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Been through this situation with two different girls now. Friends with benefits, not actually committed relationships.
>Not using condoms, both of us think that it ruins sex completely
>She isn't on any other contraceptives, I'm just pulling out
>Me: "If I ever get you pregnant the least I can do is tag along to the abortion clinic and be there for you, I know that shit is hard to go through"
>Her: "Who says I'd have an abortion?...
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>she isn't on any other contraceptives, I'm just pulling out
Rip
The fact that she told you she'd keep the baby and you still keep using a method as unreliable as pulling out makes you sound more batshit insane than she is. All the best to your future family OP
abortion isn't birth control you fucking idiot. use a condom or enjoy ruining your life
Today I went to a social meeting in my city regarding some interests of mine (/tg/-tier stuff). I've been living in this place for a couple of months and I know no one, so I'm using all chances I can to meet new people.
Thing is, I went there and immediately figured I had no idea what to do. People were playing board games, roleplaying games, and I didn't have the slightest idea on what to do. The event's organizer welcomed me, invited me to play things, and my first reaction?
>Uh, I think I will look around and see if...
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>>16959279
The whole day I was fretting of whether getting into a group or something, trying to find an empty spot or a chance to ask for people but I was way too damn shy to do anything at all, and the few games I played was because I actually got to hear a guy was prepping a game right next where I was sitting. Otherwise I walked around and checked on the games and people, and felt really awkward doing that - which I did just because I had nothing better to do.
What the hell is wrong with me? I don't want...
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>>16959279
>>16959280
Well you took a huge step just by going to that convention.
>>16959302
... This is social anxiety, isn't it?
Does learning a language at uni increase your chances of being selected for a language exchange trip?
>>16959072
Two people apply for a trrip to, say, France
One knows French, the other doesn't.
All else being equal, who's going to be accepted?
>>16959635
this
It depends on the program. In Erasmus, for example, apparently they don't even ask you what languages you know.
A childhood pen pal of mine just moved from a bumfuck region with terrible Wifi to an area with good Wifi. How often can I message her without things becoming strange/weird/creepy/whatever? We happened to develop similar interests and to be obsessed with the same anime. None of my irl friends like the same anime.
I talk with online friends every night. So long as you're not messaging her every hour it should be fine.
If eventually she stops responding as quickly, then maybe you're messaging her too much. But you should be able to know when you're being too clingy.
>>16959296
But look at this: http://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/16933414/#16933453
Some people also say that online friends are not "real" friends.
>>16959307
That's their opinion.
I've kept a friendship online for 5 years and we still talk and game every single night.
Another one for 3 years and we talk every night, and sometimes about very personal stuff.
Who cares if they're a "real friend"? The point of online friends is having someone to talk to about anything. If you get along well, great. If you both after a few years realize you want to be together, work it out.
It's important to have friends IRL, of course. Online friends...
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Is it reasonable to expect a guy who's obsessed with video games to a fault to be a decent boyfriend if we dated?
Don't get me wrong, he's sweet and smart and he makes me laugh. But all he does is game and read lore. He legitimately has no other significant interests.
He writes his in game name on tests in class. He constantly yells in gamer lingo. It's at least half of what he talks about. Honestly it's pretty cringy, but I still like him.
I have a bunch of hobbies and a lot of them are outdoorsy. I'd like some company sometimes....
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Game name on tests in class is dump worthy. Nothing else seems unusual.
>>16958990
Haha he was proud of that one. Wouldn't stop telling people about it.
Really? I know a lot of guys are super into vidya, but he's the only one I know of that has no other hobbies at all. He used to, but he dropped them to game more.
>>16958969
>He writes his in game name on tests in class
>He constantly yells in gamer lingo
That is cringy as fuck and this is coming from someone who probably plays a little too much vidya. Maybe try to get him into other hobbies or activities, if you care about him that much. Maybe you can find common ground somewhere.
I've been with my gf for 5 years. She was a virgin and is totally in love with me. She lives her life just for me and does everything she can to make me happy. She's a little clingy but she's hot and takes good care of me.
I recently met a girl who I developed feelings for over working in close contact. I feel me and girl B would also make a good couple and we're very compatible.
How fucked am I? You can't control your heart and right now I'm contemplating on ending my relationship for the other girl. My gf would be devastated and...
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>You can't control your heart
bullshit
>>16958879
If you're unhappy in your current relationship, end it and move on. However if this is some the grass is greener on the other side of the fence thing, just forget about it. The grass is never greener. Nor would it be wise to throw away what you have if you are content with how things are.
>>16958934
I've thought about the grass is greener scenario but I've never felt this way about anyone, including my current gf. II'm happy with my gf but I think I'm just going through the motions of life.
Does this soul mate love of my life shit exists or am I just being a piece of shit
I recently inherited half of my dad's money (my sister inherited the other half). My older brother though, was left out of the will. Him and my dad never got along. He made a lot of bad decisions and it impacted my father in a lot of ways and he pretty much disowned him. But now that he has passed away, my older brother is asking my sister and I to buy him an apartment and help him out because he has financial troubles.
I am conflicted. I've never had a problem with my brother. I've always loved him. Part of me wants to help him, but it's not my money...
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>>16958866
How much did you inherit?
>>16958873
Why does it matter?
>>16958876
it doesn't just curious. Fucking tell me
So, me and my gf often hang out with her sister and bf since we live close to each other. We've known each other for almost a decade by now.
Last night, the sister came over to hang out with us and at some point my gf fell asleep. I kept hanging out with the sister and we just ended up talking to each other and reminiscing about our past almost all night into the morning hours.
My gf wakes up 6 hours later to find us both still awake and got furious that we were up all night talking. The sister ended up leaving after that, while I had to fight/explain what...
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Nope.
>emotionally cheating
kek
>>16958681
dont bullshit me now and dont bullshit yourself either
what were you thinking about during the conversation? did you reach the conclusion that in a perfect world it would be you and her sister together instead?
>>16958681
Haha, emotional cheating is the biggest bullshit ever and that's close to insta-breakup territory for me. You can't govern who I fucking talk to. And unless we're swapping bodily fluids, I ain't cheating.
Is it better to be extraordinarily picky in finding a relationship, or settle for someone and be aware in the back of your head that they're really not what you want?
How can you find true love with out trying out different relationships?
You will never , ever find exactly what you want. Or what you think you want.
>>16958661
Well, I've been in different relationships, I've dated many women. My last girlfriend was sweet and loving, but boring in my perspective, and like a 6 or 7 out of 10. I broke up with her.
I know looks aren't everything, but part of me feels like I need to be with someone that gets the attention of everyone in the room when she walks in. And someone who doesn't just want to sit in the house and watch Netflix, cook a sensible meal, and cuddle. That's boring.
But at the same...
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There is a strange dog in my house, and I don't know how it got here.
...what do I do about this? All I can imagine is that it walked in while I was getting the mail and I didn't notice. I've been home for 4 hours and didn't hear her at all. She seems nice but has no collar or anything. She's just kinda sniffing around.
>>16958547
who the fuck buys a book about Wikipedia?
Dude. Wikipedia is free online. Come on bro
Idk yo. Do you want him?
Recently I've been getting a ton of male attention on OkCupid and POF. The thing is, I'm a guy, and my interests are solely listed as women.
I'm not homophobic, it's a compliment, but I'd like to stop getting messages given that I'm not interested, or at least figure out what's going on. What should I say/do to deal with this?
"seeking women"
"I'm straight, sorry"
>>16958426
"I'm straight, sorry."
You are probably set as a Woman and not a man like all the other retards on that site
What advice would you give to someone pursuing a career in mathematics?
Don't.
Pure or Applied?
Learn to write, learn to program, learn to be an effective communicator.
Don't worry. It will all add up. :)
Plenty of girls look perfectly good without makeup, but my face looks like it's missing something. Is it my haircut or what?
Pic related is me
>>16958055
Somewhat blurry photo so I can't see if there are bad details but from what I see there's nothing wrong aside the shitty courtains
>>16958055
You just need some eye shadow, anon. Plain (as in the appearance of no makeup) girls look hotter to me.
You're a bit pale, some light lipstick and eyeliner might help, but you are pretty cute already.
What age did you lose your virginity
pic sorta related
>>16957820
I managed to avoid temptation and hold onto it.
>>16957820
wizard reporting in.31 in august. also, u know this is /adv/ , do you?
At 18 fucked with a prostitute but did not cum, is that considered loss of virginity?
Is this bad enough to get a nosejob? I'm seriously considering
>>16957490
It needs to be in relation to a face.
Just saying does this nose need a nose job doesn't help you.
Because a nose relates to your other features on your face. e.g eyes, mouth, ears and cheeks and chin etc.
>>16957494
The rest of my features are really soft so it looks a little out of place.
I get people asking how I broke it a lot.
>>16957490
if you feel insecure about it and are sure it won't make it weird or regret it do it.
personally I'd say don't do it.
