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She said she just wants to be friends, FOR NOW. What the fuck do I even do? It's just awkward and weleave for college in August. Is there even a point? This is my second jejection this year, I've never even touched a girl's hand
Ditch her and move on to new pussy
>>16987528
And what is so terrible about having a friend who is a girl?
>>16987528
Nah she'll never get with you. Girls know right away if they wanna be with a guy or be friends with a guy. She's prob just trying to spare your feelings because she likes you - sorry
Eight people asked me why I was single at a party tonight. Not one. Not two. Eight. I also had to listen to my friends girlfriend rant for twenty about how me being single for three years is "a waste".
Why do people, especially chicks, think this is their business? How am I even meant to react to their questioning?
They're asking because they want your nuts
>>16987491
My buddy's girl wants my but now? Yeah right.
>>16987522
Well, maybe not HER, but chances are that at least some of them do.
But the biggest reason is that you don't fit their image of a single man at your age, and that makes them curious. One could argue that saying you aren't an unfuckable /r9k/-tier creeper is not much of a compliment, but they likely mean it as a compliment nonetheless.
Hi I guess I just don't know where to go to find answers for my particular problem. Since I was a small child (roughly 6 or 7) I've had a 'condition' where I feel like I'm not 'real' sometimes. It's a very hard feeling to explain but I'll do my best. I'd describe it as when you're watching a marathon of a tv series for hours then you snap out of it and remember that it's just a show, but in my scenario i get a sudden feeling that everything I've ever known is not real and that I'm entirely alone in the universe spiritually. Physical effects are that I get tunnel vision, I can't feel my skin and and I can hardly breathe. I've tried to look into it myself and found that something called 'dissociative disorder' sounds similar, but It says that it's very unlikely to have it from such a young age. A little bit about myself, I'm a 16 year old Australian girl. I'm a very big on music and art (attached image is one of my works from when I was 15). My parents both suffer from severe mental problems, my mother being bipolar and very hormonally imbalanced and my father basically being a broken man from an extremely abusive childhood. They were never abusive but I did witness a lot of horrific fighting between them as a child and it may have contributed to my issue. I can't sleep without light and music or the feeling hits me like a bus. Even during the light hours, I can't physically go more than 30 seconds without the feeling coming if I'm in complete silence. It basically plagues my life and I have never sought help for it until now because I felt that people wouldn't understand and didn't want to be like my parents. Sorry if this is long but I'm desparetly looking for answers and maybe a way to stop it. if you guys have had any similar expirences or some wisdom to share id be very appreciative. Thank you
You're going to need professional help for this one. Amateur advice like "sleep with a light on" is all stuff you're already doing or stuff that won't fix anything
>>16987253
see a therapist, you sound majorly fucked up and probably wont be able to fix it on your own. there's no shame in seeking help.
Yeah I agree with you about the professional help but I'm rather scared to for some reason. I think it's because I've always just kind of lived with if my whole life. It honestly didn't hit me until kind of recently that not everyone expirences it. I know there's probably not anyone on here that can give me actual advice but if someone has similar expirences that'd be great so I don't feel so alone in my situation
try to include enough context for me to give a sensible answer
I've got a few hours
also fuck newmoot, this google+ layout burns
>>16986210
Girl and guy like each other
Girl and guys make eye contact
Girl and guy try to talk to each other by doing things like leave class at the same time, or walking close to each other
Girl and guy tell themselves they will talk the next day for sure
Girl and guy never talk to each other
Girl and Guy wasted their time and lost "the one".
I've got a solid girlfriend who's sweet and awesome, but I have the oppertunity to go across the state(California) for college.(I'm going from a community college to a four year, so I'm 20 atm).
If I go she said we have to break up. What should I do? I'm literally at the biggest crossroad and decision of my life
I have a gigantic crush on a guy. I want to talk to him all the time but I don't want to be annoying. Should I text him or leave him alone? Most of the time he initiates it but I don't want to be seen as thirsty, clingy, creepy or weird.
You better start texting him a bit too. If he's the one texting you all the time, there will come a time where if he has any interest in you, it will probably go away. You need to show interest, but not too much. Just act normal.
>>16988835
How should I start it off? I'm completely retarded at this stuff.
>>16988867
>Hey, Whats up?
>What are you up?
You two seem to be close enough as to just say hi to each other and start talking. Don't over think it. Just talk.
And general rule of thumb, Don't text him more than once. If he takes a bit to respond, let him do it when he gets to it.
>Get social security because my father is dead
>Ever since I was tiny my mom stole every bit of it
>Recently got fed up with her fucking shit and told her to split the check with me because she spends the entire $680 dollars in one night, leaving me with jack fucking shit to actually spend. If I forgot to buy something as soon as the check gets on the card (10:00 PM and the day before it comes) it will all be gone within in a few hours.
>Mom agrees to split the check with me for now on. This agreement was set last month.
>Day the money gets here
>Mom splits the check
>"Hey it's finally nice to have my own money at hand. Imma buy my self something nice, as well as a nice coat since I need a new one" I think to my self
>Have around 180 dollars left, planned on saving it for gf's birthday coming up on April 10th
>Also wanted to save it so next month I'll have even more money on me.
>Literally the next day mom spends all her portion of the money and asks if she can have 20
>I say sure and give her the benefit of the doubt
>She takes more than $20, ends up leaving me with 38 dollars.
>Confront her
>She says "I'LL PAY YOU BACK"
>Say okay and that I need the money by April 2nd because that's when I'm going shopping
>I don't spend the remaining amount, save it for gf
>Mom steals card from my wallet and spends more money
>Leaves me with $11
>Says she took money "so she could get a job" (actual and literal quote. I have no clue what the fuck she meant)
>At some point she steals card again and leaves me with $8 (This happened today. I checked the balanced when I woke up)
>Yesterday she gave me twenty bucks. Said "i'll get you the rest tomorrow"
>Be today
>Ignoring my calls and texts and just recently turned off her phone.
>Today is the day I'm going shopping
What the fuck can I do? I'm tired of this shit happening.
>>16988506
Why the fuck do you split money with your mother anyway?
It's hard to tell the entire context here, but this is a short-term issue at the worst. If you don't have a job and aren't making your own money then you can't really afford to be buying your gf expensive presents anyways - a token present should be fine.
The longer term issue of course, is not being financially independent. Your mom sounds like she's struggling mightily - be it her own fault or not, I don't know. But squabbling over the scraps of social security isn't really beneficial to either you or your mom.
Why don't you have a job yourself? What's your plan to become financially secure in your future? These are more important than getting your mom to pay back the couple hundred or whatever, which she in all likelihood is spending to pay your housing/food bills, etc.
>>16988506
serious question, why did you leave your card in your wallet after the first time?
Wouldn't you be mildly inclined to hide it after it was stolen the first time?
A short summation of this thread: Should I cheat on a girl I am very much in love with, purely for sex because I have little chance of getting caught:
> For the past 5 years I have been putting on sex shows for a paying client with some really good looking girls - He'd be paying a good few hundred $ per session.
> Following a relationship I got in to just over a year ago, I have ceased these meets, but we still talk occasionally about them.
> Very tempted to do them again but have NOT DONE THEM SINCE GIVING THE MEETINGS UP, as the girls were amazingly good looking, the sex was amazing and the fact is I have little to no chance of getting caught.
REASONS:
> He works for a high end job in politics, which would look bad if he was caught doing this; professionally and for his family, so in terms of snitching on me, should he fall out with me, it is not worth it on his behalf.
> He picks me up from a secluded car park a short walk from my place, I don't know too many people in the area, and my girlfriend lives way out of town, doesn't drive - so she doesn't just "stop by to say hello".
> I only ever go for girls who use protection with ALL their clients. High class working girls, no streetwalking crack whores.
> No chance of emotional attachment, as may occur with the usual "bit on the side".
My girlfriend:
> Beautiful girl; pretty face, perfect ass and hips, just everything I'd want physically.
> Sweet personality, clever, imaginative; always coming up with cool ideas for dates.
> Sex is amazing.
> She is a great cook, in fact she is the best I know and makes me awesome food.
> Training buddy at the gym.
> We both are in love and see each other as long-term investments.
> Get on with all her friends and family; her mum likes me as I seem to have given her a new confidence since her last relationship to someone who made her feel bad about herself.
Cont.
The thing is, I am tempted, but I am frightened if I do this I will feel an unshakeable guilt that will hound me. I could very well do this and she would never find out, but I would know.
And IF she was to find out, I would throw away the best relationship I have ever had, I'd feel that I'd let her friend and family down, my family and friends who think she is great, and make a lot of mutual friends think I am a fucking douche.
See this as you have a high velocity rifle that you have to fire straight upward before letting the bullet hit the ground, and you get $50 each time you do this. However there is that one time the bullet may come down in exactly the wrong place and go through your head.
I know I have an amazing girl, but this crazy, amazing deal I've always been used to is tempting me. You can see why? What would you do in this situation?
Some days I feel bad about this (like now), and some days I really want to do it.
Tldr. Just kys you manwhore, you obviously have no respect for your self or the people around you.
>>16988587
Like I said, I have not actually done this. The temptation is killing me, but so is the thought of going through with it.
I know I am a manwhore. I have always been hypersexual.
I dunno man, I am confused...
I am at university and am studying a fairly 'girl-centric' subject. Good looking girls are a fairly common sight in my everyday life.
But for some reason non of them are memorable to me.
I constantly hang around with guy friends who talk about the hot chicks in our course.
Many of the girls are indeed (very) good looking and/or bangable.
Yet to me they seem very samey...
>This has gotten so bad that I have genuine problems remembering girls' faces and names, even for ones i see daily.
I have been looking for a girl friend for quite some time. But I hardly ever meet any girls I feel a connection to / find even mildly interesting.
I am not looking for some hyper edgy chick, just somebody who can hold my genuine interest for more than a few minutes.
Looking back, I have only had the feeling 'of genuine interest' (not even chemistry) about 5 times in my entire life.
This is really somewhat confusing, as I am in the age to actually have a gf.
When I talk for close friends about this, they mostly don't get what I mean or shrug it off.
>I'll meet somebody some day.
Family is sometimes joking about whether I am actually gay.
>Which I surely am not.
>>16988464
>I am at university
Not a good sign.
>But for some reason non of them are memorable to me.
It's only natural. You live in a society that thinks vomiting after drinking your ass off is a good thing, and success is measured in likes, and girls are fairly way more fragile to those aspects.
Don't bother with having a gf; rushing to find those things never lead to good shit anyway.
OK first of all, you seem to have the /r9gay/ disease of "I refuse to recognise and treat other women as individual human beings". You literally outlined in your OP post about how you are objectifying women, and since you do not have an urgent need to utilise said women-objects, you write them off mentally. You know, walking down a grocery store aisle, I do take note that all the cereals are beautifully packaged and flavoured, then I cannot even remember which cereal boxes I saw if I didn't need cereal either.
Except these people are your classmates and people you will be working together with throughout your uni life, not fucking boxes of cereal.
Only redpill autists would say something along the lines of 'if there's no fucking afoot, I'll cut contact'. You've literally put yourself in a socially stunted situation where you've shut yourself out of 50% of the global population, and possibly an even higher percentage applicable within your course.
Go out, introduce yourself, make friends with these people who happen to have attractive physical features. When you recognise them and accept them as individuals, the names will come to you naturally. Stop reading into bullshit about "friendzoning" and how women are something to be obtained.
>>16988464
Honestly, you sound boring as fuck OP. What the fuck can you bring to the table to get a girl? What's so interesting about you? Are you just gonna complain on 4chan boards all day or do something interesting to get someone to notice you?
>just somebody who can hold my genuine interest for more than a few minutes
It's gonna be a whole lifetime with someone. Pull your head out of your ass and be the change you want to be. Clean up yourself, take a shower, get the fuck off these boards, and do something interesting with your life for YOU. Someone is bound to find that attractive.
How do I stick to a diet ?
I want to quit being a lard ass but damn food is amazing and I usually end up quitting a week or so in .
Find one or two foods which fit into your diet that you absolutely love. Then eat them basically nonstop until you grow totally sick of them. It'll take a lot longer than a week for that to happen.
Eat smaller portions in general (but eat more frequently with healthier foods) and don't stop eating your favourite high-calorie foods entirely. Just cut down on them, eat less of them at a time, and less often during the week. Drink plenty of water. Should also pair diet with exercise for best results.
>>16987977
Seems counter intuitive . I want to lose weight . Plus I think I'll just find alternative foods . Also if I'm fat doesn't that Mean I love munching down anyway
before i got with my boyfriend, i was fairly care-free and happy and positive.
but he has such negative thinking patterns and such depressing thoughts. he's just expressing himself, and he didn't exactly do anything wrong but confide in me with his thoughts and feelings...but it's starting to affect me as well, and i feel a lot less happier than before. he's always been like this, but he has gotten better since we started dating.
it's hard to listen to someone complain about something every other day or talk about their life like it's hopelessly beyond help though. also, he has some very bad luck which makes things harder for him.
he is so loving and kind and considerate of me though, and not exactly a bad boyfriend otherwise. i'm not sure what to do. i'm doing my best to stay positive but i found myself falling into negative thinking a lot more than before. on top of this, i noticed some weight gain, which is unusual for me... i guess i've started to eat a lot more out of stress.
i don't even know how to approach this to him. i've touched on the topic before, but he seemed to withdraw into himself more.
what should i do?
how thick are you?
His life is his responsibility. Your life is your responsibility. Start taking care of yourself because no one else is going to. Maybe in turn he'll learn by example and stop dumping his stress onto you.
You're not being a good girlfriend by keeping quiet. You're just being an idiot.
>>16987839
Emotional care, validation and gratification are part of a healthy relationship. You act immature. Don't forget that what he feels is not necessarily exactly as much of a problem as the real issue is, and it's probably not that bad. He is just sharing.
I work at McDonald's and the manager keeps changing my schedule while I'm not there, not notifying me of this, and writing me up because I don't come in.
If I get one more write-up I'm fired, and whenever I call they tell me they're not allowed to give out schedules over the phone, and the schedule is a confidential piece of information that cannot be copied on paper or given to anyone outside of the store.
Lately I have just been going to the store and asking to see the schedule in person, but this is wasting a lot of fuel for my car and taking up a lot of my time that I would be studying for my college classes.
What should I do? I have actively been trying to find a new job for over a month but nobody will even give me an interview, and if they will they don't want to work around my class schedule.
talk to your union rep about this, it should be in the contract that they need to notify you by phone of any schedule changes
Take out your phone and photograph the schedule.
They're obviously trying to drive you out, but there's not much you can do about that.
>>16987838
We don't have a union.
>>16987842
But if I get caught taking a photo of the schedule I'll be insta-fired. I don't know if I want to take the chance. I'm really hard-pressed for money and can't find another job.
If women orgasm during rape, does that orgasm grant consent? Does that orgasm mean anything? Why?
No because the orgasm may be involuntary. It is out of the realm of consent.
>>16987704
All women want to be raped
by someone attractive
>>16987709
>orgasm
>involuntary
lol @ liberals and feminists
Have you ever slapped your gf/bf?
My gf used to do it. I wanted to fucking kill her. That's why we broke up.
I know I'm a calm but irritable person, but was what she used to do justified?
Depends what you did. It's entirely possible you deserved it.
>>16987708
I just can say I never comitted infidelity nor made her jealous. I never treated her like shit too. What most could I do?
>>16987714
Really OP, tell us why she slapped you. If you didn't deserve it you have nothing to hide.
So a friend of mine (smokes weed, drinks, done acid 4 times, never done ecstacy before this) recently got a hold of some ecstacy which he claimed was mixed with acid (and by acid I don't necessarily mean 'real' acid, since people claim it's very rare nowadays), and at first I thought it was bullshit. But then he tried it (1 pill, red/pinkish with a skull), and it was pretty much exactly like an acid trip, plus some effects that where just like what he had heard about ecstacy/mdma. Like the same feeling and visual stuff as acid, plus the feeling of absolute bliss and really long orgasm, and the jaw stuff (mild case) and post-trip sadness (also mild case, just felt a little empty)he had read about ecstacy. The thing is though, it only lasted about 1 hour, which is really weird, His pupils were huge for a really long time just like acid, but the effects were pretty much gone after 2 hours which isn't normal
And I've gotten no google results of what kind of ecstacy this is, or even any results about acid mixed with ecstacy in one pill. Does anyone know what this could be, and how would the tolerance/seratonin-level work in this case? His rule with acid was 1 month apart, and i've read people have a similar space between ecstacy sessions, but since this trip only lasts 1 hour, would it be ok to have like 2 week space instead? I mean his seratonin wouldn't get as low as in usual ecstacy-trips since it's several hours shorter, right?
He actually did do it once again the day after, and it was great but not as great, and decided he would wait for some time before he did it again.
But is there any point in waiting more than two weeks since it only lasts one hour, and the negative effects were mild in comparison to regular 4-8 hour ecstacy? I've heard of people getting depressed for weeks after doing ecstacy, for him it was only slight sadness for a day. Also it last weekend he did it, saturday and sunday
>>16987366
Seems like a lot of work for a trip you can only enjoy at most every two weeks.
>>16987370
What work
Did you read the post?
> ecstacy which he claimed was mixed with acid
Are you fucking 14? Sounds like a great way to fry your brain the first try.
Do not try modern club drugs. Firstly because they make you act like an asshole, and you're the only one that doesn't notice or care (other than the other idiots tripping face). Secondly, a lot of people are selling research chemicals as "ecstasy" or "acid" which are really 2-c derivatives. Those will almost certainly damage your mind, it's happened to more than one of my friends.
Hey /adv/.. I'm sad. I'm really upset over the relationship that I am in.
I think a major part of it is my expectations of what a relationship should be.
Okay so. I'm a very physical person. I love to flirt, cuddle, sexually tease, and have sex with the person I am with.
Here's the issue. He is not all that physical. He definitely likes me a lot. I can tell. But, recently I've been wondering if he just wants to be friends or if we are actually a couple?
I mean, we just started dating, it has been about 3 months and I feel like it should be exciting and playful and fun and sexual.
But, he gets really emotional and I'm there to support him. However, there is nothing that makes my feet colder than having to talk about my past. Makes me want to just drop everything and run.
"I don't know anything about you, Anonina."
Fuck. Like.. i tried to talk to him about my past and then he talks over me about his and I never get to finish. What the fuck? I'm trying so hard. But, i feel the most connected when we are close and focused on one another. I've never cried in front of him, mainly because I feel uncomfortable crying.
I have a lot of feelings for him. He is always on my mind and I'm always thinking about the great times we have had together. So many in such a short time.
I also feel like porn has something to do with it. I watch porn everyday, pretty much. But, i never do it to the point where i can't get off to a real person.
Am I doing something wrong?
Should I keep on working on it or end it?
I'm really conflicted, rn.
>>16987290
> i tried to talk to him about my past and then he talks over me about his and I never get to finish.
my boyfriend is the same way wtf lol. he's also very emotional and says the same shit about how he doesn't know much about me. (meanwhile, he's more than happy to talk everything about him...) also, we don't have sex very often, but that's mostly a medical issue on his part. still makes me feel like shit sometimes but it's not something he can help.
honestly op, i've been with my boyfriend for 11 months now and i feel like bailing everyday. but the only reason why i haven't yet, is because i'm very busy building my career, so getting in and out of relationships is kind of the last thing i need right now. my boyfriend is something i'm just "dealing with" until everything settles down.
it's nice how he tells me he loves me every day though. we've also shared a lot of wonderful memories together, so it's harder to let go. but it's a pretty unsatisfying relationship. it's a relationship mostly about his feelings and his needs... i don't even get sex out of this.
i'm not really happy. but i'm not super miserable either. but maybe i can be an insight for what your future with your boyfriend might be like. 3 months isn't very long. so if i were you, i'd bail before you develop any further feelings.
>>16987321
You are an evil women. I hope you burn in gem for using your bf like that
>>16987341
*burn in hell
