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Is it possible for two friends of the opposite sex to like each other in a purely, sibling-like way?
>inb4 no
>>16956132
You really chose the worst possible image for that.
But yes, obviously.
>>16956146
Lol I thought it was pic *somewhat* related
Well, everyone on 4chan says that "guys and girls can't just be friends"
>>16956156
4chan's retarded, that's our whole thing. Don't take it too seriously.
Has anyone here gone to a prostitute/escort ?
Was it a fun/okay experience ?
I've been thinking about this for a while.
Just want to get this virginity thing over with.
>>16956122
I gone with quite a few but never went as a virgin.
What you get all depends on what you're willing to pay.
>>16956122
OP, If you go to an escort just to lose your virginity then you might be in it for the wrong reasons.
Losing your virginity as a man is a rite of passage and you have to overcome certain hurdles in your character to get it done. It's not so much about "penis in vagina" as it is "becoming a man".
You'll be able to say that you're not a virgin, sure, but deep down you might feel different about it. Just saying though, everyone's different.
>>16956157
Don't listen to this roastie anon. If you do it just go in with realistic expectations.
Ah fuck. I have a crush on a girl at work, and I'm fucking lonely and want to ask her out. But I know first hand that this is a bad idea -- long story, but I lost my last job by shitting where I eat and dating a girl who works there.
I fucking need a date or some shit with any girl besides this one at work ASAP before I ask her out out of desperation and ruin my life again. Yes I'm weak as fuck.
Do I ever bother with tinder? Isn't it all whores? Should I just go to a bar or club? Where the fuck do I meet girls? WHERE? I NEED ONE ASAP.
>>16956115
Don't just ask her out because you feel like needing a date.
If you have feelings for the girl, you should start talking more often with her - if she seems interested, then ask her out.
Go for a cup of coffe, a walk or whatever.. Something you can flee from, if the worst case scenario happens.
And then just take it chill and don't rush things, girls don't like that.
Good luck
Anon here again.
Don't use tinder if you are looking for real love, trust me.. Or any dating service for that matter.
It gotta come naturally, so a cafe would be a good place.
>>16956115
From a guy who once had the same goal as yourself with finding a gf I'd like to hear what your reasons are.
Think of this like trying to grasp a bar of soap - the harder you squeeze the more likely it is to run away.
Whats the best way to look for an apartment? Any ideas on places to look or websites?
>>16956102
Really depends where you live, where I live I use rightmove.
It's nerve-wracking and annoying, best wishes, OP.
I'd go looking around your area. Find decent neighborhoods, or at least neighborhoods you can afford. See what buildings have vacancies, and if they have signs posted start making phone calls. If they have websites, do that too.
Luckily for me, a local rental management (they manage properties for the actual owners) had a good reputation and they got me set up.
>>16956102
Craigslist. or Newspaper if you're barbarian.
> sexual active
> multiple partners
> finished each time
> never felt anything
Want do I do? I can't get laid while getting laid? What's the point in sex if it's just dull thrusting for a half hour? Is it just a little wetness and warmth on my dick and that's it for life?
Try sleeping with people you're actually attracted to.
>>16956051
I have, I don't sleep with people I'm not attracted to. I don't even get pleasure from masturbation
>>16956184
That could also mean romantic attraction. That makes sex more than just rubbing genitalia together.
I really just need an honest opinion on my body. that's it
its normal
Some exercise wouldn't do you any harm but nobody sane would turn you down unless you're a really shitty person.
Nothing special
My urge to self-harm is rapidly rising and it's hard enough to find the motivation to tell anyone who might help outside of something as dumb as /adv/.
Nothing you read will be able to make you think "oh maybe I shouldn't do this stupid thing". People who actually self harm trust their negative confidence more than what others say.
It you aren't just having your teenage phase and you actually believe you're going to self harm, get actual help.
>>16956228
I think it taking less than an hour for someone pay attention to you might help you not do a stupid thing.
>Those people who self-harm or attempt suicide? Ignore it man, it's just a cry for help.
>>16955971
>anyone who might help outside of something as dumb as /adv/.
Why do people do this so often? I honestly don't understand how a person can have such little grasp on how to interact with others.
>Hi /adv/, I think you're all a bunch of shit tier plebs!
>you all suck black dick for cheeto money and none of you know what you're talking about!
>I'm much better than all of...
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So /adv/ today is the first time i will go to a barber to get a haircut. I'm 22 yo and i never went because my mom used to be a hairdresser so she always cut my hair but her cuts are too old fashoned and just meh. So what's it like? What should i ask? How do i not sperg out?
>>16955947
Find a haircut you like, that would look good on you. Print the picture out or save it to your phone, show them the picture. Done.
>>16955949
Yeah. If you don't do this, chances are he'll have some kind of album for you to flip through with lotsa different hairstyles and he'll have you pick one out.
Are you a normal guy wanting a normal guy haircut?
You basically tell them you want a short back and sides. You say how long you want it on top and how short you want it on the sides. You might comment on how you usually have your fringe and what side if any you part it on. You say if you want it blended in low or high, this is the transitional part from the top to the sides.
You might get asked if you want it blended with scissors or trimmers, some will call the scissor blend 'old fashioned', the electric trimmers give a more serious modern line.
You...
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I'm not saying this means anything, in fact that's really why I'm asking for a second opinion.
But today at work this girl who just started working with us temporarily, asked me out of the blue if I knew if there was a costa in town, because she was thinking of getting a coffee after work.
Is that some cue or subtle hint that she wanted to grab a coffee with me? I'm too autistic to tell if it was or not.
Could be, or not. The question is rather are you intrusted in this girl ?
If so this is a good occasion to """show her""" what's up around town.
>>16955967
She's going travelling in 3 months around the world. Should I even bother trying? She's just going to go.
>>16955973
So have a friend-to-get-coffee-with for three months. That's not love everlasting, but it's not bad.
This board is fucking astounding.
Normally if you ask for advice anywhere else on 4chan, you will get good advice, but on the board specifically designed for it, the advice is cancer.
You tolerated non-virgin women, you encourage marriage, even when to some slut, you wouldn't discourage a man from dating a single mother.
I almost can't believe my eyes sometimes
Anon, not everyone is a cuck. Just because there are some women who browse /adv/ and have self-esteem issues because of the amount of sexual partners they had which manifest in the form of them defending any/all actions a woman takes doesn't mean everyone agrees with them.
I'm more than willing to assert and defend the fact that once a girl has had a certain amount of sexual partners, I lose all interest.
Most people DO discourage single parents from dating someone who already has kids from a previous marriage. There was a thread about it just a few...
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>>16955901
If you've got all the answers and are so sure anyone who disagrees is wrong, why are you here, OP?
get lost, faggot
i ruined my canabinoid receptors a few years ago and i cant even smoke weed at all. and i have last year which was more than enough time for them to magically repair themselves. what do you guys think would repair them? a supplement maybe.
this isnt me wanting to get high by the way, i really just want to recover.
i also did 2 lines of heroin once and nearly faded out of existence. the damage afterwards- decision-making abilities, the ability to regulate behavior, and responses to stressful situations.
honestly should i just kill myself? opiod receptors and brain stem.. is there a supplement for brain stem?
im really stuck on this and i also have neuropathy in my head. im getting the treatment for neuropathy hopefully soon but i have to take bus and only crackheads ride the bus so i loathe going on it.
I'm at my first year of uni. Last november I broke up with my gf and was bad about it until I met this absolutely great girl this semester. She doesn't even know it but she helped me to get over the break up. We are having fun everytime we are together. She's the best person I have in my life right now and I'm happy that she's a part of it.
It was just a month but we really got used to each other, it's like we know each other our whole life, as cliché as it sounds. She has a wild past, her parents are hardcore punks and she was living out...
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>using permanently mind-altering psychedelic drugs
Degeneracy of this order belongs on Reddit, friend.
You're probably not going to fuck while on LSD, no. I mean, it's possible to do, but ... a bit of an odd choice for sex. It does sound like she wants to spend more time with you.
>>16955754
>LSD
>permanently
Misinformation of this order belongs...right where it is. But still, you're wrong.
You're about to embark on a potentially life-changing (or maybe just neat, idk what dosages we're talking about or what your biases are) trip, and you're worried about pussy?
Hey Anons. I really need some help because im confused.. Im 18 and have always had an attraction to girls.. For as long as I can remember.. But I've had male fantasies over the years and when I think of having gay sex it excites me so much to where my body tingles and my heart pumps.. Ive done anal masturbation a number of times and its enjoyable. Thing is when I stop being horny I lose interest.. And another thing. Over the years I'd watch gay porn and it would disgust me.. Only when im horny I could watch it, but recently in the past few months I've looked at...
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It's almost as if being horny makes you consider things you don't usually find all that hot, and that sexuality isn't always clear-cut black or white, wow.
Sexuality can be fluid. Maybe you're attracted to both. You don't need to "think" anything, just do what you want, fap to what you want, fuck who you want. No need to find a label, this doesn't define your identity.
I totally get ya, OP. Some days I'm REALLY into dudes but other days I don't even want to think about a guy in that kind of way. I've always been attracted to girls 100% though...
Because labels seem to make things easier (for some fucking reason idk) I labeled myself as bi and moved on with my life. Been pretty happy with that choice so I wouldn't sweat it ;) just do what makes ya happy.
I had terrible ADHD as a kid and was prescribed medication to help calm me down but also didn't fix some of my other issues like not having a filter or obsessively rifling through drawers so people found me off putting and bullied me as that quiet kid that did that weird stuff. I started to quickly outgrow those quirks in middleschool yet was still medicated too much and continued to be way into highschool. As a result I was socially inactive in highschool, not bullied anymore and had friends but rarely getting out. Now I'm a boring 21 year old with no longtime friends, fun stories of past experiences, or romantic experience what so ever.
Im just a boring person and while Im getting out more now and having fun like a normal person its still hard to compensate. I missed out on my teen years and am a virgin as well. The only things keeping people from realizing how dull I am is a friendly and excitable demeanor, and having niche hobbies while also being open to new things. Its hard to get out there and meet people when your personality is an awkward but fun outgoing guy but really youve spent years as a introverted video game geek and have has less fun experiences than most people around you.
>>16955594
I really appreciate you sharing your experiences with us. It sounds like you are starting to create some good memories involving other people, and really, it's better late than never when learning to become social! For some people, it is indeed a learning process, and you seem to be willing to explore your options which is how new friendships are discovered. It is also healthy to be able to spend time content with yourself, so don't worry about being well adapted to going solo. Don't feel like you...
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>>16955594
It may be reassuring that you are not alone and not especially far from the norm.
The very, very complicated and subtle rules of social interaction are learned largely in the teen years, with the horrible-for-everyone complication that you have to learn while doing - you are immersed in the games you're expected to be expert at even while you're trying to figure them out.
EVERYONE struggles through that. Some are lucky enough to learn the rules quicker than others and therefore SEEM more adept....
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Okay, how do I do dating?
I finally have a qt interested, now I have no idea what to do.
Do we just, like, go to different restaurants each week and talk about our uneventful lives?
