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She said she just wants to be friends, FOR NOW. What the fuck do I even do? It's just awkward and weleave for college in August. Is there even a point? This is my second jejection this year, I've never even touched a girl's hand
Ditch her and move on to new pussy
>>16987528
And what is so terrible about having a friend who is a girl?
>>16987528
Nah she'll never get with you. Girls know right away if they wanna be with a guy or be friends with a guy. She's prob just trying to spare your feelings because she likes you - sorry
Eight people asked me why I was single at a party tonight. Not one. Not two. Eight. I also had to listen to my friends girlfriend rant for twenty about how me being single for three years is "a waste".
Why do people, especially chicks, think this is their business? How am I even meant to react to their questioning?
They're asking because they want your nuts
>>16987491
My buddy's girl wants my but now? Yeah right.
>>16987522
Well, maybe not HER, but chances are that at least some of them do.
But the biggest reason is that you don't fit their image of a single man at your age, and that makes them curious. One could argue that saying you aren't an unfuckable /r9k/-tier creeper is not much of a compliment, but they likely mean it as a compliment nonetheless.
Hi I guess I just don't know where to go to find answers for my particular problem. Since I was a small child (roughly 6 or 7) I've had a 'condition' where I feel like I'm not 'real' sometimes. It's a very hard feeling to explain but I'll do my best. I'd describe it as when you're watching a marathon of a tv series for hours then you snap out of it and remember that it's just a show, but in my scenario i get a sudden feeling that everything I've ever known is not real and that I'm entirely alone in the universe...
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You're going to need professional help for this one. Amateur advice like "sleep with a light on" is all stuff you're already doing or stuff that won't fix anything
>>16987253
see a therapist, you sound majorly fucked up and probably wont be able to fix it on your own. there's no shame in seeking help.
Yeah I agree with you about the professional help but I'm rather scared to for some reason. I think it's because I've always just kind of lived with if my whole life. It honestly didn't hit me until kind of recently that not everyone expirences it. I know there's probably not anyone on here that can give me actual advice but if someone has similar expirences that'd be great so I don't feel so alone in my situation
try to include enough context for me to give a sensible answer
I've got a few hours
also fuck newmoot, this google+ layout burns
>>16986210
Girl and guy like each other
Girl and guys make eye contact
Girl and guy try to talk to each other by doing things like leave class at the same time, or walking close to each other
Girl and guy tell themselves they will talk the next day for sure
Girl and guy never talk to each other
Girl and Guy wasted their time and lost "the one".
I've got a solid girlfriend who's sweet and awesome, but I have the oppertunity to go across the state(California) for college.(I'm going from a community college to a four year, so I'm 20 atm).
If I go she said we have to break up. What should I do? I'm literally at the biggest crossroad and decision of my life
I have a gigantic crush on a guy. I want to talk to him all the time but I don't want to be annoying. Should I text him or leave him alone? Most of the time he initiates it but I don't want to be seen as thirsty, clingy, creepy or weird.
You better start texting him a bit too. If he's the one texting you all the time, there will come a time where if he has any interest in you, it will probably go away. You need to show interest, but not too much. Just act normal.
>>16988835
How should I start it off? I'm completely retarded at this stuff.
>>16988867
>Hey, Whats up?
>What are you up?
You two seem to be close enough as to just say hi to each other and start talking. Don't over think it. Just talk.
And general rule of thumb, Don't text him more than once. If he takes a bit to respond, let him do it when he gets to it.
>Get social security because my father is dead
>Ever since I was tiny my mom stole every bit of it
>Recently got fed up with her fucking shit and told her to split the check with me because she spends the entire $680 dollars in one night, leaving me with jack fucking shit to actually spend. If I forgot to buy something as soon as the check gets on the card (10:00 PM and the day before it comes) it will all be gone within in a few hours.
>Mom agrees to split...
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>>16988506
Why the fuck do you split money with your mother anyway?
It's hard to tell the entire context here, but this is a short-term issue at the worst. If you don't have a job and aren't making your own money then you can't really afford to be buying your gf expensive presents anyways - a token present should be fine.
The longer term issue of course, is not being financially independent. Your mom sounds like she's struggling mightily - be it her own fault or not, I don't know. But squabbling over the scraps of social security isn't really beneficial to either you or your mom.
Why don't...
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>>16988506
serious question, why did you leave your card in your wallet after the first time?
Wouldn't you be mildly inclined to hide it after it was stolen the first time?
A short summation of this thread: Should I cheat on a girl I am very much in love with, purely for sex because I have little chance of getting caught:
> For the past 5 years I have been putting on sex shows for a paying client with some really good looking girls - He'd be paying a good few hundred $ per session.
> Following a relationship I got in to just over a year ago, I have ceased these meets, but we still talk occasionally about them.
> Very tempted to do them again but...
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The thing is, I am tempted, but I am frightened if I do this I will feel an unshakeable guilt that will hound me. I could very well do this and she would never find out, but I would know.
And IF she was to find out, I would throw away the best relationship I have ever had, I'd feel that I'd let her friend and family down, my family and friends who think she is great, and make a lot of mutual friends think I am a fucking douche.
See this as you have a high velocity rifle that you have to fire straight upward before letting the bullet hit the ground, and...
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Tldr. Just kys you manwhore, you obviously have no respect for your self or the people around you.
>>16988587
Like I said, I have not actually done this. The temptation is killing me, but so is the thought of going through with it.
I know I am a manwhore. I have always been hypersexual.
I dunno man, I am confused...
I am at university and am studying a fairly 'girl-centric' subject. Good looking girls are a fairly common sight in my everyday life.
But for some reason non of them are memorable to me.
I constantly hang around with guy friends who talk about the hot chicks in our course.
Many of the girls are indeed (very) good looking and/or bangable.
Yet to me they seem very samey...
>This has gotten so bad that I have genuine problems remembering girls' faces and names, even for ones i see daily.
I have been looking...
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>>16988464
>I am at university
Not a good sign.
>But for some reason non of them are memorable to me.
It's only natural. You live in a society that thinks vomiting after drinking your ass off is a good thing, and success is measured in likes, and girls are fairly way more fragile to those aspects.
Don't bother with having a gf; rushing to find those things never lead to good shit anyway.
OK first of all, you seem to have the /r9gay/ disease of "I refuse to recognise and treat other women as individual human beings". You literally outlined in your OP post about how you are objectifying women, and since you do not have an urgent need to utilise said women-objects, you write them off mentally. You know, walking down a grocery store aisle, I do take note that all the cereals are beautifully packaged and flavoured, then I cannot even remember which cereal boxes I saw if I didn't need cereal either.
Except these people are your classmates and...
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>>16988464
Honestly, you sound boring as fuck OP. What the fuck can you bring to the table to get a girl? What's so interesting about you? Are you just gonna complain on 4chan boards all day or do something interesting to get someone to notice you?
>just somebody who can hold my genuine interest for more than a few minutes
It's gonna be a whole lifetime with someone. Pull your head out of your ass and be the change you want to be. Clean up yourself, take a shower, get the fuck off these boards, and do something interesting with your life for YOU. Someone is bound to find that attractive.
How do I stick to a diet ?
I want to quit being a lard ass but damn food is amazing and I usually end up quitting a week or so in .
Find one or two foods which fit into your diet that you absolutely love. Then eat them basically nonstop until you grow totally sick of them. It'll take a lot longer than a week for that to happen.
Eat smaller portions in general (but eat more frequently with healthier foods) and don't stop eating your favourite high-calorie foods entirely. Just cut down on them, eat less of them at a time, and less often during the week. Drink plenty of water. Should also pair diet with exercise for best results.
>>16987977
Seems counter intuitive . I want to lose weight . Plus I think I'll just find alternative foods . Also if I'm fat doesn't that Mean I love munching down anyway
before i got with my boyfriend, i was fairly care-free and happy and positive.
but he has such negative thinking patterns and such depressing thoughts. he's just expressing himself, and he didn't exactly do anything wrong but confide in me with his thoughts and feelings...but it's starting to affect me as well, and i feel a lot less happier than before. he's always been like this, but he has gotten better since we started dating.
it's hard to listen to someone complain about something every other day or talk about their life like it's...
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how thick are you?
His life is his responsibility. Your life is your responsibility. Start taking care of yourself because no one else is going to. Maybe in turn he'll learn by example and stop dumping his stress onto you.
You're not being a good girlfriend by keeping quiet. You're just being an idiot.
>>16987839
Emotional care, validation and gratification are part of a healthy relationship. You act immature. Don't forget that what he feels is not necessarily exactly as much of a problem as the real issue is, and it's probably not that bad. He is just sharing.
I work at McDonald's and the manager keeps changing my schedule while I'm not there, not notifying me of this, and writing me up because I don't come in.
If I get one more write-up I'm fired, and whenever I call they tell me they're not allowed to give out schedules over the phone, and the schedule is a confidential piece of information that cannot be copied on paper or given to anyone outside of the store.
Lately I have just been going to the store and asking to see the schedule in person, but this is wasting a lot of fuel for my car and...
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talk to your union rep about this, it should be in the contract that they need to notify you by phone of any schedule changes
Take out your phone and photograph the schedule.
They're obviously trying to drive you out, but there's not much you can do about that.
>>16987838
We don't have a union.
>>16987842
But if I get caught taking a photo of the schedule I'll be insta-fired. I don't know if I want to take the chance. I'm really hard-pressed for money and can't find another job.
If women orgasm during rape, does that orgasm grant consent? Does that orgasm mean anything? Why?
No because the orgasm may be involuntary. It is out of the realm of consent.
>>16987704
All women want to be raped
by someone attractive
>>16987709
>orgasm
>involuntary
lol @ liberals and feminists
Have you ever slapped your gf/bf?
My gf used to do it. I wanted to fucking kill her. That's why we broke up.
I know I'm a calm but irritable person, but was what she used to do justified?
Depends what you did. It's entirely possible you deserved it.
>>16987708
I just can say I never comitted infidelity nor made her jealous. I never treated her like shit too. What most could I do?
>>16987714
Really OP, tell us why she slapped you. If you didn't deserve it you have nothing to hide.
So a friend of mine (smokes weed, drinks, done acid 4 times, never done ecstacy before this) recently got a hold of some ecstacy which he claimed was mixed with acid (and by acid I don't necessarily mean 'real' acid, since people claim it's very rare nowadays), and at first I thought it was bullshit. But then he tried it (1 pill, red/pinkish with a skull), and it was pretty much exactly like an acid trip, plus some effects that where just like what he had heard about ecstacy/mdma. Like the same feeling and visual stuff as acid, plus the feeling of absolute...
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>>16987366
Seems like a lot of work for a trip you can only enjoy at most every two weeks.
>>16987370
What work
Did you read the post?
> ecstacy which he claimed was mixed with acid
Are you fucking 14? Sounds like a great way to fry your brain the first try.
Do not try modern club drugs. Firstly because they make you act like an asshole, and you're the only one that doesn't notice or care (other than the other idiots tripping face). Secondly, a lot of people are selling research chemicals as "ecstasy" or "acid" which are really 2-c derivatives. Those will almost certainly damage your mind, it's happened to more than one of my friends.
Hey /adv/.. I'm sad. I'm really upset over the relationship that I am in.
I think a major part of it is my expectations of what a relationship should be.
Okay so. I'm a very physical person. I love to flirt, cuddle, sexually tease, and have sex with the person I am with.
Here's the issue. He is not all that physical. He definitely likes me a lot. I can tell. But, recently I've been wondering if he just wants to be friends or if we are actually a couple?
I mean, we just started dating, it has been about 3 months and I feel like it should be exciting and playful and fun and sexual.
But, he gets really emotional and I'm there to support him. However, there is nothing that makes my feet colder than having to talk about my past. Makes me want to just drop everything and run.
"I don't know anything about you, Anonina."
Fuck. Like.. i tried to talk to him about my past and then he talks over me about his and I never get to finish. What the fuck? I'm trying so hard. But, i feel the most connected when we are close and focused on one another. I've never cried in front of him, mainly because I feel uncomfortable crying.
I have a lot of feelings for him. He is always on my mind and I'm always thinking about the great times we have had together. So many in such a short time.
I also feel like porn has something to do with it. I watch porn everyday, pretty much. But, i never do it to the point where i can't get off to a real person.
Am I doing something wrong?
Should I keep on working on it or end it?
I'm really conflicted, rn.
>>16987290
> i tried to talk to him about my past and then he talks over me about his and I never get to finish.
my boyfriend is the same way wtf lol. he's also very emotional and says the same shit about how he doesn't know much about me. (meanwhile, he's more than happy to talk everything about him...) also, we don't have sex very often, but that's mostly a medical issue on his part. still makes me feel like shit sometimes but it's not something he can help.
honestly...
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>>16987321
You are an evil women. I hope you burn in gem for using your bf like that
>>16987341
*burn in hell
