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Any tattoo artists on here? How do tattoo artists feel about last minute requests? I have a simple tattoo that I want to get, pic related, but I don't know if it will annoy my artists to have to draw up the line work the day of our appointment. What's the etiquette here?
Just one bump!
I think I'll probably bring it up during the session as a tat I'd like to get sometime-- if he offers to do it now, wonderful, if not, I can wait.
>has to come to /adv/ because he is worried that the tattoo artist will judge him
how are people this pathetic allowed to live?
>>16959111
What? No. I just don't want to ask something from him that will make him feel obligated to do, and couldn't find the answer anywhere else. This is less about his judgment of me, and all about being a good client.
how do I stop getting butthurt about my gf clubbing?
My gf went to vegas with her single friends and they go clubbing every night. I was going to take her on a trip just us two, but she decided to go with her friends instead. Granted I didn't tell her about our trip before she agreed to go with her friends.
I've never been to a club but I imagine there's dancing and alcohol consumption involved.
I just can't help but feel like I'm gonna get cucked. Like she's all dressing up and shit in ways I've never seen before. She dresses lazily for me, but apparently goes all out for her fellow club goers.
I don't want to worry about these things, I miss being a loner. Someone advise me, or at least tell your personal thoughts/anecdotes
You should start going out, too.
For the record, I don't think she's doing wrong. I have friends who like to party. When I was out enjoying life with them, my relationship was stronger. I wasn't interested in other dick, just drinking with friends. He liked to go out, too.
But you should go out, too. Go to bars, tell her you're going out with your buddy. See how she responds.
>>16958931
Well I don't go out because of a combination of being an introvert, being extremely shy, and having no friends.
But now that you bring up her response, I do remember one time I was invited to a karaoke night/club night where a lot of girls were going to as well. My gf freaked out over text when I told her this so I ended up just going to the karaoke and not the club.
I'm not sure if it's bad that her clubbing makes me upset. I feel like people in relationships don't usually mingle/dance with single people
>>16958925
Sounds like she's not ready for the same kind of relationship as you; or it could be that you are dating each other for different reasons because you are both in different stages/places in your lives.
If she likes this lifestyle and you like her, then you have to find something about this to like. Otherwise, it's going to bother you.
This happened a lot in my 20s. In my early 30s, the women I date do not do this (partying in LV with single friends).
Turns out that the problem was me not trusting and imagining things because I was more depressed than I realized.
The answer is not to date older women--not necessarily. The answer could be that you need to learn trust. If either of you doesn't trust the other, then you need to resolve that issue first.
Cuckers will cuck, regardless of what you do--so don't try to tell any GF how to behave because it's fruitless. If this is a serious relationship for you, consider: she's not going to be going to clubs forever. You might not date her forever. Why not let it go and sort-out whatever in your life makes you hesitate to trust romantic partners?
The dressing lazily part is inevitable in most relationships.
Good luck and get some sleep.
>Woke up an hour ago, sitting in front of computer, urge to fap appears
>Did it three times yesterday, wasn't really that great, mostly just felt tired afterwards
>Meeting long-distance fwb in a week (we see each other 1-2 times a month), want to be able to cum from her handjobs/blowjobs this time, ego takes a hit when I can't and I'm pretty sure it doesn't make her feel great either
>Been telling myself "Alright, not gonna fap today" for four days now
Anyone else dealing with this shit?
Nah. I just fapped every time I received the urge. You grow out of it after a while. I do it once every few days or weeks or so. Just fuck her until you cum. That's really all there is to it. You gain sex experience as well
Fapping can be a serious drain on life. If you do it too much it can stop feeling good, even, and just make you tired constantly.
Best solution is to get a hobby, whenever I get the urge to fap I just play videogames like the loser I am and stop browsing 4chinks for a little bit until I stop being horny.
>>16958906
No problem cumming while fucking her, but when girls (it's not just her, been like this with everyone) become reluctant to give handjobs/blowjobs because I never cum from them and usually don't even stay fully erect during them, it feels bad man.
Also, "once every few days or weeks or so" sounds a lot more reasonable than my habits. We're talking 15 times a week, at least.
I need to join the Illuminati.
I am not financially qualified but my circumstances are extraordinary.
It has been five years since I was last able to join, and I have made amends where applicable. I was only contacted once.
How do I re-establish contact? I am sick of looking at the average citizen, fodder, people who have no had the same "experience" as me.
Could it also be that I was just used?
The website is a hoax to sell books and cheap jewelry.
Please go get a life and Find Jesus Christ.
The Illuminati probably doesn't even exist.
It was probably a prank.
Make your own Illuminati. With Blackjack, and hookers.
>>16958871
Go back to the place we discussed the first time.
Leave the finger underneath the vase. It has to be Egyptian.
Take the veil cerpin taxt, and we may consider.
After a long 2.5 months of no response or contact from my ex (we had a shitty break up and i was like "pls respond x30" and he never replied, but it was for the best as i've grown over this time and etc) well I noticed him looking at my snap stories and saw him the other day while I was on a date... so I messaged him and he replied. The conversation has been simple, I said hi he said whatsup I asked how he's been he said ok how about you and that he's trying to get into grad school.
Should I go ahead and ask him now if he wants to hang out sometime and catch up, or give it a few days?
You are infatuated with the idea of him, especially since you think you can't have him. If you really showed you cared and they said no, you either did something unforgivable or you shouldn't be dating someone who cares that little about you
>>16958864
.... wot
we used to date and we were into each other. Then we fought a lot toward the end because we weren't in a good place, er I wasn't.
I haven't asked him out anywhere yet after texting him right now, but I was thinking if i should wait or maybe he's responding because he misses me and I should just say "lets meet up"? or maybe he's over it and is comfortable replying because he thinks we're both over it and it's been long enough ;_;
thanks for the response anyway
Im supposed to take care of this plant until monday, but it doesnt look so good.
What do? I already watered it and Im doing it every two days. Should I cut the dying flower?
youre in luck, anon. i love me some plants
is the flower crunchy? or floppy?
Mist flowers?
feed it beer and see hee beeeeeeeee drunk
Are you dealing with unrequited love? What's your story?
Im in love with my roommate whos twice as old as me. But, mostly i think im starved for affection and she is currently the only female in my life. So maybe not. Im just lonely.
me:
>"I'm in love with you..."
her:
>"...I know."
>>16958932
damn :(
I'm in a bit of a conundrum.
I finally got some freedom from my parents so I'm more able to do things with people in my age group.
The problem is I'm not really sure where I stand at the moment, socially and with women.
I have a long history of being awkward and anxiety ridden in High School, and I've successfully gotten over most of my issues now.
I have a few friends and we're pretty cool, I go out like every other weekend, I'm okay looking and pretty social.
The thing is I dunno if I'm doing enough I guess. I feel like maybe I should go to more parties so I can interact with more people and more girls because I'm finally in a position to do so!
I guess I'm stuck inbetween my past as a nerd and the options I now have available to me. Even though I'm meeting an enormous amount of people everyday and I'm more confident and social, I feel like it's 50% not real and it's 50% not gonna last, either because this last few weeks and months have been a fluke, or I'll do something to fuck it up like I've done in the past.
I still remember people talking about how weird I am and girls being turned off by me, and now I'm out talking to men and women alike and going to parties and it's a huge cognitive dissonance.
Any tips or advice for me?
Bump
Just one last bump. Gonna go watch a film.
>>16958675
Are you familiar with the term, "You can't please everyone."? It really is the nature of our social lives. Those who come to understand and abide by it are content with who they are and how they behave, as they've pleased the only opinion that matters. Their own.
Sometimes we're not content with ourselves, however. Self realization of how we present ourselves can cause discomfort. People perform self-audits and reajust their ways of life to help themselves overcome. Similar to what you've done.
Ask yourself now, "Am I cool with where I'm at?". If you feel any hesitation keeping you from honestly believing "yes", time to make an adjustment.
If you need to make an adjustment, try different things. Go to more parties. Talk to more people. The key is to continue introducing healthy dynamics into your life that have made you feel improved in the past. If you still feel the same, or worse, try something else. It's up to you to find out what will and won't work unfortunately.
Don't focus on trying to make everyone your friend though. Life really isn't about getting the social approval of everyone. You need to be on good terms with yourself above all.
I think about suicide several times a day. It's a combination of the philosophical purposeless of living and crushing loneliness. Should I actually do it or not? I feel like no-one will ever love me and my dad died recently, my mum will probably die relatively young too because she has a disease. My one friend said he'd miss me if I did it but I imagine that most of the other people I know would just be surprised more than sad. I've been single for more than 2 years and my only relationship before that dissolved because she cheated on me. I feel like no-one is ever going to love me again, that that was just a fluke and that I'm actually just a shitty person.
Yadda yadda yadda
Listen boy, you are limited only by the appetite of your ambition.
If you want more in life go out and get it. Nothing will ever fall in your lap, even more so as you become more and more lonely. There will be no reprieve, no calm before the storm, and no divine intervention.
You can either relax and die or work to live.
Choose your destiny.
>>16958604
Sometimes I wonder why people like you even bother posting your inane drivel, and then I realize that your head is actually so far up your own ass that you actually believe someone will read these facebook-tier platitudes and be inspired. I'm torn between hating you and being sorry for you.
>>16958709
Who cares if it inspires them or not. I have no investment in these people. They can take it however they see fit but I don't see anyone else posting advice here.
I'm 24, I have a degree in Japanese language study and linguistics and want to move into marketing but don't know how.
I live in Japan, fairly fluent at the language (business level) but without experience/education I'd never be able to move into marketing right?
How do you do a complete career change into something you have no experience in but ultimately want to end up in?
>>16958586
Why not talk to a career counselor for a marketing program in-town?
I'm not saying that you need to go to college/uni again. I'm saying that you could talk to a career counselor in the field and tell them that you're thinking about the field and where do you start locally.
Good luck.
>>16958586
It is a myth perpetrated by business schools that you have to major in X to get a job in X.
Apply for marketing jobs. Your language skill plus your personality (assuming you have one) will outweigh any absence of book learning.
Ive noticed a tiny/small moth lookin fly came out of my penis. It appeard right when i urinated.
This happened 4 months ago.
Until today i have noticed it appeard again.
I havent shaved my pubic hair
I do get stings in my testis
I get sharp pain in my kideys,liver, and utera.
I dont shave my pubic hair.
Espeacially the doctor hasnt found anything.
Need help!!!
Yeah your sperms have evolved to fly as they realize you will never get laid. They must fly to find that pussy.
Evolution in action
>>16958589
Well played
>>16958589
lol
Why is it that most girls are uninteresting and not really worth talking to unless they have something to offer?
>>16958536
I feel as if the majority of them are shallow and self-absorbed. The reason of them are homely or in a relationship, and require a lot of emotional intelligence to become close to. Does anybody else believe this is accurate?
>>16958536
Probably because you have a warped sense of reality where you're the center
>>16958536
Probably because you're asking boring questions or are only into anime, vidya, and Magic the Gathering.
I left my ex in March of 2014, a month after I gave birth to my son because he put hands on me and threatened my life.I entered a motion to relocate with the child which was granted to me. I was not an IN native, I was born and raised in NY, and I had no one in Indiana outside of my ex. That being said, the court granted him visitation, none of which he attempted to use until January of 2015. After the first initial hearing, my ex hired an attorney and together they filed for another hearing over a specific visitation order, and this is where all the shady stuff started. Because my financial situation wasn't ideal, and I was in school, I had wrote and requested to appear via telephone, it was denied. I wrote again and it was still denied. I tried to find legal aid in the state but no one could help because I was no longer a resident of the state of Indiana and any private counsel wanted upwards of $1k as a retainer, which I hadn't had. After doing my due diligence in my attempt to cooperate with the courts they had me held in contempt of court.
There was a hearing in NY as well for jurisdiction, and after NY and IN were in touch discussing the matter, IN decided to keep jurisdiction based on the fact that my ex lived there.
The court order from Indiana in regards to jurisdiction used language to slander me. Not once has any single court order from the Huntington County Court used anything pertaining to the best interest of the child. My ex, is an abuser, he has a criminal record, he has had his license revoked and was arrested on charges of DUI with serious bodily harm. Any type of communication I had with the IN courts was one sided in his favor. I have the paper trail. Also, when I spoke to my caseworker from the YWCA she had told me (this was Tuesday the 22nd of March) that she has heard on quite a few occasions that the Huntington County Courts are extremely biased. This isn't just me. I cannot trust this court system to keep my child safe
How can I fight this?
Lawyer up.
Seeking legal advice on an anonymous imageboard is not the right step
>>16958498
Your situation is fucked up, but don't start talking about bias. The bias is almost ALWAYS against the man in these type situations. I am frankly amazed you're the one getting fucked over, and if he didn't sound like a total douche I'd be applauding him.
>>16959262
Fuck that, I am applauding.
You don't think she isn't slanting their story to make herself look better, and him worse?
OP, if you fight him being able to visit his child, you are a fucking cunt. Don't be that girl.
Without a lawyer, you may as well lube up, because he is about to bend you over, and it won't be gentle. If you are fighting over visitation, best to reach an agreement outside the courtroom, as you have little chance.
This child will loathe you, years from noe, if you somehow ensure they grow up without a biological father that wants to be involved in their life; multiply that exponentially if your child is male.
I've been so fucking bored lately it's not even funny. I don't know what to do. Books, movies/TV, video games, and music don't even entertain me anymore like they used to.
I should mention that I don't really have any hobbies. That needs to change though.
What are some fun things I can do?
What are some fun hobbies I can take up?
Just think of things that somewhat interest you and try them out
Like I like nature, so I took up hiking/backpacking, trail running, and horseback riding
And ukulele sounded cool so I've been taking online lessons for that. I want to try kitesurfing sometime.
Whatever catches your fancy.
>>16958480
I guess I like nature. Once the snow melts I was thinking of taking up running. I used to run and bike a lot a few years ago but then I stopped.
And I've been thinking of buying a guitar and learning to play it, but it's kinda intimidating.
>>16958469
Sounds like it was a long winter. I get that way if I'm not outside enough.
If I posted that question, then the answer would be: exercise every day--gym, walk outside, bike, run, whatever.
So I just found out that my girlfriend of 3 months was engaged prior to meeting me, and she's choosing to tell me this just now. She claims she really cared for the guy, but bailed almost instantly and removed him from her life when he asked her to move country with him.
Things are going well between us, and there are no plans of marriage on the horizon yet, but I can't fathom how one day you can just delete all traces of someone you cared enough to marry. She's telling me he turned into an asshole, and I treat her much better, but I can't help but feel if things progress to the point of us talking marriage, she might pull something like this.
How do I proceed with something like this? This is still a relationship I want to pursue, but I feel I need to be cautious now and not make any big decisions in case things turn out similar.
>>16958468
Do you have any proof that other guy existed?
What I'm saying is what if she made that story up to scare you out of proposing to her? She can probably tell you're all clung on to her and that you eventually would propose.
>>16958479
She hates me talking about my past relationships, so I don't ask much about hers. She doesn't see pictures of mine, and I don't see pictures of hers. This sort of came out of the blue today when she told me her ex's sister tried to contact her.
Truthfully, what she's told me sounds way too in depth to be made up, and I've told her I'm not emotionally or financially ready to do something like that after three months. Truthfully, she's the needy one in this relationship, but it's fine, I like that. She says the last relationship is why she's as clingy as she is in this one, so I don't think she's necessarily planning an escape route. Yet.
