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So theres this girl that i like but its really complicated. So we met back in august and i told her i liked her in october but she says she doesnt wanna date me. thruout the months its been progressing and now it is to the point where we hug and kiss on a daily basis, call eachother honey, babe, love, sweetheart, say i love you every day, hang out alot, have 4 hour phone calls and she always sits on my lap everywhere. All our friends constantly ask us why were not dating and the response we always give is cuz its complicated. Just recently i asked her again why we werent dating...
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I was in this situation for like 2 years. I dated a girl for 3 years then we went on "break" but kept secretly seeing each other and fucking. Every time I asked her if we could be in a relationship again she would say no. Best advice I can give? GTFO. She will keep playing this game. She is manipulating you. Its not fair to you and this is a hard cycle to get out of. You sound young and I know fooling around is hard to break, but for your future and yourself you just gotta let go man.
OP back. See with her theres this cycle. She sits there leads me on then when i think i get somewhere i get slammed right back into the friendzone. There was a point where she started drama so i kinda backed out from talking to her and i only spoke to her when i could but then she said that she missed talking to me. >>16994020 i dont know weather to keep trying with her or to just drift away from her.
I love being with her and i kinda dont wanna leave her but on the same token i want whats best for me
>>16994043
Dont get wrapped around her finger OP. Sounds like she has some real issues and shes using you without having to commit. I was a lot like that and its a shitty feeling. Gotta be your own man, man. If shes leading you on this hard Id basically tell her to make a choice because you obviously cant stay like this forever.
This is a mindset that I am able to maintain. But it is often difficult at times. I can accept the fact that I'm stupid. I know I'm not a smart person. I get it. But it hurts sometimes when I see people and friends advancing through careers and just life, while they tell me and try to encourage me to do things. But I know I can't. I know the saying "you can be whatever you want to be" is a lie. I know it. You can try hard as you possibly can and continuously fail. Or maybe you're just not cut out for a certain task, even if it's something that...
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to add. I'm currently working a job making $54,000/yr. and I have $72,000 in savings. So yes, my job isn't total shit. But I do not enjoy it at all, and I don't have any advancement opportunities
No one can convince you of something that you have already decided to deny.
That said. I'm not here to convince you. I'm just here to state my opinion since you are clearly asking for it.
What is the one thing that causes most people to be unhappy? Want. Unhappy humans are those that are never satisfied. They rather focus on negatives than the many positives that fill their lifes.
Everyday, there is always something to be grateful for and, this, happy about.
A wise man once said, "Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn...
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>>16994009
I am thankful that I have a decent paying job, and I'm not having a terrible quality of life.
It's just difficult when you look up at the sky everyday and just watch airplanes take off and land. Wishing everyday I could be up there but can't because I'm not intelligent.
It just seems like it's easy for people to settle when they have a purpose, such as a wife and kids. Because all they care about them is providing.
But for someone like me, who will never have...
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I have some life issues I need avice one, if someone wants to give me some advice/help/lend an ear then feel free. I'll elaborate more if someone responds
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Here to listen and advise.
I'm listening
>>16993966
Me three
My bf just moved out the other day. I broke up with him because we were hurting each other, and suggested we try something new about a week ago. He didn't want to, suggested we try again in a year or two. I feel ill. This is the biggest mistake I've ever made and I want to throw up. I just want him back. He lives 2 hours away now. He may be open to visiting and staying the night about a month from now. How can I convince him to come back?
You ran from issues instead of facing them
All you can do now is tell him what you discovered and hope he wasn't looking to end it
>>16993620
>>16993563
>I broke up with him because we were hurting each other, and suggested we try something new about a week ago. He didn't want to, suggested we try again in a year or two.
i cant stop crying
I have to avoid church at all costs today, what can I do to achieve this? Give me your most shittest ideas,I will probably attempt it
>>16993543
How about you just don't go?
Step 1: Sit at home
Step 2: Unless you live in a church, success is yours
>>16993547
>>16993549
These. OP, are you forced to go or something? Kind of weird at 18+. I was forced, but I stopped being forced when I was 13 or so.
would someone please give me an exact formula to get a white girlfriend*?
it seems to be literally impossible.
*not white trash though. or a whore
The exact formula? For you anon, it involves drinking Drain-O.
Have fun.
Vote FN and get the attention of Marion by slaughtering some non français de souche.
Explain your situation, OP.
How do I confront my girlfriend on not being able to trust her? She's never cheated on me or anything, but I honestly feel like any day she'll just get up and tell me she wants someone else.
Now she
>Doesn't show affection anymore
>Every other thing seems like a putdown
>Says things that she knows will get a reaction out of me
>Says we have problems talking, doesn't try to talk
>Goes on about...
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Sorry to samefag, but it's strange. She's the kind of person who gets on my fucking nerves but I can't get over. I've been able to drop way less toxic people with no problem but she makes me feel different. It's been 4 years since we started dating, and there's never been any infidelity.
But goddamn, it is even possible to come back from that? We're both fucking stubborn, but if I confronted her would that even work out? And I mean work out well, I don't wanna be a fucking cuckold.
Self-bump of desperation.
>>16993393
>Doesn't show affection anymore
>Says things that she knows will get a reaction out of me
>When I try to talk about the relationship she just lets out a sigh and acts like I'm physically hurting her
These are some big-ass red flags anon, want to elaborate?
Long story short, my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me while he was completely drunk. I was 100% sober.
I asked him to look me in the eye and tell me that our relationship was something he longer wanted, that he longer wanted me and he did. When he sobered up a bit half a day later, he immediately regretted it and told me he still wants me. Deeply apologetic and kept saying that he made a mistake that we could move past.
This came out of nowhere for me. We don't fight and if we have problems, we discuss and try to fix them. This was my best relationship...
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Yes you should end it. Maybe next time look for a guy who doesn't drink :/
He was drunk. Let is slide once, but only once.
I never understand doing rational things like this when drinking. When Im wasted I never even consider making really really stupid or rash decisions. Then again, I only drink once a month. If hes an alcoholic Id consider either dumping him or trying to get him help if you really love him.
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Girls: what is your preferred name for male genitalia ex. penis, cock, dick, etc.?
>>16992985
The boloney pony.
Gf and I are both older virgins (22 23) and she's really tight. Like, one finger makes her eyes water.
This really really turns me on and I know honesty is the best policy but I'm not sure how to word this or should I just drop it because it'll send off too many creepy vibes. Honestly, I want to be super rough with her the first time even if it hurts her because when will I ever have another shot to beat up a virgin right? I want to tell her how turned on it makes me, how I've had dom/sub fantasies and 'let's agree on a safety word in case,...
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what is it about the modern world that has led to millions of hikkis, grass eaters, FAs etc? This is basically unprecedented in human history.
And why does it only effect women? There is no female counterpart to millions of lonely young men despite what white knights may claim.
Some members of male species are no longer entitled to be called men.
