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I got a job interview in a hour for a department store and don't even know what im going to say to
>"tell me about yourself"
whats the best way to answer this?
People often confuse that for being a personal question. It's not. They're asking you a professional question. You should basically summarize your resume aloud. "I go to school at so and so place to study such and such, I'm working toward a career in whatever, in the past I've worked in this and that fields" and so on. If they want personal information, they'll follow up with specific questions.
>>16987918
This is not a super common question so don't worry. It's mainly used for people with no work experience.
Basically all they want out of you from this question is to see that you can communicate clearly and be pleasant, which is basically 98% of a customer service job.
Just smile and say something like "I recently graduated high school and I'm looking forward to getting some work experience in an area where I'll get to work directly with people. I enjoy reading and hiking and taking care of my animals."
Don't say a whole lot, definitely don't ramble. Try to avoid hobbies that sound immature, like video games or skateboarding. Avoid any future plans that might make your schedule complicated, like if you are planning to attend college downplay it.
>>16987939
>This is not a super common question so don't worry.
That's wrong though. It's usually the first question in very many interviews.
I can't figure out what to do with my life.
I'm 25 with maybe one and a half semesters worth of college credit, and 4 years of military experience in a combat MOS which has no practical application outside of the battlefield.
I really have no idea what I want to do. I'm really interested in finance and I'm pretty okay at math. I also do small computer programming projects in Python and C++ in my spare time. I just don't really want to endure an entire bachelor's degree because it will be four years of study at the very least, and I don't want to be a 30 year old newcomer to the workforce.
I've considered doing a 2 year electrical diploma at my local community college, or possibly enrolling in an EMT course, since I think being a paramedic would be a very rewarding career. What do you guys think?
Pic unrelated.
well you wouldn't be the first person to graduate college at 30, believe me it happens all the time, and its not like you were just living as a NEET for that time, you were in the military so there's something to put on your resume. A more important concern than sinking 4 years of your life into school is if you think its something you enjoy and can dedicate yourself to without regrets.
I work as an EMT btw and its rewarding work but the pay is really criminal, if you aren't living with your parents its almost impossible to live off of it, medics get by a little better but you should really have a few years BLS experience before you become one. I could answer any specific questions you had.
>>16987826
Thanks for the reply. I've been wanting to be a paramedic since I was a kid because I've always wanted to save people's lives, and yeah I know all about shitty pay from serving in the military.
As var as BLS vs ALS, would it really be a big deal if I just did the EMT-B class and immediately went to school for EMT-P? I just really don't want to try living off $7.50-$8 an hour just so EMTs take me more seriously ob the job.
Finish your degree and apply for a government job
How do I find a girl that wants to slap my ass and watch anime with me?
Conventions
Most of the degenerate weebs are women
>>16987762
Cons are hit or miss
Usually miss because a lot of girls say they have boyfriends and are underage
You're mixing an alpha characteristic with a beta one, good luck
Has anyone else dealt with Porn ED with multiple girls? I just had my second incident and wow does this suck some major fuckin balls..
First time I couldn't get hard was with my first girlfriend, we had to try for a few hours for me to get hard
This time I couldn't even get hard enough to put a condom on.
FUCK man I need some temporary measures as well to fix this problem, from what I've been reading it takes up to 6 months to a year for some people to get over this porn ED shit.
>>16987717
i don't know man, I have a live in GF and I still watch porn and nut once or twice a day and still get it up long enough to have sex and nut inside her.
are you physically active?
>>16987734
I understand. With my ex, I only had this problem say about twice and it was when I was with her for the first time, and another was when I started to hook up with her again after breakup. I think nervousness definitely adds to the issue.
No I really do need to start working out again.
I'm not really sure what to tell her either.. if anyone can help me out with this I would appreciate it greatly
I've been having suicidal thoughts for over a year now.
I hang out with people I dislike, I wear clothes that I wouldn't even look at and say things I don't really mean. I just wanted to have friends and be happy. Society taught me how to be successful but I'm not satisfied. I don't love my girlfriend - I have her because I don't want to be a loser.
My personality has died a long time ago - I no longer know what things I like and what do I want to do. I'm pretending to be an extroverted narcissist and it's extremely exhausting. It's more tiring than my job.
I'm scared about people's opinions of me. Every insult hurts even though I try to hide it. I can't do stuff like dancing or singing because I'm scared.
My body is a piece of shit - I managed to get fit but I still have a lot of acne and scars on my back. I have phimosis and there's no hope of losing virginity for me, even though I have a girlfriend. No, she doesn't know.
I'm extremely envious of other people. I can't endure the fact that someone might be more handsome or have more money. It hurts.
I might sound like an edgy teenager but I hate almost everything. People around me, media, music, movies, video games, art, sports and my future. I'm embarrassed by the fact that I was born in Europe and I will always remain a peasant in foreigners' eyes. Pretending to be a different person made me hate everything I loved. I feel like a materialist shit, because the only thing that keeps me going is my envy.
Is there any hope for me? I was thinking about moving to US but I'm scared of the fact that I will be a lonely yuropoor with bad english in a giant city full of americans.
>>16987699
nice b8
>>16987703
What do you mean, tripfag?
Damn you sound like you deserve every bit of misery that your insecurities have selected for yourself.
How do I acquire a sense of humor, to make girls and even other people laugh and interested in me?
I had my fair share of girlfriends before. Some were purely by accident, some were because they saw how much of a compassionate guy I am, but never because I can make them laugh. I can be funny at times, but it's rare. An example I can think of is when I was outside talking to a chick and it was freezing so I made a comment about how at this rate ill be a frozen popsicle swirl (because im black but "mixed" as people would call me [mom is black, dad is white]) and it made her laugh, but that would be it for the night. It sucks. I know if I were more funny, I could definitely get a gals #, but sometimes I feel that I am not, therefore I fear people would find me boring.
What are your secrets? What do you guys do to make someone laugh?
>>16987689
I make fun of people and change my voice
Innuendo is also good
It's not really something that can be learned. Either you have it or you don't.
>>16987689
If you want to make a girl laugh, just point out when she does something stupid. Use a sarcastic or laughy voice and most of the time they'll laugh.
Be cheeky and loud.
>>16987697
Of course you can.
Hey /adv/, so I recently landed myself a pretty sweet bf. Full on out of my league and now he wants to play PC games with me. I can only play League of Fucking Legends and nothing else. I'm not a gamer girl.
What do I do? He's gonna think I'm stupid cuz I can't play anything but lol and he's good at playing and pretty serious about his games.
P-please?
oh man the feels
OP, if you can play league I'm sure you're fully capable of expanding your repertoire.
Be honest with your bf, and ask him to introduce you to new games. I'm sure he'll understand and would be happy to do so (if he's a good bf).
Hello femanons of /adv/,
How much do you weight being 5'2"?
Just curious because I might want to lose some more weight and want to know what you weight and are happy about.
>>16987524
I'm 5'3 and weight 158 lbs.
Well I've given birth to my third child 8 months ago, so yeah if I get back to about 140 lbs I'll be very happy.
>>16987524
5'4, 127 lbs. Gained a shit ton of weight due to my meds. I'm currently on a diet, trying to get back to 115 lbs.
>>16987524
400 lbs
I just can't stop eating McDonalds
I really don't want to be that guy who whines about his life but if I can't say it here then where can I fucking say it. I have no family to talk to, my only 2 friends are too far to meet up with and barely talk to me online (I initiate every conversation), only person that has ever cared is a counsellor which quite frankly only really cares because that's their job. What the fuck do I do? I've never even been in an actual relationship, closest thing was an online LDR for a week before it got cut off. No one has ever even approached me, and I hate the idea of becoming a fucking wizard. It just feels like no one actually gives a fuck about me, I don't expect people too either, I don't even expect to get replies, all I can do is hope.
>>16987515
Step away from the computer. Turn it off and go outside. Literally - get some fresh air. Go someplace where there are people - a park, a mall, a campus.Sit and think.
Forget for a minute about looking for friends. You're just outside to get you away from the computer. Think about things you like to do or would like to do,. (If you can't think of anything, pick some things tht are totally new to you, at random).
Now, there are probably other people in the world who like those things. Where would they be likely to hang out? Some club, some kind of store, a gym, a class in some subject, a museum, a concert?
Go to one of those places, not to find friends, but to do the activity or see the show or just hang out.
Now, you are doing/watching something that interests you, in the company of other people with the same interests. It's natural enough to chat with the person near you on line or shopping next to you or looking at the same things about what you're doing. Soon a bunch of you are chatting. Someone suggests going for a drink/coffee after. You introduce yourselves. Someone says there's something (movie, show, concert) related to your common interest coming up next week. Someone suggests that you all go together.
And that's how friends happen to you.
>>16987568
Been there, done that. I go to town centre pretty much every day just to not feel like a bird in a cage. Nothing happens, nowhere to go either, barely any money to get a bus to go somewhere where there is shit to do. I've been on a uni course for almost a year now, and nothing.
>>16987515
What do you do for a living?
What are your hobbies?
A friend of mine just texted "You know, maybe we will lose contact with each other one day. You don't seem to enjoy talking to me that much anyway". What does she mean?
It means only one thing, you autist. She's worried you don't enjoy her company and she senses a distance brewing.
>>16987520
I am not distancing away from her. My finals are coming up so I am very busy and she knows that.
>>16987523
You're on 4chan. You have the time if you care about it. Stop bullshitting yourself.
I met this girl not too long ago. We're both immigrants from Eastern Europe, living in the same western country. We had pretty much the same childhood/upcoming story (abusive families, poverty, tough time adjusting in, etc.), and because of it, we connected pretty well with one another. I think we could have something more serious going in the near future in terms of friendship. I am fairly sure she'd be down for it. I like her a lot, too. Except for one thing, which is pretty huge for me.
We've got this "game", right?. We basically try to one-up each other on random topics. It's quite entertaining, and we get to know each other very well through doing it. We've talked like this for hours. We've covered a lot of topics, going through politics, music, art in general, philosophy, life, etc. Now, the thing is, she's started to act very weirdly about it, and she didn't use to do that when we first started messing around.
She basically snaps, and goes "FINE, I'M DUMB, YOU'RE SMART! FUCK YOU!" on me, gets incredibly mad, and I have to actually convince her each time that whatever was that I said wasn't a part of some master plan to make her feel like shit, insult her, or dominate her in general; it was just part of the game. And initially I thought this was some sort of act she has going, which is directly related to the game itself, but now I am starting to realize that she might have some issues that I need to find out about/understand before actually letting her in my life.
Or, I showed her this profile of a girl that I know, who happens to be a good friend of mine. Said girl is a model, and she's very good-looking. When I showed it to her, again, she snaps, and goes: "Why did you just show me that? Are you trying to humiliate me? To make me feel ugly?" And the thing is, she is not ugly at all. The exact opposite, really.
So what's going on, adv? Is she insane? Am I doing something wrong on a general level?
I am with my boyfriend because he treats me like a princess. I would not be with someone who treats me like crap. You are treating your gf like crap. Sounds like she too wants someone who treats her like a princess and not you.
>>16987497
For what you are saying she gets triggered easily. If u want a relationship with her you will experience that often so I dont know if thats a good idea. Or maybe she is in her period who knows
Why don't you try asking her if it's a game to her and that other shit you blindly assume rather than just presume shit about her?
Men like you who just think they know it all deserve to get thrown in the trash.
I left my girlfriend because she had an abortion and didn't told me anything about it. I told her that I respect her decision but we can't be together because our different moralities. She told me that it was okay. Next thing she does is telling her friends about it and they think I am an asshole for not accepting her choice and they won't talk to me until I apologize.
Should I apologize to get in good term with my friends or it's not worthy? I mean, I didn't like her decision but it's not like I wasn't polite with her after I knew about the fact.
>>16987436
don't apologize. you apologize now and you'll start apologizing your whole life for how you feel. girls will always gossip about their ex's in life and make you out to be the bad guy. that's a part of life man. I could tell you more about not apologizing for your beliefs, but just stand up for what you believe, don't apologize, and if people have a problem with it, too bad. It's your life, you have the right to believe what you believe. They have the right to be upset, but you should never apologize. You're in the perfect right now..
Don't apologize. If they can't hear your side of the story without making assumptions or still be cool with you even though they have different opinions, that's their problem.
OP, I'm afraid you haven't given us enough information to make a sound moral judgment. We could judge based on purity, but not on morality, and purity judgments are indeed for assholes. Was this all the information you had?
To make a moral judgment, we'd have to know how she feels now. People can and do change over time: indeed, going from pro-choice to pro-life after having an abortion isn't all that uncommon. The woman at the center of Roe v. Wade did so herself. So for all we know, your ex may have realized the error of her ways (from your perspective), and if that were to be the case, then it would be grossly unfair to hold it against her.
So my questions are about the present, not the past. Does she still think she did nothing wrong (if, in fact, she ever thought that at all)?
I'm a guy and love to be dominated. I know this isn't looked upon highly in society. I don't like being mistreated irl and get angry pretty quick when people talk down to me in normal conversation, but alone I love being used and abused.
I want to find a girl that I can do this with, but it seems most women want to be dominated themselves. This leads to self-hatred on my part because if I could, I would love to be the alpha and be dominating, but it just simply isn't who I am. I've tried so many times and my dick just goes limp when I try. I don't know what to do. I had a gf who was dominating in a relationship once but that went to hell because she began dominating me outside the bedroom and it turned abusive really fast. I feel like I'm stuck in a shitty hole because I can't find a girl who just wants to keep things in the bedroom. I look at guys now to get off but I deep down want a girl who will dominate me in bed, but let me be in control in day-to-day life. It just sucks because this is hard to find and I can't let this come across when getting to know someone.
>>16987384
> she began dominating me outside the bedroom and it turned abusive really fast.
I just also want to make it clear, she abused me. She began hitting me every time we got into an argument and refused to ever listen to my opinion on anything. I felt like a piece of crap but I still loved her. Part of me still does for some weird reason, but it was very unhealthy and had to have my family intervene to help me get away. I don't want that to happen again.
>>16987384
Anon, I wish I could find a guy like you. Someone to treat as a peer in everyday life, someone who would let me be the most affectionate and caring and loving girlfriend, but that'd be fine with me being in charge in the bedroom. I meet either doormats or guys who want to dominate me.
I have no solutions for you, because I can't find him either.
But girls like me exist. I hope you find them. Good luck!
>>16987397
thanks! sorry if this seems like a hook-up thread because it's not, but do you have an email or something? I'd like to get to know you more because it seems like these kinds of people are rare. if not that's fine, but I'm interested.
>NEET
>Browse image boards all day
>Don't have any useful skills
>Don't have any friends
>Suffer from bouts of depression and social anxiety
>Can't drive
I feel like killing myself since I've been a worthless piece of shit for so long. Do I have any chance of escaping from this hell I've created for myself? How do I do it?
>>16987353
Do a bodyweight routine.
Learn to program.
Learn to write.
Learn to cook.
Go outside.
>>16987353
I was like that for years. I started lifting weights, reading 2-3 books a week, learning to programme, work as a freelance writer, learning Spanish.
In short: get skills and hobbies.
>>16987353
Just be yourself, bro.
Works for me.
