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Is it wrong thinking that because I never had a real job before to want to do one that's part time before doing one that's full time in order to be used to it and then later finding full? Issue being though I can't even find one that's part that I feel like I could actually do like something in a warehouse or something, I really can't just "go work at mcdonalds or walmart" I would be epically horrible at it I'm not very good socially and those jobs are really really pressured too. Am I limiting myself too much and should be looking at fulls too?
>>16992799
you look for any place that will take you. worst case scenario you get fired and claim it was 'seasonal' on your resume.
>>16992819
Yeah but I'm saying, is it wrong that I'm only looking at part time ? I guess the best analogy would be slowly going into some water to be comfortable vs jumping in not ready to handle it.
>>16992869
>is it wrong
there is no sense of mmorality in hunting for a job. is it a bad idea? yes. cuz you are preventing yourself from getting a job.
but you made this thread before and kept arguing the point against me so you arent looking for advice, you are looking for someone to agree with you.
So I've just had my last lecture of my degree. One of the girls on my course - let's just call her K - messaged me and said "This is gonna sound like really really unusual but you're like really really nice, one of the loveliest people I know. How on earth are you still single?". I'd helped her with one of our assignments in class the day before, and I'd never really thought she was interested at all - however, my ex (who I'm close friends with) said she always had her suspicions.
I shrugged it off/joked about it, because honestly...
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She wants the D. Thats no lie. Bipolar girls are a handful. My mom is bipolar. Go for it if you think you can handle it but it will require patience and and self awareness that her mood can change at any given moment.
If it helps, how I shrugged off her advances/how the conversation went is (I'm not posting the entire convo, this is the jist of it):
Her: This is gonna sound like really really unusual tongue emoticon but you're like really really nice, one of the loveliest people I know. How on earth are you still single?
Me: I think it's because I look like a magician. No one likes magicians.
Her: I don't see that
Me: I do. Look at Derren Brown when he did the russian roulette thing. Plus I'm happy being single at the moment, especially...
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a) Pretty obvious she's into you.
b) Go for it. Not like you have to be head over heels for her to have a great time.
Girl I went on date with keeps calling me which I just ignore. I didn't even fuck her, all I did was kiss her a couple of times before I found someone more attractive and interesting I could bang.
I feel bad.
What do?
>>16992662
Is pic related? Cos damn.
Just keep ignoring her, or just tell her you're no longer interested, you have to crush her hopes with either silence or bluntness just don't do it in a mean-spirited way.
Girls do that all the time.
Please tell me mundane things about your day. I'm in a very bad way and need anything to take my mind off of being alive.
What did you have for lunch? What phone calls did you make? What did you buy? Can you please tell me step by step
I need this badly
Today I slept until noon. I was having a dream about being in the Harry Potter universe. It was very dramatic and exciting. When I woke up I lazily masturbated for a bit and then I checked some of my phone apps like Miitomo and my messages. I'm waiting for a guy I like to accept a friend request on Facebook so I can talk to him about greek mythology. I might only be interested in him because I'm lonely though. I got out of bed and I made myself lunch. Gardein chicken on white bread with hot sauce, havarti, tomato, and greens. I had some white cheddar cheese puffs also....
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Today I finally came down from taking ecstasy with my boyfriend. I've been falling in and out of sleep all day in a nice clean and warm bed. This afternoon we had wonderful sex as we did yesterday, celebrating our three day break from our hectic work schedules.
He went out to see his dad this evening and left me a cigarette with a note that said "you are beautiful".
I'm so tired but I need to bathe, clean the kitchen, prepare dinner (burritos!) and wash his work clothes. I've also got a big stack of forms to work through over night, I was anxious...
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>>16992663
Thank you I read it multiple times. I like the Greek mythology part (not being sarcastic btw)
Hi /adv/, so my ex gf began talking to me again recently. We have quite the history, for example, I broke up with her as she cheated on me with another guy in a drunken night at the club. After I dumped her she started seeing my roommate immediately afterwards which really pissed me off as I still had feelings for her. I scared the living shit out of the dude and he moved out immediately.
ANYWAY that's the background, recently she broke up with this guy after about month and a half/ two month period. She then immediately began to unblock me on social media which she...
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You know what were gonna say. Dont talk to her, distance is what you need.
>>16992591
dont do it.
id be saying: bitch please, you cheated on my ass and now you are out of options... click. thats the end of that.
she knows you will take her back thats what she is counting on. jokes on her when you man up and find somebody new.
Yo, so I am interested in a girl
I'm funny, confident, fit, intelligent. Except I have trouble holding conversation. Everyone in my lectures talks mediocre shit but I'm passionate and I make everyone in the lecture laugh, yet I have not made friends yet.
How do I pique this girls interest in me ?
cheers cunts
>>16992526
>i have trouble holding a conversation
this probably comes across as a lack of interest. for best results, try holding a conversation
>BUT HOW
if you really need help try reading books on conversation. look for modern ones, nothing before 2005 ideally.
also
>everyone talks mediocre shit but im passionate
nope. nope. stop right there. no one wants to be friends with a pretentious fuckwad...
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>>16992545
Guys in my class gave orals very mundane personalities.
I guess from someones view I really do come off as looking down on them, I've read alot into Aurelius, I don't really think like that but I guess I need to work on how I come across.
>>16992562
the smartest people dont act like they are smarter. just like they have specific interests.
you'll notice its mostly just douchebags with very very barely slightly above average intelligence who look down on people.
you are in the same class as them discussing the same materials. if they are 'mediocre' then you just labeled yourself as the bottom of the barrel of smart people. you are the cut off point if everyone on your level is good, and everyone below you is bad.
do you...
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Need help people.
Taking it short so you understand it clearly!
Girl meets boy
Boy confronts (in a way) (by her friend) asking if she has feelings for him.
Girl says no, at the same time she decides to close those feelings. (Fear probly)
Boy learns from her that this happend 3-4 months late & that she only sees him now in a brotherly way.
The question is.
What she did is that possible?
What is the outcome? (Sounds strange to close feelings because of her best friend asked her Even tho he wonderd)
And she is an introvert!
Pic not related
1. speak english
2. what?
3. no
4. fuck you
5. >Boy confronts (in a way) (by her friend) asking if she has feelings for him.
5a. fag
>>16992447
>boy confronts (in a way) (by her friend)
thats not confronting. thats being a pussy.
>at the same time she decides to close those feelings. (fear probably)
those feelings she said werent real? SHE MUST BE LYING! after all, who could resist someone who asks her best friend if she has a crush on you.
>>16992453
If you understand what it says then you must be the fag here!
It's advice thread not /b/ fucktard!
I almost got fired from my job yesterday. It scared me shitless at the prospect of potentially finding new work.
But then I need the references for a new job, right?
Regardless of whether get fired eventually or quit before I'm fired, providing I didn't burn any bridges, would I be able to get a reference that simply states my start and end dates and not the reason so I don't scare off future employers?
>>16992400
Also has anyone had any experience with quitting/getting fired? How shitty does it make you feel? How does it affect your job prospects?
>>16992400
When I applied for the current job I'm in, they wanted my previous employer's email address so that they could ask 'a few questions'. Yeah. Fortunately I left my previous company on good terms.
A good reference is worth its weight in gold.
Also being fired sucks. I was fired from a burger flipping job for being slow at flipping burgers (I'm terrible in the kitchen, don't judge) Got a much better job now so it worked out. Took a while though.
>>16992648
so then someone is still screwed if one of the questions in your example was "how well did he work?" and the answer was "he didn't perform as quickly as we wanted"?
I don't think I want to work in catering again.
i am nobody which keeps resulting in me trying to be other and failing miserably. now im sitting here alone listening to sad music, broke and friendless.
any form of advice? at all?
What do you want?
>>16992399
We are all nobody to everyone.
Nobody will see you as special as you see yourself and the sooner you realize that the sooner life gets better.
Also wallowing in despair with music and sad thoughts is comfy for a while, but one day you will suffer true despair and realize its mental masturbation.
>>16992399
You got Steam? I'll be your online friend dude. Snapchat? I'll send you funny shit to cheer you up.
You're not alone man. I'm just some anon but I feel you. I'm here for you. For anyone reading this for that fact.
how do i get a gf? i've been alone all my life.
>>16992392
Don't be unattractive.
>>16992392
Go outside more.
like everyday.
not just for basic needs.
Try to make friends.
Be uncomfortable with it.
This is how you meet girls.
How often do you leave your house? How often do you meet/hangout with girls? How often do you meet new people? How often do you shows interest in women? Start doing all of these things more often and you'll get a gf.
Here's the backstory
>Valentines day
>Meet girl at work, broken wrist, struggling to get on bus home after work, I help her out and carry her bags for her and make sure she gets home safe, coz Ima nice guy
>Fast forward two weeks of hanging with her, we go to a movie one night after work on a whim, hold hands, end up taking her down to the beach after a kissing
>Comes back to mine, we fuck
>Fast foward...
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>>16992377
CONT.
>She says yes, asks if we can do what we used to no strings attached, Im horny so why not
>She comes round mine, within 2 minutes of her being in the door we're fucking
>Watch a movie, have dinner, fuck again before bed
>Next day
>Shows no sign of wanting to go home, despite what she said about getting the bus back the day before, means...
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>>16992408
>>16992377
Her claws are digging in. And its only gonna get worse if you keep letting your dick drive.
>>16992408
>What do I do?
learn how to use the word no, if you fuck her again and she wont leave kick her ass out
Guys,
I'm uncircumcised, yet my dick is very dry and coarse. I don't use soap on my dick, only water.
I went to the doctor, but he said that drier is better because that means I won't get any infections or fungi.
But when I have sex or get a blowjob, lubrication is an absolute must and can even ruin it (it's so dry that sometimes she gets tired of spitting to lubricate during a blowjob).
I sometimes see videos of uncircumcised guys with pink, lush, shiny dicks who look wonderful. I want that too.
Anyone else with the same...
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>>16992337
all dicks are different.
See a doc if you are worried. used moisturizing cream (externally) if you feel the need.
That seems a bit weird as opposed to simply different, it's a bodily function not a hair colour.
Some doctors are bad, some will tell an underweight person to go eat cake. You could research it a bit and then go see another one.
Maybe it's related to your health in general?
you could always get cut
Can psychedelics like DMT or LDS fix one's personality issues? Being more precise, personality disorder.
I've been diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder, causing long lasting major depression with anxiety and mild paranoia symptoms. At that point I'm quite exhausted by those issues and printed negativity toward myself and others for the most part of my life. Already been hospitalized and went trough long therapy and it didn't change much, only tought some tricks to cope with that shit... which is quite deeply ingrained in me and always finds a way to come up.
No.
>>16992324
Fuck you.
>>16992278
Yes, they can.
I used to have severe social anxiety. I've tripped on acid ~15 times, and after every trip I get a mellow afterglow that makes me feel happy, simple and in control of the way I want to act, and the way I wan't to belong in the world.
I've gone from severely socially anxious to socially anxious. Never got completely cured, but the acid sure as hell helped. And it was so much fun to trip balls.
my brother was jailed for 7 months after having a violent psychotic break and a run in with cops.
He's got out. Appeared to be doing better. But is falling back into the behaviors he had during his psychotic episode.
He was completely delusional. He said he was some kind of secret celebrity and everyone watches him. We went to the mall with him and he'd disappear for a few minutes, then say he was meeting with fans.
He'd get angry if we called it out. Sometimes violent. To the point where he'd throw himself on the floor flailing.
Now,...
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>>16992266
he needs to be on medication, get him help
if you're worried that he's a threat to himself or others you can get him admitted to a psychiatric hospital
Well your brother needs professional help. Obviously, the first step to "cure" him is to make him admit he has a problem. How you'll go about doing that I have little to no idea, I don't know if simply talking to him and telling him what you wrote here would do anything good. Most likely it will make him resent you.
Talk to a specialist, there's no way someone here can help you with a problem this complicated.
>>16992273
He hasn't been violent since before jail. But I am starting to notice the start of it again. As I said with the posts about being a celebrity on facebook.
We've tried to admit him. He went to the ER for having a panic attack because he thought he was having a heart attack. A person came to evaluate him.
Like a switch, he turned off all the crazy and said he's fine. Just a normal guy that got a little stressed out and everyone else overreacted.
When we try to get him evaluated,...
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What's proper "bediquette"? Someone told me separate blankets could save a relationship. Is that true?
I think it's different for every couple. For me, we cuddle/fuck before bed and in the morning. Then during the night we'll usually sleep on our own sides.
>Someone told me separate blankets could save a relationship. Is that true?
that's some fucking through a hole in a sheet shit right there. just get separate beds, jesus
>>16992197
My wife and i have separate blankets. Its just preference. My wife likes to ball up and kick blankets around in her sleep while i like to use mine as a body pillow.
