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Am I a messed up person?
My friend said he's having suicidal thoughts and i just told him to do whatever he feels with make him happiest, or at least minimize his pain.
We agreed that life means nothing aside from whatever you ascribe to it. But I'm alright with this while seeking out pleasures and curiosities for the time being, while he can't bear the mental strain.
Just remember this if/when it happens to you.
I had a very close person kill himself. I was pissed because he had problems he could have solved...
But overall I feel like you have a right to your own life, and he was within that right, right mind or not. I don't know how he was feeling before he pulled the trigger. But I like to think it was better than how he felt before he decided it was finally time.
>>16955339
I know this affects people differently, but when I told a friend of mine several years ago that I was thinking of suicide, he said 'So why don't you do it?'
It really made me think, like yeah.. Why the fuck don't I do it? I've been thinking about it for ages, and it's made me realise I don't actually want to kill myself, I just entertain the thought of it. Since then it's allowed me to explore my thoughts with a level of comfort I may not have had otherwise. For me, his...
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How come people (with normal families) grow up with poor social skills? Im not talking about being the center of attention but not knowing how to act in a social gathering? I mean Inst that something a person learns as a kid?
Humans evolved in tribes (or troops) and need massive social stimulation to develop normally.
>>16955344
I just understood the context of OP's question. This is probably correct OP, the times I have grown the most were when I was in a group and there were clear goals(school/work projects for example)
Yeah i know, but i know people that grew up with normal families and yet ended up with terrible social skills.
I need help making myself look like someone you could never date.
I just want to skip the whole "friendzone" bullshit. I want for people to just want to be my friend, and shudder a little at the thought of sex in any context with me.
For my part, I never wear makeup or do anything interesting with my hair. I wear a uniform of baggy jeans that kind of smell bad and tee shirts from the male junior's section. I have an abrasive personality I do nothing to hide. I do not pluck any of my grey hair and still have acne at the age of 25.
What else...
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>>16955280
Get fat
Get a dyke haircut as well
I assume this is just a cry for help though.
The Murderer kills himself one person at a time, but the Suicide kills the whole world at once.
You know the basics of what you need to do. You don't know the specifics. But I doubt many people on here are going to be able to tell you what kind of haircut you need or what sort of makeup suits you. Men who know nothing about it can tell you what they find attractive but likely know nothing about why goes into it or what it really is.
I'm not some kind of beauty blogger guru but I've felt like you before and have similar feelings now, different goals.
I know a lot about the market for women's clothing, hair stuff, cosmetics etc. I can...
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Quick story
>be me
>need to replace drain and faucet on sink
>first clean out sink
>mfw I find anal beads below my sink
I know these are my moms and so how would I confront her because its real fucking weird she divorced my dad when I was like four and we never cleaned out the sink when she was living here or after the divorce
Why do you feel the need to confront your mother about her old anal beads?
Just dispose of them quietly.
>>16955291
This
>>16955291
maybe she wants them back
life feels like i'm spinning and i can't get my bearings
there is no answer to anything because everything always changes
i'm so confused and it translates into hopeless struggling
There's no such thing as souls.
>>16955259
http://www.taoism.net/ttc/complete.htm
Read it
>>16955259
It sounds like you might be seasick or motion sick. I recommend some Dramamine.
Whenever my gf and I (hell, anyone really) reach a different conclusion on what to do in any given situation situation I feel a crushing loneliness and inadequacy, as often in my life my ideas were the unpopular ones and everyone ended up going with the other person's idea. What do I do?
Seek consensus
>>16955249
>What do I do?
Stop taking it personally. No one will ever 100% agree with anything you do.
>>16955256
Huh?
>>16955265
I try but then am confronted by the horrifying realization that I will just be alone my entire life because no one will 100% get and understand amd think the same things as me.. I'm not talking different interests, I don't care if they have their own but they have to like everything I like (at least for my gf, more lenient for friends) and for decisions have to reach the same conclusions as me, and if they don't I get...
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Looking to exact some revenge on facebook. Having access to the facebook at this time, as well as the photos. Any ideas on how I can make this person's life a living hell?
>>16955206
Make their profile picture a picture of MR BUTTS.
>>16955212
>>16955212
I don't have the password. I'm just basically have access to all of the photos.
Hey /adv/ quick question about dating sites. Have any of you guy been successful with them? I've been using both Okcupid and Gk2Gk but haven't had any success apart from the rare 40+ year old chain smoking landwhale sending me a message or viewing my profile.
I'm drunk, and hate my life. OP, it depends on how old you are, and who you are imo . . .
So what are your insecurities you'd list that you believe you'd list as reasons for not having as much success as you desire?
Besides turning those around, idk what to tell ya. I've gotten 1 pussc in my 24 years of living and it was through IRL connections yo . . . . . .
I actually fucked her 24 hours ago. . . . . but i bought the 70$ hotel room -_- i make mimimum wageeeee
you better have a good reason for not replying you cuck
What's your 20, OP?
How do I go about finding how to move out of my parents house for the first time and living on my own /adv/ice?
>Basically, is it all about securing income at the locations average I choose to live in?
(spoiler: I've dropped out of college and have dreams for making money my own ways through hobbies / talents)
>>16955198
Everyone's advice should pretty much start with how terrible your last idea is.
Securing a lease in a lot of cases requires some proof of employment, or otherwise a clear source of existing money, none of which it appears you have.
What kind of talents/hobbies does your standard college dropout have?
>>16955204
You might be underage, or just an oldfag; hence oldfage: what are you over 30 years old?
Lets leave at entertainment you Negative Nancy.
>>16955204
He's right OP.
A source of incomes first, living adjustments second.
If you have debt then it would be in your best interest to stay at your parents place unless you absolutely have to leave.
dear /adv/,
I feel lost in my life, floating about with no direction.
It's been about two months since I have been in "withdrawal mode" after losing my lover. He abruptly stopped talking to me with no explanation. We fucked all the time and went on dates, studied with each other, and he was my best and only friend at school.
I can't focus on school, and I don't want to be around anybody except for family, or my two dogs. Being in challenging environments makes my situation worse.
To be honest, I am at a point where I can...
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Still in denial
>>16955176
>support group
yep, that's a woman alright.
>>16955176
Sounds like you need to get away for a while, travel somewhere, doesn't have to be very far away just get away from your everyday surroundings, visit your grandparents or something and just think things through, it'll all happen naturally.
TLDR: wrote about how I felt last night, alot was about my ex, should I send it?
>be in odd mood, decide to write was I was thinking
>think about bad break up I had with ex
>write everything about leading up to us breaking up
>we broke up months ago
>5 pages(typed) later finish
>its not a fuck you letter to her or anything
> dont feel closure from the...
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>>16955165
>I have nothing to gain from sending her what I wrote aside from closure
An act of closure is a myth. There's nothing that can give you that except time and many many experiences.
That being said, go ahead and send it to her if you just want to explain why, because she probably at least deserves that much.
>>16955175
Its like a complete map of what happened toward the end leading up to the breakup. I have not talked to her since we broke up. Would I just call her and be all "Hey I wrote an essay on why I broke up with you, wanna read?"
>>16955186
>sending any response to her months later
>sending a fucking 5 page analytical report to her months later
Dude just let sleeping dogs lie. What does it matter now? It'll change nothing, except to bring up past problems for no reason.
So, I'm gonna attempt to keep this as short and simple as possible (highly unlikely, sorry). I'm 18 y/o, fresh out of high school living wit my parents. I quit smoking cigarettes on February 1st and things were looking simple and easy after the 4 - 5 week mark. I planned on working on my physical fitness and health after I got the addiction under control, but, my parents really wanted me to go straight to work, whether I kicked the habit or not. So, one week ago I managed to snag a job that pays out 12.50$ an hour and the work is relatively simple and casual, pretty...
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>>16955146
tl;dr
My mental health isn't so great and I am afraid of relapsing/making idiotic decisions.
Wat do?
Whatever you do just don't go backwards, should definitely stop smoking if you really care about your health physical and mental.
How to become a better driver?
pic unrelated
>>16955143
Om nom, animal style fries.
The way you become better at anything: Practice.
They also offer lessons and advance lessons that teach you how to react to certain situations and improve your understanding of how to handle a vehicle under various circumstances.
>>16955143
Learn how to drive manual
I'm signed up to OkCupid, POF, and I have a Tinder.
I get plenty of enjoyment swiping through all of the people, but I never end up messaging, so it's kind of a waste. I just never feel like putting in the effort, but I don't know why. I tried deleting all of them, but a few days later, I was back at it. What I don't want to do is look like some weirdo that just lurks on these sites and does nothing. Just... starting some kind of conversation and trying to get a girl's attention seems like such a pain in the ass.
How do I get the motivation...
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i just masturbate desu. much easier and less risk.
You have to actually want the girl/a girl. The motivation will come naturally. Perhaps you're a faggot?
>>16955130
men are talking, princess, fuck off to facebook with your 10000+ pending messages.
I'm trying to print a .gif file, but whenever I print it out, the picture doesn't move?
Am I doing something wrong?
>>16955073
subtle kek
>>16955073
You avin a giggle m8?
>>16955073
Delete system 32.
