to get by working off the dom/fetish section off backpage but got less sessions these past couple of weeks due to St. Patty's Day and Easter. I thought maybe business would pick up but no none answered the ad I posted last night. I asked tarot and runes about it and got signs indicative of failure. I don't know what to do. I was excited to find work I enjoy and can do well despite my disability. Maybe Saturday just isn't a good night to post ads.
Did you really think the prostitution business is anything longterm? A niche one even.
>>16990935
I was hoping to do it here and there during my disability application process and maybe through school once DVR agrees to pay for it. I know there isn't a lot of promise in this, but I thought maybe I would be okay for now. I just want to contribute to the household I am in. My partners (the couple I am dating) pay my rent and I am on food stamps for now. Just would be nice to continue to have money to invest back into dom clothes/gear, pay for my appointments, etc. I made so much money at first. Maybe it will be different next week. I'm paranoid I already have a reputation as a bad dom. I don't need to do many sessions...just...some.
Maybe I should stop putting "no coitus" on my ads and start putting out.
If she says the guy is so sweet, is he friend zoned?
>>16990821
Yes
Unless you're already in a relationship, then yeah, pretty much.
No what the fuck is wrong with you people.
That is a good thing, but it's neither romantic or platonic. It could be either. Girls usually want a guy who is sweet.
I will be going to Spain for a month during July. I've only been learning Spanish for a while so my Spanish is not very good. My current level of Spanish is probably a bit below A2 (with grammatical and spelling errors) and my speaking and listening skills are not very good.
Will I be able to get around in Spain with my level of Spanish? I will also stay with a host family for two weeks and from what I've heard some host families do not speak English at all. Is it not realistic of me to hope to befriend a family that does not speak English?
you will be fine just get a picture book/translate on phone in case there's a real issue and you need to communicate something
>>16990811
I really want to be able to communicate with the locals without Google Translate
You will be OK. There are English speakers in Spain
Im starting a job at a grain elevator where im required to lift 50 pound grain bags for 8 hours a day. the place loads about 120 tons of feed daily and the only break is lunch or helping a customer. im about 140 pounds with little to no physical activity and im a little worried about not being able to keep up. my buddy works there and will be doing the same job (he got me the job) and he says ill just get use to it. does anyone else have work experience similar to this and what would you recommend I do to get myself ready.
>>16990629
Well, just be sure to bring water if you can and I mean a pretty good amount, drink it all.
I'd suggest looking up some stretches for your legs, upper and lower back, shoulders, and neck do those as much as possible after work.
Eat as much as possible and you will be fine.
I do similar work and have seen people your size do fine btw. You'll get used to it after a week or 2 and notice it just keep it up.
Also please be safe and follow the rules if you get hurt your out of work you have no idea how important your body is until you work jobs like this you know?
>>16990658
Oh yeah cut off your phone after work and get as much sleep as possible.
I know this is all common sense but trust me you'll thank me and it'll make your first time doing so much work easier, and you wont be cramping pathetically in your bed (as much),from the days previous work.
I've worked a ton of different labor jobs for years.
Get there a few minutes early and stretch. Drink tons of water, and bring snacks on top of a large lunch. Eat things like clif bars during your smoking breaks.
You don't have to impress anyone especially since it's your first day. If you need to slow down, slow down. Don't ever stop and just sit there, but it's alright to slow your pace if you're starting to hurt. Stretch after lunch.
You'll be sore as fuck every night for the first week or two, but it will go away.
Also, you'll want to drink after work, but don't, because working while hungover is the worst thing ever.
im sad :c hold me /adv/
>>16990616
>tfw no anons to cuddle and experiment with
life is suffering
>>16990623
>tfw no qt3.14 slender aussie gf to bear huggle
life truly is suffering.
>>16990623
>>16990635
thanks guys <3
my live-in exbf (who i met via 4chan) moved out today
im a sad little koala bear
Lost feelings for gf of 3 years, started only using her for sex, and treated her like shit until she eventually cheated and broke up with me. I didn't care at first but this new guy treats her worse than I did and I realize I fucked up and actually really care about her. A few other girls even want me now but I only want her.
On top of this, the new guy got her pregnant (she's 18) and won't even help her get an abortion (which she wants). She says she still loves me and wishes she didn't start liking him. She hasn't asked me for help but I don't want her life fucked up despite what happened with us. What should I do /b/?
This is /adv/ but anyway. If you love her, you should get her an abortion. I don't know how much they are, but whatever, if you love her, then you love her.
>>16990528
Fuck I'm retarded. I meant /adv/
>>16990520
Wow. I am honestly surprised this girl is the only girl in the world that doesn't like to be mistreated.
After what age is still living with your parents truly pitiful?
>turning 21 in 4 months
>legit autistic
>have a job/go to a cc but still live with parents after an unsuccessful run at a 4 year university
>people I went to elementary school with are already getting married/having kids/obsessively couponing to save on household necessities
>>16990510
>jealous of people who are having kids at 21
Unless they were born into money or are both intelligent individuals the odds that they are welfare couple is very high anon. The answer to your question isn't universal. If you live with your parents with nothing going on for you otherwise it can be pretty bad. If you do it while you're in school/saving up for a new place or vehicle then that's a little better. Why are you so eager to be out on your own OP? Unless you have a good income you're going to earn your freedom but pay for rent + food all on your own.
>>16990510
I think its a lot more accepted these days than it was before. I'm 29 and currently still in my parents house, but I've finally made a committment, that no matter what my situation, I'm moving out at 30.
My advice, save up a little bit for a couple of months rent and get out of home as soon as you can.
I think I would have been a lot better off leaving home before the age of 25.
30 is basically it. You're a wizard. Kill yourself.
Anything below that is acceptable... I think?
25< is cutting it close though...
