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I don't really have much experience with relationships because I have always been very selective about the people I keep in my life. However, I've found a girl that I really connect with, and things have been going great every since.
The biggest thing that scares me is that I am now very worried about myself, because I am worried about her. I've never had much value for my own life, and thus I have taken great risks, many of which nearly ruined me, some that have put me where I am today (a good place). I'm 25 now, so I'm getting older, but I don't...
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>>16952194
Do you view her as a limitation or something?
"very selective about the people I keep in my life" meaning you fucked and dumped a bunch of people as you hustled your way to the "top?"
Karma, bitch.
>>16952217
No, not at all. I care a lot about the people in my life; friends, family, significant others... I sometimes put them above myself. I don't know how to balance selfishness with selflessness, and it usually balances more in favor of the people around me. I haven't had a relationship since I was 19, but I have a very close group of friends that are like brothers and sisters to me.
>>16952208
In some way, yes. But in others ways, no.
there's a girl I'm crazy about, I care about her a lot more than anybody I've ever cared about before
but she is just not that pretty, I am attracted to her for other reasons and I've had a few people ask me why I am "dating down" with her rather bluntly
almost all of the time I feel like I don't care and that it doesn't matter since she makes me so happy, but last night when we were kissing quite passionately for some reason I opened my eyes and looking at her the most horrible thought flashed through my head "you...
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It doesn't matter what they say, because it's hypocritical.
If you've been here for more than a day you'll know the first thing everyone says to either sex is "lower your standards". And I can tell you from experience that an ugly girl you love is worth a thousand hot girls you have no connection with other than "so hot"
She makes you happy. There is no problem. Other people's shit is their own problem.
Remember op you don't know what you've got till it's gone. Imagine how stupid you'll feel...
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>>16952184
Hell, imagine how stupid he'll feel if he can get hot girls but can't fall in love again.
>>16952164
You just say that, unlike them, you are not so shallow that looks are everything, and you are in love with the person inside the wrapping and therefore find the wrapping beautiful.
What do I do if I have trouble staying aroused during sex because of pressure? Like for instance I never cum from blowjobs but if I was as horny and stimulated as I was while I was touching myself I would definitely cum.
>>16952161
Everyone who wanks always comes quicker off a wank. Do you cum in her pussy? Or want to/pull out?
I'm guessing you aren't very experienced or you are with a newish partner? If so things will get better as you have more sex.
1) Make sure you take plenty of time for foreplay and going down on her
2) Try to just enjoy the moment and her body and go in thinking "Hey, if I don't cum it really doesn't matter. She doesn't care and I can always wank about it later."
3) Get a little drunk or take a beta blocker
4) Tell her you're really nervous
>>16952170
I've fucked tons but this girl is different for me and yes new and we've only been sexting so it's a lot of pressure
But I've always lost my wood fast during sex but not jerking off its like I like masturbating more than sex
>Living with boyfriend because nowhere else to go
>I fought so hard for him; I love him so much.
>We have been banging for 2 years, living together for one. He has said before that I weaseled my way into his heart.
>I am overly emotional
>i have substance abuse issues, among many other things
>he is aloof, cold, distant, 100% unreceptive emotionally
>i know...
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>>16952160
Go live with your sister and get a job to pay her back she'd be happy to help you as long as you don't make yourself a burden
Maybe get a job and stop parasiting on other people? It doesn't sound like your bf gives a damn about you so it would be wise to give it a go before he kicks you out on a curb. I seriously fail to understand why you think it's okay to live on someone's expense...
>>16952176
Live on someone elses' expense? I work. He is currently unemployed. Why would you make that assumption
Ok, there's this girl I like, it started out as a joke. I liked another girl and started messing around with this one. One day we kissed as we were both drunk (about 2 months ago) and went on like this. In the meantime i stopped speaking with that other girl because I started really liking this one. So, I went on and, for me, it became more than a joke. We had sex 3 nights ago and the day after she was cold...but really cold. I think it has to be related to me not finishing(i couldnt, I don't know why) and she felt unatractive enough or some shit.
Now, here I am,...
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Bumpin
I fucking need help
>>16952143
What advice we, or anybody for that matter, give you that exceeds the boring "go talk to her" kind?
If she's cold, "force" her to at least listen to you. Don't tell her that you don't love her or anything negative for that matter. Simply put out there.
If she doesn't give a shit, fucking deal with it somehow. If she does for whatever reason, move on from there.
Alright guys, real talk. I'm worried that my friend is going down the path of a school shooter. He's always had my back but lately he's been ignoring everything that I or anyone else has said about letting go of this girl who just didn't want to be with him. Now he's snapped, and the way he talks about this failed conquest or whatever the shit he thinks it is, it's clear and obvious that these were grooming behaviors. The whole "I did shit for you, you were my perfect angel, why won't you marry me, now my perfect girl has been corrupted,"...
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Bump
More bump
Tell him to stop playing eroges and obsessively watch anime.
I'm going to come right out the gate with this one and say that the matter I need advice on stems from the fact that I still live with my parents. Parent, actually, as my dad is the only one of my parents who passes for anything near functional.
I'm 19 years old, not even a year out of highschool now, and my father continually expresses disappointment and contempt for the fact that I don't want to come work for him in his machine shop. I have a part time job already (averaging at about 32 hours per week, 6 of those hours being overtime) and am presently...
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>>16952073
Show him the money you make.
which courses are you in?
the part time job you work is only really relevant in the short term
>>16952073
your dad wants to hire and train you to do what exactly? work as a millwright? I wish had that kind of opportunity.
I'm usually really generous but my friend keeps asking me for money. Granted it's only a couple of bucks but when it happens everyday it gets kinda annoying. Like i cant even go out with a group of friends without worrying that im gonna have to pay for his food or something.Maybe its cause I got a decent job recently and he thinks I'm loaded but I'm not. Ive never been rich and i actually lived in poverty for most of my childhood. This guy grew up in the middle class and has no idea how hard I work to earn my money. Can anyone help I don't wanna be too...
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>>16952066
Just tell him "You still owe me from last time" or "I didn't bring cash"
>>16952070
This guy would just be like "dude I know you have money cmon" its hard to look like an ass when it's only 2 bucks
>>16952090
Naw man I didn't bring any cash. Did you bring a card?
Can I live alone?
>>16951997
Can I be CEO?
Your question is vague, we have no idea what your financial capabilities are.
Ps Before tax
>>16952006
I want to know if I can move out of my parents house making 10k.
A better wording would be "is it recommended to move out making 10k a year"
So this isn't normally someplace I'd go, but this would be offtopic on my home board and I know this person browses there, so this is the only place I can think of to ask for advice.
>Playing ERP game online
>For those of you that don't know, ERP is Erotic Role Playing. In this case, it's lewd games of Dungeons and Dragons, Shadowrun, Exalted, tabletop game like that.
>Join a group, meet with this person. We'll call them S.
>End up meeting up with S by coincidence in a couple other lewd games, including one they're running.
>Become good friends with S, simply because we keep bumping into each other by chance. I guess the gamefinder threads on /tg/ only have so many people looking for lewd games.
>Have S added on skype, never talk through voice though because last thing anyone wants to hear is the husky male voice of the player that's been playing a busty sorceress for the past couple months. Yes I'm aware how lame that sounds, shut up.
>Only communicate via text as a result
>S starts to get a little closer than most ERP players would. Wants to do some on-the-side stuff for fantasies that wouldn't fit into the games we're in together, and tells me to let them know if there's anything lewd I'm interested in.
>After setting up something for petplay there, says, quote, "Can't wait to be your subby slut <3"
>Starts casually mentioning when they're masturbating, something not really normal even in ERP games. Recently made a joke about how something they said was 2lewd, they said "Noooo, 2lewd would be like..." -S brushes their cheek against your thigh, before slowly taking your zipper between their teeth-
>This is not in-game, mind you. This is in casual conversation on skype
>Confused on how to react.
>>16951975
Now, let me say first off that I am straight. Knowing that the person you're roleplaying with might be a dude in real life kind of comes with the territory of ERP, but the idea is that so long as no one says they're a guy/girl IRL, you don't pay it any mind and just fap to the character, not the person playing the character. With S starting to act like this though, I'm a little confused how to react. Not because I'm questioning my sexuality, I know for a fact I'm straight. Why I'm...
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>>16951981
So, right now I'm not sure if S is just a girl who likes dominant men, or a bisexual man that wants to dominate women while having his pooper plundered. You can imagine why I'm a little uncomfortable here and not sure how to proceed. Thus, why I'm here asking which you guys think it is. Would it actually be rude to ask them if they're a guy or a girl? If I do and S says they're a guy, how do I respond without being rude or awkward? If they are a guy, how do I let them know I'm not interested outside of the game?
Weird as fuck scenario and question, I know. If it was normal I wouldn't be asking anons on the internet for advice. My posts are kind of a clusterfuck too because I had no idea how to go about posting this, so I can elaborate anywhere if needed.
I get extreme anxiety when I know I'm being judged or evaluated by someone, disabling me from passing my drivers license (I've tried twice).
My doctor won't prescribe me with anything because he's really reluctant to and says "just exercise everyday." He gave me beta blockers (for migraines) but those don't help.
This is ruining my life. What do?
Why don`t you excercise just as your doctor recommended? What? Is it too hard for you to break a sweat?
>>16951942
Have you tried exercising every day?
>>16951952
I do, but can only manage to exercise 3-4 times a week because my muscles get too sore. Even this only marginally helps.
>Been dating girl for two months
>Finally time for sex
>Most blown out roastie looking vagina I have ever fucking seen
I nearly got soft instantly. She wanted me to go down, and normally I'd gladly oblige, but I am not ever putting my face near that. Went ahead and fucked anyways, after struggling to stay hard (blamed it on alcohol since we had just left bar). Sex was meh at best, and she was incredibly loose. I managed to make her orgasm with some finger magic.
This...
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>>16951904
Keep fucking her for a few weeks and then break up with the "it's not working out" excuse.
The "it's not you, it's me" line of reasoning works fairly well. If she's clingy, eventually shrug and say "look, I've found someone else" and avoid answering any more questions.
Don't make it about her vag.
Solution: grow up
>>16951904
And I assume you are the most perfect physical package, without anything she might have to overcome an aversion to.
>Roommate left his dog with me for a week
>Tonight is the first night
>She sleeps in his bed every night
>She's not allowed in my bed, normally restricted from my room too
>Trying to sleep
>She's crying and howling
What do I do? She won't stop unless I go comfort her. I tried leaving my door open so she could see me and even come in the room - every time I doze...
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pet the doge
For now, I'd say just sleep in your roommates bed and let her sleep by your side. I'm sure your roommate won't mind. Then call your roommate in the morning and ask him for advice about calming her down.
play with doggie?
have a biscuit
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Hey /adv/, I need some sex help
>be me
>22
>have trained myself to not cum so soon in preparation for my first time
>can last 3-5 hours of fapping without cumming
>the time finally arrives
>can't get hard
>force it into hard
>we do it for like 3 minutes
>can't feel shit due to shitty...
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Maybe you were thinking about it too much
>>16951928
this
just enjoy whats happening. and go with the flow. thinking about something to hard can be harmful to
>>16951891
It's not the condoms.
But get the right size. Too big is beter than too small. If too small they are fucking horrible to fit and struggling to wrap your knob takes all your concentration and you go soft. It should just slide on with only enough titghtness not to fall off. Slide all the excess length to the base of your prick.
Stop fapping so much for so long. Stroking your knob for more than 30 minutes desensitises it and makes cumming more difficult - so satying hard for 3+ hours makes no difference...
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feel like I really need sex at my age (20) and i get a lot of attention from women, but every time I get around them I get super panicky. It stems from a lot of abuse I took from my mom while I was raised by her. Its causing me a lot of frustration especially with the women showing me attention. Every time I even imagine approaching them its like a mental block. It might help to say I have autism and an anxiety disorder.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexually_transmitted_infection
sex is overrated
>>16951870
Use protection
>>16951870
>overrated
>we are born with organs intended for sex
