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I'm 23 years old
For the first time in my life I'm seriously considering antidepressants and would just like to get some input.
I've been depressed for about 2-3 years now and severely depressed for around the last 6 months.
I can't relax, I can't focus, I don't enjoy doing any of the things I used to enjoy and I never look forward to things anymore.
I'm in great physical health, I run a lot and don't have many bad habits.
I never wanted to take antidepressants because I felt like it was a bad way...
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>>16990544
Usual disclaimer here
>Not in medical industry blah blah, so don't take this as profesional advice.
Anyways, I've had lexapro (SSRI anti-depressant), for me it just made me feel numb to the world. Anti-depressants don't solve your problem, they may help in the short term however.
For me, I came to the conclusion that - they werent helping, and it has been reported that the longer you take it, the harder it is to quit it (as soon as you start tapering off...
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>>16990544
its going to be a month before it will work you should just tell us why youre sad instead
Don't do it, these drugs are made to keep you buy more and they will make it harder for you to ever truly be free from depression challenge yourself, be it physically, mentally or both, find something you like doing, something you might nearly consider as fun in your depressed state and do that, become the best at it, and become better than that still. Achieving things is a great way to feel better. For me it was always martial arts, because there will always be a better fighter than you and it will always leave room for improvement, always something else I had to work...
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My medication just isn't working enough anymore. The pain continues to get worse and worse. The pain of who I am in this life is just swallowing me whole. I'm tired of struggling with my illness. I'm tired of being everyone (Including my boyfriend's) last resort. I'm tired of trying to initiate conversations with people and being treated as tool. I'm tired of always breaking down and crying. Why must I continue to stumble down this hole of despair and regret. Have I truly worked up bad karma in life to where I can't have the basic necessity...
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I can't give much advice here, I know depression and all that jazz can be shitty. But what else is shitty is that we have countless humans being guinea pigged around on different medications, dosages and other medications to counteract the side effect of their other medications. What you're describing is your medication not working, obviously and no more than that, and i'd find a new psychiatrist, therapy or new methods of coping. Plenty of people feel this way.
Once your psychiatrist gets the right mix and dosage of medications you'll feel much better.
Your brain chemistry is off. Your brain is working against you. Your psychiatrist is trying to fix this. It takes a bit of time, but once you have it, it's much easier to tweak when your brain chemistry shifts again.
You don't have to chin up. Just keep plodding forward. At some point, despite how you feel now, you'll be in a much better place.
>>16990366
I agree here. What I wish I had known when i started with therapy and psychiatry is that you don't always get the perfect fitting therapist and psychiatrist right off the bat.
You have to find one that is a personal fit for YOU.
Does this look like something that needs medical attention?
I have it at the back of both of my legs and it itches like satan's asshole sometimes.
>>16990118
What the hell is it?
Yep. Apply antihistamine cream in the meantime.
>>16990120
I have no idea. Been there for like two weeks now. It itches.
So I have a hairy back and shoulders and I want to get rid of it, I heard waxing it off is the best way to get rid of it long term but I have a few questions about waxing.
>Is it considered unmanly to wax?
>How bad does it hurt?
>How many times would you normally have to go there to get rid of it over and over?
>Is it expensive? Or better yet how much is it normally?
Also any general waxing advice is appreciated
I'd advise you to try waxing at home on your arms to see how you tolerate the pain, then if you're good to really look into your area on yelp/google to find the most reliable (clean, near, friendly) but most inexpensive. Overall it may not be as bad as $200. Also groupon it
>>16990143
holy shit 200? I was gonna guess like 50, damn man thats alot. Also idk about waxing my arms at home I dont want to fuck it up and make it look bad, what I do want is to trim it down alot since i am very hairy
>>16990115
>is it considered unmanly to wax
does it matter? i hate when people ask these stupid questions. groom yourself to whatever degree you deem necessary. it is a back after all you arent going to have guys lining up feeling it and saying 'ohhh do you wax anon? you're such a faggot, real men have back hair trolololol'
>how bad does it hurt
you know how sometimes ripping a bandaid or tape off your arm hurts. imagine that,...
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Quick question /adv/. I had a good group of friends (friends since like middle school). We had a falling out about 4 years ago. I was going through a lot of shit and was a big needy dick. I ran into one of them at a concert, and we decided we wanted to stay hanging out again. I've done a lot of changing over the years.
So far, I've may back up with and reconnected with 3 out of the four guys. We're all cool, it was like i never fucked up. Good shit.
Fast forward to tonight. They're all at a bar down the street, and they asked if i wanna go....
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What did you do 4 years ago?
>>16989972
it seems to me that they universally agreed you were the problem in the last circumstance. so if you had shown up and said 'thats his problem' or just gave that vibe, it would have just been selfish. you did something wrong, you know you did, and you cant expect everyone to forgive you just because the others did.
you did somethign wrong, so instead of just expecting forgiveness, reach out and try to make amends to him specifically, see what can happen.
what did you do by the way?
>>16989980
He let everyone fuck his (at the time) girlfriend regularly. She decided she liked me better. Shit was weird.
I guess i should just hang back when he is with them. That sucks. But ok.
/adv/, how do you make a girl become your sex slave willingly? Or failing that, how to get a BJ?
Social skills
>>16989735
It's more fun when they are not willing
I find that giving her 10 or so orgasms in a single session tends to work well.
More generally, the goal is to send her into subspace. But that's tough to pull off without using some form of BDSM, and if you were doing that then you wouldn't be asking this question. An epic string of orgasms is the next easiest.
/adv/, I am wondering about something:
Is Quadrosexuality a thing? I heard it from my friend and she said that it was-is it true?
And if it IS a thing, what is it?
/lgbt/ is not answering about this, so I need your help...
>>16989601
Does that mean you only are interested in quadrilaterals
Sounds like bullshit.
I don't know me and my friend got into this debate.
I never heard about it, so...
is being content with yourself without being in a relationship a real thing? are you happy by yourself or do you feel alone without a gf /adv/?
I'm not in a relationship and am completely satisfied with this arrangement, though I am admittedly somewhat excited about the prospect of dating once I start school again in the fall.
I've been single for 3 years (but I've been seeing girls off and on) but most of the time I've been alone. I've recently come to terms with being alone, like half a year ago. I think it comes from prioritizing other things in my life - like finding a new job and finding new things that make me happy. It's a lot easier. I am kind of seeing someone right now though, but I think being alone for so long has helped me gain clarity about myself so I can be a better person about dating.
You need to be perfectly content with yourself, before you can be with anyone else.
To those who have SOs or are seeing somebody, how did your meet your somebody?
>>16989496
We lived in the same dorm at university. We were friends for a little while, she chased me for a year while I chased someone else, and we eventually got together.
>Spoiler: We've been married for thirteen years and have two kids
>>16989515
I think that's so cool.
My ma and dad lived in the same tiny village in SE Asia and when I asked my ma how they met, she said it was inevitable that they would meet and eventually marry.
I on the other hand, I'm kind of seeing someone and I met this girl by chance at a concert while inebriated.
In line at the supermarket
I heard there must be something badly wrong with a woman if she can't even get anyone from tinder to meet her for coffee or a drink. I match with a fair amount of guys, I do small talk about whatever, but they never ask me out. On those occasions when I gather my courage and ask if they're free on the weekend, they don't respond. One guy messaged me actively for several days until I said I don't really use facebook, at which point he stopped.
I know it sounds ridiculous, but this is hurting my already low self-esteem. I installed tinder to meet new...
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Post a pic?
>>16989426
That's my profile pic. I'm bad at taking pictures, but I didn't think it's THAT ugly. But what do I know
>>16989434
you're pretty plain but you're white and normal looking with pretty eyes. you should be fine.
>Been dating my GF for a year
>We're both 21 and virgin
>Known each other since junior high
>She's never had a BF but in high school made out with several guys and had a friend with whom she discovered herself sexually (father she went was a titjob)
>Never did it because she wanted "feelings involved"
>Had a GF but was really shy and made very clear sex was off the table
>She never liked the idea of intimacy but she always tried to make it up
>Broke up when college started
>Stay single for a while and start dating this girl
>Expect that everything would be great since we've know each other for a long time
>Finally get a moment of privacy
>Try to get her in the mood
>She's told in the past about the thing she liked with other guys
>She really enjoys it
>She get to spend the night at my place
>Try to go further
>Always stops me
>Try talk to about it with her
>Says she's really into me but there's something that traumatized me
>Tells me that before we started dating she went to a friend's alone one day
>Got really drunk and wakes up naked or her friend's couch
>Panicked and went to the doctor to see if she was raped
>Turns out she wasn't
>Says that's the reason she can't stand the idea of having sex
>Feel like an asshole for trying to push her
>Time goes by and she starts avoiding intimacy with me
>Talk to her and says I'm trying to push her
>Explain that I don't feel like it but explain that she hasn't taken my needs or expectations into account at all
>Says she's sorry and we agree to take things slow but try to be more intimate
>Comes to my place
>We are having a good time watching a movie
>Go out three minutes to make popcorn
>She's asleep as a rock
>Don't say anything and go to sleep
>Remember the fact that before we started dating she felt very comfortable about her sexuality and also the things she's done with other guys and get angry
>Also remember the story she told me and feel like a dick for not being able to understand her situation
>Don't know what to do.
Your anger at her past experiences is understandable but not justified. I bet she would like to be that sexually open person again, too.
Having said that, wanting more intimacy IS very justified. I'd just bite the bullet and open up a conversation about it where you focus on at least wanting to make progress - if she can't do that by cuddling up more or kissing you spontaneously than by couple's counseling or individual counseling to help her get over this experience - for the relationship to withstand.
You're thinking way too much about your "needs and expectations".
That line right there exposes you as a huge asshole. I hope you didn't say that to her, especially after she opened up to you about an experience that left her feeling scarred.
If you're so caught up on your needs, than leave her and let her find another person that can actually understand her and support her, because you ain't cutting it dude.
>goes to male friend's house
>gets drunk
>expects that everything will be 100% platonic
>wakes up naked
>immediately assumes that she was raped
This is not a girl that you want in your life, OP. She makes bad decisions and then blames other people for them. Right now she is blaming you.
So I recently inherited $3,000,000 and my gf of six months has no clue. I am planning to quit my job and live off the interest while pursuing artistic stuff. When should I tell my girlfriend about my wealth?
>>16988681
I don't believe you. What elaborate story are you going to tell me to convince me? And maybe, JUST MAYBE, I'll actually consider believing you.
>>16988681
never, never ever never no!
>>16988695
Why should you not believe him???
I swear to God
Can true platonic friendship between men & women even exist?
>have huge crush on handsome guy
>become friends with his friends to get closer to him
>get to know him better, still have feelings for him, but assume I have no chance, being content with just being friends
>everyone assumes we're dating, people joke about us getting married
>had a falling out with his friends, so it's just the 2 of us "hanging...
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>>16988624
Yes, a true platonic friendship can exist, but that's clearly not what you want. You're into him, it just sounds like he's into you.
For a mutual friendship to exist, one of the other side needs to not want to fuck.
Anyways, why don't you just tell him how you feel?
>>16988624
>Can true platonic friendship between men & women even exist?
This retarded fucking question again? At this point you're just trolling or attention whoring, no one fucking cares, cunt.
Yes, it can.
My best friend -- who has been my best friend since at least 2012 -- is a woman. And I am a man. And we have never tried to bring it past that.
Neither one of us is gay, either.
Why is getting a bf so easy but a gf is so hard?
Because instead of going out and getting one you post this thread every day.
is that pic really how /r9k/ views the world?
>>16988019
Single motherhood is the cause of all autism in this world . It is no surprise that they have no clue how women work or think when their own mom couldn't keep a relationship , teach them male values (or make their daughters sluts for cock since no father figure like their mom), that they have this view that women are some sort of Pandora's box , and depending on how much of an asshole the mom was , wicked .
Hey Women,
Im 6' and weigh about 195 right now. Im pretty muscular though but I look like Im bulking because I am. Not fat, just not visible abs. Im considering cutting right now as fast as possible and going for the slim look. If I did Id have a body similar to pic related, except 4 inches taller.
>>16987804
What's your question?
Was finding the pic for the second part.
The reason why Im bulking and havent already cut down to like 175lb is because Ive been trying to achieve this guys current body. Which at my height requires a fair amount of time bulking.
So my question is, is it better to have the body in the OP or this one. Im 25yr right now and had a skinnier version of OP in college and it faired pretty well, but not sure if the same body type would work at my current age.
>>16987823
I do think this is shooped or altered in some way, dem abs dont seem natural to be honest
However, that hair is god-tier
